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Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by Acehart: 10:44am On Mar 13, 2022
Juell:
I sure do

Is the Book of Hosea a book of allegorical expressions?
Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by dadabashua1(m): 10:44am On Mar 13, 2022
Forget twisting and turning of biblical verses to suit any point you trying to drive,the question is does the Bible really condemn marrying more than one wife? The answer is NO,the conditions the Bible gave categorically to be a husband of one wife is when you are seeking the office of a Bishop,it was straight forward.

1Tim.3
[1] This is a true saying, If a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work.
[2] A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;
[3] Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous;
[4] One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;
[5] (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)
Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by linearity: 10:45am On Mar 13, 2022
Bluesearoll:
1timothy 3v 2 is the Christian standard........A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;

1 Tim 3v2 is talking to Bishops, are you a Bishop?
Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by thinkmoney(m): 10:46am On Mar 13, 2022
Oksman:


You did not answer the question.
It is not the will of God. God permitted those people, however, if you check almost all the polygamous family in the bible, there were serious strives in the family. It's also almost always the case today.
God never changes, but his revelation and dealings in the bible were systematic.
Moreover, Jesus reiterates it when he was here by quoting the standard from the beginning in Genesis.
Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by Righteousness2(m): 10:47am On Mar 13, 2022
Continue Decieving yourself! When you Stand before the ALMIGHTY, you tell HIM , HE was talking about this or that.
Very funny bunch of humans


linearity:


Jesus was talking about divorce and marrying those that are divorced.

No where in these passages did he mention marrying one wife. He made them ‘Male & Female’ does not say anything about one man, one wife. It is referring to the two distinct genders that God created. The same reference was made during the time God was to destroy the world through flood and he asked Noah to get all animals into the ark ‘Male & Female’.

You refer to the Old Testament, but nothing in the laws then or in the Ten Commandments forbids marrying more than one wife, if it was a grievous sin, I do not think it would have been overlooked in the laws and in the commandments.

Lastly, it was widely practiced in the old days by even men ‘after God’s heart’. Each time these men sinned against God, He sends his prophet to go warn them and ask them to repent and turn back to him, not once in the entire Bible did God rebuked or send His prophets to rebuke someone because they married more than one wife.

That said, marrying more than one wife is a huge undertaking and a financial drain; I wouldn’t advise even my enemy to do it.
Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by superCleanworks(m): 10:53am On Mar 13, 2022
Righteousness2:
GOD'S Standard from the beginning remains One man one wife.
GOD'S Standard is HE hates Divorce.

Jacob, Solomon , Religion, Society or whoever are not the standard. The Word of GOD is the Standard .

Read Matthew 19: 4-9 to know GOD'S Standard!

And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,

And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?

He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.

And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.


Anything apart from GOD'S Standard is SIN. It is Fornication, Adultery and Man/ woman Decieving themselves!

This is what 98% of these so called preachers do. They quote bible verses and still have no answers. Just look at the utter pointless rubbish this one vomited.
There is absolutely NO PLACE IN THE BIBLE that God punished anyone for marrying more than one wife or banned it or called it out as a sin.

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Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by Oscillator: 10:54am On Mar 13, 2022
Righteousness2:
GOD'S Standard from the beginning remains One man one wife.
GOD'S Standard is HE hates Divorce.

Jacob, Solomon , Religion, Society or whoever are not the standard. The Word of GOD is the Standard .

Read Matthew 19: 4-9 to know GOD'S Standard!

And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,

And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?

He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.

And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.


Anything apart from GOD'S Standard is SIN. It is Fornication, Adultery and Man/ woman Decieving themselves!
all your quotes and analysis are talking about divorce. The OP isn't concerned about divorce but second wife.

Learn to read and comprehend before opening your mouth next time.

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Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by superCleanworks(m): 10:55am On Mar 13, 2022
Righteousness2:
Continue Decieving yourself! When you Stand before the ALMIGHTY, you tell HIM , HE was talking about this or that.
Very funny bunch of humans



Shut up. You are very daft.
Put your point on the table and get out if you have none.

Show us where it is clearly defined and categorized as a sin. But you can never ever do that.

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Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by Juell(m): 10:55am On Mar 13, 2022
Acehart:


Is the Book of Hosea a book of allegorical expressions?
Yes it is
Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by superCleanworks(m): 10:57am On Mar 13, 2022
Oscillator:
all your quotes and analysis are talking about divorce. The OP isn't concerned about divorce but second wife.

Learn to read and comprehend before opening your mouth next time.

I swear the guy's comment just exposed how annoyingly senseless he can be. A total moronic comment. God forbid my brain should ever fail like that
Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by Oscillator: 10:57am On Mar 13, 2022
Acehart:
Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ. - 1 Cor.11:1

The above is a command (with the tone of a plea). Christ is our example and we are told to imitate God.

Did God marry? Yes. The Book of Hosea is an epilogue of God’s marriage: He marries a woman, she is grossly unfaithful and He still loves in spite of her worthlessness. Hosea 3:1 gives a succinct view of God’s view on marriage: “Go and love your wife again, even though she commits adultery with another lover. This will illustrate that the LORD still loves Israel”- one wife for life.

We follow God’s illustration and not the illustration from any man.
so many are weak but appear strong.

So many are in need of help but pretend to give help.

May God have mercy on your stupidity!
Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by Oscillator: 11:01am On Mar 13, 2022
superCleanworks:


I swear the guy's comment just exposed how annoyingly senseless he can be. A total moronic comment. God forbid my brain should ever fail like that
that man is the most annoying senseless bot in Nairaland.

So lacking in comprehension and bold in ignorance!
Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by adekS1(m): 11:03am On Mar 13, 2022
Righteousness2:
GOD'S Standard from the beginning remains One man one wife.
GOD'S Standard is HE hates Divorce.

Jacob, Solomon , Religion, Society or whoever are not the standard. The Word of GOD is the Standard .

Read Matthew 19: 4-9 to know GOD'S Standard!

And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them Male and Female .
(Note Male and Females)

And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?

He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.

And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.


Anything apart from GOD'S Standard is SIN. It is Fornication, Adultery and Man/ woman Decieving themselves!
Yes He make them Male and Female,its still male and female one man per one wife per time not marrying them at once,but can cn be more than one wife
Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by harmargedon: 11:04am On Mar 13, 2022
PrimadonnaO:


I take this to mean an exaggerated way to express that my post resonates with you. cheesy

So thank you. kiss

We're not marrying, sir.
no it doesn't dear, I ain't a religious person. So are we still getting married?
Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by Righteousness2(m): 11:05am On Mar 13, 2022
adekS1:
Yes He make them Male and Female,its still male and female one man per one wife per time not marrying them at once,but can cn be more than one wife

Young man! The devil has sworn to Destroy and Package you to Hell!
I pity you.,
Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by Enemyofpeace: 11:08am On Mar 13, 2022
Even God and him pikin Jesus no marry one wife, not to talk of two, you think, they don’t know what they are doing? If half or one quarter wife dey, na one quarter I go marry. Na who wan die quick?
Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by IJEYdiamond(f): 11:11am On Mar 13, 2022
Dtruthspeaker:


See, you chose the grandson son of the son of evil to make your case instead of the Son of Righteousness.



Moses did not have 2 wives, he had one.

His first wife completely and law fully put him away. She rejected both him and God.

This is where you see what "God hath Joined together, He has a Right to put asunder'

And He is The Law of both Marriage and Divorce.

Abeg where e dey for bible?
Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by Enemyofpeace: 11:11am On Mar 13, 2022
Righteousness2:
GOD'S Standard from the beginning remains One man one wife.
GOD'S Standard is HE hates Divorce.

Jacob, Solomon , Religion, Society or whoever are not the standard. The Word of GOD is the Standard .

Read Matthew 19: 4-9 to know GOD'S Standard!

And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them Male and Female .
(Not Male and Females or Vice versa)

And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?

He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.

And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.


Anything apart from GOD'S Standard is SIN. It is Fornication, Adultery and Man/ woman Decieving themselves!
now I know why you wroted your WAEC 7 times before you made your five papers

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Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by Cooleasy(m): 11:14am On Mar 13, 2022
thatsleepboy1:
It is not a sin and God himself approved it.

2 Samuel 12:8

“. . . And I gave . . . wives into thy bosom . . .”

Exodus 22:16

“And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife.”

In the above case, the sex came before the marriage and there is no condemnation. In other words, in God’s plan, whether you are married or not, if you touch a woman, you must take her as wife. But note that this must be a single lady. If you touch a married woman, you’re as good as dead and that is the real definition of adultery for men. That is why God kept silent while David married one woman after another but became angry when David touched Uriah’s wife. And guess who Uriah’s wife is? Her name is Bathsheba, the mother of Solomon. I meant to say King Solomon, whom God gave the pet name Jedidah shortly after he was born. 2 Samuel 12:25. Yet some churches will force a polygamous man to ditch his lawfully married second or third wife and more or less abandon his children because he had “accepted Christ.”

What a pity!

What perfect manifestation of the reason for the divine lamentation in Hosea 4:6:

“My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.”

Do you understand what it means for a whole people to be destroyed? God is making it clear that lack of knowledge (and not even an invading army) is sufficient to cause such a calamity.

How can God accept Bathsheba, bless her with children, and make her son king (even as wife Number 7) and then a pastor or church will literally destroy a family because he and his church have been made to believe that strict monogamy is the only biblical form of marriage and that polygamy is a sin?

Many Pastors know that polygamy is not a sin. I meant to say many pastors who read their Bible with an independent mind. Even Pastor Matthew Ashimolowo of KICC has publicly come out and said polygamy is not a sin. But whether or not Pastor Ashimolowo says that, it remains a fact. It’s just that, like the celebration of Christmas which many now know to be based on a purely pagan holiday, the issue of permissible polygamy is more or less a taboo topic. Even for those who know it to be biblical, expressing their opinion is socially dangerous due to the possibility of ostracism.

People are under the mistaken notion that polygamy is tantamount to giving men “license to kill.”

Wrong.

If the only car in your village is an old jalopy that has to be cajoled and threatened and then pushed down a steep slope before the engine can start, you may hate cars. But when you come into the city and experience how sleek a good car can be, you are most likely to have a paradigm shift.

Because they follow tradition rather than the Bible, most Christians do not understand what biblical polygamy looks like. So they must mentally assume it is exactly like what their Moslem neighbours practice – or what misguided Christians practice.

The polygamy of Islam is vastly different from that of Christianity for several reasons. I will highlight just a few of these reasons:

1. Whether in polygamy or monogamy, the Bible forbids casual divorce. Casual divorce is divorcing your spouse for any reason other than sexual unfaithfulness. No matter how stubborn she is (or troublesome, or lazy, or insolent, or whatever) God expects a man to retain marriage to a woman forever and simply endure the situation if unpalatable. The same goes for a woman. I’m aware that, in Islam, a man may divorce his wife for reasons other than sexual unfaithfulness. This means that a Moslem man can engineer a civil war in his home just to kick one of his wives out and replace her with another. You may find it interesting to know that this was exactly what some of the Jews were doing and this was what Christ spoke against. Do you remember the sly question of the Pharisees?

Matthew 19:3

“The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?”

And Christ’s answer was that, except for sexual unfaithfulness, no man should put asunder what God had joined together because, in the beginning, God made them male and female and commanded the man to leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife through marriage. Christ was only emphasizing and reemphasizing the sacredness of the marriage bond. He was not talking about the case of a man marrying more than one wife because that was not the question. People should stop being creative and patently crafty, all in an attempt to sustain a doctrine that cannot be found anywhere in the Bible – Old or New Testament.

The fact that the God of the Bible forbids divorce except in cases of sex outside of marriage is peripheral evidence that, in His eyes, sex is equivalent to marriage. You can read that statement again. In God’s eyes, you cannot have sex with a woman (whether you are married or not) and just move on. You must marry her. The only way out of this situation is where a circumstance beyond your control comes up. Such as when the father of the lady utterly refuses to give her away. The Bible says so:

Exodus 22:17

“If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins.”

There are also special cases where a direct command from God (like in the case of Abraham and Haggai) results in divorce. There are always special cases in the Bible.

When I explained this situation to one of my friends (who, with all due respect, can accurately be described as a womanizer), he saw the catch-22 and realized that permitting biblical polygamy will restrict men rather than give them the so-called license to kill. According to this friend of mine, men will be running away from women. This guy knows what he is talking about. As a bona fide Casanova, he knows that long term commitment is poison to someone who wants to have casual sex. But the deal in the Bible is this: any woman you touch, you have to take. The fact is that the incentive for adultery or any form of casual sex is the lack of commitment in it. When a man realizes that he has to marry any woman he has sex with, believe me, he will have bones in that boneless part of his body. Talk about divine wisdom. God, Who created men, know how powerful the sex drive in them is. To curtail it, He only permits sex in marriage. To manage cases of accidental discharge, He gives the man the chance to do the right thing after an accidental discharge. Marry the woman. Simple truth.

Many men had this accidental discharge when they were still too young to take responsibility for a woman. But because they did not know the Bible and their pastors were either equally ignorant or just afraid of telling them the truth, these young men abandoned the ladies they had defiled — in some cases even forcing them to abort babies. How many babies would have been saved if young men were taught that accidental discharge does not take God by surprise. But, in order not to allow it degenerate into sin, you must marry the lady. You must surely marry her. Notice the “surely” in the command.

Exodus 22:16

“And if a man entices a maid that is not betrothed and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife.”

2. Apart from protecting women from abuse by forbidding casual divorce, the Bible puts another condition on polygamy. This is another thing that differentiates biblical polygamy from the Islamic version. Sanusi Lamido Sanusi (former Governor of the Central Bank of Nigeria) publicly expressed his dismay a few years ago about very poor Moslem men marrying up to four wives, even though they are so poor they cannot comfortably feed themselves. This type of situation is virtually impossible in the case of biblical polygamy. For you to “take another” wife in biblical polygamy, you must have the capacity to not only take care of her but of the other wife also. The Bible codifies the things you must be able to take care of as including her food, her clothes, and you also have to grant her her conjugal right (duty of marriage). Conjugal right is the right of a spouse to have sex with their partner.

Exodus 21:10

“And if he take him another wife, her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish.”

People must realize that God takes sexual sin seriously. How do I know that? From my reading of the Bible, I have not seen a list of sins more wide-ranging and extensive than the list of sexual sins. The Bible forbids fornication; the Bible forbids adultery; the Bible forbids homosexuality; the Bible forbids incest; the Bible forbids bestiality; the Bible forbids sex with your maternal auntie, your paternal auntie, your cousin, your daughter in-law, and the list goes on. If polygamy is sinful, it will be the strangest thing for God not to have mentioned it because polygamy was not strange in those days. Consider the statements below and ponder upon them with your God-given intelligence.

A. God forbids casual divorce, forbids prostitution, restricts sex to marriage; commands marriage in case of sex with an unmarried lady, permits the marrying of more than one wife, and forbids homosexuality and the other acts of sexual deviancy like homosexuality already mentioned above. Leviticus 18; Leviticus 19:29.

B. Society permits and promotes casual divorce, permits and promotes prostitution and validates prostitutes — to the extent of giving them the fancy name of commercial sex workers. Society forbids the marrying of more than one wife, permits casual sex, and, of course, permits homosexuality and other types of sexual deviancy like bestiality.

Note the hinge:

Disallow polygamy = allow casual divorce, allow prostitution, and allow all the other deviations from the natural order (bestiality, homosexuality, etc.) that are now common.

Allow polygamy = forbid casual divorce, forbid prostitution, and forbid all the other deviations from the natural order (bestiality, homosexuality, etc.) that are now common.

Which of the two systems respects women, upholds their dignity, protects them from abuse, and forces men to zip up?

Do women have any real value in today’s society? Have you seen how they are debased in hip hop videos? God is wise; Satan is crafty and terribly wicked. To destroy you, he first deceives you. Much of the world is absolutely deceived about this issue. I’m sorry to say that women are the prime victims of this false ideology of marriage. Unfortunately, the greatest resistance to the truth of the matter is most likely to come from them.

In God’s economy, a woman is of so great a value that she cannot be used and dumped by any man — no matter his rank and power. The divine logic seems to be this: if she is good enough for you to have sex with, then she is good enough to be your wife. If, on the other hand, she is not good enough to be your wife, leave her alone. There is a man out there who will love her enough to marry her. If you want her for sex but don’t want her as a wife, then all you want is her body. You want to use her the way you use tissue paper — dump it in the trash can after use. Who do you think you are to treat a being made in God’s image that way?

Leviticus 19:29

“Do not prostitute thy daughter, to cause her to be a LovePeddler; lest the land fall to whoredom, and the land become full of wickedness.”

By forbidding prostitution, God also made it impossible for men to have casual sex, which debases the soul and is referred to as whoremongering in the Bible. Prostitution is one of the best gifts society has given to men. And women are the prime victims. For a little amount, a man will have the legal right to take away from a woman her womanhood and that which is most precious to her. The way women are wired, they will not willingly have sex with a man they do not love. But prostitution takes away this natural inhibition and turns a woman into a veritable daughter of Satan. Concerning her, these are the words of the Bible, through the pen of Wise King Solomon:

Proverbs 7:26
“For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong men have been slain by her.”

Men love sex because that is the way they were wired. A man can happily have sex with a woman he does not care about or respects or desires to be seen with in public. For him, it is like visiting the john to relieve himself. God knows this and gave laws to curtail this natural desire. If prostitution is made a capital offense punishable by death, believe you me, the other option will have to be polygamy. Thus, it is not a coincidence that so-called Christian nations (which forbid polygamy) allow brothels and prostitution and rampant casual sex, where a man will keep one wife and have a variable number of mistresses. God knows this but Satan has deceived men into thinking polygamy is such a bad thing. Satan’s strategy is to make sexual purity impossible for as many men as possible by denying good candidates for polygamy the knowledge that polygamy is biblical.

One of my clients (name withheld) is the son of a man who had 3 wives. As far as this man is concerned, his father is one of the most godly men he has ever known. This man is an adulterer (men have no problems confessing their adultery to one another) and so I advised him to marry the woman in question we were talking about. He casually laughed off the idea and remarked that, if he did that, his wife would kill him. So he continues to be the husband of one wife while being a sex partner of several other women. Society does not care. But it is not society that will judge you on the last day. God will. So think carefully.

Sex is not the only issue in polygamy

There are at least 6 reasons in the Bible for polygamy.

1. Delay in child bearing (as in the case of the father of prophet Samuel)

2. Love (as in the case of Jacob and Rachel)

3. Levirate Law (when a brother dies without having a child)

4. Accidental discharge (when, for any reason or group of reasons, a man touches a woman that he is not lawfully supposed to touch).

5. Libido (when a man’s sexual prowess demands more than one woman, especially in view of the fact that women have many sexually inactive days but a man is always ready to roll).

6. Adoption of a widow (as in when, to both protect and provide for a widow, the best thing may be to marry her, as in the case of David and Abigail).

Of all the above, note that only number 5 is purely about sex. If a man has the means and the libido, God is perfectly ok with that man marrying more than one wife so as to unleash his virility within the marriage circle rather than indulge in what we refer to in Nigeria as “away matches”. Marrying more than one wife instead of being a player is righteousness in God’s sight. What he will consider evil is for a man to use a woman as a tool for gratifying sexual pleasure with no intention of marrying her. Another thing He will consider evil is for a man to have another man’s wife. In fact, God is so dead set against touching another man’s wife that, even if she is only engaged, the punishment due for touching her is as severe as that reserved for touching a married woman.

James 4:17
“Therefore, to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin.”

Acts 17:30
“And the times of this ignorance God winked at; but now commandeth all men everywhere to repent.”

We are all sinners and whatever is past is past. God is ready for a new deal with you if you are serious about sexual purity. If you are wealthy enough and want to marry more than one wife, don’t allow society force you to live in sin by constantly lying to your wife, living a double life, searing your conscience, and locking yourself outside heaven’s gate. Be bold. No matter what people may say, do the honorable thing. Marry. This arrangement does appear unfair to women (that much I must admit) but, as the Americans would say, it is what it is. I did not create man and did not write the Bible. However, I believe in God and believe the Bible. Moreover, I have the courage to believe the Bible even if I’m the only one that holds my opinion. It’s not pride; it’s exercising my God-given freewill. It is better to marry and incur the wrath of society than to live in sin and lose salvation. The other option is to stop gallivanting and remain faithful to your spouse. And all things are possible to him that believes. But the way out for some men must have to be polygamy. Mark my words: casual sex will lead to hell and many will find this out at the wrong time.

Some men (even with this knowledge) will never marry another wife because they married the woman they love, they have the self-control to prevent accidental discharge, and they do not qualify for polygamy based on any of the other six biblical reasons already stated above. This is the ideal marriage — between one man and one woman, until death separates them. But to teach that men who marry more than one wife have obtained a one-way ticket to hell is a lie. That teaching is not from the Bible.

Some children of God are rich enough to acquire private jets. But they choose not to. They consider that, although they can afford that luxury, they would rather utilize that humongous amount of cash in helping others. So they buy a hundred cars and give to others, denying themselves a luxury they can afford. Just because polygamy is permissible does not mean it is expedient.

1 Corinthians 6:12
“All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient:”

The history of some marriages makes the idea of polygamy very horrible and absolutely ill-advised. So every man will have to decide what is best. A godly man will mind the things of God and not indulge even in permissible things. But, like the Bible says, it is better to marry than to burn. With the assault on men’s sensibilities through the outlandish dressing of women these days, men must take seriously the words of Christ: if your right eye causes you to offend, cut it off. If you are lustful, you must tackle lust by cutting off your eyes. Do not assume that polygamy is a cure for lust. From all indications, King Solomon was activated by lust in his extreme polygamy. And you will be amazed to realize that, although God permits polygamy (adding of wives), He forbids the multiplication of wives, which seems to be what Solomon did.

Deuteronomy 17:16, 17

“But he shall not multiply horses to himself . . . Neither shall he multiply wives to himself.”

The above law was given to kings perhaps because kings represented the wealthy class – who, based on the Bible, can afford to practice polygamy. In the view of the Bible, polygamy is not for poor men. If you cannot afford to take care of another woman, do not even think about it. This is why virtually all the cases of polygamy highlighted in the Bible involves kings. They are good examples of people for whom the capacity to provide for additional wives will not be an issue. The same is the case with any man in today’s world with enough resources.

When polygamy is based on pure lust without the fear of God, it will lead to the thousand-wife scenario of King Solomon, especially in a case where stupendous wealth is available to the man.

Culled from https://www.opinionnigeria.com/the-best-kept-secret-in-the-bible-is-that-polygamy-is-biblical-by-joe-dauda/

What I have learnt today from reading your write up and how it opened my eyes, hmmmm! Guy, you know how to argue convincingly. Respect!

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Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by VULCAN(m): 11:17am On Mar 13, 2022
This is rich, coming from someone who looks up to Buhari as a performer and a god he can see now looking down at people who look into an invisible deity.


helinues:
So people still look up to all this fairy tale books to make personal decision that would affect their lives?
Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by UtuokeAlcoholic: 11:17am On Mar 13, 2022
malvisguy212:
from Genesis, when God created man and woman, automatically , marraige was design, one man and his wife. God never told Abraham, isaac , Jacob ,David etc to marry more than one wife. and God will not override your will. and all this names above, there marriage is full with up and down.
And where did the Bible categorically say that man must marry one wife. Don't tell me the bullshit that God created Adam and created one wife (Eve) for him. If it is about creation of male and female, every living and non living things are in pairs (I.e male and female), not only Adam and Eve. Abraham, isaac , Jacob ,David etc are now sinners and are burning in hell fire for marrying more than one wife? I'm waiting for you to point a single non ambiguous statement in the Bible where it is said man must not marry more than one wife.

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Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by Apexmoh: 11:19am On Mar 13, 2022
Starzo:

Many have said worse than this. You're not the first nor will you be the last.You're just one in a legion of insignificant hateful ignoramuses.
In other words, u are trying to say christ-satanity and it's holy bible or holy bubble that ve gone through different transformation, reconstruction & proof-reading are actually work of fiction & fairy tales, in simple term Tom & Jerry.
Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by Afonasa(m): 11:21am On Mar 13, 2022
Honestly I can't find where its really condemned, its really a big topic

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Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by gaby(m): 11:23am On Mar 13, 2022
Righteousness2:
GOD'S Standard from the beginning remains One man one wife.
GOD'S Standard is HE hates Divorce.

Jacob, Solomon , Religion, Society or whoever are not the standard. The Word of GOD is the Standard .

Read Matthew 19: 4-9 to know GOD'S Standard!

And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them Male and Female .
(Not Male and Females or Vice versa)

And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his Wife(Not Wives): and they twain shall be one flesh?

Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?

He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.

And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.


Anything apart from GOD'S Standard is SIN. It is Fornication, Adultery and Man/ woman Decieving themselves!

Lies..
Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by Mitsurugi(m): 11:33am On Mar 13, 2022
Dtruthspeaker:


"He Made them male and female" is The Law! Not male and females.

This sin started because Lamech, grandson of the son of evil, Cain, did it.

Exactly as that pigeon bastard who killed and ate a pigeon has now done. Now some other idiot down the line will think it is ok to eat pigeons, yet wondering why it is wrong.

https://www.nairaland.com/7020892/caught-pigeon-flying-room-cooked#110865320

This is the case of "i have done it and see God did not punish me."

Not knowing or hearing what God hath Said "Nevertheless, IN THE DAY WHEN I VISIT, I Will Visit their Sin Upon Them"


And what happens to the part of the Bible where God made legal provisions for those who marry 2 wives in the book of Deutoronomy?
Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by VULCAN(m): 11:35am On Mar 13, 2022
If you were better educated you would not make such daft generalisations.

The topic is on whether polygamy is forbidden or not in Christianity.

Just because you cannot formulate or express a sensible argument for or against the topic doesn't give you the right to bash Christianity.

To show how weak you are in comprehension, you left the matter of wives and moved to side chicks.

The two men you mentioned who are worth countless millions, do they represent the average Christian man who is a salary earner or a small business owner? If they do not why then attack Christians by calling us hypocrites then go ahead and use them as examples

Foolish man.


Handsum64:
Christians are just hypocrites

Check most of their preachers and be amazed at the retinue of side chicks they keep with tithes and offerings proceeds

Apostle Johnson Suleiman and Abiodun Fatoyinbo representing
Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by Mitsurugi(m): 11:36am On Mar 13, 2022
OlawaleBammie:


Which jujment day??

Are u telling me that Abraham, David, Solomon, and the rest are in hellfire as we speak??

I wonder o
Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by OlawaleBammie: 11:41am On Mar 13, 2022
Mitsurugi:


I wonder o
nowadays Christians dey do as if dem not dey tink, maybe their brains are dead.

The west that brought the religion to us are telling us that polygamy is a sin, but they are telling us homosexualities is nothing. Can u see how anipulative they are??

Brother, if u have the means and resources and u see that u have a genuine need to marry a second wife u better do??

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Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by Backlaw406(m): 11:44am On Mar 13, 2022
GreatAxeMan:
Because since he's a mûdslîmé whose entire religion was plagiarized from the Bible, I don't have to counter anything.

Hahaha.
So, you mean, "typical of pot calling kettle black"
Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by malvisguy212: 11:45am On Mar 13, 2022
UtuokeAlcoholic:
And where did the Bible categorically say that man must marry one wife. Don't tell me the bullshit that God created Adam and created one wife (Eve) for him. If it is about creation of male and female, every living and non living things are in pairs (I.e male and female), not only Adam and Eve. Abraham, isaac , Jacob ,David etc are now sinners and are burning in hell fire for marrying more than one wife? I'm waiting for you to point a single non ambiguous statement in the Bible where it is said man must not marry more than one wife.
the book of Genesis gives us a picture of the marriage bond before sin entered the world:

“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” Genesis 2:24

God command was to populate the earth , if God want this to be done quickly, don't you think He will have to create man and many women ? but you wonder why he created one man and woman, because he want to forestshadow marriage from the beginning.
Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by Acidbath: 11:47am On Mar 13, 2022
Solomon and co...were they Christians?

Una leave the teachings of Christ go dey look Judaism practice. Na Una Sabi.

Boko harram never teach Una lesson.
Re: Does The Bible Really Condemn Marrying More Than One Wife? by malvisguy212: 11:47am On Mar 13, 2022
gaskiyamagana:

God never told them to marry more than one wife, but did He ever condemn them t for marrying more than one?
Yes sir .....Ka tabata kana dai gaskiya allah ah zuchiya ka ?

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