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jaxxy:
1st off it’s polygamy not monogamy I believe u want to say is allowed.

Good then he shouldn’t or they shouldn’t be hiding like they are doing Smtn wrong. Sleep with anything wearing skit and introduce them to ur family also.
Then I will take u seriously about ur polygamy.

Yea I made a mistake. I wanted to say polygamy is allowed.

Everything depends on agreement.... as a man I will introduce a girlfriend to my wife.... these are things men should discuss with their wives before getting married.

My advise is man up divorce your wife forget your kids impregnate the girl and bring her into your home as your new wife....then see how unfair KARMA can be good luck.

BigBashiru:
Yea I made a mistake. I wanted to say polygamy is allowed.

Everything depends on agreement.... as a man I will introduce a girlfriend to my wife.... these are things men should discuss with their wives before getting married.

Well it depends on the kind of marriage u agreed with ur wife. Even if ur Muslim u still have to discuss with ur wife and agree on talking other wives. Oba’s Also do so, so it’s not like u can just do what u like without an agreement and that’s why many men hide and cheat.

Mind u not all men believe or support polygamy.

SugarPapi:
GOD BLESS YOU SIR! Honestly you get what I'm going through right now. This girl has a grip on me I cannot explain and so far no one has offered solid advice on how I can separate from her.

Just tell her you are married so she can give her attention to someone else o ye adulterous male

SugarPapi:
Irony is, this is a real story, my story and my current predicament. I could not help describe in detail the origin of the conundrum because that's what I do for a living. I write.

If you're circumspect enough and we relate well here, I may invite you over one weekend and you will see things yourself.

you used circumspect wrongly

SugarPapi:
So... I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -

I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.

I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.

December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.

When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.

This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.

We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.

Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.

She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.

Well, hello next morning!

Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.

We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.

It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.

She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!

She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.

By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!

Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.

Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...

I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!

It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.

I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.

We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?

Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".

I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.

Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl?

Devil is always nearby, watching you. When you start to do good he will quickly find a girlfriend for you.
...Robert Mugabe

Ol' boy, watch ya sef!

My advice to you is simple but it's need your self control also... You just have to make it no matter how hard it seem for you to delete her contact and stop any form of communication with her .. hope you are using Condom with her cos dos gals are desperate to destroy home... Ask her this question that if you are her uncle who is married with kids will she be happy a gal ruin his uncle home .. her response will tell the kind of gal she is...
Just seek a pastor for deliverance cos I sense she may have use Kayamata on you ...
Get focus back to work and stay more closer to your family.. be determined to relocate to where your family his cos the distance give rooms for such evil things to occur...
She act Soo cool cos she hasnt get what she needed she u mistakely give her Belle then u will know that u brought your master home ...
Don't ruin your happiness,home and work by yourself plzzz ....
Delete and avoid her as much as you can...
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I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -

I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.

I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.

December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.

When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.

This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.

We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.

Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.

She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.

Well, hello next morning!

Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.

We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.

It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.

She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!

She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.

By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!

Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.

Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...

I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!

It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.

I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.

We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?

Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".

I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.

Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl?[/quote]

jaxxy:
Well it depends on the kind of marriage u agreed with ur wife. Even if ur Muslim u still have to discuss with ur wife and agree on talking other wives. Oba’s Also do so, so it’s not like u can just do what u like without an agreement and that’s why many men hide and cheat.

Mind u not all men believe or support polygamy.

Yes not all men believe it. Each time their own indeed.

log into a porn hub and search for Mia khalifa enjoying a big di*k...that might help you with the summarization.

MrBrownJay1:
can someone summarize pls....

how about they should run a DNA test on their children

HitSong:
Fiction... But let's assume this is true...

Some of you are just plainly stupid... It's like the more money you make, the more stupid and the more you make life difficult for yourself...

HOW CAN I HAVE MONEY AND FAMILY AND I'LL SEND MY FAMILY AWAY TO ABROAD WHILE I LIVE HERE LONELY AND MISERABLE?

WHAT'S THE JOY IN HAVING A FAMILY YOU CAN'T EVEN SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH?
All in the name of you want them to fit in high standard of the society and nonsense...
I'm 100% sure that your wife is also CHEATING on you.

SugarPapi:
So... I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -

I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.

I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.

December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.

When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.

This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.

We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.

Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.

She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.

Well, hello next morning!

Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.

We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.

It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.

She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!

She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.

By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!

Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.

Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...

I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!

It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.

I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.

We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?

Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".

I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.

Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl?

Tell the Lady...You are Married.
so that she doesn't Turn Violent....eventually when is finds out.

Keep Smashing(safely) after the Revelation BUT don't let your Guards down.

After some time.....Drama(associated with MOST Females MUST Start.....Then You can staidly withdraw)

SugarPapi:
Ps, I understand a majority would think this is some made up story seeing as I opened the account today. I have been an unregistered member of this platform but the issue with this babe is getting to a head. I can't think, can't focus at work, can't do anything at all.

All I think of is her. I can't ask my friends for help, they're way too close to my wife and someone might spill. Pastor, etc are out of the equation. It's you guys I can turn to, so I need those who have been in my shoes to suggest ways to get over this girl.

Pss, I tried deleting her contacts, blocked her on IG, Whatsapp, etc. After 2 days, I unblocked her and when she asked, I feigned some phony excuse.

Help me!

This lady has an agenda and it is long term. Think of your family/home and what would become of it if your affair comes to light.


This euphoria you are having with this girl is probably because stolen meat tastes better. In no time, the law of diminishing returns would set in and it would be bad to lose this spark and your home too.


Cut ties now that no damage (I assume) has been done.

I feel so jealous on behalf of your wife. I really hate this sex thing like hell.

imagine getting married to the love of your life and he gets to go fu*k some random girl and get to experience more Intense sex outside and even compare you that is a legal wife to some bitchh.

this sucks! have you tried to explore your wife this way ? do you know if she orgasm from love making with you?

this world is so selfish and you can't trust no one. I hate disloyalty and I hate dishonesty , lies make me go crazy.

I hate this sex thing sometimes. I can't imagine cheating in my marriage no matter the temptation. being a single young lady I've turned down sexual requests from married men. I don't ever want to have that guilt in my conscience. may God help us!

sex will be the end of this world , may God always give us the spirit to flee from temptation,spirit to put up resistance , spirit to overcome .

Pimine:
Aswearugaaad

Bro there's no family unity here to break. His wife already bailed on him - she abandoned her home and he's too weak to take a stand. Let him stop feeling guilty. At least the new girl hasn't abandoned him yet

Baba...how u know say d wifey bailed on him?

Sometimes in life, opportunity presents itself for your loved ones to move and you may not be able to join them becos what you personally have here maybe be better than over there...

SugarPapi:
So... I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -

I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.

I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.

December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.

When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.

This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.

We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.

Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.

She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.

Well, hello next morning!

Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.

We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.

It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.

She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!

She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.

By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!

Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.

Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...

I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!

It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.

I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.

We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?

Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".

I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.

Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl?

My advice, since you can't let go of her, i think you should do something that will make her have so much resentment for you.
Am in a LDM too,the truth is you have to make up your mind not to ruin what you have for something that will fade away or even put you in alot of trouble with your wife.

Best of luck man.

HitSong:
Fiction... But let's assume this is true...

Some of you are just plainly stupid... It's like the more money you make, the more stupid you are and the more you make life difficult for yourself...

HOW CAN I HAVE MONEY AND FAMILY AND I'LL SEND MY FAMILY AWAY TO ABROAD WHILE I LIVE HERE LONELY AND MISERABLE?

WHAT'S THE JOY IN HAVING A FAMILY YOU CAN'T EVEN SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH?
All in the name of you want them to fit in high standard of the society and nonsense...
In the end, the society will help you train those children since you are too stupìd and irresponsible and they'll become:
Lesbians
Gays
Protitutes
Armed robbers
Drug addicts, etc.

I'm 100% sure that your wife is also CHEATING on you because no sane woman will leave her young husband in another country to live lonely and fend for himself if she truly loves him and if she doesn't have "OTHER" PLANS...

Who told you is fun to have family in your face every day forever? Who told you? Wait till you have spent years in marriage then come talk again

SugarPapi:
Do you know that insulting people unknown to you is one of the most obvious symptoms of LSE?

When you're okay in your skin, you have no reason to throw tantrums, aggrieved or not.

To your points;

1. I am not stupid. Me along with hundreds of Nigerians who are in LD marriages.

2. I may be lonely, but I'm definitely not miserable.

Lastly, I am not trying to 'fit' were I already belong. There's little to nothing you can do when your wife says she's had it with the country and wants out.

Hope you're appeased?

Just incase your story is true, my advise is go cold turkey on her. Cut her off immediately...hard but doable.

Halopy:
You are just one of those kids who gets completely offended over someone else's post here on Nairaland, you people just take things completely out of context, Excessively public scolding someone you don't know and shaming him over his decision to live separately from his family. Wetin concern you? Is it your money?

Lol... can't blame him bro. People are going through a lot right now. Those with low EQs take out their frustration out on any and everyone around.

I'll write something to them when I've got time.

Why did you bother to react to this kind of thinking? I would imagine that you d know where that was coming from..
However, your story made me laugh. You are still very emotionally immature.
You ran into a good lay and all of a sudden your world is upside down. You must compartmentalise your emotions if you are in a long distance marriage. Otherwise you will end up with all kinds of complications. The girl is your friend and believe me you do need one. That's all. The sex is a bonus. Make sure all your cards are on the table. Marriage??, pregnancy and all that should be discussed and agreed. In 3 months you would have had your fill of her and your temperature will normalise. Just be sure not to let madam notice the excitement in you.

SugarPapi:
Do you know that insulting people unknown to you is one of the most obvious symptoms of LSE?

When you're okay in your skin, you have no reason to throw tantrums, aggrieved or not.

To your points;

1. I am not stupid. Me along with hundreds of Nigerians who are in LD marriages.

2. I may be lonely, but I'm definitely not miserable.

Lastly, I am not trying to 'fit' were I already belong. There's little to nothing you can do when your wife says she's had it with the country and wants out.

Hope you're appeased?

Isobug:
You have just put so many families in fracas. Many families with 3 kids who lives abroad while the husband lives down here. Those who are on Nairaland may think you are their husbands

I couldn't help but laugh at this

Thank you for lines of insults or words that describes how MENTHOLATED your thinking is.

I won't insult you, NOP, I am very civil & well put together.

Did I specifically say the MAIN reason I broke up with my ex is JUST because He cheated....NOP.

And what if I broke up with my ex because he CHEATED, how does that make you blue or green...
What's you business with how anyone deal with their situation.

I don't only shake my head for you, I pray that your shortcomings will make you remember to ask God for forgiveness with the statement you quoted below.

"If that man played a big role in your relocation with your kids, then I can only shake my head".

If you are given a comprehension & your understanding is that reply is...then woefully, you failed my dear.

You only think a man, must make a woman right? How about women that make men...

You are completely BACKWARD, am trying to put my emotions in check not to insult you, because you are not only FACELESS, you are indeed HEARTLESS.

Hmmmm, I started travelling abroad at age 7.

@ your silly quote again

"if that man played a big role in your relocation with your kids, then I can only shake my head".

You need to be taken to River Jordan to be Washed, Rewashed & then washed away to a destination full of salt...because it obvious your brain need some HCL.

Your head is actually, upside down my dear. Really, I will give you your reply since you refused to think appropriately....

I was not relocated with my kids...I had all 3 of my kids abroad...& what if my parents were the source of the funding the hospital bills, and more....

And what if its even my ex....what's your headache now, imagine taking Panadol for another man's toothache...

Your thinking is just always how if the man did this or that....

Mind you,my children ain't boys... they are men. 21, 19 and 13years...and if they are IN such a forum, with my full chest they will give advice to the person who needed to sort his heart issues out rather than this your useless attack on my person.

Explore my sexuallity at what age....

I am a pretty babe at 45 my dear, very hard working, single for over 10 years.... so its about sexuality exploring again to know if I am into men or women or what exactly is that word Sexuality used in this context?


Gaskiya, you are depressed & take your boxing gloves to the ring.

And by God's grace, for accusing me wrongly.....I leave that to God.

You don't know my personal story, yet you have condemned me, you have become Russia & Putin the Warlord.

I don't blame you at all.

I am a very cool & calm lady, but this Methylated Spirit went too far & I detest bullies, otherwise I would have just let it slide.

You are a bully....PERIODT.

And if you think I will back & forth exchange words here with you....NAY, no be me; emi ko; baa ni ba......am OUT.

oh Mentholated, you really are hot right now.

Cheerios....

Mentholated:
There is more to this story.

You broke up with your ex- husband and the father of your 3 boys, 10 yrs ago because he cheated on you even though you stay at 2 different continents.

Nawa oooo.

If that man played a big role in your relocation with your kids, then I can only shake my head.

Unless there is a deeper explanation to this scenario, you just used and dumped that man

You got three kids from him, you have money to travel to and fro, he needed to be gotten rid of so you can explore your sexuality

Poor man

I do not know your personal story but this does not add up.

Good day mr papi. I could help but jump on this thread after I saw the responses you are engaging with.

I’m married too. I know the fun you get when you explore another lady after a long time. A very conservative one at that. (I don’t live in Lagos but I know the ladies are okay whenever it’s their man spoiling her although it’s general.) Now one thing is sure, you fantasize every moment cos yes she is a new whip and there lots to get from her sexual of which your. Beautiful wife hasn’t given you. Well I’m sure it takes time of practice to be good at something.

The only better way is to limit friendship, from weekdays to weekends. Weekends to once monthly. Reduce Calls, blame it on work stress.
See her once once. If it’s for feelings, you must catch whether jazz or not. But let you be in control. Yes let you be in control. If you feel it’s becokig too much on you, tell her you are traveling to see your wife and will be back in 3months time. Ofcourse she won’t call you during those times. With all this, you will get distracted.

I had a one time experience but I live in Nigeria with my wife so I can’t catch feelings. But In your case the only concern is the distractions from your family and the risk of getting her pregnant too. Ofcourse she will want to settle in if the later happens.

Please don’t forget NOT to engage most comments as they are just wired to think that way. LD works and good thing it works for you and you have no little complain about it so far from your post.

But sha loosen up a little and have some wild experiences. It’s good for he nerves. ��

@SugarPapi

SugarPapi:
Ps, I understand a majority would think this is some made up story seeing as I opened the account today. I have been an unregistered member of this platform but the issue with this babe is getting to a head. I can't think, can't focus at work, can't do anything at all.

All I think of is her. I can't ask my friends for help, they're way too close to my wife and someone might spill. Pastor, etc are out of the equation. It's you guys I can turn to, so I need those who have been in my shoes to suggest ways to get over this girl.

Pss, I tried deleting her contacts, blocked her on IG, Whatsapp, etc. After 2 days, I unblocked her and when she asked, I feigned some phony excuse.

Help me!

Yawns....
They all say the same thing.


Next!

LastProphet:
Who told you is fun to have family in your face every day forever? Who told you? Wait till you have spent years in marriage then come talk again

Brother, I can remember the period I spent 2weeks from my wife. Mehn, I really missed that aloneness. It felt like this people were choking me. I started missing them after some days but believe me, I still wish I can chose to ghost on them and return back without them noticing. My lovely wife & daughter are a beautiful wahala. I can’t do without their wahala. But at a time I need space too. Married people can only understand.

This is advice works although it’s wickedly hard but it worked for me . You have to be really serious to do this unless u go still de beg her .

SugarPapi:
Hmmm... this sounds reasonable. I'll definitely consider and apply. Is this how you solved your own dilemma?

miladelly:
Hmmmmm, pls & pls, you just have to let that girl go. Don't be in the situation where my ex is now with I & the kids, please I beg you.

Am not going to condemn you, I understand how SATAN sweetly will use women as Carrots & dangle to a man's face.

This exact situation you are was why I broke up with my ex husband about 10 years ago.

I was shuttling back & forth abroad because the kids reside abroad, eventually I stayed back so I could get my Citizenship.

In summary, how can your poor wife & kids be in a country where the weather is Extremely cold, Rain splash on & on, and she busy running the house as a man on your behalf...���

Come one, don't be silly, otherwise, you have a lot to loose on the long run.

You need to see how I repackaged my life & how well my 3 children are doing, by the way I am mummy Boys.. my first is 21 and me 45.

Their dad bites his fingers, every day & regrets his actions regardless, I forgave him & moved on but the situation he is currently having no woman or children to relate to is SAD....

Have you received your Irish Citizenship, since you mentioned she is in Ireland. If you haven't, then you are not smart...because thats what you should be focused on.

And if you have your Irish Citizenship, have you thought of buying a house in Ireland or better still invest over their.

I understand if you are like some who don't like to live abroad, nevertheless, your wife doesn't deserve to be cheated on for her to be playing both roles ain't easy.

I didn’t want to comment, but my spirit discerned me maybe my comment will help you.

Moreover, you are 39 years, you better reverse your brain back, otherwise old age won't be easy especially when the kids would be in support of their mum. Come and ask me more....

Listen well, don't fight with this girl, communicate with her sensibly & tell her ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. you are not ready to father a child outside & you are not ready to sin against your own mother whose prayers thus has bought you this far.

If not for mother's prayers most of you men will not be alive with some of the wahala you use your hands to look for.

As a mother of boys, I gist with my kids one on one or collectively and tell them, when one girl friend is introduced to me, then no one should come forward again, they reply, why will I have to bring another girlfriend to you maama.

I strictly turn my face to them, because if you bring another GF, trust me, I will tell her one has been here before & moreover me your maama will not be stupid knowing you want to be changing babes anyhow. I then say, don't dare cheat on your wives o, otherwise I will disown you....

This boys have seen how their dad lived his life, its such a blessing to see that they know by God's grace they shouldn't tread the paths their dad went.

Finally, again, nitori awon omo, nitori adura iya & ti iyawo gbagbe omo obirin yen � � � I plead with you as a brother.

Thank you.

hope the op is seeing the sage and wise woman’s post on this his thread. Listen to her words on the marble attentively and also read the book of proverbs warning about the strange woman. Make sure u listen n put your ears down

@ccollins

Thank you for such a beautiful comment.

ccollins:
hope the op is seeing the sage and wise woman’s post on this his thread. Listen to her words on the marble attentively and also read the book of proverbs warning about the strange woman. Make sure u listen n put your ears down

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Typing....
Sugarpapi wow just wow..so you really had to sugar coat and paint the occurence like it's some movie..what's this all about?
Well your problem is easy..tell your wife about what y've been doing.. apologise to her..call the same gal and tell her you no longer have interest in her and wouldn't want to have anything doin with her cos you are married..
After that cut her off your life and move on.. simple and easy or you can keep deceiving yourself..

You haven't been in this boat before, please, stay clear. I perfectly understand what he is saying.
My humble friend who posted this, it takes a courageous man to identify a mistake and then seek a way out. Why don't you invite the girl over, tell her exactly what you feel, tell her the whole truth, and tell her you want to sincerely put an end to it, as you don't want to put your family in danger. If she is as decent as you claim, she will definitely cooperate.
N/b: pls don't ever make the mistake of telling your wife. That would be the beginning of a problem you might never be able to fix.
Lots of love from this side

SugarPapi:
So... I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -

I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.

I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.

December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.

When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.

This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.

We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.

Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.

She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.

Well, hello next morning!

Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.

We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.

It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.

She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!

She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.

By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!

Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.

Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...

I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!

It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.

I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.

We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?

Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".

I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.

Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl?

These kinds of relationships are better not started in the first place. Boundaries should be set and maintained.

Also, It's not a good practice for couples to be separated for too long. It's not as if you're planning to relocate. It seems both of you settled with this arrangement. Your marriage will suffer.

To break from this, you must be sure you want to stop this relationship. Also, take more decisive steps to break free.
You have made your mind to believe she is giving you the best sex. Stolen waters seems sweet you know. The mind is the number one sex organ so channel your mind to think about your wife and the love you share (not just the sex). Think about your children and their development. Let your mind be engrossed with your family.

Finally, allow God to guide you. Repent, ask God for forgiveness and tell Him to help you.

HitSong:
Fiction... But let's assume this is true...

Some of you are just plainly stupid... It's like the more money you make, the more stupid you are and the more you make life difficult for yourself...

HOW CAN I HAVE MONEY AND FAMILY AND I'LL SEND MY FAMILY AWAY TO ABROAD WHILE I LIVE HERE LONELY AND MISERABLE?

WHAT'S THE JOY IN HAVING A FAMILY YOU CAN'T EVEN SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH?
All in the name of you want them to fit in high standard of the society and nonsense...
In the end, the society will help you train those children since you are too stupìd and irresponsible and they'll become:
Lesbians
Gays
Protitutes
Armed robbers
Drug addicts, etc.

I'm 100% sure that your wife is also CHEATING on you because no sane woman will leave her young husband in another country to live lonely and fend for himself if she truly loves him and if she doesn't have "OTHER" PLANS...

Kaiiiii!!!! You nailed it..... I like your vibe... No wonder some women prayed their husbands never to be rich because, e be like say when man get money, devil no dey gree leave am! Yeye shameless loosed men! I dislike cheats with passion!

HitSong:
It's your misery, frustration and cross to carry.
If you're not lonely and miserable, you won't fall easily in the hands of young whorès and slùts that has nothing to offer but the holes between their legs, while they collect your money and also give you all kinds of STDs...
You fell even as a married man and believe me, no sane married man will allow his family live abroad while he stays somewhere else lonely and miserable all because his wife his frustrated with their home country...
Are you a man at all?
Again, no sane woman will live her young husband here to live alone and fend for himself... expect if she has "OTHER" plans...
There's no other joy like family living and growing together.
You certainly still belong to the low class of the society and you also have poor mindset...
Why are your family members abroad? Better life abroad? Better schools?
The minister of Labour, Speaker of the house of rep and many other elites in Nigeria have their children in Unilag and other schools in Nigeria so what are you feeling like?

YOU ARE THE BIGGEST LOSER HERE.

Na wa oh. On top another person sexcapade you don carry matter for head. Shuoo! Go and do your own if e dey pain you