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Just send her number to me let me tell her what you are passing thru and I will equally warn her not to see you again. She will run from you..... rubbish

I would suggest you sit her down to discuss your situation, let her know you're married and with no intention of having a second wife if she is ok with just the fling you go on having each other, you will soon have enough nd be pissedand then the feeling will die a natural death

Blackbelly:
After posting broad daylight porn under the camouflage of seeking advice, now ask yourself, do you truly need help?
I seriously doubt!

E be things.

zed7:
Fake story. People in a fix do not write for entertainment.
This is a figment of your imagination like ninety percent of stories here.

Omo, it might not be fake oh, one young (18y) very yellow, extremely beautiful girl held me for almost 5 years.
Nna, it was God that saved me, if not I for don marry second wife, possibly abandoned my family.

SugarPapi:
Ps, I understand a majority would think this is some made up story seeing as I opened the account today. I have been an unregistered member of this platform but the issue with this babe is getting to a head. I can't think, can't focus at work, can't do anything at all.

All I think of is her. I can't ask my friends for help, they're way too close to my wife and someone might spill. Pastor, etc are out of the equation. It's you guys I can turn to, so I need those who have been in my shoes to suggest ways to get over this girl.

Pss, I tried deleting her contacts, blocked her on IG, Whatsapp, etc. After 2 days, I unblocked her and when she asked, I feigned some phony excuse.

Help me!

Go back to your wife... This is the reason why I don't support married people living far away from eachother...Things like this happens. You have tasted tighter and chill pussy, whatever you have for your wife will never remain the same judging from how you narrated the story...You are hooked...And likely your woman doesnt give the way the strange lady did..

She made love to you, maybe na knacking you dey knack your wife.

Disembark from this journey, no gain...You will scatter your family...

SugarPapi:
Ps, I understand a majority would think this is some made up story seeing as I opened the account today. I have been an unregistered member of this platform but the issue with this babe is getting to a head. I can't think, can't focus at work, can't do anything at all.

All I think of is her. I can't ask my friends for help, they're way too close to my wife and someone might spill. Pastor, etc are out of the equation. It's you guys I can turn to, so I need those who have been in my shoes to suggest ways to get over this girl.

Pss, I tried deleting her contacts, blocked her on IG, Whatsapp, etc. After 2 days, I unblocked her and when she asked, I feigned some phony excuse.

Help me!

The feeling is intense because you have stayed without your partner for so long. Tell her how you feels, if she agrees both of you stay as just friends it might help. But this includes she not coming to your house too

Kanyamata...

Continue. At the rate you’re going, it is very clear, you will make heaven. Just stay on this path, you are close to redemption road! Wonders shall never end.
So many people desire to have and own what you have yet you are toying with yours. If I were you, I will retrace my steps and return back to my normal life before issues comes up. My word of advice.

SugarPapi:
I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.

Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl?

“Stolen waters (pleasures) are sweet [because they are forbidden]; And bread eaten in secret is pleasant.” But he does not know that the spirits of the dead are there, And that her guests are [already] in the depths of Sheol (the nether world, the place of the dead).
Pro 9:17‭-‬18 AMP
https://bible.com/bible/1588/pro.9.17-18.AMP

What you don't want, you don't watch and what you don't resist has the right to remain.

I pray you make the right decision for the sake of your eternity and not just your family.

Peace.

rickleye:
Apologies this may be long ….

Dude,
From someone with similar experiences. Once you have tasted the forbidden fruit and have had an extramarital affair. There is no going back without serious sacrifices.

People cheat on their spouses even when in the same city notwithstanding you separated with ocean and time difference.

I have a friend who sent his wife to give birth in Germany, due to immigration he’s still in 9ja and guess what he has a baby mama with the baby same age (4) as his kids in Germany. They are still together because he confessed. She’s even met the step-child ( video conferencing) .
She made him promise not to bring any woman to their bed. “ Go screw the maid she said but not on my bed” He’s quitting his job and relocating …..

Back 2 You…

1. As long as you are separated by that distance, you will do it again. It’s easy, you have no accountability partner, no one to ask where you’re going , you have no responsibility- taking kids to football practice or separating quarrels between your kids. You’ve got time , money and space in your hands.
2. Sacrifices - Make you peace with God but you have to tell your wife. If you don’t tell her you will do it again. - It’s sweet , she young and does things the wife won’t do ! And even says “ thank you Sir , will I see you again sir . You will even try and rationalize the situation ( the money she is getting is helping her pay for school, so it’s quid pro quo!
3. If you can’t afford to tell her, You have to quit your job and move back abroad, if you don’t , you’ll do it again. And it may escalate - one becomes a party becomes Lasu girl etc .

Todays isnt about me and so I ain’t gonna share .
You’ll regret the affair(s), go to church , repent and stay firm for a while but then temptation will come again and you’ll fall because you haven’t dealt with the root of the problem ( loneliness, we are not built like women , to go long without intimacy)

I don’t care if you are a pastor or know the bible. The devil knows the bible also !!

All those Catholic brothers have my respects but it’s from such that we have all these child abuses cases all across the globe and sexual immorality.
Peter the apostle had a wife. Moses had 2 wives. Paul and Jesus didn’t. What am I saying ? it’s unnatural for you to be separated with your lawful wedded wife unless you are “fasting sex” for a while but then quickly come together so you are not tempted.

I could tell you stories of men - expatriates who come and work in this country who pick up our girls have sex and give the girls good money. It’s not a Nigerian thing , it’s a human thing.

Those that keep out of this sin have a strong regiment and are likely have a busy schedule after work so no time for “ hocus pocus “

Don’t wait till someone sees your vehicle somewhere and calls up the wife.
Take control of the narrative and inform the wife and die at her mercy. You don’t love the side chick and it wasn’t the devil . I failed you , I miss you and thought I could compensate the lack of intimacy with the fling. I am sorry.

Affairs don’t start like wildfires. It starts with a seed that grows when nurtured.

True word on bold part.

did you tell her that you are married? how did she react to that?

I pray your wife also cheats and enjoy the life of her head wherever she is.
50/50 kwanu

SugarPapi:
So... I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -

I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.

I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.

December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.

When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.

This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.

We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.

Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.

She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.

Well, hello next morning!

Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.

We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.

It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.

She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!

She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.

By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!

Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.

Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...

I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!

It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.

I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.

We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?

Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".

I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.

Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl?

Wow. This porn story is very sweet oh. I almost forgot it's just "tru-fiction"

SugarPapi:
GOD BLESS YOU SIR! Honestly you get what I'm going through right now. This girl has a grip on me I cannot explain and so far no one has offered solid advice on how I can separate from her.

Let her keep gripping you. Your eye go clear when she get belle or dash you syphilis. Just so you know, you are not her first, neither will you be her last. She is probably fucking someone else as we speak. You had better bounce out of that unholy relationship.

Unilag...Accounting...300 level...

Isn't that the same class with that Chidimma girl that is alleged to have killed that man last year?

Men sef!
Some of us no go ever learn lesson.

Anyway, I leave you with this:

Can a man carry fire in his bosom and go to sleep?

These kind of things happen, a girl like that bleeped like never before, I still de find her till today, chai Debby .

One-thing-lead-to-another story. Mscheew. I'm off. If the story is true, everything would have stopped once OP refused to like the girl's picture or if he unfollowed her after she followed. This is not my concern. Every human to him life.

Bros, don't just worry urself for nothing, continue fucking the girl, if possible Bleep plenty girls because some white and black Niggas are fucking ur wife also over there.............






Bitter truth though

Bla bla bla.....

SugarPapi:
So... I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -

I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.

I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.

December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.

When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.

This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.

We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.

Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.

She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.

Well, hello next morning!

Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.

We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.

It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.

She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!

She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.

By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!

Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.

Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...

I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!

It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.

I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.

We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?

Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".

I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.

Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl?

You write beautifully boss.

I'm not married, so my advice might seem out of the unconventional but if you indeed want to let go of the girl, just start talking about your wife at every instance and reduce the amount of time you spend with her, cut down your communication with her too.

Proximity, communication and availability have a way of messing things in cases like this, if you'll do well to cut down on those, sgell5be gone in 3 months max

The same way it started end it



quote author=SugarPapi post=110662107]So... I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -

I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.

I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.

December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.

When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.

This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.

We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.

Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.

She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.

Well, hello next morning!

Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.

We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.

It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.

She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!

She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.

By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!

Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.

Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...

I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!

It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.

I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.

We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?

Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".

I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.

Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl?[/quote]

This is a regular story for couples doing LD marriages esp the abroad ones. The only mistake is that Oga has broken rule 1 " Don't fall in love". That's a recipe for disaster. She has stolen your heart so find a way to retrieve it. It's not gonna be easy for you. It's either your heart and no sex or sex and no heart,not both. Stop her from coming to your house,carry another girl as a distraction, tell her your wife is coming, fake you have HIV or COVID.

If all you wrote is true, call her now with a straight face and yell at her to never call you again. Tell your security man not to let in the home breaker again (if she knows you are married), block her number, block her spirit and block her soul. Learn to deal with lust. You have the advice that you are looking for. My wife lives in Ireland too.

SugarPapi:
So... I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -

I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.

I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.

December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.

When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.

This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.

We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.

Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.

She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.

Well, hello next morning!

Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.

We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.

It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.

She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!

She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.

By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!

Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.

Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...

I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!

It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.

I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.

We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?

Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".

I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.

Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl?

Nice story though.......bro enjoy it while it last no shaking Sha use protection.every Every na still based on lust.no be say you love am they make you jealous but the thought that she fit go release that puna for another person na him dey work you.so you good.

braine:
Lol. Shut up!

Wait till you find what makes you weak.

Tell your papa shut up
Fellow weak idiot spotted

miladelly:
Hmmmmm, pls & pls, you just have to let that girl go. Don't be in the situation where my ex is now with I & the kids, please I beg you.

Am not going to condemn you, I understand how SATAN sweetly will use women as Carrots & dangle to a man's face.

This exact situation you are was why I broke up with my ex husband about 10 years ago.

I was shuttling back & forth abroad because the kids reside abroad, eventually I stayed back so I could get my Citizenship.

In summary, how can your poor wife & kids be in a country where the weather is Extremely cold, Rain splash on & on, and she busy running the house as a man on your behalf...���

Come one, don't be silly, otherwise, you have a lot to loose on the long run.

You need to see how I repackaged my life & how well my 3 children are doing, by the way I am mummy Boys.. my first is 21 and me 45.

Their dad bites his fingers, every day & regrets his actions regardless, I forgave him & moved on but the situation he is currently having no woman or children to relate to is SAD....

Have you received your Irish Citizenship, since you mentioned she is in Ireland. If you haven't, then you are not smart...because thats what you should be focused on.

And if you have your Irish Citizenship, have you thought of buying a house in Ireland or better still invest over their.

I understand if you are like some who don't like to live abroad, nevertheless, your wife doesn't deserve to be cheated on for her to be playing both roles ain't easy.

I didn’t want to comment, but my spirit discerned me maybe my comment will help you.

Moreover, you are 39 years, you better reverse your brain back, otherwise old age won't be easy especially when the kids would be in support of their mum. Come and ask me more....

Listen well, don't fight with this girl, communicate with her sensibly & tell her ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. you are not ready to father a child outside & you are not ready to sin against your own mother whose prayers thus has bought you this far.

If not for mother's prayers most of you men will not be alive with some of the wahala you use your hands to look for.

As a mother of boys, I gist with my kids one on one or collectively and tell them, when one girl friend is introduced to me, then no one should come forward again, they reply, why will I have to bring another girlfriend to you maama.

I strictly turn my face to them, because if you bring another GF, trust me, I will tell her one has been here before & moreover me your maama will not be stupid knowing you want to be changing babes anyhow. I then say, don't dare cheat on your wives o, otherwise I will disown you....

This boys have seen how their dad lived his life, its such a blessing to see that they know by God's grace they shouldn't tread the paths their dad went.

Finally, again, nitori awon omo, nitori adura iya & ti iyawo gbagbe omo obirin yen � � � I plead with you as a brother.

Thank you.

There is more to this story.

You broke up with your ex- husband and the father of your 3 boys, 10 yrs ago because he cheated on you even though you stay at 2 different continents.

Nawa oooo.

If that man played a big role in your relocation with your kids, then I can only shake my head.

Unless there is a deeper explanation to this scenario, you just used and dumped that man

You got three kids from him, you have money to travel to and fro, he needed to be gotten rid of so you can explore your sexuality

Poor man

I do not know your personal story but this does not add up.

jaxxy:
These are the disadvantages of being core introvert. When u see the grass on the other side u get lost in translation.

Dude what u experienced is not out of this world, many guys getting it on a regular. The problem here is u are not used to it and most importantly u are freaking MARRIED!!!


Those this 6ft so called damsel know u are married?? She probably does. Cos A gal won’t come for u that way without doing her homework.

On the other hand u know next to nothing about this gal besides Unilag which is still unverified. Anyone can claim Unilag student.


I advise u to immediately stop and do some findings about this gal while u cut of this relationship simple cos u are MARRIED.

Do not disrespect ur wife and family of a 6ft decent gal or maybe even jezebel.

If u were smart u won’t even bring her to ur house knowing she wants to come there without barely knowing u. That’s suspicious bt like I said she knows u more than u know her.

Do u even know what she wants from u? Do u think it’s just a passing fling? I sincerely hope so bt u have to let her go and focus back on what’s really important in ur life and it’s not her.


Find other things to preoccupy urself.

Note/warning: A decent gal won’t sleep with a married man. And she knows ur married? And didn’t even hesitate?? This contradicts every decent thing u thought she was. Smh. Bloody nonsense.

I believe a married man should sleep with anyone else he fancies. Monogamy is only for civilians and polygamy is for Kings...

SugarPapi:
So... I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -

I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.

I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.

December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.

When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.

This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.

We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.

Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.

She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.

Well, hello next morning!

Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.

We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.

It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.

She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!

She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.

By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!

Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.

Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...

I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!

It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.

I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.

We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?

Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".

I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.

Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl?

waooow....

Just waooow

BigBashiru:
I believe a married man should sleep with anyone else he fancies. Monogamy is allowed.

1st off it’s polygamy not monogamy I believe u want to say is allowed.

Good then he shouldn’t or they shouldn’t be hiding like they are doing Smtn wrong. Sleep with anything wearing skit and introduce them to ur family also.


Then I will take u seriously about ur polygamy.

SugarPapi:
So... I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -

I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.

I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.

December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.

When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.

This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.

We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.

Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.

She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.

Well, hello next morning!

Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.

We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.

It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.

She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!

She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.

By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!

Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.

Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...

I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!

It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.

I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.

We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?

Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".

I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.

Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl?

Just curious as to how u allowed 'a stranger' have u so cheap??
Liked ur pix day 1, followed u on sm day 2, and banged u day 3.
I mean, she chose /targeted u and it only took her 3 days to go from stranger to banging u in ur own home.

Y did u allow that?

It's ungodly for you to think of leaving the lady that treats you well. You don't have to ghost her, you need a companion not only for s£x but for other socials.

Let your family live in peace abroad while you also live in peace with the lady.

Let the lady know you have a family and NEVER let her know the full details of your wife.