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baby124:
Children love their cartoon character school bags in primary school. . That small gift would have meant the world to that small boy. What I am saying is guy doesn’t have to be a billionaire to be there for his child. Even going to see the boy with baba dudu sweet is enough. Children don’t need the world, all they need is your presence and attention.

I understand you jare. I just found it very funny. You had to be specific. Spiderman abi Ben10. He thought the guy would come look for him, that is what I suspect happened here. Since he knows a relative, it is safe to say he wasn’t entirely shut out. There was in fact room for negotiation.

My dad.. I don miss you sir.. ask for my acc if you wan see, I be oluwale kotun not olawale

kponkedenge:
He's his son. That's enough reason.

If he was his son he would have been in his life's decades ago ...That shipped has sailed now ..he should move on if he doesn't have inheritance for him

pocohantas:
I understand you jare. I just found it very funny. You had to be specific. Spiderman abi Ben10. He thought the guy would come look for him, that is what I suspect happened here. Since he knows a relative, it is safe to say he wasn’t entirely shut out. There was in fact room for negotiation.

Ben10 never come out like 24yrs ago. Of course. There always is. More than likely he was not providing anything and being a thorn in their flesh with unreasonable demands. So they decided to shut him out. Note they had disagreements about religion. So that shows he had access at some point! Families will find it hard to prevent a persistent, respectful and hardworking parent from seeing their child, even if he’s poor. In fact such a rich family is likely to support the young couple if they see the man is making genuine efforts for his small family. I suspect ego and unreasonable attitude got this OP where he is.

He was bribing a relative to get the boy for him when, if his hands are clean and he tried in his efforts, he can reach out to even the step father. He knows where they are, he just wants to embarrass them publicly since he’s being ignored and has been scammed by a relative.

Midastorch:
See your son here

Is that man I the profile 26 years of age?

golbe1972:
With deep pain in my heart I'm crying out for justice and help from all those who can help me locate my son .

The last time I saw my son was when he was two years old before the mother eloped with him. His name is Nelson Raymond but I heard they've changed his name to ADEWALE.

The woman in question is from a popular Kotun family in Lagos. I was literally slap on the face due to my financial incapability. The woman's name is RONKE KOTUN, heard she's married to one Mohammed.

I was deprived access to my son because I'm not a Muslim and she thought I would influence the boy from turning away from Islam if I should be in his life. The last time I managed to get her contact she boasted that I'm nobody in Lagos and can't take her anywhere. I contacted the Justice court for mediation but we couldn't locate her to serve her an invitation.

Please I'm using this medium to reach out to anyone with useful information on how to track her. I contacted a family member of hers who claimed he doesn't know where she lives, yet he kept collecting money from me under the pretence of helping to locate my son.

It's really depressing [b]as this is my only child and I'm not getting any younger [/b]and with underlining medical conditions which makes me think I might never see my son again before my time comes.

Please this is a plea of a helpless man seeking for justice.

I put it to you that you probably abandoned this lady! Yes, you did! Forget this muslim and christian narrative you are trying to claim. A young girl that slept with you, carried pregnancy for you till full term and gave birth just suddenly realised that you are not a muslim? "It's really depressing as this is my only child and I'm not getting any younger and with underlining medical conditions", - This is the reason you are seeking him out now. You sowed your wild oats and used and dumped the mother of your child in your youth. Now life has dealt with you and you don't have any other children, then you remembered this. Would you have sought for the boy if you had other children
I pity you men, especially these small boys on these nairaland that talk trash about women daily. You use and abandon them. Remember that children are more geared towards theirs mother even when the both parents are still together, talk less of when she's a single mother and she single handedly raised the child. In your own case, there's even a step-father in the picture who probably adopted the boy and took on responsibility. Old age is just a few years away for everyone. What you sowed during your youth, you will reap in old age. Men are known to be especially lonely when they are getting old, even those that are still married- unlike women who most likely have children and grandchildren and omugwo to keep them busy.

Go and read Jeff Bezos story...his real father is a bicycle repairer till today. Another man raised Jeff. The sperm-donor of a father didn't bother to ask where he was till jeff became a billionaire. Even the surname 'Bezos' is his step-father's name. Now Jeff is the richest man in the world and doesn't even acknowledge the so-called sperm-donor. Same as Steve Jobs.

A word is enough for the wise...Gone are the days when 'children look for their irresponsible fathers' - like most of you believe. Children of these days no send you! Behave well in your youth!!

24yrs minus 2yrs is 22yrs.
For 22yrs where have u been?
Now, I guess u re getting old and for ur mind, u think the boy has become a man.

Anyway since ur ex wife family is well know, u can start from there. May God lead & protect you.

golbe1972:
With deep pain in my heart I'm crying out for justice and help from all those who can help me locate my son .

The last time I saw my son was when he was two years old before the mother eloped with him. His name is Nelson Raymond but I heard they've changed his name to ADEWALE.

The woman in question is from a popular Kotun family in Lagos. I was literally slap on the face due to my financial incapability. The woman's name is RONKE KOTUN, heard she's married to one Mohammed.

I was deprived access to my son because I'm not a Muslim and she thought I would influence the boy from turning away from Islam if I should be in his life. The last time I managed to get her contact she boasted that I'm nobody in Lagos and can't take her anywhere. I contacted the Justice court for mediation but we couldn't locate her to serve her an invitation.

Please I'm using this medium to reach out to anyone with useful information on how to track her. I contacted a family member of hers who claimed he doesn't know where she lives, yet he kept collecting money from me under the pretence of helping to locate my son.

It's really depressing as this is my only child and I'm not getting any younger and with underlining medical conditions which makes me think I might never see my son again before my time comes.

Please this is a plea of a helpless man seeking for justice.

Stop sendung money. Move on with your life. If the woman see you no longer care she will bring him. Your son will look for you sooner or later. Don't let anyone blackmail you jare.

Righteousness2:
Take it to GOD in Prayers like someone said up there.
There is Nothing Prayers cannot do.
What GOD cannot do, does not Exist!

@ golbe1972 ,I recommend you Visit the Lord's Chosen Charismatic revival Ministries .

Gush....u dey do advert on top person problem

If you have enough money. Put up ads of her name in billboards, media houses, asking her to provide your son.

okwadatigbogal:
I put it to you that you probably abandoned this lady! Yes, you did! Forget this muslim and christian narrative you are trying to claim. A young girl that slept with you, carried pregnancy for you till full term and gave birth just suddenly realised that you are not a muslim? "It's really depressing as this is my only child and I'm not getting any younger and with underlining medical conditions", - This is the reason you are seeking him out now. You sowed your wild oats and used and dumped the mother of your child in your youth. Now life has dealt with you and you don't have any other children, then you remembered this. Would you have sought for the boy if you had other children
I pity you men, especially these small boys on these nairaland that talk trash about women daily. You use and abandon them. Remember that children are more geared towards theirs mother even when the both parents are still together, talk less of when she's a single mother and she single handedly raised the child. In your own case, there's even a step-father in the picture who probably adopted the boy and took on responsibility. Old age is just a few years away for everyone. What you sowed during your youth, you will reap in old age. Men are known to be especially lonely when they are getting old, even those that are still married- unlike women who most likely have children and grandchildren and omugwo to keep them busy.

A word is enough for the wise...Gone are the days when 'children look for their irresponsible fathers' - like most of you believe. Children of these days no send you! Behave well in your youth!!

U dey talk rubbish abeg.
No be everything be feminism bullcrap

baby124:
Ben10 never come out like 24yrs ago. Of course. There always is. More than likely he was not providing anything and being a thorn in their flesh with unreasonable demands. So they decided to shut him out. Note they had disagreements about religion. So that shows he had access at some point! Families will find it hard to prevent a persistent, respectful and hardworking parent from seeing their child, even if he’s poor. In fact such a rich family is likely to support the young couple if they see the man is making genuine efforts for his small family. I suspect ego and unreasonable attitude got this OP where he is.

He was bribing a relative to get the boy for him when, if his hands are clean and he tried in his efforts, he can reach out to even the step father. He knows where they are, he just wants to embarrass them publicly since he’s being ignored and has been scammed by a relative.

He was not only scammed by the relative, but by everyone who told him to abandon the woman of his youth. A muslim lady married/dated you, got pregnant, had the baby and suddenly realized you are christian after two years? If he was good to her, while she can decide to move on with a fellow muslim, she won’t set out to alienate his memory, considering the seperation came from her family. Thinking of it now, you are right. OP is not being truthful. He thought he would remarry and have more kids. Typical Naija man’s reasoning.

Whazar:
Go to her Kotun whatever and ask for your son since you said they are popular like that
Just carry femi falana along

Make ur son no go be my high school mate sha Bolaji Kotun

Adewale

golbe1972:
With deep pain in my heart I'm crying out for justice and help from all those who can help me locate my son .

The last time I saw my son was when he was two years old before the mother eloped with him. His name is Nelson Raymond but I heard they've changed his name to ADEWALE.

The woman in question is from a popular Kotun family in Lagos. I was literally slap on the face due to my financial incapability. The woman's name is RONKE KOTUN, heard she's married to one Mohammed.

I was deprived access to my son because I'm not a Muslim and she thought I would influence the boy from turning away from Islam if I should be in his life. The last time I managed to get her contact she boasted that I'm nobody in Lagos and can't take her anywhere. I contacted the Justice court for mediation but we couldn't locate her to serve her an invitation.

Please I'm using this medium to reach out to anyone with useful information on how to track her. I contacted a family member of hers who claimed he doesn't know where she lives, yet he kept collecting money from me under the pretence of helping to locate my son.

It's really depressing as this is my only child and I'm not getting any younger and with underlining medical conditions which makes me think I might never see my son again before my time comes.

Please this is a plea of a helpless man seeking for justice.

with all the parental frauds going on all over the world, how sure are you that, that boy is your son?

BestRicePlug28:
What really happened Sir?

has he not said enough already ?



am ebo!

tayo60:
What were you doing since all these years? Did you abandon the mother and child when he was small? If you didn't offend the mother then in any way, after so long years, may the Lord help you locate the boy. And if you did, even if you are able to see your son, possibility of him accepting you as his father is slim. Good luck!

he will accept his father

If at twenty-six the man isn’t searching for you, why disturb yourself? Most bastards look for their fathers at eighteen or a little older. He’ll do the same.

pocohantas:
He thought the boy must come back to find him. Now it is becoming clear that it might never happen, that is why he is crying out.

Bad of the woman to play that game, but the party with the child most times act very toxic and uncooperative. So I wouldn’t entirely blame people like the OP for giving them space.

The party cleaning up a mess will not cooperate with an irresponsible person.


If he had been dropping upkeep money regularly it would have been a piece of cake to invite the son.



If you were abandoned for 24 years would you be civil?

Saintmary:
The party cleaning up a mess will not cooperate with an irresponsible person.


If he had been dropping upkeep money regularly it would have been a piece of cake to invite the son.



If you were abandoned for 24 years would you be civil?

Lmao! I will be civil, but I won’t be welcoming.

pocohantas:
Lmao! I will be civil, but I won’t be welcoming.

Your being civil is kindness enough.




Men like this should be used to clean the streets, I mean both figuratively and literally.

okwadatigbogal:
I put it to you that you probably abandoned this lady! Yes, you did! Forget this muslim and christian narrative you are trying to claim. A young girl that slept with you, carried pregnancy for you till full term and gave birth just suddenly realised that you are not a muslim? "It's really depressing as this is my only child and I'm not getting any younger and with underlining medical conditions", - This is the reason you are seeking him out now. You sowed your wild oats and used and dumped the mother of your child in your youth. Now life has dealt with you and you don't have any other children, then you remembered this. Would you have sought for the boy if you had other children
I pity you men, especially these small boys on these nairaland that talk trash about women daily. You use and abandon them. Remember that children are more geared towards theirs mother even when the both parents are still together, talk less of when she's a single mother and she single handedly raised the child. In your own case, there's even a step-father in the picture who probably adopted the boy and took on responsibility. Old age is just a few years away for everyone. What you sowed during your youth, you will reap in old age. Men are known to be especially lonely when they are getting old, even those that are still married- unlike women who most likely have children and grandchildren and omugwo to keep them busy.

Go and read Jeff Bezos story...his real father is a bicycle repairer till today. Another man raised Jeff. The sperm-donor of a father didn't bother to ask where he was till jeff became a billionaire. Even the surname 'Bezos' is his step-father's name. Now Jeff is the richest man in the world and doesn't even acknowledge the so-called sperm-donor. Same as Steve Jobs.

A word is enough for the wise...Gone are the days when 'children look for their irresponsible fathers' - like most of you believe. Children of these days no send you! Behave well in your youth!!

Only a wise man will read this and learn.



But how many want to get sense?

FERNANDEZISBACK:
What was your God doing when all this was happening..
Ooh I forgot he was smiling from his home so the people he created can keep suffering..

You religious Dumbos are really disgusting..

you must be living a sad life... Woman.

francisisking:
you must be living a sad life... Woman.

Ok?

golbe1972:
He's not a property to be claimed, rather just to establish a father son relationship.

take your story to Susan Ade Coker on Facebook. She has helped persons with regarding similar stories. You can also search for your son on Facebook.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
You cancelling my comment can't stop people from seeing the fact and accept it..
Instead of you to prove me wrong you are proving me right by being a weakling..

Prove you wrong ke? Mr man nobody is going to bother trying to prove to you the existence of God so keep your attention seeking and coded cry for help to yourself! You don't believe in God, bravo! We salute you and pat you on the back now be on your way and stop trying to dissuade those who believe! Your comments have gotten old and reek of desperation. Its too late in the grand scheme of things to try to convince a grown ass human that God exists. Even Elon musk admits the existence of God much less a #*#@ like you.

Mom007:
Prove you wrong ke? Mr man nobody is going to bother trying to prove to you the existence of God so keep your attention seeking and coded cry for help to yourself! You don't believe in God, bravo! We salute you and pat you on the back now be on your way and stop trying to dissuade those who believe! Your comments have gotten old and reek of desperation. Its too late in the grand scheme of things to try to convince a grown ass human that God exists. Even Elon musk admits the existence of God much less a #*#@ like you.

Your tears won't change my statement..

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Your tears won't change my statement..

*yawns*

Mom007:
*yawns*

*Giggle hard*...

This is a case of Casanova doing thing out of wedlock without the consent of the innocent boy that is causing lamentations for one of the Casanovas'. If i may ask, where was this man all these while that you are not serious about the whereabout of your son until he is twenty four years old?

The only advise i have for you is that if there is any rite for you to perform before getting your son, you better do, else you may not see your son again till eternity.

This should serve as a lesson for the he-goats among men who think that they can eat their cake and still have it.

Op is a nairaland o and he has been mute to all the questions everyone has been asking him. It clearly shows he is guilty of all the allegations levelled against him, that's why him no dey talk again.

golbe1972:
With deep pain in my heart I'm crying out for justice and help from all those who can help me locate my son .

The last time I saw my son was when he was two years old before the mother eloped with him. His name is Nelson Raymond but I heard they've changed his name to ADEWALE.

The woman in question is from a popular Kotun family in Lagos. I was literally slap on the face due to my financial incapability. The woman's name is RONKE KOTUN, heard she's married to one Mohammed.

I was deprived access to my son because I'm not a Muslim and she thought I would influence the boy from turning away from Islam if I should be in his life. The last time I managed to get her contact she boasted that I'm nobody in Lagos and can't take her anywhere. I contacted the Justice court for mediation but we couldn't locate her to serve her an invitation.

Please I'm using this medium to reach out to anyone with useful information on how to track her. I contacted a family member of hers who claimed he doesn't know where she lives, yet he kept collecting money from me under the pretence of helping to locate my son.

It's really depressing as this is my only child and I'm not getting any younger and with underlining medical conditions which makes me think I might never see my son again before my time comes.

Please this is a plea of a helpless man seeking for justice.

Dm my email meetmelovers373@gmail.com and I will help you search and locate your son

golbe1972:
With deep pain in my heart I'm crying out for justice and help from all those who can help me locate my son .

The last time I saw my son was when he was two years old before the mother eloped with him. His name is Nelson Raymond but I heard they've changed his name to ADEWALE.

The woman in question is from a popular Kotun family in Lagos. I was literally slap on the face due to my financial incapability. The woman's name is RONKE KOTUN, heard she's married to one Mohammed.

I was deprived access to my son because I'm not a Muslim and she thought I would influence the boy from turning away from Islam if I should be in his life. The last time I managed to get her contact she boasted that I'm nobody in Lagos and can't take her anywhere. I contacted the Justice court for mediation but we couldn't locate her to serve her an invitation.

Please I'm using this medium to reach out to anyone with useful information on how to track her. I contacted a family member of hers who claimed he doesn't know where she lives, yet he kept collecting money from me under the pretence of helping to locate my son.

It's really depressing as this is my only child and I'm not getting any younger and with underlining medical conditions which makes me think I might never see my son again before my time comes.

Please this is a plea of a helpless man seeking for justice.

lol, you are only looking for him because he is your only son. May God keep him away from you. Wicked man