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Re: I'm Feeling Bad For My Action. My Spirit Is Down by Acidosis(m): 10:37am On Mar 18, 2022

I don't think your decision is inappropriate since it's important to keep your business running.

As a matter of fact, your brother is somewhat insensitive. He should be grateful that someone volunteered his resources to sponsor your business. The least he could have done as a "responsible" brother was to encourage you to move the generator.

However, your approach to the matter or the way you went about moving the gen (e.g. without his knowledge) is probably the issue here. Search your heart. Let no one deceive you.

Re: I'm Feeling Bad For My Action. My Spirit Is Down by Gloriagee(f): 10:59am On Mar 18, 2022

Business before pleasure.....

lalalista:
Hello all,

Now here's why I'm down.

I was staying with my siblings before, I bought generator and rechargeable fan with my money while with them, now I'm in a serious relationship that will lead to marriage. My fiancee set up a business for me. I've been staying with my fiance for 6 months because my business center is close to his house. For 2 months now, no light in my shop because of some unresolved bill issues. My fiancee is having some challenges in his business so he couldn't buy me a gen. I needed a generator badly, so I decided to go and pick that my generator that I left with my siblings. My brother is making me feel like a bad person. He said I'm not supposed to take the gen. That what do I want compound people to think? That it's not fair. Since then, I've been feeling like I did something bad and like I'm a cruel person. Was I wrong to have taken the generator?

Re: I'm Feeling Bad For My Action. My Spirit Is Down by Saintmary(f): 11:06am On Mar 18, 2022

lalalista:
Hello all,

Now here's why I'm down.

I was staying with my siblings before, I bought generator and rechargeable fan with my money while with them, now I'm in a serious relationship that will lead to marriage. My fiancee set up a business for me. I've been staying with my fiance for 6 months because my business center is close to his house. For 2 months now, no light in my shop because of some unresolved bill issues. My fiancee is having some challenges in his business so he couldn't buy me a gen. I needed a generator badly, so I decided to go and pick that my generator that I left with my siblings. My brother is making me feel like a bad person. He said I'm not supposed to take the gen. That what do I want compound people to think? That it's not fair. Since then, I've been feeling like I did something bad and like I'm a cruel person. Was I wrong to have taken the generator?

Apologize profusely over your actions and promise to make it up to him.

Buy him gifts in the future, keep your heart pure and face front.

As for your living arrangements, I sincerely hope everything works out fine. Though I don't approve of cohabitation but I'm not God to judge you.

Peace.

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Re: I'm Feeling Bad For My Action. My Spirit Is Down by Richy4(m): 11:44am On Mar 18, 2022

Ahmed0336:
Any young man that likes enjoyment should know how to get it.

I agree with you on this particular submission of yours believe me... But your previous post gave me some concern on how you recklessly declared OP's younger brother lazy...That makes me wonder the criteria u use measuring lazy people or tagging someone as lazy.

There are so many hard working individuals who cannot afford a car... They are working in various organisation....does that mean they are lazy?

There are some who desires to own their own house... they cannot afford one but they are hard working... I guess judging by your previous submission, they are lazy...

What I am trying to say is...Try and look before you leap...U cannot use 2 feet to check the depth of a river.. Ask questions first to know the circumstances surrounding the situation one is in first... before jumping into conclusion....
Cheers Buddy..

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Re: I'm Feeling Bad For My Action. My Spirit Is Down by bigjackass: 1:10pm On Mar 18, 2022

lalalista:
he has so many rooms in the house he built. I took one

even if you are sleeping on the same bed with him, always resist the urge to be on the defensive undecided

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Re: I'm Feeling Bad For My Action. My Spirit Is Down by GloriousGbola: 2:05pm On Mar 18, 2022

It's the Buhari economy.
Not your fault

I have given away / sold some things to friends at a discount that I regret now due to the shrinking economy. (in hindsight it would have been better to hold onto them as backups)

If you had enough disposable income, you would have bought a new generator.

It is what it is.

Best you can do is add some money for them when they are buying their own generator

It is always important to keep in mind who actually owns what. Situation can change in a flash

But be careful ooo
If your man fall your hand, you will end up looking very foolish

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Re: I'm Feeling Bad For My Action. My Spirit Is Down by Ahmed0336(m): 2:29pm On Mar 18, 2022

Richy4:
I agree with you on this particular submission of yours believe me... But your previous post gave me some concern on how you recklessly declared OP's younger brother lazy...That makes me wonder the criteria u use measuring lazy people or tagging someone as lazy.

There are so many hard working individuals who cannot afford a car... They are working in various organisation....does that mean they are lazy?

There are some who desires to own their own house... they cannot afford one but they are hard working... I guess judging by your previous submission, they are lazy...

What I am trying to say is...Try and look before you leap...U cannot use 2 feet to check the depth of a river.. Ask questions first to know the circumstances surrounding the situation one is in first... before jumping into conclusion....
Cheers Buddy..

Thank you so much for the mature reply.

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Re: I'm Feeling Bad For My Action. My Spirit Is Down by oazeez1991(m): 3:57pm On Mar 18, 2022

Whether ur act was wrong or right, the deed has been done already. U can't undo it. It's normal ur brother felt the way he did, that's being sentimental in his own part, hence, guilt tripping u, likewise it's normal the way u now feel i.e. feeling guilty, most people would do. At times we do things, thinking it's the right and normal thing to do, not until someone observe and point our attention to why such act of ours isn't fair, that is when we tend to now see it from their point of view and agree with them, but such realization could only be put to use some other time, it's no longer valid on the subject matter. That's just the situation you are in.

Just talk the affected individuals, ur brother especially into reason why u did what u did, if the circumstances that surrounded the said property was different, u might not need to, but based on what u narrated, u need to so as not to look like an ingrate.

Re: I'm Feeling Bad For My Action. My Spirit Is Down by KosiGee(m): 6:46pm On Mar 18, 2022

My fiancee set up a business for me. I've been staying with my fiance for 6 months because my business center is close to his house.

Are you bisexual or a hermaphrodite?

Re: I'm Feeling Bad For My Action. My Spirit Is Down by salisuammy(f): 7:59pm On Mar 18, 2022

When you have money, get him a small generator

Re: I'm Feeling Bad For My Action. My Spirit Is Down by 9182736455O1999(m): 9:59pm On Mar 18, 2022

Op wait first o, what type of business is it. let us be sure first.

Re: I'm Feeling Bad For My Action. My Spirit Is Down by TheWolfen(m): 11:10pm On Mar 18, 2022

house10s2:
am confuse with the fiancee and fiance

fiancee set up a business for me.

I've been staying with my fiance

Likewise lol

Re: I'm Feeling Bad For My Action. My Spirit Is Down by ImaIma1(f): 12:15am On Mar 19, 2022

lalalista:
Hello all,

Now here's why I'm down.

I was staying with my siblings before, I bought generator and rechargeable fan with my money while with them, now I'm in a serious relationship that will lead to marriage. My fiancee set up a business for me. I've been staying with my fiance for 6 months because my business center is close to his house. For 2 months now, no light in my shop because of some unresolved bill issues. My fiancee is having some challenges in his business so he couldn't buy me a gen. I needed a generator badly, so I decided to go and pick that my generator that I left with my siblings. My brother is making me feel like a bad person. He said I'm not supposed to take the gen. That what do I want compound people to think? That it's not fair. Since then, I've been feeling like I did something bad and like I'm a cruel person. Was I wrong to have taken the generator?

Let's assume the you bought the TV your siblings are using in the house you used to stay with them. And the tv in your fiance's house goes bad. Will you go and take the one at your siblings place since you bought it with your money. ?

You bought the gen for the house. Going to carry it from there isn't really the best thing to do.

Re: I'm Feeling Bad For My Action. My Spirit Is Down by lalalista(op): 9:16am On Mar 19, 2022

ImaIma1:
Let's assume the you bought the TV your siblings are using in the house you used to stay with them. And the tv in your fiance's house goes bad. Will you go and take the one at your siblings place since you bought it with your money. ?

You bought the gen for the house. Going to carry it from there isn't really the best thing to do.

who said I bought it for the house? I bought it for myself. my comfort. The heat was much, they never thought of buying it, till I decided to go and buy it

Re: I'm Feeling Bad For My Action. My Spirit Is Down by Mariangeles: 9:20am On Mar 19, 2022*

lalalista:
who said I bought it for the house? I bought it for myself. my comfort. The heat was much, they never thought of buying it, till I decided to go and buy it

They? Who are they?
Weren't you all living and sharing everything together?
So what you bought it?

You see that you're selfish after all.

Re: I'm Feeling Bad For My Action. My Spirit Is Down by ImaIma1(f): 10:54am On Mar 19, 2022

lalalista:
who said I bought it for the house? I bought it for myself. my comfort. The heat was much, they never thought of buying it, till I decided to go and buy it

Ok. You bought it for yourself, with your money, for your comfort and not for the house. So why are you feeling bad that you went to carry your property?

Re: I'm Feeling Bad For My Action. My Spirit Is Down by Ybholy(m): 2:33pm On Mar 19, 2022

In January, you're pregnant for the same man and never want to keep it. After all, u tell us you're not.

Now, you're trying to sneek into the man house and forcefully trynna be a wife while attacking your brothers.

Carry that gen Back. Let the man that wants to marry u get you a small gen.

You cannot tell me he has not been making expenses and luxury life to the tune of 50k to 100k in the last two or three weeks.

Let him save up and give u the money to get a gen. Better leave that his house, forget the reason of he has so many rooms and all that. If you're in one of his room and not married. It's better he rent an apartment for you closer to your working place or keep using your money on transport and protect your mental health.

If the man sees you're disturbing him or getting closer to him without him wanting that, you'll be a disturbance to him and thereby losing interest or sense of spending for u. Know this and know peace.

Stop using irrelevant points to back ur actions. You know the truth

Re: I'm Feeling Bad For My Action. My Spirit Is Down by lalalista(op): 4:14pm On Mar 19, 2022

Ybholy:
In January, you're pregnant for the same man and never want to keep it. After all, u tell us you're not.

Now, you're trying to sneek into the man house and forcefully trynna be a wife while attacking your brothers.

Carry that gen Back. Let the man that wants to marry u get you a small gen.

You cannot tell me he has not been making expenses and luxury life to the tune of 50k to 100k in the last two or three weeks.

Let him save up and give u the money to get a gen. Better leave that his house, forget the reason of he has so many rooms and all that. If you're in one of his room and not married. It's better he rent an apartment for you closer to your working place or keep using your money on transport and protect your mental health.

If the man sees you're disturbing him or getting closer to him without him wanting that, you'll be a disturbance to him and thereby losing interest or sense of spending for u. Know this and know peace.

Stop using irrelevant points to back ur actions. You know the truth

you're raving mad. You are a bastard and it will never be well with you. I was pregnant for your father, you didn't know? Idiot. I'm in my man's house. Come and beat me. Ode. I will keep staying here as long as I like, if it pains you, hit your head on the wall and collapse. U don't know how to carry rope and drag the gen from me?. Come and carry it na. Stupid, jobless fool telling me what to do. Dimwit.

Re: I'm Feeling Bad For My Action. My Spirit Is Down by Ybholy(m): 4:26pm On Mar 19, 2022

lalalista:
you're raving mad. You are a bastard and it will never be well with you. I was pregnant for your father, you didn't know? Idiot. I'm in my man's house. Come and beat me. Ode. I will keep staying here as long as I like, if it pains you, hit your head on the wall and collapse. U don't know how to carry rope and drag the gen from me?. Come and carry it na. Stupid, jobless fool telling me what to do. Dimwit.

I will still quote u when u come back to use ur remaining data to complain about the outcome.

Ladies brain never get OTA update. That's why they see red flags and always cover it up with the pretext of love.

Whatever, I wish u best and good luck.

But since your action of Taking the gen is bothering u, then u didn't do it in the right way and u know what I'm saying.

You can't even convince me that you're the one taking care of the gen since u bought it - services, fuel & oil changes.

You can't even convince me that your moving into the man house (in a room where he has so many rooms as you said grin

as if he's not still coming to that room to bang u at his will. hahaha grin

) is not against your brothers will or u didn't even discuss it with them.

Madam, u know what best for u. Do the right things and u will have enough peace. Bye

Re: I'm Feeling Bad For My Action. My Spirit Is Down by lalalista(op): 4:40pm On Mar 19, 2022*

Ybholy:
I will still quote u when u come back to use ur remaining data to complain about the outcome.

Ladies brain never get OTA update. That's why they see red flags and always cover it up with the pretext of love.

Whatever, I wish u best and good luck.

But since your action of Taking the gen is bothering u, then u didn't do it in the right way and u know what I'm saying.

You can't even convince me that you're the one taking care of the gen since u bought it - services, fuel & oil changes.

You can't even convince me that your moving into the man house (in a room where he has so many rooms as you said as if he's not still coming to that room to bang u at his will. hahaha ) is not against your brothers will or u didn't even discuss it with them.

Madam, u know what best for u. Do the right things and u will have enough peace. Bye

we bang each other every day both morning, afternoon and night, infact I have moved into his own room sef for easy banging. come and beat me or arrest me. Can you even afford to buy a gen yourself? Hungry goat telling me how to run my life. Jobless fool, you don't have work. Be monitoring my life

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