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Double0h7:
I think you were conceived by rape.

It is actually your mother that was.

FORWARDEVERLY:
It is actually my mother that was.

Now it makes sense.

Kellzzyy:
He doesn't need to admit the rape in court.
It'll be hard for her to prove the rape.
This is just legal technicalities. He could whip up an entirely new story about the saga and the court would grant him custody.

I swear bro.. he only need to deny it..
Mind you one of the important way to prove rape is immeidiate medical examination and report from a recognized doctor of which the wife probably didn't go to hospital after nor got a medical report to that effect.. if he is smart, he can deny it vehemently and even counter sue her in another court for false rape accusations..

If he wants custody for his child he can get it when he sues..

Double0h7:
I think I was conceived by rape.

Wow.. congratulations Kid..

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Noah9:
I want to thank everyone for their advice and I really appreciate everyone involvement about the thread I created 2week ago. Here is the link.
https://www.nairaland.com/6933724/regretted-actions-please-me

Great people of this forum, honestly things have never been better ever since that incident and I wish our minds are like show glass so that y'all would see how sorry I am inside of me. I messed up and I'm really sorry.

5 days after I created that post above, My wife traveled with my daughter to her parents house to stay without telling me. Since that incident my wife haven't said a word to me, Not a single word. Sometimes I wonder if she's the same woman I married. I'm frustrated, incoherent and I'm losing my mind.

I've been good to her, I provide 85% for my family while she bring just 15% yet I don't complain, I'm romantic and good looking, since we married I don't keep female friends not to talk of cheating. Yet She denied me sex over 2 months without any reasons, that was why I acted that way and I'm so sorry.

On Tuesday here, My friend and I traveled to her parents house, they did not even welcome us well, I don't know what she must have told her parents but I explained myself, knelt down and asked for forgiveness.

She refused to come home with me, her parents were just starring at me like I'm some demon, I requested for my daughter but she refused to release her and I've already paid my daughter's school fees for the term. Her parents said they would register my daughter in a new school, that my wife need some space for now.

Please don't call me a weak man, I'm family oriented, I don't want broken home, if she needed some space that's not a problem, I can give her all the space in the world but let her come home. It's not proper raising a child in a broken home...I'm really losing my mind.

I faced query today at work because I traveled without informing my Boss which I know he won't allow me and I know how much would be deducted from my salary. what I'm going through now I can't wish my enemies and I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I messed up.

Beloveth Pls I need advice.

I don't have time for weaklings! Continue begging. Foolish man!

FORWARDEVERLY:
I swear bro.. he only need to deny it..
Mind you one of the important way to prove rape is immeidiate medical examination and report from a recognized doctor of which the wife probably didn't go to hospital after nor got a medical report to that effect.. if he is smart, he can deny it vehemently and even counter sue her in another court for false rape accusations..

If he wants custody for his child he can get it when he sues..

Exactly

Ladyhippolyta88:
After he don post am for naira land he go whip up new story

How convenient

Easier said than done

Is his wife on Nairaland? How do you prove that that moniker belongs to him?

Please let go back to our heritage. We black as culture you can never see a man with 2 or 3 wife be denying sex non of the wife can try it because there is always available flight, my advice is that pray to God and give her some space don't go home straight when you close from work, you can branch anyway just to pass time after 2 months if non of her family call you just move on wife your life, not everybody that is destiny to keep wife at home, there is possibility of her doing something worst when she comes back to your house because your too SIMP... so don't beg again she will be the one to lose, being looking at wife she's the the type that love to control or manipulate so as a man you don't give space for that

Noah9:
I want to thank everyone for their advice and I really appreciate everyone involvement about the thread I created 2week ago. Here is the link.
https://www.nairaland.com/6933724/regretted-actions-please-me

Great people of this forum, honestly things have never been better ever since that incident and I wish our minds are like show glass so that y'all would see how sorry I am inside of me. I messed up and I'm really sorry.

5 days after I created that post above, My wife traveled with my daughter to her parents house to stay without telling me. Since that incident my wife haven't said a word to me, Not a single word. Sometimes I wonder if she's the same woman I married. I'm frustrated, incoherent and I'm losing my mind.

I've been good to her, I provide 85% for my family while she bring just 15% yet I don't complain, I'm romantic and good looking, since we married I don't keep female friends not to talk of cheating. Yet She denied me sex over 2 months without any reasons, that was why I acted that way and I'm so sorry.

On Tuesday here, My friend and I traveled to her parents house, they did not even welcome us well, I don't know what she must have told her parents but I explained myself, knelt down and asked for forgiveness.

She refused to come home with me, her parents were just starring at me like I'm some demon, I requested for my daughter but she refused to release her and I've already paid my daughter's school fees for the term. Her parents said they would register my daughter in a new school, that my wife need some space for now.

Please don't call me a weak man, I'm family oriented, I don't want broken home, if she needed some space that's not a problem, I can give her all the space in the world but let her come home. It's not proper raising a child in a broken home...I'm really losing my mind.

I faced query today at work because I traveled without informing my Boss which I know he won't allow me and I know how much would be deducted from my salary. what I'm going through now I can't wish my enemies and I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I messed up.

Beloveth Pls I need advice.

I have a lot of sisters I know how they manipulate their husband. I know this will be difficult for you. Don't call her for one week. She and her mother were laughing when you left and have both promised to make sure you see shege.
If you didn't cram her phone number, delete it from your phone so that you won't be able to call her even if you lost it and tried to call again. Erase your call history. The more desperation you show the more they will suffer you. Block her on WhatsApp. I swear she will come and spy on your house in less than 2 weeks. This is 100%

SmellingAnus:
If you had stopped begging her and focused on your life and daughter... She hardly would have moved out from your house... Now that she is out of your house.... Stop begging her... You have lost your dignity and self esteem in trying to make up with her but to no avail...

Maybe you need a slap to reset your mind but something tells me even if Nigerian Army beats you , you will always remain the way you are...

Army and bandits self he brain no go still focus.

bigjackass:
My own is that you actually saw her bleeding when you hit her but still carried on to rape her. The blood and tears didn't move you. And you think you will win custody of your daughter when this story gets to court . You are no different from an animal . That your wife can never love you again and even if she's forced to return to your house, you will still end up raping her again because she will never willing give you sex. Anyway forget about collecting your daughter because I doubt any court will give you custody of a girl child after such an act. Just go and remarry and start a new family.

lmao and you believe Nigerian law acknowledge that a man can rape his own wife?
Even if you follow guy go house and he rape you, you will be asked what you were doing there.
The woman frustrated the guy. This is why I hate all these useless guys shouting one man one wife nonsense if he were a serious man he would have gotten a concubine.
That woman will run back to his house if he has sense and stopped begging. He's simply irritating right now with his begging and grovelling. If he is able to zero his mind and get a concubine, she will call him and start asking him "so this was your plan all along?"

princeeze1:
No need, no court would give a wife beater and raper custody! He should just ignore them all and focus on himself. If she comes around, fine, if she doesn’t, then she had been cheating all along.

lmao. Na Nigeria you dey abi Sweden? What will they even be doing in court?

Ishilove:
You're a bachelor giving marital advice? I'm not even sure you're in a relationship but yet you are 'advising' the OP on how to handle a marital crisis

Hian, Nairaland, I shake yansh for una

lol rest about bachelor matter. I'm not married but I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost 8 years now we have been living together since 2018. How many marriages don last reach 8 years?
All these you're not married blablabla is rubbish. Most single guys are far more experienced in women matters than married men. Most married men were never in any long-term relationship with women some of them never even had girlfriends sef the first girl that showed them interest they quickly paid bride price. There's absolutely nothing wrong with a bachelor advising a married man

Iyaebe:
Only a foolish woman denies her husband sex for no conc and genuine reasons, you should have ignored her and also refuse her when she starts showing interest, I so much hate it when a woman messes up a good man for no reasons especially if he takes care of her needs. Why are you even begging? Stop those nonsense apologies and act like a man,sometimes I like some of the teachings of the redpill, I hate weak men and they can never attract me.You've already apologized to her,stop going to her parents house to act like a simplyton,please read some of the redpill nuggets and apply it but don't add bitterness to it,it will help you act and reason like a real man.Moderator lalasticlala move to front page let nairalanders see my comment and know that I'm not biased and I have wisdom and very sensible too,let them also know that I'm just entertaining them with most of my comments.

Werey dey disguise

Noah9:
I want to thank everyone for their advice and I really appreciate everyone involvement about the thread I created 2week ago. Here is the link.
https://www.nairaland.com/6933724/regretted-actions-please-me

Great people of this forum, honestly things have never been better ever since that incident and I wish our minds are like show glass so that y'all would see how sorry I am inside of me. I messed up and I'm really sorry.

5 days after I created that post above, My wife traveled with my daughter to her parents house to stay without telling me. Since that incident my wife haven't said a word to me, Not a single word. Sometimes I wonder if she's the same woman I married. I'm frustrated, incoherent and I'm losing my mind.

I've been good to her, I provide 85% for my family while she bring just 15% yet I don't complain, I'm romantic and good looking, since we married I don't keep female friends not to talk of cheating. Yet She denied me sex over 2 months without any reasons, that was why I acted that way and I'm so sorry.

On Tuesday here, My friend and I traveled to her parents house, they did not even welcome us well, I don't know what she must have told her parents but I explained myself, knelt down and asked for forgiveness.

She refused to come home with me, her parents were just starring at me like I'm some demon, I requested for my daughter but she refused to release her and I've already paid my daughter's school fees for the term. Her parents said they would register my daughter in a new school, that my wife need some space for now.

Please don't call me a weak man, I'm family oriented, I don't want broken home, if she needed some space that's not a problem, I can give her all the space in the world but let her come home. It's not proper raising a child in a broken home...I'm really losing my mind.

I faced query today at work because I traveled without informing my Boss which I know he won't allow me and I know how much would be deducted from my salary. what I'm going through now I can't wish my enemies and I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I messed up.

Beloveth Pls I need advice.

First and foremost, I think your wife and her parents are being 'overeactive'. The deed has already been done and you've acknowledged your mistake through series of apologies. There's no need for all the unnecessary drama they are putting up. Whilst we all agree se.x should be consentual between couples, however, our African tradition doesn't recognize the term spousal rape (anybody with fact against this should please step forward). Stop saying you raped your wife, it's making you sound more pathetic than you already seem. All these Oyibo standard of judgement shouldn't become our thing please. In Africa, a man doesn't rape his lawfully wedded wife. Anyone with contrary view should step forward with fact please.


Now, what's the way forward? It's very easy. Quit apologizing, you've already done too much of it. Both of you made the mistake. That she starved you of sex for 2 months too is abominable, so, I think both of your actions are wrong. Her own wrong action provoked your wrong reaction (Newton's Law of Forces).


Give it time, the situation will take care of itself. One thing most people don't know about women is that; 'apologizing too much to a woman makes you seem pathetic'. If I were you, I'd stir up another trouble by blaming her for starving me of sex and also pointing out another of her wrongdoing. It will deflect her attention from the original issue (deflection technique). She'll become busy reacting to the second issue that she'll forget the first.

Quit beating yourself. The deed has already been done. If your wife breaks up with you because of this issue, it means she probably has it all planned out from the beginning.

PS- don't listen to most of the ladies that will come here to brand you names. Shouting like a rabid dog is what they are good at. Besides, majority of them are going through worse. Na another person matter dem take dey vent their own frustration.

Double0h7:
If we heard this story from his wife's side we'd be shocked. He sounds like a narcissist. He wants to convince us how much of a great husband he is while confessing to such a monstrous crime.

It would be better if he carried side chicks than to beat and rape his wife. Rape isn't about sex, it's about power and weakness. to get an erection while someone is suffering and crying under you is a psychological thing, it's not a physical urge it's mental.

He's a sick fvck and I'm not falling for his sob story. Let nl's rapists and pedophiles comfort him.

Make una dey calm down. op said his wife denied him sex for over 2 months without any reasons.

I'm sure op must have asked his wife severally about what's wrong yet she won't open up to him. The man no be witch, ogbanje or wizard for him to know what is troubling his wife reason why he forced his way through.

Even till now the woman never still talk to op.... Some married men are going through alot oo... My prayers are with them.

Newboss:
Stop begging. Change your door lock. She must beg before you let her in.

Delete her number and start fūcking new pussy.

You also have to forget your daughter. Let her raise her with her parents.

Don't beg a woman. That's the easiest way to push her away. Always form right.

When we keep talking about simping, una think say we stupid and hate women. See your life now. Yeye

100%

The woman must beg before coming in again. You're a real African.

You have done your human best! You don't want to loose both your family and your daily income, which will be the worst my friend! At this point let GOD and Time! Heal your marriage!

Trust me, you need to put your self together! If you loose your job, this battle will be very difficult for you!

Keep praying, Keep making your money, Keep keeping your sanity together! You will need all of them.

God loves you, we all make mistakes and we are not our mistakes!

In anything please dont loose your job! Dont loose your sanity please Brother!

One Love!

Noah9:
I want to thank everyone for their advice and I really appreciate everyone involvement about the thread I created 2week ago. Here is the link.
https://www.nairaland.com/6933724/regretted-actions-please-me

Great people of this forum, honestly things have never been better ever since that incident and I wish our minds are like show glass so that y'all would see how sorry I am inside of me. I messed up and I'm really sorry.

5 days after I created that post above, My wife traveled with my daughter to her parents house to stay without telling me. Since that incident my wife haven't said a word to me, Not a single word. Sometimes I wonder if she's the same woman I married. I'm frustrated, incoherent and I'm losing my mind.

I've been good to her, I provide 85% for my family while she bring just 15% yet I don't complain, I'm romantic and good looking, since we married I don't keep female friends not to talk of cheating. Yet She denied me sex over 2 months without any reasons, that was why I acted that way and I'm so sorry.

On Tuesday here, My friend and I traveled to her parents house, they did not even welcome us well, I don't know what she must have told her parents but I explained myself, knelt down and asked for forgiveness.

She refused to come home with me, her parents were just starring at me like I'm some demon, I requested for my daughter but she refused to release her and I've already paid my daughter's school fees for the term. Her parents said they would register my daughter in a new school, that my wife need some space for now.

Please don't call me a weak man, I'm family oriented, I don't want broken home, if she needed some space that's not a problem, I can give her all the space in the world but let her come home. It's not proper raising a child in a broken home...I'm really losing my mind.

I faced query today at work because I traveled without informing my Boss which I know he won't allow me and I know how much would be deducted from my salary. what I'm going through now I can't wish my enemies and I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I messed up.

Beloveth Pls I need advice.

FORWARDEVERLY:
Balderdash.. any woman that doesn't want to give her husband sex in peace would do so just as Op did..

I applaud the Op for what he did.. I only get pissed off that he later went to Beg..

Una no wn give una Husband ToTo, una no wn make em get side chick una still no want make Dem marry another wife.. selfish women everywhere..

Op should repeat same thing he did if she comes back and sent him his marital right again.

Don't mind the Bastard jare, He's a man oo and he's supporting what the op wife did. Wetin man do e fellow man??

Death to all Simp.

Kellzzyy:
Is his wife on Nairaland? How do you prove that that moniker belongs to him?

It mustn't be his wife,lets say she relays the information to someone else who has come across this thread don't you think the person would have already saved the information gotten here it Is the internet and it always has a trace of you.

It is on this nairaland that husband and wife, boy friend and girl friend or another relative or friend have come to publicly clear out issues they saw someone they know of come on this forum to call them out and you will see another thread by the accused person coming out on naira land to clear out the issue, how did the person see such thereeead it could be someone they know on nairaland that informed them and they had to clear the issue.

So it is not easy for him to disprove if the wife was smart she would have evidence already if she is thinking of divorcing him, a man who raped his wife or in Nigerian law assaulted his wife since he may not be held for rape cannot be granted custody of his daughter.

Double0h7:
If we heard this story from his wife's side we'd be shocked. He sounds like a narcissist. He wants to convince us how much of a great husband he is while confessing to such a monstrous crime.

It would be better if he carried side chicks than to beat and rape his wife. Rape isn't about sex, it's about power and weakness. to get an erection while someone is suffering and crying under you is a psychological thing, it's not a physical urge it's mental.

He's a sick fvck and I'm not falling for his sob story. Let nl's rapists and pedophiles comfort him.

Exactly, and you are a sensible man on naira land not this small romance section boys

Stereotypes:
The way people gloss over rape on NL is shocking.So many sick men or boys here.

The Op said he slapped his wife till blood was pouring from her face.Does that sound like one slap to you? Is his hand  made of iron? This man probably punched her face till she bled.

His wife must've been screaming and struggling with him,but what did he do?

He had an erec tion which he proceeded to put into a terrified woman who's vag ina was dry.

What happens when a vagina is dry? It gets bruises and tears,Op continued to fu ck till he ejac ulated.
Who gets turned on till ejaculation with a partner who is bleeding,struggling and dry down there? Does this sound normal to you sickos?

Next day,his wife must've had a bruised face ,traumatised psyche and a battered bleeding  vag ina,and Op expects her to be fine  just because he said sorry.

Then you sick fu cks expect her to have recovered instantly and accepted it as punishment for not having secks for 2 months.

No one is taking into account the sort of trauma he has caused her.This will be with her forever.The woman is so traumatised that she hasn't said a word to him since that day and you people are here talking rubbish.

So, if he asks her something and she says no,what next? Beat out another blood and shove it in again? You people have no concept of trauma ,the effect of seeing someone that loves you become a monster ,beat out blood and then proceed to be aroused from it Disgusting!

There are a lot of ways to deal with lack of sex for 2 months.Forceful intercourse garnished with iron fisted slaps is not the way.

Imagine saying her parents are not welcoming you? No atom of self awareness in your bones.
They have said she needs time,leave her alone and let her have that time.Its not in your place to dictate how she should deal with what has happened.

A lot of you have daughters or will have daughters abi? No problem.

You're sick! But you have no one to tell you so. So, common sense didn't whisper to you that every action has opposite reaction? If a married man is denied se.x for just a month (talk less of 2), here are some of the likely events that will follow;

1- He may become psychologically down such that he won't be able to function properly at work.

2- He may become tempted to patronize who.res thereby losing his money, integrity,contracting incurable diseases too. What about the addiction to visiting brothels?

3- Thirdly, studies have proven that a se.x starved individual is likely to rape the opposite se.x

So, which of the instances above would you rather have him experience? The problem with marriages nowadays is that foo.ls like you (who probably aren't married) think they know a lot about it. You're just playing to the gallery for the sake of political correctness.

Any woman that denies her husband se.x is evil! And should be treated as such.

#End of Discussion#

Jennyclay:
Your wife did the right thing by moving to her parent's house.

You hit your wife so hard that she was bleeding from her mouth (only God knows how many times you hit her be4 blood gushed out), you saw her bleeding mouth, and you raped her. Sir you're a professional in raping.

She also did a good thing by not releasing your daughter to you. Because you might rape the little girl too. We have read many cases here on nairaland how Men rape their daughters and it all started like this.

You want her parents to welcome you with beer and asun for beating & raping their daughter?? oga you're on your own oo.

We know the man is wrong but in as much as your seeing that the pays for his action, why ain't you asking why she denied him sex for two month. Marriage is partnership and communication. So a woman denied her husband sex for two, shit happened and you're still blaming him. Man is not a cheat na problem, man still cheat another problem.

ravensckar:
You're sick! But you have no one to tell you so. So, common sense didn't whisper to you that every action has opposite reaction? If a married man is denied se.x for just a month (talk less of 2), here are some of the likely events that will follow;

1- He may become psychologically down such that he won't be able to function properly at work.

2- He may become tempted to patronize who.res thereby losing his money, integrity,contracting incurable diseases too. What about the addiction to visiting brothels?

3- Thirdly, sex has proven that a se.x starved individual is likely to rape the opposite se.x


So, which of the instances above would you rather have him experience? The problem with marriages is because foo.ls like you (who probably aren't married) think they know a lot about it. Any woman that denies her husband se.x is evil! And should be treated as such.

#End of Discussion#

See how you're supporting rape. Na wa oo 80% of nairaland men are potential rapist.

Sir you're a rapist.

Noah9:
I want to thank everyone for their advice and I really appreciate everyone involvement about the thread I created 2week ago. Here is the link.
https://www.nairaland.com/6933724/regretted-actions-please-me

Great people of this forum, honestly things have never been better ever since that incident and I wish our minds are like show glass so that y'all would see how sorry I am inside of me. I messed up and I'm really sorry.

5 days after I created that post above, My wife traveled with my daughter to her parents house to stay without telling me. Since that incident my wife haven't said a word to me, Not a single word. Sometimes I wonder if she's the same woman I married. I'm frustrated, incoherent and I'm losing my mind.

I've been good to her, I provide 85% for my family while she bring just 15% yet I don't complain, I'm romantic and good looking, since we married I don't keep female friends not to talk of cheating. Yet She denied me sex over 2 months without any reasons, that was why I acted that way and I'm so sorry.

On Tuesday here, My friend and I traveled to her parents house, they did not even welcome us well, I don't know what she must have told her parents but I explained myself, knelt down and asked for forgiveness.

She refused to come home with me, her parents were just starring at me like I'm some demon, I requested for my daughter but she refused to release her and I've already paid my daughter's school fees for the term. Her parents said they would register my daughter in a new school, that my wife need some space for now.

Please don't call me a weak man, I'm family oriented, I don't want broken home, if she needed some space that's not a problem, I can give her all the space in the world but let her come home. It's not proper raising a child in a broken home...I'm really losing my mind.

I faced query today at work because I traveled without informing my Boss which I know he won't allow me and I know how much would be deducted from my salary. what I'm going through now I can't wish my enemies and I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I messed up.

Beloveth Pls I need advice.

Oga, I don't want to use abusive words on U but trust me U r nt normal. Y would U rape a wife who denied U sex, is her pussy gold? Is there no ashawo joint in Ur area? U r a weak man n weak men r nt attractive. Ur foolishness did n't just end there U still went to her parents to embarrass urself d more, thinking U r a gentleman, romantic n a good person. I pity U! Continue

Bignuell:
We know the man is wrong but in as much as your seeing that the pays for his action, why ain't you asking why she denied him sex for two month. Marriage is partnership and communication. So a woman denied her husband sex for two, shit happened and you're still blaming him. Man is not a cheat na problem, man still cheat another problem.

You this rapist, please don't quote me again.