By Eyo Charles


A wife of a medical doctor, Na’omi Jolly, has alleged manhandling by her husband following her refusal to allow their daughter to be circumcised.

She told Niger Delta Trust that her husband almost killed her when he insisted on their daughter being circumcised and she refused.

According to her, the matter, which has degenerated to regular manhandling is currently being investigated by the Cross River State Police Command.

She said the problem, which is now a nightmare to her, started in 2015 when she had her first child.

She said all attempts by a team of mediators from Cross River State Ministry of Justice, to resolve the issue further elicited more battery.

She said her refusal to allow her daughter to go through circumcision stems from her own experience when she was barely 12-years old.

Madam Na’omi said she almost bled to death after her own circumcision years ago.

“It all started in December 2015, when I gave birth to my daughter, Amanda. After delivery, my husband asked me what I know about female circumcision and I told him I don’t like it at all. I narrated my own experience to him. That was when I was 12 years. My parents did it and I bled to the point of death. So I said to him that I will not want anyone to have such an experience.

“He said that’s why he wanted our daughter to have it done immediately after birth, according to him, to avoid unnecessary bleeding when she’s grown up.

“I begged him not to allow our daughter to go through such harrowing experience but he refused so I screamed and cried, telling him that I was a victim. I pleaded with him but he said my opinion does not count.

He said it’s a tradition in his family to circumcise any girl-child born into their family.

“Right from that moment, the marriage became a turbulent one with a lot of battering, humiliation and threats to life. Just to be safe from his ill-mannered treatment, I made a promise to him that when I have another child I may allow her to do it just to save my life.

“Not being able to bear the constant beating, in July 2019, we went to the Ministry of Justice, Calabar where we both signed a memorandum of understanding yet the problem was not solved.

“I ran out of the state to Akwa Ibom State. He still came after me to take away my daughter. I left there to Abuja he still came after me. I ran to Lagos, his brothers discovered where I was. They came and I made problem with them. After sometime they came back with my husband and he beat me up to coma just to get the girl,” he said.

In his reaction, Dr Jolly insisted that circumcision is a must for all female children in their family and he cannot afford to see his own daughters not being circumcised.

He denied threatening the wife or beating her up.

Deputy Superintendent of Police (DSP), Ajala Benjamin, Admin-Officer, to the Commissioner of Police, Cross River State, who confirmed the matter said the case is presently being investigated at the State Criminal Investigation Department (SCID).

Chimeluv:
He is mentally unstable

donbachi:
You'all want traditions dat has to do with female circumcision abolished.but,not ready to abolish bride price,transport fare,abortions and entittlements.

Ashawo everywhere.

FGM has no known medical benefit till date, apart from a group of men gathered and decided to play god. They thought it wise to tame the female sexual urge/pleasure by chopping off all or part of her clitoris. Sex should only be enjoyed by males with women as willing warm pots. However, this practice can lead to various medical conditions, infections, reproductive issues, maybe death. You can read more about it HERE.

Abortion and transport fare aren’t TRADITIONS. It is not in my place. If it is in your hometown, I wouldn’t mind knowing where you are from. Abortion when done safely and by a professional is fine. The problem with abortion in Nigeria is that they patronize quacks mostly and take unprescribed drugs.

Transport fare is at your discretion as a male. I don’t know any woman that has used a gun or coercion to collect it from you men. It is your thirst for UNCIRCUMCISED TOTO that makes you willingly part with your money.

Bride price was also put in place by the logical gender. It is symbolic and not meant to be a poverty alleviation program that it has become in recent times. Bride price is also paid by men to men. It is the men that sit to negotiate these things. If they want it abolished, they can as well gather and see it through.

You reserve the right as an adult not to indulge these entitlements.

Islie:

“I ran out of the state to Akwa Ibom State. He still came after me to take away my daughter. I left there to Abuja he still came after me. I ran to Lagos, his brothers discovered where I was. They came and I made problem with them. After sometime they came back with my husband and he beat me up to coma just to get the girl,” he said.

In his reaction, Dr Jolly insisted that circumcision is a must for all female children in their family and he cannot afford to see his own daughters not being circumcised.

He denied threatening the wife or beating her up.

pyyxxaro:
A Medical Doctor or a Native Doctor

GboyegaD:
Some things we read about are annoying. How did this doctor advice his clients on medical issues?

donbachi:
You'all want traditions dat has to do with female circumcision abolished.but,not ready to abolish bride price,transport fare,abortions and entittlements.

Ashawo everywhere.

pyyxxaro:
A Medical Doctor or a Native Doctor

Truvelisback:
A witch Doctor.