I am sorry I won't be able to go into details because I am not a fan of typing for a very long time but I notice that when you choose to resign from a particular company because you've had enough of the boss's bullshi** and intrusive and controlling behaviour,why do they go into an outburst as if you have offended them because you say you want to resign and then later try to manipulate and gaslight you? Why do they get offended for choosing to resign?

Maybe they have invest in you, or you have known too much and letting you go will be a big blow to them. Some train their staff and they sign a contract not to leave for some years just to gain what they have invest on you.

They act that way because they're are going to miss controlling you... narcissist hate when you want to get out of their Claws of control and manipulation...that's the reason

fnep2smooth:
Maybe they have invest in you, or you have known too much and letting you go will be a big blow to them. Some train their staff and they sign a contract no to leave for some years just to gain what they have invest on you.

well,I worked with him for two years and I discovered he is very exploitative, manipulative and a user.for example,he wants us to get a particular job done/type some documents but when the secretary complains that paper or ink in the printer has been exhausted,he will get dismissive, covertly aggressive and tells her to find a way to print it like that.when OTHERS discovered he's a narcissist they became sychophatic and decided to lick his ass in his presence while gossiping about him in his absence.on some occasions he has sweet talked and manipulated me into adding my money to buy A4 papers when the money he released wasn't enough.the worst part of it is that he is so entitled, shows no appreciation and has complete disregard for our feelings.he only gets friendly when he needs a favour from his surbodinates or wants them to get things done for him at little or no cost

Another issue I noticed is that he started changing towards me when he approached me to be selling gnld products for him and I turned down his request.since then I noticed he has been resenting me but now I'm tired and had enough of all the rubbish.

irunoko:
I am sorry I won't be able to go into details because I am not a fan of typing for a very long time but I notice that when you choose to resign from a particular company because you've had enough of the boss's bullshi** and intrusive and controlling behaviour,why do they go into an outburst as if you have offended them because you say you want to resign and then later try to manipulate and gaslight you? Why do they get offended for choosing to resign?

The answer is simple. They don't want to loose you because you are so good to them. #Ell

rickpat:
They act that way because they're are going to miss controlling you... narcissist hate when you want to get out of their Claws of control and manipulation...that's the reason

really?


Was he expecting that I will work with him for life and not move on to better prospects? Again I thought when a staff is leaving you should get friendly with him instead of barking out in anger.for example,when I tendered my resignation letter to him.i expected him to be happy for me and wish me well but he went into a tirade asking me why I didn't Tell him since morning and why i Told him I want to quit immediately after the meeting.i told him that I wanted everyone to leave so I can discuss with him privately and he said angrily that if I had told him since morning he will have delegated my job to other people instead of now looking and thinking of who will do the job ( in my mind I was like shoo? Na only me Sabi do the work? If I say I no Wan do am again are there not other colleagues who can do the work or are there not others outside looking for job that can do the work) I was expecting a friendly and tense-free communication with him but it was so stressful trying to resign.he then took my letter in a demeaning fashion,read it and demanded I correct it to state the date when I will be leaving.he also Said I should effect the corrections from my work.no show of friendliness as if asking to resign should be something any boss should take offense in.i am shocked and distabilized

irunoko:
well,I worked with him for two years and I discovered he is very exploitative, manipulative and a user.for example,he wants us to get a particular job done/type some documents but when the secretary complains that paper or ink in the printer has been exhausted,he will get dismissive, covertly aggressive and tells her to find a way to print it like that.when OTHERS discovered he's a narcissist they became sychophatic and decided to lick his ass in his presence while gossiping about him in his absence.on some occasions he has sweet talked and manipulated me into adding my money to buy A4 papers when the money he released wasn't enough.the worst part of it is that he is so entitled, shows no appreciation and has complete disregard for our feelings.he only gets friendly when he needs a favour from his surbodinates or wants them to get things done for him at little or no cost

Another issue I noticed is that he started changing towards me when he approached me to be selling gnld products for him and I turned down his request.since then I noticed he has been resenting me but now I'm tired and had enough of all the rubbish.

When I read gnld products, bro that person is will never improve your career. Those people are manipulative.

Nukilia:


The answer is simple. They don't want to loose you because you are so good to them. #Ell

really? If they know this,why can't he be reciprocal in my gesture and kindness to him? Why choose to be a leech because you're the boss and then blame me for not telling you a week before my resignation as if I owe you that information.i am honestly tired of being used and feeling stupid.i need a place where I can be valued and respected not used and working under toxic situations or a boss Making me look like I owe him my life and details of my decisions

fnep2smooth:


When I read gnld products, bro that person is will never improve your career. Those people are manipulative.

wow.thanks for the information.but I want to ask if I need to go back to his office to tender my corrected resignation letter,I hope it'll be drama free because I hate going to his office.i spoke with my father about it when I told him I wanted to resign and I told him the reasons and surprisingly my father Said when you submit the corrected version of the letter, he's likely to get manipulative and be trying to form fake friendliness or he might get more angry seeing his ego has been bruised but either ways I should not fall for any of his devices but In all honesty I'm really uncomfortable and perturbed

irunoko:
really? If they know this,why can't he be reciprocal in my gesture and kindness to him? Why choose to be a leech because you're the boss and then blame me for not telling you a week before my resignation as if I owe you that information.i am honestly tired of being used and feeling stupid.i need a place where I can be valued and respected not used and working under toxic situations or a boss Making me look like I owe him my life and details of my decisions

I know how it feels when you put in your best to make something work well and the other party does not see it. You are matured adult and your decision must be respected. Your team mates would definitely miss your contribution to your organization. The way our society is structured, you're bound to meet with different people at different times in life. I suspect your boss might suffocate if you are not there...

Nukilia:


I know how it feels when you put in your best to make something work well and the other party does not see it. You are matured adult and your decision must be respected. Your team mates would definitely miss your contribution to your organization. The way our society is structured, you're bound to meet with different people at different times in life. I suspect your boss might suffocate if you are not there...

well I'm the sanguine employee (life/energy of the environment) my absence is always easily noticed plus I'm a generous person.not that I'm Dangote or wale Adenuga o but I just enjoy giving.it hurts me when I see people lacking something when I'm around and I'm able to solve the issues (whether through counsel or cash) which endeared a lot of my colleagues to me.i suspect my boss saw this and decided to take advantage of my generosity ( which I find quite annoying and offensive) e.g telling me to invest ₦70k in his gnld buisnness and I'll be making returns.in my mind I was like if gnld can make you a millionaire within 7 months,why you never buy car or change your house? Why are you always looking broke and trying to exploit people.

Another thing I found puzzling was that when I asked my colleagues whether he approached them with the gnld rubbish he said no at that point I was so shocked and then he chuckled and said "he knows you have money na.afterall see the way you decorated your office and dress to work.he knows the type of people he can ask that shii".I just drank water and continued working.

And yes when I told my colleagues I was resigning,one of the ladies there Said "awww I'll miss you,so I won't be seeing sweets to take from your office and someone to encourage me when I'm down" I said but you can always call my phone.i didn't say I'm leaving the country,I just want to leave this particular job

irunoko:
well I'm the sanguine employee (life/energy of the environment) my absence is always easily noticed plus I'm a generous person.not that I'm Dangote or wale Adenuga o but I just enjoy giving.it hurts me when I see people lacking something when I'm around and I'm able to solve the issues (whether through counsel or cash) which endeared a lot of my colleagues to me.i suspect my boss saw this and decided to take advantage of my generosity ( which I find quite annoying and offensive) e.g telling me to invest ₦70k in his gnld buisnness and I'll be making returns.in my mind I was like if gnld can make you a millionaire within 7 months,why you never buy car or change your house? Why are you always looking broke and trying to exploit people.

Another thing I found puzzling was that when I asked my colleagues whether he approached them with the gnld rubbish he said no at that point I was so shocked and then he chuckled and said "he knows you have money na.afterall see the way you decorated your office and dress to work.he knows the type of people he can ask that shii".I just drank water and continued working.

And yes when I told my colleagues I was resigning,one of the ladies there Said "awww I'll miss you,so I won't be seeing sweets to take from your office and someone to encourage me when I'm down" I said but you can always call my phone.i didn't say I'm leaving the country,I just want to leave this particular job

Its always painful to let go of someone who has been a blessing to you at work place. Even though your coIleagues appreciate all that you do for them, I believe your sanity is important. As we invest in building other peoples businesses, we as individuals must not fail to invest in our happiness. Don't forget to send me some sweets now that you are changing jobs

Nukilia:


Its always painful to let go of someone who has been a blessing to you at work place. Even though your coIleagues appreciate all that you do for them, I believe your sanity is important. As we invest in building other peoples businesses, we as individuals must not fail to invest in our happiness. Don't forget to send me some sweets now that you are changing jobs

awww

I certainly Will

Thanks sis

irunoko:
really?


Was he expecting that I will work with him for life and not move on to better prospects? Again I thought when a staff is leaving you should get friendly with him instead of barking out in anger.for example,when I tendered my resignation letter to him.i expected him to be happy for me and wish me well but he went into a tirade asking me why I didn't Tell him since morning and why i Told him I want to quit immediately after the meeting.i told him that I wanted everyone to leave so I can discuss with him privately and he said angrily that if I had told him since morning he will have delegated my job to other people instead of now looking and thinking of who will do the job ( in my mind I was like shoo? Na only me Sabi do the work? If I say I no Wan do am again are there not other colleagues who can do the work or are there not others outside looking for job that can do the work) I was expecting a friendly and tense-free communication with him but it was so stressful trying to resign.he then took my letter in a demeaning fashion,read it and demanded I correct it to state the date when I will be leaving.he also Said I should effect the corrections from my work.no show of friendliness as if asking to resign should be something any boss should take offense in.i am shocked and distabilized

narcissist are control freaks...psychos

irunoko:
awww

I certainly Will

Thanks sis

U really sound like a great person . Keep a high spirit and stay away from toxic people.

Who is narcissist

They never thought you can be free from their wimps and caprices.

Because they are Narcissists. They rather sack you than you resign.

Hmm









It make them happy seeing you sad.

irunoko:
I am sorry I won't be able to go into details because I am not a fan of typing for a very long time but I notice that when you choose to resign from a particular company because you've had enough of the boss's bullshi** and intrusive and controlling behaviour,why do they go into an outburst as if you have offended them because you say you want to resign and then later try to manipulate and gaslight you? Why do they get offended for choosing to resign?

This happened to me before.
They are angry because you deprive them of seeing you hurt.
They will prefer to have you fired, nit waiting for that to happen saddens them

My dear, you just bruised his ego....flee from toxic people!

I once resigned and didn't bother telling my narcissistic boss. She went ballistic lol.... That was my payback to her for being a royal bitch.

Because they want to stay in control. They can't stand losing the control that they have over you

Because they are enemies of God and you are carrying out his will by leaving the place

Your freedom dey pepper, these set of evil people. They hate peace na so so drama, attention seekers.