creepsyme:

I truly appreciate the time you took in responding to me, I feel so ventilated.
Firstly, concerning the issues of my finance, I noticed while I worked in the bank I made series of errors that got me paying monies, no matter the department I am being transfered to.
Secondly, I was literally the only one working in my family, it may interest you to know that I am from a family of 10, 3 boys and 7 girls all from the same mother, I am the second child and the bulk of financial responsibility rested on me.
I trained 4 of my siblings in the university upon graduation I thought I could be relieved but not job came around them only menial jobs .
Concerning relationship, saying good things about myself may sound like blowing my own trumpet, I did all I could in my relationships to work but to no avail, it may interest you also to know that I grew up in my family to discover my cousin sisters were just there without marriage, my siblings never got married until from 2016 - 2017 it was so glaring that everybody knew something was basically wrong iny family.
As I speak right now, my major challenge is self discovery, life isn't all about going to school to acquire degrees, I wish I know how to go about it.
However, If I know a different approach to give the situation I will gladly do it without hesitation.

Klass99:


Okay, it's story time....

creepsyme:


As I speak right now, my major challenge is self discovery, life isn't all about going to school to acquire degrees, I wish I know how to go about it.
However, If I know a different approach to give the situation I will gladly do it without hesitation.

Ishilove:

Madam, don't mind Kobo. Your problem is spiritual and if you are feeling silly over what was revealed to you, then I'm guessing you have been embarking on your deliverance programs without faith. This life is deep and is controlled by the spiritual.

You need to investigate your foundation and find out the origin of this pattern in your family. Start from there.

Ishilove:

Madam, don't mind Kobo. Your problem is spiritual and if you are feeling silly over what was revealed to you, then I'm guessing you have been embarking on your deliverance programs without faith. This life is deep and is controlled by the spiritual.

You need to investigate your foundation and find out the origin of this pattern in your family. Start from there.

Acidosis:



My instinct, when I read that post, was that you spent a lot training your siblings/family. This is why I agree with the idea of self discovery. I think you have invested a significant part of your life making people happy at the expense of your personal fulfilment.

It's very evident from your narration. Not only did you sponsor 4 of your siblings' education, but you also go as far as patronising people who are out to scam you. Maybe it's a personality issue, maybe you don't know how to say no, I wouldn't know but one thing is certain, it is not too late to fix things.

In your path to self discovery, deliverance may be necessary. I don't have a personal experience of how deliverance changed my finance or relationship but I'm convinced beyond doubts that prayers work. You have seen a pattern of late marriage. That's a good pointer. Many of our ancestors committed grave crimes. Some sacrificed human beings, some raped women, etc. Sadly, someone must pay for these crimes. Many victims had no access to a justice system so curses and spells were the only available tools. Some families were cursed and still cursed till date. Some forefathers worshipped idols so much that they dedicated their unborn generations to stup!d vindictive gods. If you have access to aged people in your village, approach them and get real life and terrifying stories.

When people compare us with the west, it usually don't make sense. At the time the US and Britain already had laws in place to checkmate crimes, our forefathers were still killing albinos and twins for "Oro" and new yam festivals. It took the intervention of a few missionaries to address some of these issues.

Bottom line, I'm totally for and not against deliverance to delist yourself from any known and unknown covenant. How to go about it, however, is the challenge. Too many doom and fake pastors out there. This might sound senseless but your chances of getting delivered in a 21st century AC fitted church is slim. Bible school pastors can't help either. Ministry for many pastors today is just a means of survival (an avenue to gain followers, money, and fame).

Acidosis:



My instinct, when I read that post, was that you spent a lot training your siblings/family. This is why I agree with the idea of self discovery. I think you have invested a significant part of your life making people happy at the expense of your personal fulfilment.

It's very evident from your narration. Not only did you sponsor 4 of your siblings' education, but you also go as far as patronising people who are out to scam you. Maybe it's a personality issue, maybe you don't know how to say no, I wouldn't know but one thing is certain, it is not too late to fix things.

In your path to self discovery, deliverance may be necessary. I don't have a personal experience of how deliverance changed my finance or relationship but I'm convinced beyond doubts that prayers work. You have seen a pattern of late marriage. That's a good pointer. Many of our ancestors committed grave crimes. Some sacrificed human beings, some raped women, etc. Sadly, someone must pay for these crimes. Many victims had no access to a justice system so curses and spells were the only available tools. Some families were cursed and still cursed till date. Some forefathers worshipped idols so much that they dedicated their unborn generations to stup!d vindictive gods. If you have access to aged people in your village, approach them and get real life and terrifying stories.

When people compare us with the west, it usually don't make sense. At the time the US and Britain already had laws in place to checkmate crimes, our forefathers were still killing albinos and twins for "Oro" and new yam festivals. It took the intervention of a few missionaries to address some of these issues.

Bottom line, I'm totally for and not against deliverance to delist yourself from any known and unknown covenant. How to go about it, however, is the challenge. Too many doom and fake pastors out there. This might sound senseless but your chances of getting delivered in a 21st century AC fitted church is slim. Bible school pastors can't help either. Ministry for many pastors today is just a means of survival (an avenue to gain followers, money, and fame).

CountVersailles:
The story just sounds so invented. Nobody goes through life and write like that. Try better actress.

Kobojunkie:
Feeling of motherhood? Have sex with her? ... LOL....

Why she no become baby mama or hooker then?

socialmediaman:


Remember the West was involved in slavery? Remember they conquered natives and occupied what was once the land belonging to those natives? Why didn't it go down to haunt their generations in the ways it does to Africans?

Acidosis:


"Slavery on invitation" by an insignificant British population, not vindictive idol worship that degenerated to blood money and rituals in 2022.

socialmediaman:


Both buyers and sellers were guilty. The point here being that there were lots of unthinkable atrocities that happened at the time. Remember the holocaust? Are we overthinking this in Nigeria?

Acidosis:

I get your point. We are probably overthinking things. I don't like to tie Nigeria's backwardness to the past. I believe the present leaders are solely responsible and you should be held accountable.

However, this issue right here is somewhat different. It is an individual thing. And mind you, people of the West, Nazi and the rest of the world are not immune to the consequence of idol worship. We don't think that they're going through a lot because we focus on national GDP and other economic indices.

We have seen families in the west where depression, aggression, and loneliness run deep. Terrible things happen in some families. They only don't make the news on CNN or BBC. Some generations have never enjoyed marriage for years. They might mask the pain with new and daily hashtag like #single_rocks, #lonely_but_rocking... Etc. but these things exist.

Idols don't respect hashtags, they gonna do what they've got to do, but it's left to you to respond how you want. The west may turn to sodomy and create new laws everyday to mask these issues, but consequences can never be outlawed. Those who are religious among them also seek spiritual means, by the way.

Klass99:


You bust my head die, I was smiling all through while reading this.

Mwah , I have nothing but respect for attractive and thoughtful minds/mindsets like yours.

creepsyme:
Hello moderators kindly move this topic to frontpage please and please.

I am a lady of 47 years.
I never knew my life would turn out this way, I never knew I would get to even 30 years without getting married not to talk of 47 years.
Well, for the benefits of doubts, I am super pretty and gorgeous, I am educated at least I have my first degree and one or two professional qualifications.
Nothing I did ever came out productive, I lived all my life struggling to make ends meet and attain the life I ever prayed and desired for, but to no avail.
I worked in the bank for several years and came out with absolutely nothing to show for it, worst of it is, my outlook never agree with my situation, people see me and beg me for money thinking I am okay not knowing I don't even know where my next meal will come from, I get cheated each time I buy stuff because I look rich to them sometimes I weep before the sellers when I discover I am being cheated until they become confused.

I have never in my life been choosy about a life partner Incase anyone may think I was been selective.
No man ever asked for my hand in marriage until I got to 39 years,I had good relationships that never resulted to anything, at the beginning of any relationship the men could literally lick my feet and move mountains for me, but eventually it ends in premium tears for me.
I have had opportunity to mingle with the low and high class, I only succeed in going around the circle of high class without even touching it myself.

I have tried my hands on so many things but it failed just to ensure I don't beg and to put food on my table.
I have prayed all the prayers I know, done all the deliverance I know and yet nothing.
I feel so depressed that that sometimes thoughts of suicide goes through my mind.
I feel sorry for myself and I always wonder if anything good can come out of my life again.
Sometimes I think about trying to have a child or two because my menstrual cycle is still very much on, but the thoughts of bringing a child into the world without any plan on ground make me to think twice, when feeding
myself is even a big challenge.
All my siblings are happily married with children and that I am grateful to God for, I only find myself going for omugo year in year out and now I have become big mummy with no career, no job, no child, no husband.
Sometimes I wish it could be a bad dream I should wake up from.

Iam just there getting beautifully old.
Now I understand why a lot of people commit suicide, especially when the light at the end of the tunnel takes too long and becomes bleak to reach.

I need someone out there to pray for me sincerely from their ❤️ I am loosing it already.
Nothing make sense to me anymore!

Can God still come through for me?
Can God still make me laugh the way he made Hannah and Serah to laugh?
Please someone should give me an answer.

BRATISLAVA:
1. Seems funny, until you actually hear someone describe their loneliness. What you expect her to do is hang out with people, but those people go home at night to their families and she is the only one among them who has nothing to go back to.

2. Seen a 65+ year old woman in her situation. What we take for granted and laugh at is something important to others who can't have it. Empathy helps us understand that. If you told me a woman that old would want marriage and children, in the past I would've said it's improbable after that long. Yet there are people who do. So yes, the feeling of motherhood, holding her own child in her hands, feeling it, having it. And sex at her relative convenience without the fear of being murdered by her bed partner. Platonic love only goes so far. Humans have urges etc.

3. The reason she can't have those things you think she can easily get is because she values being a good Christian. If she could become a baby mama at a point, don't you think she would've? Why do you think she's using Hannah and Sarah as her references? I think we can at least respect her choice to be a Christian of such standards.

Kobojunkie:
1.

I don't expect or advise her to "hang out" with people. I actually adviced her to instead find others to live with.

See, we humans have this habit of thinking we are all alone in our problems when the truth is instead that there are 100s of thousands, even millions dealing with the exact same thing you are dealing with right now, even loneliness.

Who will she live with meaningfully, in the way that matters to her realistically?

Living with people who aren't your spouse and children only works when you're in a care home and old, with people in the same situation as you are, and you just need to be cared for.
2.

I have also seen 65+ women who rather than live alone and miserable have taken to have roommates adopting kids or living with other relatives just so they do not continue to stew in loneliness.

And what if she doesn't want that? Because at the end of the day, the roommates will go, the relatives will get tired of her and the adopted children will look for their real parents, and then who will she have?

3.

Christianity does not stop her from adopting kids if she wants kids. Christianity does not stop her from entering into a marriage contract with a man already married or maybe own she pays for sex. Also Christianity has absolutely nothing to do with the choices of Sarah and Hannah.

Christianity excludes such arrangements, except for adoption and IVF perhaps. Unless you have the Kobo Junkie version? She said she doesn't have the financial backup to do those things, so what will you suggest?

If Christianity has nothing to do with their choices, why is it in the Bible? What is its purpose?

She has her life, but is missing a mate and child,none of these are mandatory to have as far as Christianity is concerned, so she can too live a fulfilled life even without.

I don't mean to be rude, but I notice that we tend to tell people that they don't need this or that to live a fulfilling life when we have those things ourselves. People with jobs will tell those without that they don't need one for a fulfilled life, those with children will say they don't need that for a fulfilled life, those with money will say they don't need money for a fulfilled life, hey this isn't an achievement. If it isn't, why do we get them? Why do we tell her to pray and seek God? It's not as if our intentions were so pure that we got them.
Do we think she has not done decades of seeking since she realized she was getting on in years and nothing has been working out for her?

It's not wrong for her to want those things. I hope she gets them. Because her desperation is clear to see.

Klass99:


Oh thank you, I did not want to quote your entire post either but you made valid points too. The biblical reference to Job reminds me of the need, to focus on good things I like/want. I'm not catholic, are you? You just provoked another story .

Some years ago I was at Paul Adefarasin's church for the first African Praise Experience. One of the pastors conducted a beautiful exercise with a powerful message of unity, I will take to my grave.

The exercise was this, in no particular order he asked;

1. All the Anglicans in the house to shout (Anglicans only) after that....
2. Let all the Baptists in the house make a loud noise and baptists alone would shout.
3. Let all the Catholics in the house make some noise.
4. Let the Methodists shout.
5. Let's hear the Pentecostals.
6. Lutherans pls make some noise.
7. Presbyterians, Assemblies of God.......etcetera.

Then finally he said, let all who believe in Christ Jesus make some noise. Omoh, if you see the mighty and thunderous sound, all of us combined made ehn!

The different denominations combined and shouting together as believers in Christ (not as people of different sects) was a wonderful experience for me.

When each denomination shouted alone it wasn't as strong, great or loud, like when we all did it together. That was unity, something the devil hates and is afraid of the most amongst believers. United we are unstoppable and a force to reckon with, he knows this and works hard to divide us.

Ever since that night at House on the Rock, I dropped any and all prejudices regarding other denominations. Now, my concern is, are you a believer in Christ? If you are, can we vibe, collabo and get along for the sake and good of God's kingdom on earth?

2nd Story, a former and senior coworker once asked me are you Catholic? I said no, then he goes......kai I really feel sorry for you, you people are not really serious or solid christians. For one you don't do confessions like we do or take the holy communion. I wasn't even offended or defensive, when I think of him now, I smile. He amuses me like some Catholics I have met. They often act superior, are condescending and act like they are the real deal in Christendom while the rest of us are just jokers

In my mind, I am usually like, when will these people understand that we are one in Christ? And it doesn't matter if I am Baptist, Lutheran or Pentecostal? If we both believe in Christ Jesus, then through his shed blood we are one, we are the same. Vision101 was right when he said, deliverance from ignorance is the greatest deliverance of all of time. Even the good book says it, we perish for our lack of knowledge.

You stll haven't told me where you are from. I will be in a certain African country later this year, if that's your home country, it would be nice to hook up.

Kobojunkie:
The only way to getting anything from God is by submitting to and obeying the teachings and commandments given us by Jesus Christ..... there is no secret to any of this.

Stop deceiving people using God's name..

BRATISLAVA:
1. What if he's a prophet with all her life solutions in his hands?

2. A running theme in the old testament is meeting angels. Could this dubious sounding guy not be an angel?

Klass99:


Brat my girl, your compliment is well received and appreciated.

I'm a lawyer by training, not by heart. I like that you mentioned teacher, because switching careers to education and training (teaching) has been on my mind lately.

If you don't mind my asking, are you a believer? I ask because I don't know and I'm curious.

BRATISLAVA:
1. Who will she live with meaningfully, in the way that matters to her realistically?

2. Living with people who aren't your spouse and children only works when you're in a care home and old, with people in the same situation as you are, and you just need to be cared for.

3.And what if she doesn't want that? Because at the end of the day, the roommates will go, the relatives will get tired of her and the adopted children will look for their real parents, and then who will she have?

4. Christianity excludes such arrangements, except for adoption and IVF perhaps. Unless you have the Kobo Junkie version? grin She said she doesn't have the financial backup to do those things, so what will you suggest?

If Christianity has nothing to do with their choices, why is it in the Bible? What is its purpose?

Kobojunkie:
1.

Who?

The guy who wants private discussions.

2. I am not a student of covenants, but whatever you say on it should be true. Do you believe in the Spirit? Are you one with the Spirit? Walking in it?

Kobojunkie:
1.

Anyone she can reasonably bond with. I remember I used to have roommates of the opposite sex back when I was younger and we bonded as single professionals back then. During the Covid-19 lock down, I did the same with a different group and enjoyed it too before I eventually moved back to my base state.

Great advice for a 47 year old lady.
2.

You probably need to begin opening up your horizons abeg.

The truth is often seen as rigidity.

Open them all you want, and yet some people still want what everyone else has. Even you aren't in the OPs shoes, no matter how open your horizons are.

3.

These are simply choices available to her now so she does not live miserable now. If roommates go, she can get herself new ones. If relatives get tired, she can make herself new ones. The point is life doesn't need to be lived according to frigid rules that are of little benefit to one's situation.

They aren't frigid rules. They are her beliefs.

4. Yeehaw

Klass99:


Chineke , which light? Yeye dey worry you sha, abeg swerve one side.

Good light can come from a vulcanizer too, you know. You are the third person who has mentioned teaching to me.

In the mouth of two witnesses a thing shall be established. Now, that it is three witnesses I will surely go for it.

BRATISLAVA:
1. The guy who wants private discussions.

2. I am not a student of covenants, but whatever you say on it should be true. Do you believe in the Spirit? Are you one with the Spirit? Walking in it?