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MrBrownJay1:
ARRANT NONSENSE!!!!

Wahala ooo. No, like serious wahala and gbege be this case. I know you're tryna be always contratrian and unconventional and shxt in your responses, but no be everything dem dey argue, and this... all you wrote uo here ain't it. Like I don't get how you found something in it to criticise and call nonsense.

Someone who ain't jealous is more dangerous? Biko, how then?

I honestly do not want to think you cannot grasp context as far as the OP and what you're going on about is concerned. I refuse to think that. You'd be cool with all you listed above in a long-term girlfriend or even wife?

Oga, o. Be calming down.

MrBrownJay1:
ARRANT NONSENSE!!!!

1. Secrecy
there is nothing toxic about being secretive about some part of your life....it all depends on how close you guys are AND/OR how much trust there is between the two of you. furthermore, not all secret should come out within the get go.

3. Neglect
many people are different and therefore what may be seen as neglect, is simply miscommunication AND/OR being unaware about your partner's desire and wishes. also, just because a person doesnt call, doesnt get in contact, doesnt care (as much as you do), it may just be a communication issue, and nothing related to toxic environment.

4. Insecurity
as much as we all want great r/ship, insecurity is part of life....it take time to trust someone fully, and as much as some can trust within the get go, many will need more time. when time is right, these insecurities may just disappear.

5. Jealousy
a lil bit of jealousy aint that bad, as we all know that someone who aint jealous at all is more dangerous than someone who is jealous a little.

OlapejuB:
ARRANT NONSENSE ?? Hmmmm
Your comment was based on your level of experience and understanding.

MrBrownJay1:
by all mean, ask yourself these simple question:
- is your r/ship automatically toxic if your partner isnt comfortable (doesnt trust you) enough "yet" to reveal some of his/her secrets?
- is your r/ship automatically toxic if some action of your partner may be seen as neglect because they dont view/believe a certain way of life, as you do?
- is your r/ship automatically toxic if your partner is insecure because of "your" actions, which made her uncomfortable in your r/ship?
- is your r/ship automatically toxic if your partner is jealous seeing you surrounded by a bunch of people from the opposite sex?

OlapejuB:
Is your own relationship healthy, wonderful and interesting when all what you mentioned happen therein? If you are ok with those things you mentioned, it is your relationship and do enjoy it. But is better you comment and do not use unappreciative adjective

OlapejuB:
Everyone desires healthy relationship but somehow people find themselves in a toxic relationship. Toxic relationship can be overwhelming if not quickly handled by both parties with a strong effort on making their relationship successful.
Here are 12 early and overlooked signs of toxic relationship that should be uprooted before destroying a relationship
1. Secrecy
2. Dishonesty
3. Neglect
4. Insecurity
5. Jealousy
6 - 12
Feel free to add any known signs for people to learn and amend

HOW DO YOU IDENTIFY A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HtsE9jxq7ZE