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ThamesWater:
Ffwd 2 years later when he was 4 and his teacher was in my opinion picking on him too much and I told her that if she does not leave him alone, I would report her to my father and she then asked who my father was and I pointed to the sky and said God is my father.

Lol you have no idea how you'd look in the presence of that teacher.How many of them believe in God


Once my child is age two,I fly him to Nigeria in a military school.After his primary school,I fly him back for highschool.If he starts to misbehave,I threaten to fly him back to naija in which I will actually do.
You must be disciplined by force.

Please why did you call them "USELESS WHITE COPS" ? I believe if the table was turn around and a white woman said" USELESS BLACK COPS" You all will start shouting racism.

Shokoloko:
The typical African parent is a bully. Children are beaten and tortured for no reason.
Children are beaten up for not understanding her schoolwork, Children are beaten up for getting sexually molested, Children are beaten up for crying from the previous beaten, Children are beaten up for not answering quickly enough, Children are beaten up for daring to have a different point of view.

In your example, how can a man and wife (two people) hit, tackle to the ground and beat the crap out of a 15 year old. Like 2 people to one person? Even if she was an adult and not their daughter, two people to one is an unfair situation.

What Nigerians and Africans refuse to learn is that violence destroys a country. See how all the violent countries are experiencing reduced GDP compared to those that are not. Africans will continue to create and breed monsters.

It will be very easy for a 15 year boy to rape and beat up a 6 year old child because he has been beaten to the point of trauma he feels its not a big deal, his mother's has beaten the house help to stupor, and his father has beaten his mother to stupor so violence is a part of life.

Gob bless you for this.

I grew up being a victim of extreme domestic violence. It took me years of self rehabilitation to be able to prevent myself from transmitting passive aggression to others. Till now I still feel the psychological and emotional effects when I think of what I went through as a child and the funny part is my family is unapologetic about it, and till this present moment I find it difficult forgiving them, I have no fear of them, I have no respect for them, Infact I nor send them at all, and never want them to be around me.

My mom once tied me and almost threw me in a well, thank God for neighbours intervention, another time she broke my head for bringing the wrong bucket, of which I still have the scars, on numerous time I was bitten as in bite with teeth mercilessly, my head smashed on the wall and ground, knives hurled at me, I ran away from home 5 times, 80% of all scars on me was from my experience as child and a whole lot more of other stuffs done I still carry in my heart till date which has strained our relationship.

I stand against domestic violence any day and any time. I wish we had institutions set up for the purpose of bringing justice to the victimized children.

Shokoloko:
What is the point of beating a 15 year old.
Any correction not given before 12 might be a waste as character is already formed. What were the parents doing all those years.

As much as the situation is sad I see a silver lining. The girl is not all that useless because she actually graduated, meaning she has some sense. She should channel the rejection into something good and make good use of her life.

She is not the one who banned her father from the house. She did the natural thing: if I was been beaten up the most natural thing would be to call a higher authority for help.

When you beat someone less than 12 the police will show up at your door in matter of minutes

ThamesWater:
You are lucky their Dad is on the same page with you.

My Ex wife once told me in front of my then 11 year old son in London (who I was about to discipline) the following words - Ti o ba fi owo kan omo yen ma a pe olopa - meaning that if I touched my son, she would call the police.

You are in London yet, you want to "touch" your son.Is it that you're not scared of losing the child or you're not scared of jail?
That's not wisdom to me.


"Let's go to grandpa's house in Nigeria for Christmas". When you get there,drill sense into his head and let your ex-wife call naija police.

Shokoloko:
What is the point of beating a 15 year old.
Any correction not given before 12 might be a waste as character is already formed. What were the parents doing all those years.

As much as the situation is sad I see a silver lining. The girl is not all that useless because she actually graduated, meaning she has some sense. She should channel the rejection into something good and make good use of her life.

She is not the one who banned her father from the house. She did the natural thing: if I was been beaten up the most natural thing would be to call a higher authority for help.

U don't live in Nigeria right?

monerozi5590:
Please why did you call them "USELESS WHITE COPS" ? I believe if the table was turn around and a white woman said" USELESS BLACK COPS" You all will start shouting racism.

Because many white cops are racist towards blacks.

chiedozie198100:
All of u praising the western world to high heavens, just shows how shallow and your level of inferiority complex.
-who says people don't steal parcels in abroad.
-who says there are no car jackers in abroad.
-if that ur heaven is that safe, why do people have to buy guns then
-go to any Walmart n u'll see a list of missing persons pasted on the front of the store, mostly minors
-westerners are amazed that we have what is called OMUGWU where u have someone help u out when u have a baby, not in their culture
-mind ur business is causing depression n loneliness abroad, neighbors don't talk to each other
ETC.

naija get issues, but my dear we still have our humanity. overall we are better human beings compared to the whites.

enough of this kolomentality.

Oga. Everyone got his opinion. I can tell you that rural oyibo are communal and friendly unlike urban oyibo meanwhile naija get enough bad belle so tay minding your own business is now a safety tip.

Onewazobia:
Trash, trash, trash brother. Compare the rate of rape between western world and Africa, despite their stenched law they still rate high. Inhuman is inhuman whether among whits or people of colour.

You cannot compare. Already spousal rape is not recognized in most African countries. Rape is not reported to the police for fear of stigmatization. In Africa rape between siblings is hushed and hidden, In Africa married women do not report rape for fear of being rejected by their husbands.
The reason why rape seems high in developed countries is because rape is freely reported there. However if you google "rape by country 2021" or "rape by country 2022", the number one spot is given to a country in which continent? You guessed right - Africa

baby124:
That’s not true. The most useless children I saw who were having sex and even doing all sorts of orgies and nasty things were children of pastors and those from very strict homes. Looks are mostly deceiving! The lesson there is that, decency is not something that has to do with outward looks.

The truth of course is like a rainbow. You can choose the shade that best suits you. Of course you are right, many saint-like kids can be the most promiscuous and sexually perverted. But to say the provocatively dressed ones are any less promiscuous is debatable

Hmmm

2braithe:
Lol you have no idea how you'd look in the presence of that teacher.How many of them believe in God
Once my child is age two,I fly him to Nigeria in a military school.After his primary school,I fly him back for highschool.If he starts to misbehave,I threaten to fly him back to naija in which I will actually do.
You must be disciplined by force.

Spoken like a true bully masquerading as a parent!

Shokoloko:
Which of their books? They must have written on a variety of subjects. Which ones please so that you can go back to your laptop sales and I can face my budget reconciliation?
If you were in a sane country or if you were sane you would respond this way: NO question is stupid, please ask away, these and these are the books I believe that you should study to enlighten yourself on this matter. Let me know if you need more clarification.

But no, the typical aggressive African selling laptops, which is you, will say " stop asking stupid questions ....."
The reason why you generalized and their books together is because YOU DO NOT KNOW WHICH ONE TO RECOMMEND

You see part of the poor education you had,you think someone that sells laptops is poor or wretched or unworthy?
You think an African is crude and timid?
Yes i sell laptops for living,is there anything wrong in that?
it's a legit Job and i will continue to sell it over and over again if can.
You think living in West makes you better which i doubt, someone who lives in the west must have embrace a logical thinking,they must have known that all legitimate jobs is job.
You, budget reconciliation? who dash monkey banana? better things dey hungry you.
You that you are store filler in Walmart,na mẹ you wan take cure?
i am on my 4th cycle of passport and i have touched 7 countries in 4 continents,i don't like to brag,but idiot like you need to be shown where you belong
As for the books,any of their writings will give you the needed understanding of the topic at hand.
i do not need to spoonfed you, take that as an assignment on your own and develop your self,i have done enough in this little time by educating you about Subjects and authors.

Solatium:
You see part of the poor education you had,you think someone that sells laptops is poor or wretched or unworthy ?
You think an African is crude and timid?
Yes i sell laptops for living,is there anything wrong in that?
it's a legit Job and i will continue to sell it over and over again if can.
You think living in West makes you better which i doubt, someone who lives in the west must have embrace a logical thinking,they must have known that all legitimate jobs is job.
You, budget reconciliation? who dash monkey banana? better things dey hungry you.
You that you are store filler in Walmart,na mẹ you wan take cure?
i am on my 4th cycle of passport and i have touched 7 countries in 4 continents,i don't like to brag,but idiot like you need to be shown where you belong
As for the books,any of their writings will give you the needed understanding of the topic at hand.
i do not need to spoonfed you, take that as an assignment on your own and develop your self,i have done enough in this little time by educating you about Subjects and authors.

You need to stop looking down on yourself brother. Where did I say you were poor and wretched and unworthy and crude and timid.
Why did you use such names to describe yourself - this doesn't look good. See the terrible words you used to describe yourself!!!
Take a deep breath. All will be well

BTW 7 countries in 4 continents is not bragging. Canadians typically go on holiday every other year so its normal.
Calm down, stop looking down on yourself. Laptop selling is a legit job.
You inability to provide a reference or even the name of any book shows that you don't know and that's fine. Its okay to not know.
In the long run, you'll be fine. Things will be okay

truthsayer009:
There should always be an avenue to return your kids back to Nigeria or their African if they have passports already. Nigeria is a safe space for kids to learn respect for at least one or two years before they return again.

This is something i take very important and that's why this Western enforcement of Nigeria accepting their form of Libéralism doesn't go well with me.

Take them back to Africa and let them learn.

I am super sure i can't be caught in this situation.

Exactly what my friend's mom did

packaged the boy back to naija for like 4 years

In brain don correct now

Shokoloko:
You need to stop looking down on yourself brother. Where did I say you were poor and wretched and unworthy and crude and timid.
Why did you use such names to describe yourself - this doesn't look good. See the terrible words you used to describe yourself!!!
Take a deep breath. All will be well

BTW 7 countries in 4 continents is not bragging. Canadians typically go on holiday every other year so its normal.
Calm down, stop looking down on yourself. Laptop selling is a legit job.
You inability to provide a reference or even the name of any book shows that you don't know and that's fine. Its okay to not know.
In the long run, you'll be fine. Things will be okay

Look down on myself? you think you are speaking to a slowpoke,i know how to play with words too.
You don't need to say it directly,when you said i should go back to my laptop sales you purposely said that to make me fell less of a human, you said it to break me,unfortunately you met a man with a strong resilient.
The fact Nairaland is a faceless forum does not make you talk down on anyone,my first Visa to Uk was in 2005,i wonder what you were doing then.
When I see people who are quick to throw the location of where they live or their job title or educational qualifications into an argument that has nothing to do with that,i already know their mindsets, meanwhile the quality of your writing should be the one pointing the kind of person you are,it will state if you are enlightened or educated,it will show if you are sociable or aggressive.
Learn to be humble,there is everything to gain in Humility.

Kobojunkie:
Spoken like a true bully masquerading as a parent!

Are you trying to say all those studying in military schools in Nigeria are being bullied?

Solatium:
Look down on myself? you think you are speaking to a slowpoke,i know how to play with words too.
You don't need to say it directly,when you said i should go back to my laptop sales you purposely said that to make me fell less of a human, you said it to break me,unfortunately you met a man with a strong resilient.
The fact Nairaland is a faceless forum does not make you talk down on anyone,my first Visa to Uk was in 2005,i wonder what you were doing then.
When I see people who are quick to throw the location of where they live or their job title or educational qualifications into an argument that has nothing to do with that,i already know their mindsets, meanwhile the quality of your writing should be the one pointing the kind of person you are,it will state if you are enlightened or educated,it will show if you are sociable or aggressive.
Learn to be humble,there is everything to gain in Humility.

Awww.... poor you. And you didn't provide a reference.
But truly everything will be okay. You will come out of this stronger. You won't be broken. And don't describe yourself with those words again.
Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks

ThamesWater:
You are lucky their Dad is on the same page with you.

My Ex wife once told me in front of my then 11 year old son in London (who I was about to discipline) the following words - Ti o ba fi owo kan omo yen ma a pe olopa - meaning that if I touched my son, she would call the police.

A lot of African women misbehave when they go outside the country, I am truly sorry for your divorce, hope your assets were protected and she didn't take everything, and did you bring her to the UK?

ThamesWater:
Funny but true and I'm sure your kids must have been dumbfounded at the above scenarios but they don't understand where you are coming from.

Raising kids in the West where black kids especially black boys are picked on by the institutionally racist system is not for the faint hearted.

I remember years ago in London when the nursery said my son was not talking fluently at age 2 and so they recommended speech therapy which I bluntly refused telling them that he would talk in his own time which he did.

Ffwd 2 years later when he was 4 and his teacher was in my opinion picking on him too much and I told her that if she does not leave him alone, I would report her to my father and she then asked who my father was and I pointed to the sky and said God is my father.

The UK is a place where the educational system picks on black boys disproportionately and my seeing how the system has encouraged single motherhood which may be a big reason black Carribean boys/men represent a disproportionately large population of british prison inmates had already preconditioned me before having kids that if i had a boy child in the UK, it would be fire for fire between me and the system if they tried any nonsense with my son.

Around age 4 the UK educational system dignosed my son as having ADHD and they recommended that I should take him to a special school. At first I obliged and took him to the so called "school" but alas on my first visit with my 4 year old son to the so called special school, i noticed that it was not actually a school building but a one storey house that could pass for a residential house and the only 2 pupils at the "school" was by 4 year old son and another black boy and the sole teacher was white, male and of Bobrisky's inclination (if you get my drift).

I already knew I was not leaving my son alone in this mans presence for even 1 second so I waited for the man to step out of line by shouting at my son for running around and i just stood up and dragged the boy out of the so called "school" telling the so called "teacher" that my son is no longer coming to his school and i took him back to the perplexed main stream school.

Their next step was to call me to round table meetings with various so called specialists with PHD's in different educational fields but when they see that my first question to them was to ask them if they were really doctor's with MBBS degrees or just had PHD's, they shockingly look at themselves with the knowing look that this one will not swallow anything we tell him and when the recommended that they put my son on some tablets to cure the so called ADHD, I bluntly refused.

What I did was to use "tough love" therapy at home and as my google research said not to give him apples or any food containing salicylates, i withdrew apples from his diet but I think it was the 2toughlove" that did the trick as i myself know that he was a handful as a child but i was not going to let them send him to a school house where he was one of the only 2 kids there and the teacher was an effeminate male and neither was i going to let them damage his brain with drugs.

When he was going from primary to secondary school, the primary school sent a file to the secondary school labelling him as special needs but i was not perturbed 'cos i knew that I was not going to take my eye off the ball as pertaining the close marking and tough love I showed him at home to straighten him out.

Also he was not allowed to roam around the neighbour hood after school or at weekends and i encured i created a tailored timetable for him on Saturdays that included study time / breaks and play time and in the bathroom i regularly pin positive affirmative quotes to the mirror so that my kids regularly see it as they are washing their hands.

Tough love at home did the trick with him and he is now a respected contributor to British society.

Coming back to your story, I know a couple in London where the 23 year old son was rude to the mom who reported him to his dad when the dad came home. Dad tries verbally correcting the son, leads to an argument that degenerated into a physical combat between the man and his 23 year old son .

As the physical combat between son and father progressed, the son was having the upper hand over his Dad (who was about 50 at the time) as the son was using some deadly choke holds he learnt in the gym on his dad and at some point he tied up his dad in some martial arts knot such that the dad could not move and had to cry out for help to his wife by frantically calling her name and saying he was tired and running out of breath at which point the mum had to bite her son in order to have him release the stranglehold on his Dad.

The woman told her son to leave the house and he refused and she then called the police whose first move was to try to arrest the woman's husband on arriving thinking it was a case of domestic violence until the woman told the cops it was not her husband but her son that she wanted thrown out of the house.

Another London parenting story was where a 10 year old Nigerian boy called the cops saying his mum beat him and when the cops knocked at the door the woman dragged her son to the door, opened the door and pushed the boy out of the flat in the cops direction telling the cops they could have him and telling her son that she wishes him well with his new parents and then she slammed the door shut and locked it.

It took a long time of the police pleading with her at her doorstep before she allowed the boy back into the house.

What some parents go through in the West in the hands of their children is better left imagined.

I even heard of another middle aged man who had a heart attack and died while raising his voice to discipline / shout at a misbehaving child or is it that nurse Mrs Kalejaiye who was stabbed to death by her 23 year old son in the same London (the son is now serving life in prison) .
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-essex-33204248

Ku roju, baba gidi ni yin.

Jeez. I’d hate to be on your bad side. You’ve mastered the system. I commend you, though.

KanwuliaBaby:
@1Sharon

Back to that 11 y/o boy.
The mother complained that while she was at work, the little boy was SELLING IGBO- marijuana from her mail box!
She called the police and had him ARRESTED!✅
They took him straight to a psych ward.
She was gonna kill him ke. So she just called the police instead.


Some people got a hold of him via TIk Tok and made him their “drug mule”!

I started receiving all kinds of packages from FedEx, Amazon, EBay and God knows where else. I warned all the children that if they order ANYTHING without my permission, I will confiscate it.✅

Yes! You call the police on your kids before they call the police on JHUOOO!
Let them start having a JUVVY RECORD WITH THE STATE- push it back to them.

Now, juvvy records are sealed for ONLY TWO YEARS, till you as a parent decide to seal it PERMANENTLY!

If you DO NOT SEAL the juvvy record permanently, there are grave consequences for that unfortunate child.

As a child? The record follows you to adulthood.✅

1. You can’t join the army, navy or military.
2. No government scholarships or federal school loans.
3. The background check will have red flags for job applications.

You’re been very realistic. We need to come to terms with the new reality of the connected world. The world around us is in a fierce competition with us in the raising of our children. I stress the adjective “fierce.” I think Kanwuliababy is taking the battle to the front door of the darn world in her own way.

KanwuliaBaby:
Birds and bees talk kwa?
For children were dey watch LGBTQ PORRRRN on CHRISTMAS MORNING? As in 12:00AM sharp?

I dey laff!

Hilarious. Chey! Your husband na lucky man.

KanwuliaBaby:
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOUR CHILDREN CALL THE POLICE ON JHOOOOO!

1. NEVER-NEVER-NEVER leave marks on your kids when you spank them. If you leave marks on their bodies, YOU ARE A GONNER!✅

Tell them to open their hands and spank them on their PALMS. Good luck with that, because they will refuse to open their palms and will proceed to running ALL OVER THE HOUSE. You will have a stroke chasing them from room to room.

I wait till they are sleeping, lock the door and the shows begins!✅

We have all seen will smith and what the culture of corporal punishment can do.

Something that could have been resolved by telling Chris brown off

Instead he had a meltdown in front of the world.

This is the flip side of teaching kids that violence solves everything

Unless you want to stay in the hood forever

JohnBullMySon:
Sorry to fault you, but your behavior, maturity and attitude goes a long way to determine whether your children will respect and listen to you.

From your writups here its already clear to me that you're very erratic and full of drama. Before blaming your kids, question your own attitude.

Na crime to be erratic?


You mean I am fun and entertaining?
I don’t want them to respect or listen to me o! Free world. They will learn the harrrrrrd way. I nor get criminal or psych record abi?
You tink say na Africa we dey?
If you think you are mad, this is the place for you. OYINBO go show you PEPPER.

It is called SWWWWWWAG !

My kids got swag like me o. We are having a very interesting life. Don’t be deceived.
I like it o. That means NO ONE WILL EVER MESS WITH THEM!✅

You see this my baby ehn?
SHE CAN SURVIVE ANY JAIL!
GITMO included!
Area GIRL SUPREMO!!!
Chip off da ol blockus!

Don’t let her looks deceive ya!

FIRST CLASS CRIMINAL!!!!✅

KanwuliaBaby:
Na crime to be erratic?


You mean I am fun and entertaining?
I don’t want them to respect or listen to me o! Free world. They will learn the harrrrrrd way. I nor get criminal or psych record abi?

It is called SWWWWWWAG!

My kids got swag like me o. We are having a very interesting life. Don’t be deceived.
I like it o. That means NO ONE WILL EVER MESS WITH THEM!✅

You see this my baby ehn?
SHE CAN SURVIVE ANY JAIL!
GITMO included!
Area GIRL SUPREMO!!!
Chop off the old block.

Don’t let her looks deceive ya!

FIRST CLASS CRIMINAL!!!!✅

But why are you calling your kids names and posting pics? Not cool at all. Abi you just d catch cruise?

Shokoloko:
What is the point of beating a 15 year old.
Any correction not given before 12 might be a waste as character is already formed. What were the parents doing all those years.

As much as the situation is sad I see a silver lining. The girl is not all that useless because she actually graduated, meaning she has some sense. She should channel the rejection into something good and make good use of her life.

She is not the one who banned her father from the house. She did the natural thing: if I was been beaten up the most natural thing would be to call a higher authority for help.

I think u r also a parent
If u r then u know.
Child rearing is God Grace

ThamesWater:
Funny but true and I'm sure your kids must have been dumbfounded at the above scenarios but they don't understand where you are coming from.

Raising kids in the West where black kids especially black boys are picked on by the institutionally racist system is not for the faint hearted.

I remember years ago in London when the nursery said my son was not talking fluently at age 2 and so they recommended speech therapy which I bluntly refused telling them that he would talk in his own time which he did.

Ffwd 2 years later when he was 4 and his teacher was in my opinion picking on him too much and I told her that if she does not leave him alone, I would report her to my father and she then asked who my father was and I pointed to the sky and said God is my father.

The UK is a place where the educational system picks on black boys disproportionately and my seeing how the system has encouraged single motherhood which may be a big reason black Carribean boys/men represent a disproportionately large population of british prison inmates had already preconditioned me before having kids that if i had a boy child in the UK, it would be fire for fire between me and the system if they tried any nonsense with my son.

Around age 4 the UK educational system dignosed my son as having ADHD and they recommended that I should take him to a special school. At first I obliged and took him to the so called "school" but alas on my first visit with my 4 year old son to the so called special school, i noticed that it was not actually a school building but a one storey house that could pass for a residential house and the only 2 pupils at the "school" was by 4 year old son and another black boy and the sole teacher was white, male and of Bobrisky's inclination (if you get my drift).

I already knew I was not leaving my son alone in this mans presence for even 1 second so I waited for the man to step out of line by shouting at my son for running around and i just stood up and dragged the boy out of the so called "school" telling the so called "teacher" that my son is no longer coming to his school and i took him back to the perplexed main stream school.

Their next step was to call me to round table meetings with various so called specialists with PHD's in different educational fields but when they see that my first question to them was to ask them if they were really doctor's with MBBS degrees or just had PHD's, they shockingly look at themselves with the knowing look that this one will not swallow anything we tell him and when the recommended that they put my son on some tablets to cure the so called ADHD, I bluntly refused.

What I did was to use "tough love" therapy at home and as my google research said not to give him apples or any food containing salicylates, i withdrew apples from his diet but I think it was the 2toughlove" that did the trick as i myself know that he was a handful as a child but i was not going to let them send him to a school house where he was one of the only 2 kids there and the teacher was an effeminate male and neither was i going to let them damage his brain with drugs.

When he was going from primary to secondary school, the primary school sent a file to the secondary school labelling him as special needs but i was not perturbed 'cos i knew that I was not going to take my eye off the ball as pertaining the close marking and tough love I showed him at home to straighten him out.

Also he was not allowed to roam around the neighbour hood after school or at weekends and i encured i created a tailored timetable for him on Saturdays that included study time / breaks and play time and in the bathroom i regularly pin positive affirmative quotes to the mirror so that my kids regularly see it as they are washing their hands.

Tough love at home did the trick with him and he is now a respected contributor to British society.

Coming back to your story, I know a couple in London where the 23 year old son was rude to the mom who reported him to his dad when the dad came home. Dad tries verbally correcting the son, leads to an argument that degenerated into a physical combat between the man and his 23 year old son .

As the physical combat between son and father progressed, the son was having the upper hand over his Dad (who was about 50 at the time) as the son was using some deadly choke holds he learnt in the gym on his dad and at some point he tied up his dad in some martial arts knot such that the dad could not move and had to cry out for help to his wife by frantically calling her name and saying he was tired and running out of breath at which point the mum had to bite her son in order to have him release the stranglehold on his Dad.

The woman told her son to leave the house and he refused and she then called the police whose first move was to try to arrest the woman's husband on arriving thinking it was a case of domestic violence until the woman told the cops it was not her husband but her son that she wanted thrown out of the house.

Another London parenting story was where a 10 year old Nigerian boy called the cops saying his mum beat him and when the cops knocked at the door the woman dragged her son to the door, opened the door and pushed the boy out of the flat in the cops direction telling the cops they could have him and telling her son that she wishes him well with his new parents and then she slammed the door shut and locked it.

It took a long time of the police pleading with her at her doorstep before she allowed the boy back into the house.

What some parents go through in the West in the hands of their children is better left imagined.

I even heard of another middle aged man who had a heart attack and died while raising his voice to discipline / shout at a misbehaving child or is it that nurse Mrs Kalejaiye who was stabbed to death by her 23 year old son in the same London (the son is now serving life in prison) .
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-essex-33204248

Am thinking maybe you should create a thread about this and more sir

ThamesWater:
This is very common in London where the kids are used as pawns / weapons against their Dad who eventually has no choice but to move out of the house for his own sanity or to prevent himself from going to prison for disciplining his own child in a situation where wife and kids gang up against husband/father to get him out of the house any which way they can so that the woman can claim generous single parent cash from the government and the kids can do as they wish in the house with no correction.

A lot of times, the generous single parent cash benefits that is given to single mothers in the UK (which is the single parent capital of Europe) has blinded some of these so called single mothers to the long term dangers of raising children in a home where there is no father figure.

One such Nigerian boy aged 23 stabbed his mum do death in London in 2013 and is currently serving life in prison.

A similar case happened in Detroit USA in 2012 when a 14 year old boy shoots his mother dead as she slept after she tried to keep him away from joining a gang or hang with the 'big boys'.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-essex-33204248

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2107504/Joshua-Smith-14-shoots-mother-Tamiko-Robinson-death-slept.html

How much do they get?

KanwuliaExtra:
In the West, it is a whole different story. You hear of parents being arrested for hitting their minor children for misbehaving.

How will you handle the incident?

True story of a Nigerian family in my neighborhood.

Case scenario: A mother hits her 15 y/o child and she tackles her down to the floor like a heavy-weight champion. Daddy intervenes and beats the crap out of the 15 y/o daughter.

Daughter calls police and have parents arrested. Father is charged with child-battery and BANNED from coming to the house till the daughter leaves the house at 18 years old.

Fast forward: Daughter is now 20 years old and lives alone with no contact with her parents. When she graduated from high school, her parents did not attend! They practically disowned her and gave her to the state to take care of.

Any child that starts to misjive or
call the police within the Nigerian Diaspora community can simply be shipped off to a standard or military boarding school in Africa for better brain formating... Saves a lot of time and stress.

Skype and video calls can then serve as a means of trans-Atlantic contact between the parents and child till further notice. Period.

The summary of this thread and the posters in this thread is that a large number of Nigerians are abusive and sadistic people who hide under the guise of "discipline" and "cultural values".

I'm afraid to say that Nigeria will never get better in our lifetime. It will continue to be a pit of despair and abuse till the crows come home.

O daabo o.