₦airaland Forum

Your fear is one of the reason God commanded the marriage bed to be undefiled.
Because God knows how important trust is needed in a relationship.
But because humans are right in our own eyes we do what pleases us.

Imagine we have a society everyone waits to get married before they have sex and also stick to one. What bliss! It means one of the major problems of broken homes and marriages wouldn't even exist.

You don't need to fear I believe you can start afresh by being delibrate about living a Godly life and also leading your wife and children in that direction.

If You and your family becomes genuinely saved then you have nothing to fear.
Don't fear so that what you fear will not come upon you. Ask God for mercy for what youve done in your past and invite him into your home. A man is but limited and can fail but with the help of the Holy spirit your marriage can work out.

I believe things will work out with Jesus at the centre of it, cause He is the custodian of marriage.

Be blessed.

Eyinju112:
This is so deep...
Let me correct an impression, this women don’t love you, they might feel you serve them better than their husband... Truly they love their husband and will never replace them for you... I believe sex is the only reason they’re with you..

Most times, men feel women don’t need sex cause we don’t ask for it, remember we’re living in a society where ladies who always initiate sex are seen as sex animals, whereas we always want our men to cuddle us from behind and give us from the back...we always want them to spank our asses during sex and make us scream, we want to be ate.... some women loves toxic sex like bdsm, and their husband are always taking it cool on them.... they gonna look for guys or boys like you to make their legs shiver...

Men should try different sex not only missionary... All women loves sex, if she’s not enjoying it with her man, then she’s enjoying it with another man

Shalom

NOW TELL US THE TRUTH, ARE YOU ENJOYING IT WITH ANOTHER MAN

odinson1:
The women love their husbands but are cheating on them with other men. What then is the "love" for?

The way you women reason some times ehnnn

Try reading between the lines.

she explained a valid point.
loving you doesnt mean she enjoy the sex part,

just like you love the egusi soup your wife cook for you but aslo want to taste BIMBO breast milk

Look at the bright side. At least you won’t have to blame anyone for whatever repercussions you may experience with marriage- you are your own architect.

Cheer up!

Sanoske:
I’m Scared Of Marriage Because Of The
Married Women I Dated The first married woman I dated was my
classmate from senior high school. When
I went to class the very first day, I sat
next to her and got her name as Virginia.
One beautiful girl. I got connected to her
instantly. That day we went for a break together. When it was time for dining, I
went with her and sat at the same table
with her. The idea was to build a
friendship with her first and later
propose. But just when I was laying the
foundation for a later relationship, a senior walked into her life and swept her
off her feet. I was devastated. I felt like
crying. To make matters worse, this
senior started picking on me. He would
punish me for no offense. He would make
me lie on the ground and step on me just because he saw me walking with
Virginia, my classmate. He made life miserable for me on campus
so I decided to withdraw a little. I
stopped talking to her and stopped
moving around with her until the senior
completed school and left campus. I
started pushing towards her with the grand agenda to make her my girlfriend.
One night after entertainment, I stopped
her in a corner and told her everything;
“You see, I’ve had mad love for you since
the very first day I set my eyes on you. I
was preparing the grounds to tell you how I feel when I realized that senior
Magoo had taken over. You were the
reason he nearly killed me here n
campus. I was patient because I know
how this normally ends. Senior complete
school, he leaves and forgets about you. Exactly what had happened. I’m here
now asking you to give me a chance. A
chance to prove my worth in love.” I thought I’d given her Romeo and Juliet
lines and was waiting patiently to get a
yes from her. She said, “I’m sorry but I’m
still with Magoo. Ours isn’t like how you
described it. I was with him during the
vacation. We live not too far apart so I saw him often. I’m sorry to disappoint
you but I still love him.” I didn’t give up. When we were in the
third year, I tried again. It was intensive.
I was on her every day to accept my
proposal but she kept saying no to me
until our last day on campus when I
couldn’t take the no anymore. We sat behind one of our classrooms. I was
begging her to say yes to me. She was
not even together with senior Magoo but
she kept saying no to me. I looked left
and right. Nobody was coming so I held
her head, pushed it towards me, and kissed her. It lasted for a second but I
believed it would last me for a lifetime.
She said, “Why do you have to force it?” I
answered, “Because I can’t take it
anymore.” We lost contact after school. The next
time I saw her she was married. Married
with two kids but still looked like the girl
I fell in love with back in school. She
worked in a hospital I visited with my
mother. She took my mom into her care and gave her the best attention she
needed. I called her when she was on
duty to ask how my mom was doing and
she gave me the update. Mom spent a
week at the hospital. That gave me the
opportunity to see Virginia every day. When my mom was discharged, I met
Virginia after her shift just to show
appreciation and she said, “Let’s do it
better. I’m off this weekend. If you have
time we can meet.” We met and it was our time in school
that dominated the conversation. I said,
“Girl I was madly in love with you.” She
responded, “I was too young to
understand. You know I still remember
that kiss you stole from me?” I said, “How would you forget? It is the mark of
the beast.” We laughed. I sat next to her
in her car as we look for a good place
where I could alight and get a car back to
my house. Tension built. I could feel it
and I knew if I try I would get her so I tried giving her a peck on her cheek and
she met me with her lips. Relationship blossomed. We were
together for about two years. I didn’t
leave her and she didn’t leave me. As I
write this, I believe if I should call her
right now to meet me, she would. Was
she lonely in her marriage? Was her husband treating her badly? Did she lack
attention? The answer to these questions
is no. The second married woman was a
dentist. Married for nine years with three
kids. I had issues with my teeth and I
went to her clinic. A clinic she owns. She
checked my teeth and asked me to come
back in a week’s time. I went back and she said, “You’ve done very well for
coming. A lot of people come here and
you ask them to come back but they
don’t. All because they saw improvement
after they had left.” She did something to
my teeth and gave me her card. She said, “If it starts to get painful in the night,
give me a call, I will show you what to
do. I went home and nothing happened.
Three days later I called her and she gave
the impression of someone who wanted
to be a friend. We kept calling each other
until we met one Saturday evening. She
said, “If you showed me your house and you told me it was ok to visit, then
maybe one day I will pass by.” She passed by one day and by the time
she left, we were in a relationship. A
good-looking woman who smells like a
flower garden. I loved her so much at
some point I wished she was not
married. We spent time in beautiful places. I would be with her and she
would be video calling her husband who
thought she had traveled for a workshop.
They would be doing lovey-dovey stuff
right when I’m around but hidden from
view. The questions that ran through my head were, “If she loves her husband so
much then why is she here with me?”
This is a question I couldn’t bring myself
to ask her. From the onset, she made it
clear that we can’t discuss her marriage.
“My marriage is off-topic. I’m with you because I like you genuinely. Let’s keep
the conversation around the feelings we
have for each other and not my family.” I wasn’t giving her anything but she was
ok spending on me whenever we had to
spend a night in a place. She would post
her family on her status and thank God
for blessing her with such a beautiful
family. She would doll on her husband all day and later sneak into my arms. That
was something I couldn’t understand but
couldn’t also talk about because it was a
no go area. We dated intensively for two
years until we started pulling away little
by little from each other. We didn’t draw the curtains on the relationship. I think if
I should call her right now and say, “I
miss you. Why don’t you come over?” She
may come. I’m a man. I need a woman of my own.
No matter how good these women were
to me, I wasn’t going to own them. They
loved their husbands so much they
wouldn’t leave them for me so I set out
to look for my own. I met Agnes and we’ve dated for four years. I’ve been
faithful to her all these years that we’ve
been together. When I made a decision to
walk away from married women, I made
it a point never to look back or look left
and right for another woman. It was always Agnes. So far so good. She’s been
a good woman. She doesn’t talk too
much. She rather shows her love than
talk about it. To me, marriage is a value proposition.
You marry a woman who brings value to
your life the same way you also improve
her life. Other than that, I see no reason
to be with a woman just because of love.
Agnes has the brain of a winner and she uses it at any given point. Anything she
touches turns to gold. Gold has value and
it’s the reason I’m stuck with her.
Recently the conversation has become
about marriage. She asks me when we
are going to get married. She asks about future plans and even the number of kids
we plan to have. All the things women
get jiggy about when it’s about marriage.
I love her. I would like to marry her but
you know what? I’m scared. I don’t trust Agnes to be faithful to me. She hasn’t done anything for me to
suspect her but those two married
women I dated have given me all the
reasons not to trust a woman. Agnes
looks happy when she’s with me.
Virginia looked happy with her husband. The dentist too. But all the while they
were expressing their love for their
husband, they were with me doing
things they should have done with only
their husbands. I think about it and I feel
so cold. I even shiver at the thought of it because it happened. And I was there
when it happened. I was the one it
happened to. So Agnes wants to marry. I want to
marry her too but I can’t let go of the
thoughts of her cheating with another
man. Not because I did it but because I’ve
come to believe that women would cheat
even when you give them everything they want. They can be happy and
smiling with you just when they had
returned from another man’s bed. This is
the reason I haven’t been able to commit
to marriage plans with Agnes. It’s too
scary. But I want to do it. I want to bring myself to a place where I can believe and
take a step. So my question is, how do I
shake this thought off my head and stay
positive? I don’t want to marry her and
wear the same pant with her. Be
suspicious of the little things she does. She wants her freedom after marriage
and I would want to be able to guarantee
that. How do I do it?

Eyinju112:
You know I might not love you but love the way you Bleep me....

Let’s relate better. Drop email pls

Lol, it's called karma bro

Ficient:
Karma bitching you. You are already in the game of marital infidelity, you can live with your wife getting boned

Ah... if truly you were bothered about nemesis, you would never have had to do anything with married women. You can only hope Agnes does not become your karma and be the best you can be to assure her that you are all she needs.

What goes around comes around

You must marry and your wife must be bleeped as well

Sanoske:
https://silentbeads.com/im-scared-of-marriage-because-of-the-married-women-i-dated/

You will carry your cross to calvary yourself, people will even volunteer to escort you there.
You can't escape

ucheheart:
Karma is a bitch and you can't run away from it. If you like marry angel holy Mary. You must reap what you sow a million fold. Better you remain single for the rest of your life if you want to avoid karma.

It’s a lie. There’s no karma shit. If he marries a decent woman she wouldn’t cheat. The truth is that most women are not decent. They shit when dating with multiple boyfriends and multiple partners. They would say when they are married they would be faithful but that’s not the case. They would continue cheating in marriage.

OP marry a good and God fearing woman who is not materialistic, who is content and who is not easily attracted to guys (focused women). She wouldn’t cheat.

Eyinju112:
This is so deep...
Let me correct an impression, this women don’t love you, they might feel you serve them better than their husband... Truly they love their husband and will never replace them for you... I believe sex is the only reason they’re with you..

Most times, men feel women don’t need sex cause we don’t ask for it, remember we’re living in a society where ladies who always initiate sex are seen as sex animals, whereas we always want our men to cuddle us from behind and give us from the back...we always want them to spank our asses during sex and make us scream, we want to be ate.... some women loves toxic sex like bdsm, and their husband are always taking it cool on them.... they gonna look for guys or boys like you to make their legs shiver...

Men should try different sex not only missionary... All women loves sex, if she’s not enjoying it with her man, then she’s enjoying it with another man

Shalom

Hehe, please release application forms so I can apply make you spoil me.

thought as much too

Druggey:
thanks 4 the super story

Oga you should be scared. In your next life, you will behave properly

Karma is the only thing you afraid of, because someone else will surely Bleep your wife.

Sanoske:
https://silentbeads.com/im-scared-of-marriage-because-of-the-married-women-i-dated/

Nothing blood of Jesus cant wipe away

Scared? You be sure you can't monitor anything or you die young.

ucheheart:
Karma is a bitch and you can't run away from it. If you like marry angel holy Mary. You must reap what you sow a million fold. Better you remain single for the rest of your life if you want to avoid karma.

That is also karma... Karma may even come for his married sisters... It always follows bloodline line.

Karma may even make sure he never gets fulfilled remaining a single.

Ehya

Scare or not ooooo. If u like marry now or later. They waiting for your wife.

Sanoske:
https://silentbeads.com/im-scared-of-marriage-because-of-the-married-women-i-dated/

What goes around-comes around.....don't be afraid of getting married.

Just get married and enjoy yhur wife also being slept with

Yhu went about sleeping with married people knowingly, and yhu enjoyed it....please go and get married quick, some randy single guys are also waiting to enjoy yhur wife

Karma must take its course please.

You guys are posing as judges over his sin. Karma may not take place if God has forgiven him.

Eyinju112:
This is so deep...
Let me correct an impression, this women don’t love you, they might feel you serve them better than their husband... Truly they love their husband and will never replace them for you... I believe sex is the only reason they’re with you..

Most times, men feel women don’t need sex cause we don’t ask for it, remember we’re living in a society where ladies who always initiate sex are seen as sex animals, whereas we always want our men to cuddle us from behind and give us from the back...we always want them to spank our asses during sex and make us scream, we want to be ate.... some women loves toxic sex like bdsm, and their husband are always taking it cool on them.... they gonna look for guys or boys like you to make their legs shiver...

Men should try different sex not only missionary... All women loves sex, if she’s not enjoying it with her man, then she’s enjoying it with another man

Shalom

So deep down there lol

It's better that you remain a Bachelor because there's no banging styles in this world that the boys/men will not practice on your wife as a pay back for all the atrocities you committed against another man's wife.

Eyinju112:
This is so deep...
Let me correct an impression, this women don’t love you, they might feel you serve them better than their husband... Truly they love their husband and will never replace them for you... I believe sex is the only reason they’re with you..

Most times, men feel women don’t need sex cause we don’t ask for it, remember we’re living in a society where ladies who always initiate sex are seen as sex animals, whereas we always want our men to cuddle us from behind and give us from the back...we always want them to spank our asses during sex and make us scream, we want to be ate.... some women loves toxic sex like bdsm, and their husband are always taking it cool on them.... they gonna look for guys or boys like you to make their legs shiver...

Men should try different sex not only missionary... All women loves sex, if she’s not enjoying it with her man, then she’s enjoying it with another man

Shalom

Very well said.. no girlfriend of mine ex, future or in between go say our fůcking dull. I keep telling guys ladies crave sex even more than u do. Forget the decent looks or her beliefs once ur in the bedroom and free ur mind to enjoy. I break all rules and leave nothing untouched. In short I tamper with everything like a curious child but expertly

When story plenty like this, it is easy to spot that it’s a lie.

Seun must chop.

ucheheart:
Karma is a bitch and you can't run away from it. If you like marry angel holy Mary. You must reap what you sow a million fold. Better you remain single for the rest of your life if you want to avoid karma.

Karma is a product of out mindset. I don't believe in karma. Because karma is one big illusion.