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Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Nobody: 7:24pm On Feb 08, 2022
Chai.. if i no fit arrest her for kidnapping my child and prepare her divorce before she is set free make i know why.. I no still understand where all these married men dey see women marry sha? Just imagine the nerve
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by GistFullGround: 7:26pm On Feb 08, 2022







Do a DNA test on the first child!





Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by medriano: 7:29pm On Feb 08, 2022
For now, do not accept her back.
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by iamjavadem(m): 7:31pm On Feb 08, 2022
Especially with so little information given and us hearing only your own side of the story, we cannot judge but me I will always take my wife back especially because if my son, you would also want her to take you back if you did same.
Righteousness2:
As long as she is the Orginal wife of the man, and he is her Orginal husband, it is her Home. He should accept her.

GOD Hates Divorce. And what HE recongnizes is One man one wife. Any other thing is man or woman Decieving themselves.

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Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Newboss(m): 7:32pm On Feb 08, 2022
She cannot return. There's no way home because your home is no longer her home

She should go and die

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Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by EgunMogaji2: 7:34pm On Feb 08, 2022
Please don’t take her back.

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Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by nike4love: 7:35pm On Feb 08, 2022
PROPHETmichael:


God actually recognise Polygamous marriage...The one man one wife is American system.


DARE TO BE DIFFERENT!
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"And Gideon had threescore and ten sons of his body begotten: for he had many wives" (Judges 8:30).



The prophet, Isaiah, predicted the worldwide restoration of polygamy.

"And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our own bread, and wear our own apparel: only let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach" (Isaiah 4:1).

There are 7 women on Earth for every 1 man.

That makes it impossible for men and women to be paired off, one-on-one, and every woman be married.

God created the chromosomes of the human body to produce this disproportionate amount of females for every one male.

The only way every woman on Earth will ever be married is that they absolutely must accept the God-created paradigm of polygyny.

But some women reject this, foolishly believing God is going to start raining men from the sky.

Selah!
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"For he had many wives" (Judges 8:30).
You are very correct.but some blockheads will argue that a man and a woman has the same population....
Even in animals females re more in number so they won't go extinct.
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by thunderbabs: 7:36pm On Feb 08, 2022
Some comebacks by separatist wives can be dangerous for the husband.

Husband shouldn't close both eyes when sleeping
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by OMYKROIN: 7:41pm On Feb 08, 2022
Righteousness2:
As long as she is the Orginal wife of the man, and he is her Orginal husband, it is her Home. He should accept her.

GOD Hates Divorce. And what HE recongnizes is One man one wife. Any other thing is man or woman Decieving themselves.

But is divorce not legitimate in God's eye if adultery is involved?
What if the woman slept with another man, so the husband should still accept her?
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by jaxxy(m): 7:44pm On Feb 08, 2022
Babsojimjim:
Dear all, permit me to use this medium to seek for mature and experienced advise...

When a wife out of her own wish without any current justifiable reason seperates from her husband for almost two months and has now decided to return back with the kid out of her own wish without any pressure, should the man accept her back?

Also should there be conditions attached before the man can accept her back? Mature and experienced input is highly appreciated.

Thanks all.

Coming back without a good explanation why she left, where she was and an apology is not satisfactory.
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Omotosho1090905(m): 7:47pm On Feb 08, 2022
[quote author=Babsojimjim post=109988428]Dear all, permit me to use this medium to seek for mature and experienced advise...

When a wife out of her own wish without any current justifiable reason seperates from her husband for almost two months and has now decided to return back with the kid out of her own wish without any pressure, should the man accept her back?

Also should there be conditions attached before the man can accept her back? Mature and experienced input is highly appreciated.

Thanks all.[/quote
Br you need to stop advertising Nollywood movies, we are in 2k22 there has to be a reason she left if we don't know that we definitely can't give the right input. Like I never heard it before she moved out of her own wish and came back again on her on wish when ein no be her Papa house
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by kaludestiny10(m): 7:47pm On Feb 08, 2022
This is a matured and elderly advice the op should consider.
Richy4:
OP, I have never separated before... but this is my opinion..

<<<The question should be while both couple were separated,... has the man moved on mentally and physically?... If yes? then he should let her know that it was a bad idea for her to come back...That he doesn't see it working...There are attitude he can't find himself tolerating ....And both will find a way to handle their kids' welfare..

But if he hasn't and wants to try again,

<<<<Then he should invite her before she moved into the house to a neutral place like a quite restaurant or park where they can talk about why they got separated in the first place...Just to iron things out and make promises...
<<<immediately she moves in with the kids, both should be starting on a clean slate... No need for old memories...Just my Opinion...

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Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Righteousness2(m): 7:53pm On Feb 08, 2022
PROPHETmichael:


God actually recognise Polygamous marriage...The one man one wife is American system.


DARE TO BE DIFFERENT!
.....................................................................................................................................................................................................

"And Gideon had threescore and ten sons of his body begotten: for he had many wives" (Judges 8:30).



The prophet, Isaiah, predicted the worldwide restoration of polygamy.

"And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our own bread, and wear our own apparel: only let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach" (Isaiah 4:1).

There are 7 women on Earth for every 1 man.

That makes it impossible for men and women to be paired off, one-on-one, and every woman be married.

God created the chromosomes of the human body to produce this disproportionate amount of females for every one male.

The only way every woman on Earth will ever be married is that they absolutely must accept the God-created paradigm of polygyny.

But some women reject this, foolishly believing God is going to start raining men from the sky.

Selah!
...................................................................................................................

"For he had many wives" (Judges 8:30).

Keep Decieving yourself! When you stand before GOD you will tell him that Gideon did it.
When you ready to Stop Deceiving yourself you will study what JESUS Christ gave for marriage

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Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by sexy74(m): 7:54pm On Feb 08, 2022
Babsojimjim:
Dear all, permit me to use this medium to seek for mature and experienced advise...

When a wife out of her own wish without any current justifiable reason seperates from her husband for almost two months and has now decided to return back with the kid out of her own wish without any pressure, should the man accept her back?

Also should there be conditions attached before the man can accept her back? Mature and experienced input is highly appreciated.

Thanks all.
Hmm my brother your questions are deep but answers has to be giving .

In my own opinion for her to leave she should stay where ever she went to as long as it's not your fault for her to be back should be in your terms and conditions.
She is trying how resolute you are if you accept her back without any penalty and stringent conditions she would do it again and again .

Sincerely start your life afresh
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Innomach(m): 8:01pm On Feb 08, 2022
Righteousness2:
As long as she is the Orginal wife of the man, and he is her Orginal husband, it is her Home. He should accept her.

GOD Hates Divorce. And what HE recongnizes is One man one wife. Any other thing is man or woman Decieving themselves.

Lies! Stop deceiving people with your personal beliefs.
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by flokii: 8:03pm On Feb 08, 2022
I really don't think I would accept such a woman back into my house.. most of them don't value their husband's struggles to sustain the home till they go out and see hell.

You left your husband for 2 solid months and then reappear out of nowhere.. for what na?

@OP Don't touch her or eat her food and if possible sef, pack your things and disappear for like 6 months.. arrant nonsense

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Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by bobbiiee: 8:03pm On Feb 08, 2022
If your wife leaves for a year will you welcome her with open arms regardless of where she's been or what she has done in the name of God hates divorce?

Do you think it's only divorce that he hates?

Proverbs 6 :16-19
16 These six things doth the LORD hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him: note

17 A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, note xref-1 [xref-2]

18 An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief

19 A false witness that speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren.



Righteousness2:
As long as she is the Orginal wife of the man, and he is her Orginal husband, it is her Home. He should accept her.

GOD Hates Divorce. And what HE recongnizes is One man one wife. Any other thing is man or woman Decieving themselves.
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Twoclans(f): 8:03pm On Feb 08, 2022
Munzy14:

Even in her parents house, a lot must have changed..

For me I won't.. lipsrsealed I mean if she has that mind to leave me in solitary, then there is no love initially.

I always say this, nothing can make who is yours leave you...never ever.

Even in your worst, he or she will be a mental and spiritual spport.

Rolls Eyes grin

Na who una go kill in the name of love una dey find .
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by ImoleNaija: 8:04pm On Feb 08, 2022
Appliedmaths:
I had a case where the young wife left after all pleading, family got involved but she still left anyways. Young husband was left devastated, heaped all the blame on himself.

Fast forward, they got back together only to discover she went to her ex who knew she was married and he sucked all the juice and travelled back to the US.

Young husband got to know and sent her packing finally forever this time around. She called to say she's pregnant but nobody cares.

Crazy things are happening.

Just do your underground search before fully accepting her back.

Imagine that!

Werey wan give the innocent man a bastard child angry
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Durabest: 8:04pm On Feb 08, 2022
In my tradition if u accept her back without proper traditional things you the man wile pay the price and the price is death,bcus the accestors wil charge u 4 underating them.My adivce to you is seek the face of elders b4 u take further actions.
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Gentlerespect76: 8:04pm On Feb 08, 2022
Kollyman:
Her return might be for permanent solution

If you know what that means
grin

Kill and carry, abi.
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Enny2013(f): 8:06pm On Feb 08, 2022
With d intervention of d elders (from both families),u cn take her back.she must explain in detail what led to her action.
Oga, No just accept her like dat o.she won't value u n she might repeat dat again.First avoid her Wella. Make her beg,beg n beg bfr allowing her in.
I hate nonsense.

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Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Thinkfree(m): 8:08pm On Feb 08, 2022
That's why i like idoma culture on matters like this. The villagers will gather to get answers for the following questions
1) how many men slept with you during the brake.
2) did you enjoy them?
3)are you ready to settle down forever?
4) if yes can you swear to an oath that you were not fockedd?

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Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by twilliamx(m): 8:11pm On Feb 08, 2022
Babsojimjim:
Dear all, permit me to use this medium to seek for mature and experienced advise...

When a wife out of her own wish without any current justifiable reason seperates from her husband for almost two months and has now decided to return back with the kid out of her own wish without any pressure, should the man accept her back?

Also should there be conditions attached before the man can accept her back? Mature and experienced input is highly appreciated.

Thanks all.

No..
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by jude33084(m): 8:13pm On Feb 08, 2022
Lostchild:
Babsojimjim

Accept her and don't talk about it. Just pretend as if nothing had happened.

She learnt some lesson she will not reveal to you.

shocked

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Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by jude33084(m): 8:14pm On Feb 08, 2022
ImoleNaija:


Imagine that!

Werey wan give the innocent man a bastard child angry

cheesy
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Mayeldah(m): 8:17pm On Feb 08, 2022
Op revert with more info

let's have more facts
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by Microwhy: 8:21pm On Feb 08, 2022
Righteousness2:
As long as she is the Orginal wife of the man, and he is her Orginal husband, it is her Home. He should accept her.

GOD Hates Divorce. And what HE recongnizes is One man one wife Any other thing is man or woman Decieving themselves.
Advocate of God..
Olodo.
You better go find nearest mosque and pronounce your sha'adah
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by phemmyfour: 8:22pm On Feb 08, 2022
Babsojimjim:
Dear all, permit me to use this medium to seek for mature and experienced advise...

When a wife out of her own wish without any current justifiable reason seperates from her husband for almost two months and has now decided to return back with the kid out of her own wish without any pressure, should the man accept her back?

Also should there be conditions attached before the man can accept her back? Mature and experienced input is highly appreciated.

Thanks all.
Tell us why she left. No woman will leave a man with no reason. Her own side of the story will give a well informed advice
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by ThinkSmarter: 8:23pm On Feb 08, 2022
Maybe she was thinking that marriage was bed of all Roses.
She was expecting that everything will fall in place according to her expectation, only to get disappointed.
She ran back to her father's compound and maybe after struggling for breakfast, lunch, dinner and other things.
She then realized that things were really better off in her husband's house.
Or she was schooled by her parents, her mother especially.
Then wisdom entered her brain.
A times it is good to let one's wife go if she's threatening to go back to her father's house.
It's a school of its own.
Re: When A Wife Returns After Separation by fof1: 8:24pm On Feb 08, 2022
princeeze1:

This is your answer. Your obvious lack of self esteem is too glaring to her. Reason she has taken you for a ride!

Rubbish and Misdirected Response to Another's Opinion, Pls. Face Urs and dont be Counteractive,Pls. U Are Not WISER.

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