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Dhardworshipper:
Good day everyone, please I will be needing your advice on this as it seems like I’m going nuts Infact I have lost a lot of weight as regards this issue.
I will make it short and simple.

I met this girl sometime last year around February, the feeling was mutual at first as we only intended to be just friends but one thing lead to other, we had sex and things began to change. Fast forward to April,She complained to me that her cousin(male) that she stays with always intend to assault her sexually severally and she wants to leave there.
Being a guy that stays in a mini flat all by myself and the stupid caring boyfriend that I am,I told her to move in from idi Araba to my apartment in Ikorodu, in between all of this period, she lost her job and was at home for good 7-8months. I fed, clothed even catered for the least thing as her sanitary pads,well during this period I tried to get her a job all to no avail, finally I landed her a job in December.
Note: Food or money for her hair was not the problem as she makes her hair every month and least expensive is 12k.

Fast forward to January 2022,She started playing all sort of attitude at home, During the times at home, she told me of her past and the guys in the life that have being disturbing her, I told her initially that I don’t have a problem with her talking to another guy but it should not be when I’m home, she has all day to that. Just last week Tuesday, when I came back from work got some stuffs that we were supposed to cook that night for dinner, her phone rang again one of those guys, she just want to receive the call and she will be right back, her being right back she stayed outside the compound from like past 9pm til almost 11:30pm on the phone with the same guy,I came out like thrice telling her to come in and she requested flaring up at me that if I was tired of her I should tell her to leave my house, why I’m I treating her as a slave and she doesn’t have her freedom amongst saying all sort of words.
Out of anger, I just told her if she was done with the call she come pack her stuffs and go stay with the guy, immediately she was done, she came in and started packing in the room, I went to meet her and I was like madam this is not you, trying to talk her through even held her hands, this girl was shouting on top of her voice and stuffs.
Morning Wednesday, I apologized to her about last night, she refused to on her part(Note she has this pride and ego), she went to work that Wednesday and we continued to engage on the phone, fast forward to Saturday which was my off day,I told her if she was done with work she should come home and let’s talk things through, What broke the camel’s back was she and the guy we had an issue with went to my office as I work with a popular eatery in Lagos to go hangout, many of my staffs know we are together as she also always come there to wait for me until I’m done with work(she didn’t come home that Saturday claiming that she is not feeling too well and she needs to rest at her place of work).
When I resumed work Sunday, one of my staffs told me about it,I went to our CCTV review to confirm lo and behold I saw my supposed babe with the same guy kissing in the restaurant……My heart melted, I was so heart broken.

We are supposed to see today and these are my action plans?
We have started wedding plans and I have cancelled it first, was it the right thing to do
I intend asking her reasons for her actions??
What she really wanted for herself
I have told my lil bro to pack up all of her stuffs after the meeting today she is leaving my house, Is this right to do too
My brother said if she has the boldness to come with a guy to my workplace definitely she will bring a guy one day to my house to sleep with
I also intend robbing her till she is laid off at work, Am I doing the right thing

Note:The job she is doing now is currently in my company but I need a different location and in another department.


No insult please
Please talk to me guys, I’m so broken right now as I type this as I can’t even sleep well again.

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Dhardworshipper:
We have started wedding plans and I have cancelled it first, was it the right thing to do

You have no idea what you dodged: A major marital disaster. Please cancel it because the babe is tired of the relationship and wants to who.re around a bit.

I intend asking her reasons for her actions??

You should, but make sure you don't make amends when she tells you. Learn from it and move on. I know it's not okay to judge a story by hearing from one party, but she crossed the line by bringing the nonentity to your eatery and kissing him in the presence of your coworkers. That's the height of disregard for a lover.


What she really wanted for herself
I have told my lil bro to pack up all of her stuffs after the meeting today she is leaving my house, Is this right to do too

Of course, kick that thing out of your house at once!


My brother said if she has the boldness to come with a guy to my workplace definitely she will bring a guy one day to my house to sleep with

I couldn't agree more.

I also intend robbing her till she is laid off at work, Am I doing the right thing

Since you helped her get the job, the chances are that you may be seeing sometimes. You really need to move on. So, not seeing her all the time will help you achieve that. However, if your places of work are far apart in a way that you don't meet each other, I don't think you should make her lose her job. You should make that job a parting gift to a one-time loved one.


Note:The job she is doing now is currently in my company but I need a different location and in another department.


No insult please
Please talk to me guys, I’m so broken right now as I type this as I can’t even sleep well again.

Sorry that you had to go through this, but you will be fine. You just need time. That's why Mosdi said that these Nigerian girls are useless. But then, challenges only make us stronger.

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SMBH:
I can feel your pain cus I'm passing through one myself. Just stay strong. As for the girl, discard her

ogbenimax007:
you can see it clearly..... please n please just follow your mind as you can see she belongs to the street...... please kill all the feelings you have for her....n send her to where she belongs....

Ire oooo

Godada:



The decisions you have arrived at, follow them to the letter.

What I would add is that you forget about that discussion. Just kick her out and find a means to terminate her appointment.

Have your lil bro around to avoid you losing your temper and taking a regrettable course of action.

You should have stood by that decision you took when you asked her to leave. If she has such boldness to be on a call that long, then she has a thing with that guy while you fed and clothe her. What an ingrate.

Another thing you should have investigated was what went down with her cousin.
But this is late now.

Just implement your initial decision and be calm. She may provoke you but just be cool. No one is worth you losing your peace of mind.

Dhardworshipper:
Good day everyone, please I will be needing your advice on this as it seems like I’m going nuts Infact I have lost a lot of weight as regards this issue.
I will make it short and simple.

I met this girl sometime last year around February, the feeling was mutual at first as we only intended to be just friends but one thing lead to other, we had sex and things began to change. Fast forward to April,She complained to me that her cousin(male) that she stays with always intend to assault her sexually severally and she wants to leave there.
Being a guy that stays in a mini flat all by myself and the stupid caring boyfriend that I am,I told her to move in from idi Araba to my apartment in Ikorodu, in between all of this period, she lost her job and was at home for good 7-8months. I fed, clothed even catered for the least thing as her sanitary pads,well during this period I tried to get her a job all to no avail, finally I landed her a job in December.
Note: Food or money for her hair was not the problem as she makes her hair every month and least expensive is 12k.

Fast forward to January 2022,She started playing all sort of attitude at home, During the times at home, she told me of her past and the guys in the life that have being disturbing her, I told her initially that I don’t have a problem with her talking to another guy but it should not be when I’m home, she has all day to that. Just last week Tuesday, when I came back from work got some stuffs that we were supposed to cook that night for dinner, her phone rang again one of those guys, she just want to receive the call and she will be right back, her being right back she stayed outside the compound from like past 9pm til almost 11:30pm on the phone with the same guy,I came out like thrice telling her to come in and she requested flaring up at me that if I was tired of her I should tell her to leave my house, why I’m I treating her as a slave and she doesn’t have her freedom amongst saying all sort of words.
Out of anger, I just told her if she was done with the call she come pack her stuffs and go stay with the guy, immediately she was done, she came in and started packing in the room, I went to meet her and I was like madam this is not you, trying to talk her through even held her hands, this girl was shouting on top of her voice and stuffs.
Morning Wednesday, I apologized to her about last night, she refused to on her part(Note she has this pride and ego), she went to work that Wednesday and we continued to engage on the phone, fast forward to Saturday which was my off day,I told her if she was done with work she should come home and let’s talk things through, What broke the camel’s back was she and the guy we had an issue with went to my office as I work with a popular eatery in Lagos to go hangout, many of my staffs know we are together as she also always come there to wait for me until I’m done with work(she didn’t come home that Saturday claiming that she is not feeling too well and she needs to rest at her place of work).
When I resumed work Sunday, one of my staffs told me about it,I went to our CCTV review to confirm lo and behold I saw my supposed babe with the same guy kissing in the restaurant……My heart melted, I was so heart broken.

We are supposed to see today and these are my action plans?
We have started wedding plans and I have cancelled it first, was it the right thing to do
I intend asking her reasons for her actions??
What she really wanted for herself
I have told my lil bro to pack up all of her stuffs after the meeting today she is leaving my house, Is this right to do too
My brother said if she has the boldness to come with a guy to my workplace definitely she will bring a guy one day to my house to sleep with
I also intend robbing her till she is laid off at work, Am I doing the right thing

Note:The job she is doing now is currently in my company but I need a different location and in another department.


No insult please
Please talk to me guys, I’m so broken right now as I type this as I can’t even sleep well again.

Mods please help push it to the front page.