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What inspired this topic is, i have met alot of successful ladies, all of them in their 30th and later to be precise, all of them all want one thing, which is husband, for all I knew, but things I like about them is, the all want a high value Man, but unfortunately most high value men will not want a woman at their age

So they remain in perpetual singleness they didn't want all because they are choosy, which is good either

Datboredberri:
Naso...

She wanted a husband... She lost him... So why wouldn't she cry?

Plus, the man must be very stupid... She's the breadwinner of the family and he wants her to be submissive? Because? What's his contribution to the family? His pẹnis? Arrogant bastard... She's better off without him...

I don't want a husband... I definitely don't want a Nigerian man... I can date them, but I ain't ever getting married to one...

What's your advice to lesbians? They get married and live happily... So what's the purpose of a man?

Most of you talk about how SUCCESSFUL women are miserable without men... But you can't say why...

Is it the lack of companionship? That's cheap... My family, friends... I can even date a sexy chick...

Is it kids? Surrogacy, adoption, etc...

Is it money? I already got my own cash, lots of it...

I may not know your age but I tell you, you are still a kid. You have not really met the destined man for you, when you meet, you will change this your sad song

Shokoloko:
I think this Chinese lady is puling your legs . If she really wanted a spouse, with all her money she would get one. There are more men in her country than women.
She is not desperate. If you think she is desperate, keep talking to her for the next six months. You will see that the lady will not move the relationship any further beyond chatting.

Are you the one chatting with her? Listen in Chinese culture if a woman passed 27 without unmarried she is called a leftover, you can research on that and find that by yourself, most men in China will want to marry a younger lady, that is the culture over there,

As I'm talking to you now there are many desperate adult Chinese ladies looking for husband

And by the way I wasn't interested because she's way older than me, despite that fact that she know, she still persuading me to be in relationship with her, all because her parents are on her nerve to get married

Batam:
I may not know your age but I tell you, you are still a kid. You have not really met the destined man for you, when you meet, you will change this your sad song

Actually, I have... Doesn't mean I want to get married to him... We would spend the remainder of our lives together... That's perfect...

He's not a Nigerian... Which is also great... Because he doesn't have this bush idea that a woman is born to be a wife and mother...

Datboredberri:
Actually, I have... Doesn't mean I want to get married to him... We would spend the remainder of our lives together... That's perfect...

He's not a Nigerian... Which is also great... Because he doesn't have this bush idea that a woman is born to be a wife and mother...

My dear life is all about choice you can choose to married and choose not to, your choice got nothing to do on other person

Botking:
My dear life is all about choice you can choose to married and choose not to, your choice got nothing on the other person

Exactly... So why did you waste everyone's time by creating this thread?

You spend hours arguing that a successful woman is nothing without a man... Only to agree that we all have the right to live as we choose... Weird.

So many women being murdered by their husbands, beaten, cheated on, verbally abused... What's there to appreciate?

Botking:
Are you the one chatting with her? Listen in Chinese culture if a woman passed 27 without unmarried she is called a leftover, you can research on that and find that by yourself, most men in China will want to marry a younger lady, that is the culture over there,

As I'm talking to you now there are many desperate adult Chinese ladies looking for husband

And by the way I was interested because she's older than me, despite that fact that she know, she still persuading me to be in relationship with her, all because her parents are on her nerve to get married

Its okay bro. We will find out in 6 months

Datboredberri:
Exactly... So why did you waste everyone's time by creating this thread?

You spend hours arguing that a successful woman is nothing without a man... Only to agree that we all have the right to live as we choose... Weird.

So many women being murdered by their husbands, beaten, cheated on, verbally abused... What's there to appreciate?

My points was, why are most still looking for husband since there are successful, because as you age older as a woman you cannot deny what your body wants, maybe as a young woman you may not find it at necessary but trust me when you grow older you will see the necessity of a husband

Ever wonder why single old women in their 60s 70s and 80s still looking for a man?, my dear you're still a kid when you grow up your mentality about man will changed.

Shokoloko:
Its okay bro. We will find out in 6 months

From what I know Most Chinese ladies want a high value Man,

Botking:
From what I know Most Chinese ladies want a high value Man,

You are right. There is no continent that is more classist than Asia.
The young man will need to prove to that rich Chinese lady that he has stained higher education than she has, and he has more more than she has.
But he will know within 6 months .

Ok

Shokoloko:
You are right. There is no continent that is more classist than Asia.
The young man will need to prove to that rich Chinese lady that he has stained higher education than she has, and he has more more than she has.

But he will know within 6 months .

Know what?

Datboredberri:
Most men are confused...

They can't make a choice...

1. A successful women who wouldn't see marriage as a means to an end... Wouldn't depend on men... And would therefore take her time, choosing a partner simply for love...

Or.

2. A woman who's entirely dependent on you... Sees marriage as a means to an end... Would do anything to get a man, be submissive and worship him as though he's her lord and saviour...

You've said it all.

What will a woman whos financially independent need a man for, except maybe
For love?

Sometimes, Most successful women are even too busy for this "love" crap of a thing
that they hardly have time to pick a man because these men end up being a distraction and disturbance to them.

Imagine a successful woman who's self-made now coming to serve a man. Wash his clothes, cook for him, and start doing school runs. They don't have that time.

Men only add responsibilities and burdens to a woman's life. They get you pregnant, leaving you to struggle with all the stages of pregnancy for nine months.
Then you give birth and start another round of duties. Abeg!

Botking:
My dear life is all about choice you can choose to married and choose not to, your choice got nothing to do on other person

Good

ayomikuolatunji:
I have been observing your comments on nairaland and I discovered that you operating on hate which you found interesting you yourself. See you are free to hate men all I care but one thing I observed about you is that you ,you are still in your early 20s. My aunt is worse than you when it comes to hate and proving independent woman and men are trash. It is a easy for a lady who men simp over her to talk trash thinking she is wise. Time and chance will tell. One thing I know is that you should never marry or have anything to do a man. Live your life isolated and never get married. White men you mostly compared Nigeria men with her been roster in the court of law. I would have love to show you a channel on DStv but I don't know if you even have TV talk less of DStv. My elder bro post made Frontend page today on nairaland as an aircraft engineer. He has been to out of country more than two so he discovered the women there that brought the rottenness naija women follow her more single, secretly looking for a man.

You are obviously too young that is why you run your mouth here on nairaland. I bet you eliminate men in your life till 50s then come here and brag. You are more bitter than the bittere redpillers on this forum.

I am a red pillars, I don't make awful comments on nairaland about women but I do observe you only to discover that you are indifferent from my aunt when she was younger.


My aunty is approaching 30s now with no reasonable relationship,have a child just to secure a man yet no marriage.


When you meet men in their prime your bitterness will increase because then you are left with people husband's and sugar daddies as options..

Insult from you is acceptable.

Why would I insult you?

I don't get it...

I hate men because I don't want to get married? You missed the part where I clearly stated that I'm in a relationship?

Everyone with their life, why does my choice bother you so much... I couldn't even read half the crap your wrote, "my aunt this, my aunt that"... Do I look like your aunt?

She's miserable, how is it my concern? I can count ten of my uncles who are suicidal because they refused to get married and have kids while they were younger...

Glad you admitted to being a redpiller... A man who's swallowed the digital pill and concluded that all women are manipulative hoes... I could accuse you of misogyny...

I don't want to get married... Focus on your own life... There's no medal or reward for being a wife... I can post links to cases of women who've been raped, beaten, tortured, cheated on and killed by their husbands...

You're not in the position to tell me if the choices I make are good or bad...

Your parents marriage, what good did it do for you?

Datboredberri:
Exactly... So why did you waste everyone's time by creating this thread?

You spend hours arguing that a successful woman is nothing without a man... Only to agree that we all have the right to live as we choose... Weird.

So many women being murdered by their husbands, beaten, cheated on, verbally abused... What's there to appreciate?

So women don't do the same to men in marriage? All women are Saint in there marriage? All women are good in marriage? Men are the only one that cheat in marriage? Women the so called sugar mummy don't do ritual? Most domestic violence is commit by which gender the most?

Mercychen:
You've said it all.

What will a woman whos financially independent need a man for, except maybe
For love?

Sometimes, Most successful women are even too busy for this "love" crap of a thing
that they hardly have time to pick a man because these men end up being a distraction and disturbance to them.

Imagine a successful woman who's self-made now coming to serve a man. Wash his clothes, cook for him, and start doing school runs. They don't have that time.

Men only add responsibilities and burdens to a woman's life. They get you pregnant, leaving you to struggle with all the stages of pregnancy for nine months.
Then you give birth and start another round of duties. Abeg!

Exactly! The only reason they are arguing is because they feel worthless... And the average man hates that...

They need their egos massaged twice daily... And be regarded by us 'inferior' womenfolk as demi-gods...

Men are over-rated

Datboredberri:
Why would I insult you?

I don't get it...

I hate men because I don't want to get married? You missed the part where I clearly stated that I'm in a relationship?

Everyone with their life, why does my choice bother you so much... I couldn't even read half the crap your wrote, "my aunt this, my aunt that"... Do I look like your aunt?

She's miserable, how is it my concern? I can count ten of my uncles who are suicidal because they refused to get married and have kids while they were younger...

Glad you admitted to being a redpiller... A man who's swallowed the digital pill and concluded that all women are manipulative hoes... I could accuse you of misogyny...

I don't want to get married... Focus on your own life... There's no medal or reward for being a wife... I can post links to cases of women who've been raped, beaten, tortured, cheated on and killed by their husbands...

You're not in the position to tell me if the choices I make are good or bad...

Your parents marriage, what good did it do for you?

What exactly is my business if you don't marry? You know what preach your life to other girls. Tell them to emulate your life style. Tell them what you observe about men and why they should be weary of them.


You said you could accuse me of misogyny yes you are free to call me. What of you? A realtime misandry.

Datboredberri:
Exactly! The only reason they are arguing is because they feel worthless... And the average man hates that...

They need their egos massaged twice daily... And be regarded by us 'inferior' womenfolk as demi-gods...

Men are over-rated

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The last time I checked men obviously are more of action than talk. Independent women feel insure and they mostly make comments about men going for younger girls leaving them behind. How do men become insure about women success? I work in a tech company and one thing I observed is that all most all the companies women works are owned by men.

ayomikuolatunji:
I have been observing your comments on nairaland and I discovered that you operating on hate which you found interesting you yourself. See you are free to hate men all I care but one thing I observed about you is that you ,you are still in your early 20s. My aunt is worse than you when it comes to hate and proving independent woman and men are trash. It is a easy for a lady who men simp over her to talk trash thinking she is wise. Time and chance will tell. One thing I know is that you should never marry or have anything to do a man. Live your life isolated and never get married. White men you mostly compared Nigeria men with her been roster in the court of law. I would have love to show you a channel on DStv but I don't know if you even have TV talk less of DStv. My elder bro post made Frontend page today on nairaland as an aircraft engineer. He has been to out of country more than two so he discovered the women there that brought the rottenness naija women follow her more single, secretly looking for a man

You are obviously too young that is why you run your mouth here on nairaland. I bet you eliminate men in your life till 50s then come here and brag. You are more bitter than the bittere redpillers on this forum.

I am a red pillars, I don't make awful comments on nairaland about women but I do observe you only to discover that you are indifferent from my aunt when she was younger.


My aunty is approaching 30s now with no reasonable relationship,have a child just to secure a man yet no marriage.


When you meet men in their prime your bitterness will increase because then you are left with people husband's and sugar daddies as options..

Insult from you is acceptable.

Bro you're very right on the bolded, that was how I was chatting with one American lady last year, she says she is 31 years, a lawyer and she owns a property, in other words she is Rich, but she's single, looking for a husband, you got to see how I got her emotion high through my rhetoric, when she later fine out it was a gimmick, my goodness she was so angry with me, now I imagine if this was not virtual meeting, I don't know what she would have done to me

Botking:
Bro you're very right on the bolded, that was how I was chatting with one American lady last year, she says she is 31 years, a lawyer and she owns a property, in other words she is Rich, but she's single, looking for a husband, you got to see how I got her emotion high through my enticing words, when she later fine out it was a gimmick, my goodness she was so angry with me, now I imagine if this was not virtual meeting, I don't know what she would have done to me

I was one twitter when group of bitter single women were wailing and talk trash about men going for younger ones. I am very sure 7 years ago they said they don't need a man in there lives bla bla bla. Come to my see to them chasing after yahoo boys to earn living posting self made on social media with the money they make from men. As an programmer I observed that majority of the social class women are nothing but undercover olosho. I see then everyday and their post on social media. All the guys in the office have serious young girlfriends outside they get bitter and jealous.


I am done typing abeg

ayomikuolatunji:
I have been observing your comments on nairaland and I discovered that you operating on hate which you found interesting you yourself. See you are free to hate men all I care but one thing I observed about you is that you ,you are still in your early 20s. My aunt is worse than you when it comes to hate and proving independent woman and men are trash. It is a easy for a lady who men simp over her to talk trash thinking she is wise. Time and chance will tell. One thing I know is that you should never marry or have anything to do a man. Live your life isolated and never get married. White men you mostly compared Nigeria men with her been roster in the court of law. I would have love to show you a channel on DStv but I don't know if you even have TV talk less of DStv. My elder bro post made Frontend page today on nairaland as an aircraft engineer. He has been to out of country more than two so he discovered the women there that brought the rottenness naija women follow her more single, secretly looking for a man.

You are obviously too young that is why you run your mouth here on nairaland. I bet you eliminate men in your life till 50s then come here and brag. You are more bitter than the bittere redpillers on this forum.

I am a red pillars, I don't make awful comments on nairaland about women but I do observe you only to discover that you are indifferent from my aunt when she was younger.


My aunty is approaching 30s now with no reasonable relationship,have a child just to secure a man yet no marriage.


When you meet men in their prime your bitterness will increase because then you are left with people husband's and sugar daddies as options..

Insult from you is acceptable.

U HAVE SAID IT ALL MY GUY, THE SMALL GIRL GET MUMU BRAIN, SHE THINKS SHE KNOWS IT ALL, I HAVE BEEN FOLLOWING HER WRITEUPS AND COMMENTS TOO, NA THEIR TYPE DEY USE NAIRALAND CATCH CRUISE, BE FORMING SOCIAL MEDIA GIANTS, BUT IN REAL LIFE, SHE WILL BE BORING AS Bleep AND CANT ENGAGE IN ANY INTELLECTUAL CONVERSATION, HER MUMU GO SOON END WHEN SHE DEY APPROACH 30, FOR NOW, LET HER KEEP RANTING.....SHM....

How is she successful without husband

Datboredberri:
Why would I insult you?

I don't get it...

I hate men because I don't want to get married? You missed the part where I clearly stated that I'm in a relationship?

Everyone with their life, why does my choice bother you so much... I couldn't even read half the crap your wrote, "my aunt this, my aunt that"... Do I look like your aunt?

She's miserable, how is it my concern? I can count ten of my uncles who are suicidal because they refused to get married and have kids while they were younger...

Glad you admitted to being a redpiller... A man who's swallowed the digital pill and concluded that all women are manipulative hoes... I could accuse you of misogyny...

I don't want to get married... Focus on your own life... There's no medal or reward for being a wife... I can post links to cases of women who've been raped, beaten, tortured, cheated on and killed by their husbands...

You're not in the position to tell me if the choices I make are good or bad...

Your parents marriage, what good did it do for you?

Hey, babe, about your uncles.
How old are they now?

qwertyboss:
How is she successful without husband?
The right term is financially stable career woman!

Is it not possible for a woman to be successful without a husband?

As dem Don marry success,na success go give dem belle

Datboredberri:
Women who depend on their man?

Not low self-esteem... Rather laziness, entitlement...

Survival instinct? Jesus!

Her being more successful...It makes you feel small as a man? That's low self-esteem...

Because you have to forfeit certain privileges, right?

You can't boss her around, the relationship could end and her future wouldn't be compromised... You wouldn't mean the world to her... Etc...

your perspective is rather narrow.

Being a full time housewife is laziness and entitlement mentality?

One thing the most of you modern women or should I say feminist don't seem to understand is that life is best when we specialize.

A woman could be a specialized home maker and will prefer to remain in that niche while she looks for a man who can take care of her financial needs.

This woman is not less hard working as a career woman who will rather not be left at home but work in an office.

They are both hard at work but in different niches.

This is also true for men.

Some men would rather be taken care of and are comfortable taking care of the home.

But Most men prefer to be providers. As such they tend to look for other women that are speciized in taking care of the home.

Seeing it as a way to control a woman is not only a lopsided narrative but utterly dangerous.

This is because you see having resources as a form of control. But to a man, having resources is part of his playing the role of being a man.

If not man could leave his family (unlike mothers, men's love are not stimulated biochemically). But he stays to provide, that's a niche for him.

If a woman must be in control of the resources, then it's up to her to look for a man that is willing to settle with her.

Here's the cross, she must look for him. Not him looking for her.

When a man has resources, he seeks the woman that will agree to his terms. If you must as a woman want to be in control, then you must wear the trouser of a man. You must go out there toast the man, propose to him and fund the marriage, then he's married to you and not you to him.

Look at the lesbian (not that I approve of them though) but then even a romantic relationship between two women, there's always a dominant figure, one who acts as the man/provider or protector.

While the other generally prefer a more gentle and quiet life. When the dominant lesbian goes out to toast, she doesn't toast other tomboys like her, rather she focuses on the homely girls.

That's the structure of human romantic relationship: dominant and submissive. With the dominant ones always going to hunt for the submissive ones.

So a woman with resources who feels she must be in control must hunt. She mustn't feel men who are not toasting her are low self-esteemed. She must be aggressive.

Unfortunately, money doesn't change a woman's biology or perception, two of her biggest problems.

Premiumwriter:
your perspective is rather narrow.

Being a full time housewife is laziness and entitlement mentality?

One thing the most of you modern women or should I say feminist don't seem to understand is that life is best when we specialize.

A woman could be a specialized home maker and will prefer to remain in that niche while she looks for a man who can take care of her financial needs.

This woman is not less hard working as a career woman who will rather not be left at home but work in an office.

They are both hard at work but in different niches.

This is also true for men.

Some men would rather be taken care of and are comfortable taking care of the home.

But Most men prefer to be providers. As such they tend to look for other women that are speciized in taking care of the home.

Seeing it as a way to control a woman is not only a lopsided narrative but utterly dangerous.

This is because you see having resources as a form of control. But to a man, having resources is part of his playing the role of being a man.

If not man could leave his family (unlike mothers, men's love are not stimulated biochemically). But he stays to provide, that's a niche for him.

If a woman must be in control of the resources, then it's up to her to look for a man that is willing to settle with her.

Here's the cross, she must look for him. Not him looking for her.

When a man has resources, he seeks the woman that will agree to his terms. If you must as a woman want to be in control, then you must wear the trouser of a man. You must go out there toast the man, propose to him and fund the marriage, then he's married to you and not you to him.

They already left the thread. No need to educate them.
When a man has resources, he seeks the woman that will agree to his terms. If you must as a woman want to be in control, then you must wear the trouser of a man. You must go out there toast the man, propose to him and fund the marriage, then he's married to you and not you to him.[b][/b]


I love this bro. They should look for a man,pay pride price then do the role of a man in his live as men do for women when they are successful. Bunch of ungrateful creatures

qwertyboss:
. that's where you get it wrong, marriage is solely not for sexual benefits....
People with such mentality often have troubled marriage life

what else?

Datboredberri:
Most men are confused...

They can't make a choice...

1. A successful women who wouldn't see marriage as a means to an end... Wouldn't depend on men... And would therefore take her time, choosing a partner simply for love...

Or.

2. A woman who's entirely dependent on you... Sees marriage as a means to an end... Would do anything to get a man, be submissive and worship him as though he's her lord and saviour...

We still have successful submissive women

They actually want the guy to kiss their ass, cos they have money.

1. In the past, many women rushed to get married for survival. They had few viable ways to support themselves, and the sexism was overwhelming throughout society. Thankfully this has changed dramatically in most of the world. Now when a woman marries you, you can be confident that she loves, respects, likes, and desires you. Doesn't that feel better than someone who feels burdened by being with you?

2. Most societies have thankfully moved away from the uneducated, unhealthy view of women placing enormous value on "getting a man." Women respect themselves and each other more. Isn't that better than your sister or daughter staying with an abusive or lazy bum just so she can say she has a man?

3. Modern development and corporate greed requires more from people today than many other eras. The result is that everyone works harder. Some women may be so stressed and busy that they don't have the time or energy to build/maintain a healthy relationship. Maybe they don't want to be unfair to their partner.

4. Some women simply don't want to be married. Some people are fine being single or in long-term relationships without a ring. Society is more accepting, so they don't give in to pressure. They do what makes them happy.

5. Guys have much lower standards than women. Frankly, this is often fueled by the desire to be able to look down on their partner, control her financially, or other insecurities. But honestly, most guys are easy to please. So it's easier for them to find a suitable partner. Women, right or wrong, don't want to "marry down." They want to find someone with a similar career and background. Attraction is also more complicated for women. Also, women maybe think about financial security and lifestyle more. They want confidence in a good future for their kids.

6. Social media and other technology has warped people's sense of normal and realistic. Some people are delusional and think like a teen about relationships. There are women waiting for a man that doesn't exist. Furthermore, these women may not accept what a relationship actually requires.

7. Guys may just have to work a little harder. lol Do like the Dominicans. Gym, haircut, fresh man blouse and slacks, oiled and geled hair, and bucket of cologne. j/k Maybe you can't be dusty anymore, and dudes refuse to accept it. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ idk