Who gave people this popular impression that they shouldn't try and change themselves for the person they love?

Like that is the most toxic advice on the internet today and the most popular I must say.

If you are in a relationship, you should be constantly making adjustments and improvements to please your partner except you don't love them or want them to stay longer with you.

Think of relationships like a bridge between two people. The two most times must walk their sides of the bridge to meet in the middle, not always staying at their own ends and expect their partner to come and meet them.

That's selfish, toxic and unhealthy for any relationship.

If you are overweight and your partner complains, there's actually something you can do about it, you can hit the gym and shed off the excessive weight.

If you are lazy in bed, you can learn how to be better.

It may take extra work but in the end you'll be better off than you were in the beginning and most importantly, you get to retain your partner.

What I don't understand is why people feel that it's not worth changing or improving themselves for their partners.

You are toxic, overweight or have no sense of dressing or behave poorly and the person you claim to love complains about it and you feel he/she is not worth it or doesn't love you enough?

It's the person you love the most that you try to change. You want them to be better.

In fact, if you're partner keeps accepting you the way you are, you should be on the lookout. They probably are just passing the time with you.

Redpillers I de hail una all. My the game continue to favour us.

Love is understanding and understanding is love!!!

Candidlady:
Love is understanding and understanding is love!!!

But in a woman's world, love isn't all about understanding.

To women love without money is a........

I know someone will quote me, but try wooing a woman without having been self sufficient

Premiumwriter:
Who gave people this popular impression that they shouldn't try and change themselves for the person they love?

Like that is the most toxic advice on the internet today and the most popular I must say.

If you are in a relationship, you should be constantly making adjustments and improvements to please your partner except you don't love them or want them to stay longer with you.

Think of relationships like a bridge between two people. The two most times must walk their sides of the bridge to meet in the middle, not always staying at their own ends and expect their partner to come and meet them.

That's selfish, toxic and unhealthy for any relationship.

If you are overweight and your partner complains, there's actually something you can do about it, you can hit the gym and shed off the excessive weight.

If you are lazy in bed, you can learn how to be better.

It may take extra work but in the end you'll be better off than you were in the beginning and most importantly, you get to retain your partner.

What I don't understand is why people feel that it's not worth changing or improving themselves for their partners.

You are toxic, overweight or have no sense of dressing or behave poorly and the person you claim to love complains about it and you feel he/she is not worth it or doesn't love you enough?

It's the person you love the most that you try to change. You want them to be better.

In fact, if you're partner keeps accepting you the way you are, you should be on the lookout. They probably are just passing the time with you.

Redpillers I de hail una all. My the game continue to favour us.

Yes, change is possible if the person is willing.

Totilopussylick:
But in a woman's world, love isn't all about understanding.

To women love without money is a........

But you know we got ladies that are simp yeah ?

Totilopussylick:
But in a woman's world, love isn't all about understanding.

To women love without money is a........

complete the sentence

Jeon:


complete the sentence

it's a free world my brother

Exactly. When people say "you have to accept me for who I am", its simply a palatable way to say "I'm too lazy to improve my shortcomings, and you must learn to live with it". Of course no one is telling you to change to another gender, thats ridiculous. Its about changing things that are within your power. Only children are accepted for who they are, not adults. So yes, from this angle, I agree with you.

Totilopussylick:
it's a free world my brother

so why complaining?

allow them to go with their choice.

Why change yourself in the first place if you have no understanding?
The change will come gradually and naturally..Forcing change on someone that’s unwilling will only push him or her away...it's very easy to understand..
Relationship shouldn't be about narcissist attitude..

I think you're confusing "becoming a better person" with "adjusting your habits to suit your partner's idiosyncrasies and personality"
One should accept the other as he is and respect the path he is on in learning more about him or herself and have patience with that.
Do not mistake this for giving up boundaries. One should always protect his boundaries in order to have a healthy relationship.

If you can't accept the other and his/her teachings for what they are...Then don't be in this relationship....Find someone that is more on the same length as you...
Simple as that..

Candidlady:
Love is understanding and understanding is love!!!

talking of that sex... How can one change to be better please?

phintohlar:
talking of that sex... How can one change to be better please?

Sex how?

Like you not wanting sex but he wanna get down ?

pansophist:
Exactly. When people say "you have to accept me for who I am", its simply a palatable way to say "I'm too lazy to improve my shortcomings, and you must learn to live with it". Of course no one is telling you to change to another gender, thats ridiculous. Its about changing things that are within your power. So yes, from this angle, I agree with you.

I usually find that statement so ridiculous.

Like a girl is doing something you know she could be better and when you try to help her be better, boom "you have to accept me for who I am"

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Why change yourself in the first place if you have no understanding?
The change will come gradually and naturally..Forcing change on someone that’s unwilling will only push him or her away...it's very easy to understand..
Relationship shouldn't be about narcissist attitude..

I think you're confusing "becoming a better person" with "adjusting your habits to suit your partner's idiosyncrasies and personality"
One should accept the other as he is and respect the path he is on in learning more about him or herself and have patience with that.
Do not mistake this for giving up boundaries. One should always protect his boundaries in order to have a healthy relationship.

If you can't accept the other and his/her teachings for what they are...Then don't be in this relationship....Find someone that is more on the same length as you...
Simple as that..

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Whoever told you that replying every thread makes you a master has done you a great disservice.

Let me help

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Premiumwriter:
another empty vessel making the loudest noise possible.

Whoever told you that replying every thread makes you a master has done you a great disservice.

Let me help

"slide off my mention and don't be a cry baby"

Ok
Thanks for realizing you were wrong..
Enjoy yourself Premiumwriter

FERNANDEZISBACK:

Ok
Thanks for realizing you were wrong..
Enjoy yourself Premiumwriter

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U're less. A minor spam bot that will soon wear out

Premiumwriter:
we've outlived airforce1.

U're less. A minor spam bot that will soon wear out

Thank you Premiumwriter..

Candidlady:


Sex how?

Like you not wanting sex but he wanna get down ?

like when someone is poor in that aspect now, how can one improve?

phintohlar:
like when someone is poor in that aspect now, how can one improve?

What makes you think you need improvements sexually?

Candidlady:


What makes you think you need improvements sexually?

cos hubby is complaining

phintohlar:
cos hubby is complaining

Understanding is everything....


Now what iwant to know is he complaining that you too freaky or that ain't flexible ?

Toh. It's kuku people that are doing love and all the other *smesme* that'll be facing issues like these. Be swirling in it; E mo o bayi ni be.

We lower animals in our natural dwellings are unconcerned...sooo, seventy-two blessings, Dangote-cement-like strengths, louvers and nepa light to y'all in quests and struggles in love.

phintohlar:
cos hubby is complaining

sex is something you can improve on to make your man happier.

In the end you win both ways: a happier home and a skill set for yourself

Try reading books on it. Ask him what he likes and learn more about it, even from other sex gurus.

Don't rest on your wheels and say hubby should be understanding. Put in the effort, let him notice your effort.

Love na two people working to make each other happy. Not one person telling the other to accept them as they are. There's no growth in such acceptance.

phintohlar:
cos hubby is complaining

If you’re not trolling, there is this time tested canon on “pleasuring” known as the “Kama Sutra“. Familiarize yourself with it.

Another great resource: Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide to Positions.

Good luck.