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SugarPapi:
You say 'cut her off' like it's hot knife through bread.

If if were this easy sir, I would not seek help here. I would have done it myself before things got to where they are now.

You're dealing with a lady possessed by marine sex demons.
It wasn't the lady only that was having sex with you, her marine demons were playing keyboard with your sexual organs and emotions.
It is NOT easy to wriggle free from the demonic grip of such girls.
You need Jesus NOW.
Let me warn you, if you provoke or enrage her, you're finished. She will make life miserable for you.
She does not need your money.
She is only doing the bidding of her marine queen, to destroy men and marriages through deception, seduction and sexual immorality.
Having sex with them will give you unnatural orgasm and pleasure that feels like you are passing out or projecting out of your body.
You're trapped. The marine kingdom has captured another fish.
I pity you.
You had better run to MFM Prayer City for deliverance.
When she starts marine persecution against you, even your family in Ireland will not be spared as marine agents fight very dirty.
Jesus is the ONLY WAY out for you.
Run to Him and cry out for His help now.
In the meantime, embark on a 7 day fast, break by 6pm the first 4 days and do marathon for the last three days.
Let the last three days fall on a weekend, Friday to Sunday.
Don't set your eyes on her for those 7 days.
Shalom.

She wants you and playing a long term script.

Every female wants ease and provisions and Money brings that.

Shes investing another guy money into your P.

So best thing to do is to smash her till your natural body starts seeing her as normal..thats when you elevate your sexual energy. This is how a male naturally overcomes a girl that other men are dying for: you have had her sexual frequency in the past and it can't bring that fire like the first time.

I'm serious...its a process you have to massively over do it....so your dopamine (feel good) pump weakens out. Then you will start seeing clearly.

U will stop those childish blocking and avoiding and ask real questions...when she gets the vibe...her reaction will tell you if she's a keeper or just playing you.

Yes! Women are here to support or weaken you.

Na make your eye clear first....na first stage you dey!

Ps: I suppose write but no ginger...maybe we could chitchat sometime

SugarPapi:
You say 'cut her off' like it's hot knife through bread.

If if were this easy sir, I would not seek help here. I would have done it myself before things got to where they are now.

She had everything planned out from the beginning, and you were an easy prey. Way too easy.
You fell right into her trap, and now, you’re trapped. She has you where she wants you.

It is only a matter of time…

HitSong:
It's your misery, frustration and cross to carry.
If you're not lonely and miserable, you won't fall easily in the hands of young whorès and slùts that has nothing to offer but the holes between their legs, while they collect your money and also give you all kinds of STDs...
You fell even as a married man and believe, no sane married man will allow his family live abroad while he stays somewhere else lonely and miserable all because his wife his frustrated with their home country... Are you a man at all?
Again, no sane woman will live her young husband here to live alone and fend for himself... expect if she has "OTHER" plans...
There's no other joy like family living and growing together.
You certainly still belong to the low class of the society and you also have poor mindset...
Why are your family members abroad? Better life abroad? Better schools?
The minister of Labour, Speaker of the house of rep and many other elites in Nigeria have their children in Unilag and other schools in Nigeria so what are you feeling like?

YOU ARE THE BIGGEST LOSER HERE.

A big loser he is. I find it hard this stupid picture he just created is real.

ajailer:
His withdrawal from this lady can’t be suddenly for him based on what he has written so far, niggar wey dey talk say he fit marry the lady sef. So for me o, while he plots his exit from this daughter of eve he can at least start being on guard.

What he needs to do is to genuinely repent and go to Christ for deliverance.. one more time could lead to irreversible consequences

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Typing....
Sugarpapi wow just wow..so you really had to sugar coat and paint the occurence like it's some movie..what's this all about?
Well your problem is easy..tell your wife about what y've been doing.. apologise to her..call the same gal and tell her you no longer have interest in her and wouldn't want to have anything doin with her cos you are married..
After that cut her off your life and move on.. simple and easy or you can keep deceiving yourself..

You mean he should tell his wife just like that simple and easy

Czario:
We don't even Know what OPs wife is doing abroad or who she's doing....I don't doubt your format but what if the Op later comes to regret it ?

OP you need to think very well too...LD marriages to me are more like an expensive joke.

Bro, he has admitted that he made a mistake and wants to fix this. We all make mistakes.

My Brother Keep Fucking That Succulent LovePeddler You Call A Good Girl, LoL. Who Knows? Your Wife Might Be Out There Knacking From Pillar To Post.

In A Marital Home Before You Even Think Of Cheating There's A 70% Tendency That Your Wife Or Husband Is Cheating, Yes! There Is That Shive. Reason The Bible Called It "HOLY MATRIMONY."

AdeOri99:
Don't mind the way I talk though.

Sometimes I act unreasonably.

I am only responding to women that are unfaithful.

From personal experience, most women in marriage aren't faithful to their partner, so why should their husband be.

I agree that I am being extreme, but in the situations when women can't be trusted either, this is the only way to get the both of them satisfied.

Also, most men aren't faithful to their partner, in that case, the woman can cheat too. But all these are silly stuffs, it baffles me why humans don't know what they want.

I am talking about both genders. If a man and woman love sexual adventures please they should not marry at all. It is better that way because that institution is not something to play with.

It is a cage to some because they just aren't ready to let go those fantasies and adventures. Many adults are not ready for it and that is the reason why it crashes.

I am in my late 30's and I am not still ready for the journey because I know it is not an easy walk in the institution.

MrBrownJay1:
can someone summarize pls....

The op is a pathetic liar.
There you go

I don't know how this is a fake story. That means NL Will explode when some escapades are revealed.
@ Op, there is nothing wrong with you and you may just be opportunistic, it's like that sometimes in life. Don't bury yourself in guilt. It's just the wind of adventure which is a natural phenomenal.

The reason why I feel you have the best answer to yourself is because when it comes to issues like this your mind has a lot to do with your decision.

There are certain things men can't say in public, especially the married ones. Just be very careful. Lolz!

Blackbelly:
After posting broad daylight porn under the camouflage of seeking advice, now ask yourself, do you truly need help?
I seriously doubt!

Omorr, e be like say I dey dere...
Op go give all this romance novels a good run for their money

Exkandayee:
Dis one na story porn,as I'm reading my dickk was ticking, before the end,is fully erect, I'm begging my dickkk to calm down that is just a story..not babe

I
infact I felt d same.

Oga, did u tell her ur married with children. Resist the devil n he will flee away.300l accounting. Remember chidinma n ataga episode. E never too tay since e happen. Evil will not befall you and your household oo. No use ur hands bring trouble for urself. Next thing na belle she go home up with n no abortion story. A word is enough for the sensible.

Dude...You have just been baptized.

Life is too short...Follow your heart. If it gives your peace.

I'd advise you to find a way to manage things by keeping everyone happy and in their place.

SugarPapi:
So... I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -

I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.

I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.

December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.

When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.

This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.

We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.

Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.

She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.

Well, hello next morning!

Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.

We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.

It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.

She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!

She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.

By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!

Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.

Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...

I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!

It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.

I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.

We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?

Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".

I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.

Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl?

Nice script
But
My remarks is
Prevention I better than cure

SugarPapi:
So... I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -

I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.

I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.

December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.

When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.

This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.

We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.

Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.

She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.

Well, hello next morning!

Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.

We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.

It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.

She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!

She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.

By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!

Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.

Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...

I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!

It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.

I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.

We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?

Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".

I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.

Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl?

Go see your family and spend time with your wife. This new girl is far from good. If you ain't ready to break your home, then you must let her go. It won't be easy but it's not impossible. You are in my prayers

Two years ago, I had such experience and I got rid of her through support from my wife and a couple of good friends. U just have to cut her off by all means and get your mind on more things to keep your occupied. It’s likely u are/were “kanyamatad”, but you have to be strong to get your mind off her. U can do it.

SugarPapi:
Ps, I understand a majority would think this is some made up story seeing as I opened the account today. I have been an unregistered member of this platform but the issue with this babe is getting to a head. I can't think, can't focus at work, can't do anything at all.

All I think of is her. I can't ask my friends for help, they're way too close to my wife and someone might spill. Pastor, etc are out of the equation. It's you guys I can turn to, so I need those who have been in my shoes to suggest ways to get over this girl.

Pss, I tried deleting her contacts, blocked her on IG, Whatsapp, etc. After 2 days, I unblocked her and when she asked, I feigned some phony excuse.

Help me!

These are the disadvantages of being core introvert. When u see the grass on the other side u get lost in translation.

Dude what u experienced is not out of this world, many guys getting it on a regular. The problem here is u are not used to it and most importantly u are freaking MARRIED!!!


Those this 6ft so called damsel know u are married?? She probably does. Cos A gal won’t come for u that way without doing her homework.

On the other hand u know next to nothing about this gal besides Unilag which is still unverified. Anyone can claim Unilag student.


I advise u to immediately stop and do some findings about this gal while u cut of this relationship simple cos u are MARRIED.

Do not disrespect ur wife and family of a 6ft decent gal or maybe even jezebel.

If u were smart u won’t even bring her to ur house knowing she wants to come there without barely knowing u. That’s suspicious bt like I said she knows u more than u know her.

Do u even know what she wants from u? Do u think it’s just a passing fling? I sincerely hope so bt u have to let her go and focus back on what’s really important in ur life and it’s not her.


Find other things to preoccupy urself.

Note/warning: A decent gal won’t sleep with a married man. And she knows ur married? And didn’t even hesitate?? This contradicts every decent thing u thought she was. Smh. Bloody nonsense.

HitSong:
Fiction... But let's assume this is true...

Some of you are just plainly stupid... It's like the more money you make, the more stupid and the more you make life difficult for yourself...

HOW CAN I HAVE MONEY AND FAMILY AND I'LL SEND MY FAMILY AWAY TO ABROAD WHILE I LIVE HERE LONELY AND MISERABLE?

WHAT'S THE JOY IN HAVING A FAMILY YOU CAN'T EVEN SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH?
All in the name of you want them to fit in high standard of the society and nonsense...
I'm 100% sure that your wife is also CHEATING on you.

Nonsense choice by many Nigerians and Africans. Refusing to live in the same house with their family and expecting not to get into temptation.

SugarPapi:
Do you know that insulting people unknown to you is one of the most obvious symptoms of LSE?

When you're okay in your skin, you have no reason to throw tantrums, aggrieved or not.

To your points;

1. I am not stupid. Me along with hundreds of Nigerians who are in LD marriages.

2. I may be lonely, but I'm definitely not miserable.

Lastly, I am not trying to 'fit' were I already belong. There's little to nothing you can do when your wife says she's had it with the country and wants out.

Hope you're appeased?

I was really curious to see how you would address his last line. 'Body no be fire wood', applies to ALL.

Brother man, avoid her and anyone that could pose a threat to what you share with your lovely wife. Utilize that space she's trying to occupy for better things like making plans to join them up in Ireland (there are still good jobs over there).

Family first!!! One love.

SugarPapi:
cheers bro

Boss..please stop replying to that dude

Reggaemich:
what is the meaning LD marriages

The girl has put u in a loop(u will keep on begging for more)

Just cut ties with Her

@bolded above,

Is it a While loop or For loop?

Just asking for a bug fix... LOL

The Op don knack puzzy wey dem use kayamata arrange. No matter the amount of advice ditched out here, it's gonna take divine intervention to break free from this shit he finds himself.

@OP I'm sure this is not your first time having sex with another woman aside your wife (either premaritally or extramaritally). But something just seem out of the world with this particular young lady. Bros, I know what that strange thing is... it's called kayamata.

Go ask about it. They call it adodun in Yoruba language. God will see you through.

Starryleeyah01:
Lol, the girl too will now come on nairaland the next day to post SHE WAS USED AND DUMPED, Cruise continues.

Im sure she know say she encroach on another woman territory before na

etel124:
Well for me..I know exactly how it feels nd what you re passing through rite nw...First you hav to take it one step @ a time...if really you want to cut her off...Its going to be gradual..But first things must come first...You guys must stop seeing each other...You can still keep the chat going..And then gradually withdraw every word that reflect commitment...then gradually limit ur communication with her....I guess with time when the relationship is starved with what nourishes it...It will definitely die a natural death...Mind you its nt going to be instantaneous...Give it time...my little advice though...

One of the best comments so far

who told u that u cant marry more than one wife?

SugarPapi:
You say 'cut her off' like it's hot knife through bread.

If if were this easy sir, I would not seek help here. I would have done it myself before things got to where they are now.

Desperate gals do things to hook a guy so be careful. She rejected money from u means she might want Smtn else bigger than what Ure offering or she might just be an innocent gal bt Unilag gals know Whatsapp. They bill well.

Do u know what type of family background she’s from?? If u don’t know and have gone this far then u have fvcked up

You're not a social media guy and you have Nairaland account. Alaye oniro nie

Sir firstly I want to commend your writing skills, as regards the problem you're facing; all you have to do is make up your mind, tell the said girl that you want out as you cannot afford to loose your intimate relationship with your wife and kids .
From your story line you seem to need a cook and driver which I can double as both.
I recently graduated and I need something to be doing at the mean time so I can foot my little bills why I learn forex and other tech skills online.
I'm quite exposed, aged 27, will make a good friend and loyal servant.
Sir if interested, I can be reached via 07035811327.

SugarPapi:
GOD BLESS YOU SIR! Honestly you get what I'm going through right now. This girl has a grip on me I cannot explain and so far no one has offered solid advice on how I can separate from her.

now, you should thread carefully. It rarely ends well.

A word is enough for the wise!

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Let me do as if this is real...
Oga the surest way frm this predicament bfr this lady hang pregnancy on your neck is to confess to your wife,tell the chic the need for u guys to stop n also that u av inform ur wife about it.
Then reunite with ur family,either u going there or they coming.
THERE IS NO JOY IN FAMILY THAT STAY WAY APART FOR TOO LONG.
it open grounds for temptation like this,if u dnt reunite wt ur family another one is coming,likewise your wife may be cheating on u too.

Know this and know wisdom, money is good but money is not everything.
One of such case is this.