Hello moderators kindly move this topic to frontpage please and please.

I am a lady of 47 years.
I never knew my life would turn out this way, I never knew I would get to even 30 years without getting married not to talk of 47 years.
Well, for the benefits of doubts, I am super pretty and gorgeous, I am educated at least I have my first degree and one or two professional qualifications.
Nothing I did ever came out productive, I lived all my life struggling to make ends meet and attain the life I ever prayed and desired for, but to no avail.
I worked in the bank for several years and came out with absolutely nothing to show for it, worst of it is, my outlook never agree with my situation, people see me and beg me for money thinking I am okay not knowing I don't even know where my next meal will come from, I get cheated each time I buy stuff because I look rich to them sometimes I weep before the sellers when I discover I am being cheated until they become confused.

I have never in my life been choosy about a life partner Incase anyone may think I was been selective.
No man ever asked for my hand in marriage until I got to 39 years,I had good relationships that never resulted to anything, at the beginning of any relationship the men could literally lick my feet and move mountains for me, but eventually it ends in premium tears for me.
I have had opportunity to mingle with the low and high class, I only succeed in going around the circle of high class without even touching it myself.

I have tried my hands on so many things but it failed just to ensure I don't beg and to put food on my table.
I have prayed all the prayers I know, done all the deliverance I know and yet nothing.
I feel so depressed that that sometimes thoughts of suicide goes through my mind.
I feel sorry for myself and I always wonder if anything good can come out of my life again.
Sometimes I think about trying to have a child or two because my menstrual cycle is still very much on, but the thoughts of bringing a child into the world without any plan on ground make me to think twice, when feeding
myself is even a big challenge.
All my siblings are happily married with children and that I am grateful to God for, I only find myself going for omugo year in year out and now I have become big mummy with no career, no job, no child, no husband.
Sometimes I wish it could be a bad dream I should wake up from.

Iam just there getting beautifully old.
Now I understand why a lot of people commit suicide, especially when the light at the end of the tunnel takes too long and becomes bleak to reach.

I need someone out there to pray for me sincerely from their ❤️ I am loosing it already.
Nothing make sense to me anymore!

Can God still come through for me?
Can God still make me laugh the way he made Hannah and Serah to laugh?
Please someone should give me an answer.

Damn! Sorry.

@creepsyme, yes there is still hope for you. But when desperation set in to ones life, he/she will not be able to think straight.

What we usually missed about life is that we never knew it is seasonal. Like the Scripture says, there is time for everything. You have used up all your youthful season without achieving much, now you need the MASTER of TIME to help you redeem them and move it forward to where you are now. Please not, I am not saying you should go to deliverance. Deliverance is delivered through the WORD of GOD. You must make a firm decision to knowing GOD personally. I can tell you with all conviction that GOD is waiting to TURN YOUR LIFE AROUND.

I will not lie to you, it can get messy if you do not understand the right step and needed sacrifice you must make now to turn your life around. Stop going to Church for going sake and seek why you go to Church. If your reason for going to Church is not seeking to know GOD personally, then you need to pause!

Furthermore, you said in your post you have prayed and yet you are desperate. You said you have prayed and yet you are thinking of suicide. I can tell you that you do not understand what prayer is. I know we do it religiously. Unfortunately, that is wrong. Read Matt 6.

In conclusion, desperation in this season of your life will make things worst. Bear in mind, if you want God's solution, then you must understand God is not a magician. You must go through the the process. But one thing I know for SURE, you will never regret you did.

JESUS LOVES YOU!

Well, live your life.

Keep hope alive. Be optimistic, but plan for the worse.

Life is tough, there's no perfect manual on how to run it.

No help is coming. Don't hope for anyone coming to help you, just live your life and be tough. People would only help if they see you're trying to do something, but don't bank on it.

Get a baby. It would help you refocus and redirect your energy with hope and the joy of re-creating yourself.

Be tough. Good luck.

@Creepsyme, let me add that I just said a prayer for you. It will turn out great for you.

Everybody's mountain will remain unless you move it. Family members join cycles and patterns and if care not taken , die in the same thing that killed the people before them.

REVEREND DAVID OGBUELI SAID IN ONE OF HIS MESSAGES "IF YOU ARE TIRED OF SUFFERING, GO TO THE SPIRIT AND FETCH POWER FOR YOURSELF"


I KNOW NOTHING

Your desires will still be met if you keep trusting God.

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ShenTeh:
Well, live your life.

Keep hope alive. Be optimistic, but plan for the worse.

Life is tough, there's no perfect manual on how to run it.

No help is coming. Don't hope for anyone coming to help you, just live your life and be tough. People would only help if they see you're trying to do something, but don't bank on it.

Get a baby. It would help you refocus and redirect your energy with hope and the joy of re-creating yourself.

Be tough. Good luck.

@Creepsyme, let me add that I just said a prayer for you. It will turn out great for you.

Amen!
Thank you so much.

creepsyme:
Hello moderators kindly move this topic to frontpage please and please.

I am a lady of 47 years.
I never knew my life would turn out this way, I never knew I would get to even 30 years without getting married not to talk of 47 years.
Well, for the benefits of doubts, I am super pretty and gorgeous, I am educated at least I have my first degree and one or two professional qualifications.
Nothing I did ever came out productive, I lived all my life struggling to make ends meet and attain the life I ever prayed and desired for, but to no avail.
I worked in the bank for several years and came out with absolutely nothing to show for it, worst of it is, my outlook never agree with my situation, people see me and beg me for money thinking I am okay not knowing I don't even know where my next meal will come from, I get cheated each time I buy stuff because I look rich to them sometimes I weep before the sellers when I discover I am being cheated until they become confused.

I have never in my life been choosy about a life partner Incase anyone may think I was been selective.
No man ever asked for my hand in marriage until I got to 39 years,I had good relationships that never resulted to anything, at the beginning of any relationship the men could literally lick my feet and move mountains for me, but eventually it ends in premium tears for me.
I have had opportunity to mingle with the low and high class, I only succeed in going around the circle of high class without even touching it myself.

I have tried my hands on so many things but it failed just to ensure I don't beg and to put food on my table.
I have prayed all the prayers I know, done all the deliverance I know and yet nothing.
I feel so depressed that that sometimes thoughts of suicide goes through my mind.
I feel sorry for myself and I always wonder if anything good can come out of my life again.
Sometimes I think about trying to have a child or two because my menstrual cycle is still very much on, but the thoughts of bringing a child into the world without any plan on ground make me to think twice, when feeding
myself is even a big challenge.
All my siblings are happily married with children and that I am grateful to God for, I only find myself going for omugo year in year out and now I have become big mummy with no career, no job, no child, no husband.
Sometimes I wish it could be a bad dream I should wake up from.

Iam just there getting beautifully old.
Now I understand why a lot of people commit suicide, especially when the light at the end of the tunnel takes too long and becomes bleak to reach.

I need someone out there to pray for me sincerely from their ❤️ I am loosing it already.
Nothing make sense to me anymore!

Can God still come through for me?
Can God still make me laugh the way he made Hannah and Serah to laugh?
Please someone should give me an answer.

Sounds like you are battling the spirit of rejection.

Did your dad reject/disapprove of your birth? Did your mother think you are a mistake or unwanted?

Whatever the case might be, your belief in God would come through for you.

It is not over until it is all over.

Job 14:7 For there is hope of a tree, if it be cut down, that it will sprout again, and that the tender branch thereof will not cease. There is no hopeless situation with God. Luke 1:37 says "with God all things are possible". Don't give up. It doesn't matter your situation,your testimony will come. There is no lateness in God. God is impossibility- specialist. That is,God is always a specialist in turning impossible situation to solutions. Luke 21:13 says "It shall turn to you for a testimony". Through you , God is going to show to other people that may be going through what you are going through to give them hope. Your testimony is here. I will add you in my prayers. Please your full name. I just sent you a mail

I think we need to knack ourselves the truth here.

You're late. The only option here is marrying a divorcee or become a second wife.

Or find a small boy and foot his bill. You see how those grandma in the US come over here and easily grab fresh guys.

Your main problem is this career you don't have. At this stage, na money go fit easily remedy your problem. Lots of it Infact.

I pray you find what it is you wish for. Keep pushing as when there's life there's hope

Job 14:7 For there is hope of a tree, if it be cut down, that it will sprout again, and that the tender branch thereof will not cease. There is no hopeless situation with God. Luke 1:37 says "with God all things are possible". Don't give up. It doesn't matter your situation,your testimony will come. There is no lateness in God. God is impossibility- specialist. That is,God is always a specialist in turning impossible situation to solutions. Luke 21:13 says "It shall turn to you for a testimony". Through you , God is going to show to other people that may be going through what you are going through to give them hope. Your testimony is here. I will add you in my prayers. Please your full name.

It is well,maybe you should have a child but from a responsible man.Life’s wahala.My prayers are with you

creepsyme:
I need someone out there to pray for me sincerely from their ❤️ I am loosing it already.
Nothing make sense to me anymore!

Can God still come through for me?
Can God still make me laugh the way he made Hannah and Serah to laugh?
Please someone should give me an answer.

What you need is not necessarily more prayer but instead direction to help you get over your mentality and help you figure out where you best fit at this point in your life. And it is to that end that I recommend you please go see a professional mental health counselor at this point in time. And when I say professional, I mean the kind of help that excludes the mention of God. You are already battling depression, and low sense of self, so you really have nothing to loose.

You are not Hanah, neither are you Sarah. You are you and you need to first figure out who you are as an individual instead of constantly comparing yourself with others including your siblings. Even God never said you are called to live as Hannah did or as Sarah..instead He called you to become like Jesus Christ and Jesus Christ alone. But enough of that stuff.... what you need is to figure out who you are as an individual and only then will you truly be happy. Getting professional mental health counseling can help you achieve that goal.

As for your understanding and hence relationship with God. You have him all wrong since your understanding seems founded on the doctrines and traditions of your mogs and pastors... that is never a good thing. If a relationship with God is what you desire, you need to abandon all you have ever heard or been told of Him, and get back instead of establishing a direct connection with Him by paying attention to what God said and commanded of you.

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Marriage and kids, both of them optional, aren't meant to define you as a person, even though society lies to people that they do. They are meant instead as accessories in life, not definers.

Get to know God, you can't understand life sometimes. He is the hope of the hopeless and in HIM there are no impossibilities.

Truth is man is limited. Do you have a job or transferrable skills or business. Atleast, you need to get something that sustains you.

Kobojunkie:
What you need is necessarily prayer but instead direction to help you get over your mentality and help you figure out where you best fit at this point in your life. And it is to that end that I recommend you please go see a professional mental health counselor at this point in time. And when I say professional, I mean the kind of help that excludes the mention of God. You are already battling depression, and low sense of self, so you really have nothing to loose.

You are not Hanah, neither are you Sarah. You are you and you need to first figure out who you are as an individual instead of constantly comparing yourself with others including your siblings. Even God never said you are called to live as Hannah did or as Sarah..instead He called you to become like Jesus Christ and Jesus Christ alone. But enough of that stuff.... what you need is to figure out who you are as an individual and only then will you truly be happy. Getting professional mental health counseling can help you achieve that goal.

As for your understanding and hence relationship with God. You have him all wrong since your understanding seems founded on the doctrines and traditions of your mogs and pastors... that is never a good thing. If a relationship with God is what you desire, you need to abandon all you have ever heard or been told of Him, and get back instead of establishing a direct connection with Him by paying attention to what God said and commanded of you.

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Marriage and kids, both of them optional, aren't meant to define you as a person, even though society lies to people that they do. They are meant instead as accessories in life, not definers.

Thanks so much I sincerely appreciate.

It's sad that you are going through so much but you need to get yourself really occupied and kill the dejected spirit.

Kobojunkie:
What you need is necessarily prayer but instead direction to help you get over your mentality and help you figure out where you best fit at this point in your life. And it is to that end that I recommend you please go see a professional mental health counselor at this point in time. And when I say professional, I mean the kind of help that excludes the mention of God. You are already battling depression, and low sense of self, so you really have nothing to loose.

You are not Hanah, neither are you Sarah. You are you and you need to first figure out who you are as an individual instead of constantly comparing yourself with others including your siblings. Even God never said you are called to live as Hannah did or as Sarah..instead He called you to become like Jesus Christ and Jesus Christ alone. But enough of that stuff.... what you need is to figure out who you are as an individual and only then will you truly be happy. Getting professional mental health counseling can help you achieve that goal.

As for your understanding and hence relationship with God. You have him all wrong since your understanding seems founded on the doctrines and traditions of your mogs and pastors... that is never a good thing. If a relationship with God is what you desire, you need to abandon all you have ever heard or been told of Him, and get back instead of establishing a direct connection with Him by paying attention to what God said and commanded of you.

---

Marriage and kids, both of them optional, aren't meant to define you as a person, even though society lies to people that they do. They are meant instead as accessories in life, not definers.

Nobody wants to be alone Kobo

AutoChick4U:
Nobody wants to be alone Kobo

She is not alone.... from her very own story she has never been alone. Instead she thinks that the only way to not be alone is to be married and maybe have kids, but that isn't true at all. Changing one's mentality can make one realize this and that is why I suggest she disconnect from thinking of marriage some of cure for what she is struggling with.

Hmmmmm....omoge, getting what you want in this life takes deliberate efforts. Yes pray, but the bulk of it should surround your personal development. How can you be crying on the shoulders of sellers in the market when you perceive yourself being cheated? Who would want to team up their life with you when you sound like you couldn't get a hold of your life as a grownup?It is well o.....you sound like a slow person who is satisfied with little, happens to a lot of bankers and government workers. They spend their most fruitful years on jobs that arent so desirable outside their section....once they outgrow that routine, they become unemployable to other sectors. Biko take time to look for a life coach for some personal and career advice. God will lift you but you must show that you are ready to be lifted.

As for husband....you will find a good one once you get yourself to the point of being good too. No one wants a mature woman whose maturity is without substance. Beauty alone cant cut it. Work on being of substance and all other good things will follow. Good luck baby

Kobojunkie:
She is not alone.... from her very own story she has never been alone. Instead she thinks that the only way to not be alone is to be married and maybe have kids, but that isn't true at all. Changing one's mentality can make one realize this and that is why I suggest she disconnect from thinking of marriage some of cure for what she is struggling with.

well, coming back to an empty house sure is lonely.

AutoChick4U:
well, coming back to an empty house sure is lonely.

There are ways to remedy that these days.

■ Roommates - could be relatives or strangers
■ Adoption

Etc.

creepsyme:
Hello moderators kindly move this topic to frontpage please and please.

I am a lady of 47 years.
I never knew my life would turn out this way, I never knew I would get to even 30 years without getting married not to talk of 47 years.
Well, for the benefits of doubts, I am super pretty and gorgeous, I am educated at least I have my first degree and one or two professional qualifications.
Nothing I did ever came out productive, I lived all my life struggling to make ends meet and attain the life I ever prayed and desired for, but to no avail.
I worked in the bank for several years and came out with absolutely nothing to show for it, worst of it is, my outlook never agree with my situation, people see me and beg me for money thinking I am okay not knowing I don't even know where my next meal will come from, I get cheated each time I buy stuff because I look rich to them sometimes I weep before the sellers when I discover I am being cheated until they become confused.

I have never in my life been choosy about a life partner Incase anyone may think I was been selective.
No man ever asked for my hand in marriage until I got to 39 years,I had good relationships that never resulted to anything, at the beginning of any relationship the men could literally lick my feet and move mountains for me, but eventually it ends in premium tears for me.
I have had opportunity to mingle with the low and high class, I only succeed in going around the circle of high class without even touching it myself.

I have tried my hands on so many things but it failed just to ensure I don't beg and to put food on my table.
I have prayed all the prayers I know, done all the deliverance I know and yet nothing.
I feel so depressed that that sometimes thoughts of suicide goes through my mind.
I feel sorry for myself and I always wonder if anything good can come out of my life again.
Sometimes I think about trying to have a child or two because my menstrual cycle is still very much on, but the thoughts of bringing a child into the world without any plan on ground make me to think twice, when feeding
myself is even a big challenge.
All my siblings are happily married with children and that I am grateful to God for, I only find myself going for omugo year in year out and now I have become big mummy with no career, no job, no child, no husband.
Sometimes I wish it could be a bad dream I should wake up from.

Iam just there getting beautifully old.
Now I understand why a lot of people commit suicide, especially when the light at the end of the tunnel takes too long and becomes bleak to reach.

I need someone out there to pray for me sincerely from their ❤️ I am loosing it already.
Nothing make sense to me anymore!

Can God still come through for me?
Can God still make me laugh the way he made Hannah and Serah to laugh?
Please someone should give me an answer.

All will be well sister. Please don't lose hope. Keep trusting God.

dannex4adx:


All will be well sister. Please don't lose hope. Keep trusting God.

Thank you so much.
I sincerely appreciate.

creepsyme:

Thank you so much.
I sincerely appreciate.

Stop using God as excuse not to do things differently this time around. 47 years is enough to help you realize that what you have been doing all this while is wrong for you.

Please endeavor to abandon old ways and chose to make attempts at tackling these problems using different approaches such as seeking out therapy for your mental health. There is nothing spiritual about any of what you have been dealing with. Only you have been trying to paddle what is your canoe using the mentality common to others. Obviously, your life is different and the cut-&-paste solutions have failed so you need different solution and different approaches.

Kobojunkie:
Stop using God as excuse not to do things differently this time around. 47 years is enough to help you realize that what you have been doing all this while is wrong for you.

Please endeavor to abandon old ways and chose to make attempts at tackling these problems using different approaches such as seeking out therapy for your mental health. There is nothing spiritual about any of what you have been dealing with. Only you have been trying to paddle what is your canoe using the mentality common to others. Obviously, your life is different and the cut-&-paste solutions have failed so you need different solution and different approaches.

Thank you!
I will see to that.

u, mercychen dey same boat . dat one na use n dump use n dump no husband , like u . only difference she 42 . u see, ur own case mild . plenty jobless , unaccomplished ,, use n dump evening newspapers on Nairaland like una . kobojunkie wey dey advice u 4 thread na another . dat one claim she dey abroad 4 over 40 years buh she get notin to show , no husbandd no job only welfare payments . make she no deceive u wit useless advice for thread . aunty , u own case mild , u for thank God

So sorry about your challenges sis. It will surely pass. At the moment, I think the best concentration should be on your personal sef. I would say, forget about husband, leave that at the feet of your creator and if it pleases him that marriage is for you, he will sort it out at the right and unexpected time.

Firstly, you need improvement financially, since you are educated, devote your time now to some online doings like, writing, trading, transcribing and lots more. ( you can learn all these via YouTube)

You might also need to change your location for now if you have the means.

Also, don't neglect gatherings; I mean parties, owanbe, church or mosque programs as the case maybe.

Lastly, always look good and that's why you need your own money.
When you are financially stable and serious man is not forthcoming and you want babies, you can opt for sperm donor or whatever means.

All in all, just be happy! Everything is vanity actually!!

My dear, no body has it all in life and life does not always go as planned. Many people have married over 50 and had children of their own so relax. Can you please take time to think and sincerely ask or evaluate what you have done wrong in life so far when it comes to your job? You are 47, what do you think you are really good at that you can do as a business? It is more important for now to be financially stable.

If a husband is not forth coming, lots of beautiful children out there in need of love that you can adopt. I also believe that your presentation and outlook on life affects how others see you! I wish you all the luck dear. Cheer up, look good and go to public places where you can meet people. Make friends that will invite you to parties and introduce you to potential partners who are good people.

Honestly, I absolutely don't see why you are bothered. Marriage is not something you can control or influence as a woman. Women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gatekeepers of commitment. The decision to marry ultimately lies In the man's hands so if no man has proposed yet you can't kill yourself na.

Not everyone believes in destiny or that life is a script but I do and I believe that we should not worry about the things we have no control about. Love, marriage and relationships are one of them besides it's not too late for you. The present American vice president married in her 50s. I have also attended two recent marriages of my mom's colleagues who got married in their 50s.

I don't see why you are bothered honestly. This isn't a problem at all.