Pls I need advice from experienced married people. Can you allow your wife's elder sister that is divorced to live with you in the same house. What are the likely consequences and the merits

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Lantycool:
Pls I need advice from experienced married people. Can you allow your wife's elder sister that is divorced to live with you in the same house. What are the likely consequences and the merits

If you can afford to rent house for her.. please do..

Don't ruin your family

Lantycool:
Pls I need advice from experienced married people. Can you allow your wife's elder sister that is divorced to live with you in the same house. What are the likely consequences and the merits

Depends on what it is you are really afraid of?

Let's look at things another way around, if life were to hit you with bolts that left you unable to pay your rent, eventually leading to your being homeless, and assuming that same divorced elder sister had a place of her own to comfortably home you and your family, on what grounds would you reject her offer to shelter you and your family in that case?

for why

NeoWanZaeed:


If you can afford to rent house for her.. please do..

Don't ruin your family

Rent house for her on what ground. Are you alright dude?

HarunaWest:
Rent house for her on what ground. Are you alright dude?

e b like say you are mad. You no be OP.. you quote me and you dey misyarn..

OP only have 2 choices.

Live with them or he rents house for her.

When you are not married.. kilo da mo n tie

Yes

NeoWanZaeed:
e b like say you are mad. You no be OP.. you quote me and you dey misyarn..

OP only have 2 choices.

Live with them or he rents house for her.

When you are not married.. kilo da mo n tie

You are the mad man here. Why should he rent a house for his wife sister? Is she his second wife? You are mad ooo

HarunaWest:
You are the mad man here. Why should he rent a house for his wife sister? Is she his second wife? You are mad ooo

Wait till you get married..

Jambite boi

HarunaWest:
You are the mad man here. Why should he rent a house for his wife sister? Is she his second wife? You are mad ooo

he can rent if he has the power to avoid problems when living with them

Na so I don take dy Bleep their two be that o...
Abeg I no agree o

Yommychrz:
he can rent if he has the power to avoid problems when living with them

Why should he rent a house for his inlaw?. What's his business with his wife's senior sister? If we don't have any meaningful advice out herr, it's better we don't make weird statements.

HarunaWest:
Why should he rent a house for his inlaw?. What's his business with his wife's senior sister? If we don't have any meaningful advice out herr, it's better we don't make weird statements.

it seems you’re still a kid, so agreed to with her living with them rather than renting house for her

ManAdii:
Na so I don take dy Bleep their two be that o...
Abeg I no agree o

So you will rape the woman because she seeks to shelter in your home?

Yommychrz:
it seems you’re still a kid, so agreed to with her living with them rather than renting house for her

It's you who is a child dude. Did the OP suggest to you that he intends to rent a crib for his inlaw? Why are you pushing him to rent a house for her? Who says she must stay with her married sister? Afterall she is a divorcee. Cant she find somewhere else? Why is the OP the one to pay his in-laws rent? Do you know his financial capability? Why yall pushing him to rent abi una wan give am money?. Abeg abeg

Lantycool:
Pls I need advice from experienced married people. Can you allow your wife's elder sister that is divorced to live with you in the same house. What are the likely consequences and the merits

She can come visit. She shouldn't live with you. That's how families start trooping in to their inlaws house and its the man that bears the financial burden

OP it depends on a lot of factors but I think the most important are your relationship with her and how comfortable you are with the idea. Also how long she plans to stay. Does she have kids coming with her? Does she have a job?

Discuss these things with your wife and make some things clear to her. I suggest you also speak to the sister directly and make clarifications. Create boundaries early while helping out if necessary. I’m assuming her parent’s house is also an option

Lantycool:
Pls I need advice from experienced married people. Can you allow your wife's elder sister that is divorced to live with you in the same house. What are the likely consequences and the merits

the fact that you are asking us it means something is not right with her may be its fact that she is a divorcee or there is something negative about her

if she wasnt a divorcee but widow would you have accepted to life with her ?

there is nothing wrong in helping people aslong they share how long do they want to stay for etc

its not your responsibility to look after her but can help if you can especially for a temperal stay

Capital No!, I cherish my privacy more than anything else in the world!. I would also never allow my sister to live with me!

Lantycool:
Pls I need advice from experienced married people. Can you allow your wife's elder sister that is divorced to live with you in the same house. What are the likely consequences and the merits

She fvcksd up her kingdom and wants to come and inconvenience her sister's territory? Abeggi. Unless its a short visit

Mine lived with me for over 5 years.

No single incident of conflict.

She got her apartment after about 5 or 6 years. I don't know what she will say about her stay with me over the 5 to 6 years, but as for me, she is just a family living with us.

It's only women that pick up arms and ammunition when husband's family wants to spend few days. Evil creatures.

naija4life247:
Mine lived with me for over 5 years.
No single incident of conflict.

She got her apartment after about 5 or 6 years. I don't know what she will say about her stay with me over the 5 to 6 years, but as for me, she is just a family living with us.
It's only women that pick up arms and ammunition when husband's family wants to spend few days. Evil creatures.

Wow!

And no, there is no excuse be given any entitled in-laws abeg!

No!

If her sister refuses, I'd just ask her to be my second wife. Let's see if her own sister won't chase her with broomsticks.

naija4life247:
Mine lived with me for over 5 years.

No single incident of conflict.

She got her apartment after about 5 or 6 years. I don't know what she will say about her stay with me over the 5 to 6 years, but as for me, she is just a family living with us.

It's only women that pick up arms and ammunition when husband's family wants to spend few days. Evil creatures.

U nailed it at d bolded, if na from husband family now, wahala for dey but since its coming from d wife family no issue. Women are evil creatures.

Lantycool:
Pls I need advice from experienced married people. Can you allow your wife's elder sister that is divorced to live with you in the same house. What are the likely consequences and the merits

If my bedroom and sitting room and utilities are totally off limits to her then she can live with my family otherwise she can't.

My own life rule is, if you are 'bigger' than me or I can't 'control' you you can't stay with me

My younger ones can stay with me freely but my elder one will only have a limited time

My wife younger families are welcome but her elders is a no for me

I won't give much concern if my younger ones offend my wife or my wife offend them, they all should go and sort themselves out but I'll be weary of my older siblings picking fight with my wife or vice versa same applies to my wife older family and me

Yommychrz:
it seems you’re still a kid, so agreed to with her living with them rather than renting house for her

Respectfully speaking....
You're the one who's the kid here...
OP is not under ANY OBLIGATION whatsoever to rent a house for his inlaw and he can as well decide to not allow his inlaw stay with him ...

If he does decide to rent her a house or let her crash at his, then fine, but if he decides against either of it, there's ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with that too ...

Take a loan and give her to rent an apartment