Hi everyone,
I have been having issue with this for a while. I don't know if it is proper to call your wife's elder sister "Aunty" or "Sister so and so" even though you are much older than her.
Can one call such by her name without putting the respective adjective or suffix?

Mature mind pls.

People are different.

Other family members your age, what do they call her?

You can also ask her how she would like to be called or what prefixes she likes.

My sister-in-law (Igbo) older than me, 10 years, prefers I call her by her first name.

Rogosa:
Hi everyone,
I have been having issue with this for a while. I don't know if it is proper to call your wife's elder sister "Aunty" or "Sister so and so" even though you are much older than her.
Can one call such by her name without putting the respective adjective or suffix?

Mature mind pls.

you are from what tribe sir?

Amotolongbo:
you are from what tribe sir?

Yoruba

Rogosa:
Hi everyone,
I have been having issue with this for a while. I don't know if it is proper to call your wife's elder sister "Aunty" or "Sister so and so" even though you are much older than her.
Can one call such by her name without putting the respective adjective or suffix?

Mature mind pls.

I could recall when a kid called my sister by her first name. My sister snapped and said, "why did you call me by my name"? The kid responded in pidgin saying, "no be your name"?

This made me wonder why people on this continent attach so much importance to a frivolity as 'addressing someone by their first names'.

The truth is, there is nothing wrong if you address her by her first name. But if you don't feel comfortable about it, then suit yourself with what you deem fit.

We4all:


I could recall when a kid called my sister by her first name. My sister snapped and said "why did you call me by my name"? She responded in pidgin saying, "no be your name"?

This made me wonder why people on this continent attach so much importance to a frivolity as 'addressing someone by their first names'.

The truth is, there is nothing wrong if you address her by her first name. But if you don't feel comfortable about it, then suit yourself with what you deem fit.

hhmmmmm. I added a "sister prefix" at the beginning of her name though but it sounds awkward and I want to do the right thing.

Rogosa:


Yoruba

ok sir.

Since you are a Yoruba man, I don’t think you should find it so hard respecting her. It is our culture, the respect is embedded in our culture.

“Oro lana o”(in-laws are deities o) and they deserve being respected in our nation o(not Nigeria o, but Yoruba)
Instead of the Aunty iss, you can find a pet name for her or better “iya iyawo mi”.
You have got limited time together to start getting yourself worried on the “e” or “Iwo” or “eyin” approach.

It won’t harm you respecting her as a Yoruba man. It is understandable. Not only the elderly ones deserve respect sir

K

You are older than her, why then should you add a title to her name before you call her? Whether she's your wife's elder sister, it doesn't change that fact. She should be the one addressing you as "brother" lol. Although I don't place much attention on those titles, a name is just a name.

Amotolongbo:
ok sir.

Since you are a Yoruba man, I don’t think you should find it so hard respecting her. It is our culture, the respect is embedded in our culture.

“Oro lana o”(in-laws are deities o) and they deserve being respected in our nation o(not Nigeria o, but Yoruba)
Instead of the Aunty iss, you can find a pet name for her or better “iya iyawo mi”.
You have got limited time together to start getting yourself worried on the “e” or “Iwo” or “eyin” approach.

It won’t harm you respecting her as a Yoruba man. It is understandable. Not every elderly ones deserve respect sir

Do you think it is cool, even though I am much older than her?

Rogosa:

Yoruba

nd ure askin question.. dont u kno everytin is respect

Humanoid01:
You are older than her, why then should you add a title to her name before you call her?

There is something about the yoruba culture that made one to give respects to inlaw regardless of their age and it is killing.

Rogosa:


Do you think it is cool, even though I am much older than her?

Nothing so bad in it sir.

If you have a boss at work very younger than you, will you disrespect the boss cos he/she is younger?

Will it harm you respecting her?
Will it add any feather to your cap by not respecting her?

Like I said, you can look for a pet name for her.

Rogosa:


There is something about the yoruba culture that made one to give respects to inlaw regardless of their age and it is killing.

Whatever that is, it doesn't make sense lol. If that's the case, then you should start prostrating for her whenever you greet her. Isn't that a sign of respect too in the Yoruba culture? Respect has various meanings sir. Just be humble!

Lol I am Yoruba and calling someone older than you “sister” “aunty” doesn’t necessarily connote respect. Please with all the aunty, people can still be disrespectful asf.

Humanoid01:

Whatever that is, it doesn't make sense lol. If that's the case, then you should start prostrating for her whenever you greet her. Isn't that a sign of respect too in the Yoruba culture?

It is not as worse as that. lolz

Amotolongbo:
Nothing so bad in it sir.

If you have a boss at work very younger than you, will you disrespect the boss cos he/she is younger?

Will it harm you respecting her?
Will it had any feather to your cap by not respecting her?

Like I said, you can look for a pet name for her.

I do appreciate ur expressions and opinions. Thanks alot.
I just followed u

Jullima:
Lol I am Yoruba and calling someone older than you “sister” “aunty” doesn’t necessarily connote respect. Please with all the aunty, people can still be disrespectful asf.

You are right but does that justify it as the right thing to do?

Rogosa:


It is not as worse as that. lolz

If you call someone you're older than "aunty" or "sister" with all sense of seriousness, all in the name of respect because she's your wife's sister, then it's that worse lol.

Humanoid01:

If you call someone you're older than "aunty" or "sister" with all sense of seriousness, all in the name of respect because she's your wife's sister, then it's that worse lol.

So what do u suggest? How should it be?

In the time that you’ve been here, you could have asked her or your wife. You would have your answer by now.

cococandy:
In the time that you were here, you could have asked her or your wife. You would have your answer by now.

And you think it is not disrespectful?

Common!

Rogosa:


You are right but does that justify it as the right thing to do?

There is no right or wrong, depends on what she wants you to call her. I call my SIL by her first name and I respect her, calling her by her first name is what’s right for both of us.

Rogosa:


So what do u suggest? How should it be?

Sorry, did they actually tell you to do that or you're just being curious?

Rogosa:


And you think it is not disrespectful?

Common!

to ask wifey what the sister-in-law would like to be called is disrespectful? Explain

Jullima:

There is no right or wrong, depends on what she wants you to call her. I call my SIL by her first name and I respect her, calling her by her first name is what’s right for both of us.

And she never gave you attitude?

Rogosa:


I do appreciate ur expressions and opinions. Thanks alot.
I just followed u

alright sir

You are welcome sir.

cococandy:
to ask wifey what the sister-in-law would like to be called is disrespectful? Explain

I misinterpreted your message. I tot you were referring to meeting "sister" and asking what she be called.

My apologies!

Humanoid01:

Sorry, did they actually tell you to do that or you're just being curious?

Like i said earlier, it is all about the Yoruba cultue

Rogosa:


I misinterpreted your message. I tot you were referring to meeting "sister" and asking what she be called.

My apologies!

You can actually ask her too. It’s not disrespectful. That’s the surest way to make sure you’re addressing her how she wants to be addressed.

cococandy:


You can actually ask her too. It’s not disrespectful. That’s the surest way to make sure you’re addressing her how she wants to be addressed.

Thanks

Humanoid01:
You are older than her, why then should you add a title to her name before you call her? Whether she's your wife's elder sister, it doesn't change that fact. She should be the one addressing you as "brother" lol. Although I don't place much attention on those titles, a name is just a name.

Guy, call her by name.
Chronologically, you are older than her.