Gracepikin33333:
This is not the first time i will be seeing their chats and i have tried talking to her but my wife won't listen. She always sees it as if i do not trust her.

You will soon start training bastards. If you don't eject her from your life, I am sorry to say this, you will regret your old age, I pray you don't.

You better put a stop to this now before you run around looking for DNA test centres... I would lose my shi over something like this. Don't be afraid to protect your home and your boundaries. I'd say send her packing immediately and let her think about her decisions.

jesmond3945:
he should kill the feelings. The attention from her ex makes her feel wanted. I know this is a young marriage by the time kids start coming and with some effort, she would stop sex chats. She might still be chatting but just mere dry chats.

How did you feel with this type of stupid advice on public forum? We are talking about married woman o, even ordinary girlfriend shouldn't be given such foolish soft landing you are dishing out.

..........ehnnnnn, increase ur attention for her, it would kill any interest she has for ex.
..........ehnnnnn, after 3 kids, the attention would die naturally.

If the lady in question still has passion for her ex, why can't she go for the ex instead?
Op said, they are chatting,even went to the extent of going dirt online, "asking house wife if she is enjoying sex with her husband!

Did you know the magnitude of danger, for someone outside marriage to be controlling house wife?

Ex will not only start to be sleeping with wife again, he can impregnate, infact, if he wants to kill husband, he will do it with easy from outside through wife.

jesmond3945:
he should kill the feelings. The attention from her ex makes her feel wanted. I know this is a young marriage by the time kids start coming and with some effort, she would stop sex chats. She might still be chatting but just mere dry chats.

alright.

Fiscus105:




How did u feel with this type of stupid advice on public forum? Here, we are talking about married woman o, even ordinary girlfriend shouldn't be give such foolish soft landing you are dishing out.

..........ehn, increase ur attention for her, it will kill any interest she has for ex
..........ehn, after 3 kids, the attention would die naturally.

If the lady in question still has passion for her ex, why can't she go for the ex instead?
They are chatting, even went to extent of going dirt online, "asking house wife if she is enjoying sex with her husband!

Did you know the magnitude of danger, for someone outside marriage to be controlling house wife?

Ex will not only start to be sleeping with wife, he can impregnate, infact, if he wants to kill husband, he will do it with easy from outside through wife.

if you are married, you would know the issue of talking to ex especially newly wed couples is very rampant. The fire brigade approach you are proposing will only drive her further to the ex but adopting an aloof approach coupled with greater family responsibilities on her part will quench the fire.

jesmond3945:
if you are married, you would know the issue of talking to ex especially newly wed couples is very rampant. The fire brigade approach you are proposing will only drive her further to the ex but adopting an aloof approach coupled with greater family responsibilities on her part will quench the fire.

So, you have married and ur wife still charting with exes? Not only chatting with exes even to ur notice? If it's true you are a confirmed woman rapper.


You are one of the reasons those urchins on redpill thread nicknamed ur type of husband as "simp".

If true u have married and have kids, I will advice you to try to do DNA of ur kids.

Fiscus105:


So, you have married and ur wife still charting with exes? Not only chatting with exes even to ur notice? If it's true you are a confirmed woman rapper.


You are one of the reasons those urchins on redpill thread nicknames ur type of husband simp"

If true u have married and have kids, I will advice you to try to do DNA of ur kids.

are you married?

jesmond3945:
if you are married, you would know the issue of talking to ex especially newly wed couples is very rampant. The fire brigade approach you are proposing will only drive her further to the ex but adopting an aloof approach coupled with greater family responsibilities on her part will quench the fire.

First,if she couldn't stop chatting with ex , I will not even wait to drive her further to ex, I will send her parking before it got to that length.


Meanwhile, u talked about newly married still charting with exes, I want to ask you , what happens to period of courtship?, that's period in which such passion would have been killed, after all, if she's unable to quench passion for her ex, it would have been better for her to marry such ex, either as first wife or as a polygamous.

jesmond3945:
are you married?

By God grace for several years and right from the time of our courtship, I had all passwords of anything that my wife operate, not only social media, but also her different accounts she operates in the banks

Kennyprince:
shut up Bola.

Are u saying the man shd not be worried with all these?

Little boy, face front. Don't embarrass yourself

jesmond3945:
if you are married, you would know the issue of talking to ex especially newly wed couples is very rampant. The fire brigade approach you are proposing will only drive her further to the ex but adopting an aloof approach coupled with greater family responsibilities on her part will quench the fire.

Oga your advice is wrong in all shades of it. Does it being rampant make it right? Cheating first starts emotionally before it get physical. So she is already cheating. You cannot cure cheating by giving more attention. You didn’t see where she gaslights her hubby when he accuses her? Sexting your ex is cheating. Why can’t she sext her husband. She is damaged goods and will only get discreet going forward. Op is a weakling. If her ex was so good, why didn’t he wife her? So Op did not see this whoring tendencies during courtship? I wonder what people do during courtship, or maybe you thought she was going to change! FAITH COMMETH BY HEARING. Send her to her family and have peace, even the Christ does not condone cheating. Your wife has cheated and she only apologized this once instead of gaslighting you as usual because you had bulletproof evidence.

Well, we started dating in school back then. I was in my final year and she was in 200 level. I wasn't able to keep up with the pace at which we do communicate when i went for my NYSC, so she met her so called ex and that one toasted her and she accepted. One thing leads to another, they both f**cked each other and collected the virginity that she promised to give me. I didn't know all this not until after 5 months that i came back from service that she came around and slept over. On that night, she made an attempt for us to make love together and i was thinking the seal is still there not until i entered and i found out that the hymen has been broken. I was furious and she said she knows that i won't have anything doing with her again after what she did. She said that's why she's using this to compensate me for my commitments in our relationship but due to the love i have for her, i forgave her back then. I made preparations and we both got married. We have been married for 3 years now with a child but she still talks with that guy.
[quote author=princeeze1 post=111520305]
Oga your advice is wrong in all shades of it. Does it being rampant make it right? Cheating first starts emotionally before it get physical. So she is already cheating. You cannot cure cheating by giving more attention. You didn’t see where she gaslights her hubby when he accuses her? Sexting your ex is cheating. Why can’t she sext her husband. She is damaged goods and will only get discreet going forward. Op is a weakling. If her ex was so good, why didn’t he wife her? So Op did not see this whoring tendencies during courtship? I wonder what people do during courtship, or maybe you thought she was going to change! FAITH COMMETH BY HEARING. Send her to her family and have peace, even the Christ does not condone cheating. Your wife has cheated and she only apologized this once instead of gaslighting you as usual because you had bulletproof evidence.[/quote]

Bro in all honesty, I cry for you. You are too much of a weakling and she knows that u can do nothing. If u would listen to my advice and save urself the headache, good for you.
First warn her seriously that she should stop all forms of communication with the said ex, tell her if u see such, u will take drastic actions and mean every word. It's likely she will still chat him to see what u can do. Condition her to make sure u know her password. Then if u see her chat again, especially sex chats. screenshot and send to your phone as evidence. call her parents for a visit and make sure u go visit them with your wife, tell them exactly what happened and u have decided to end the marriage for she to continue with her ex, that u can't deal with a disrespectful wife who doesn't listen to you. Then observe how the parents will handle the matter right there.
It will give you an idea of the type of family and what to do next, weda to accept their plea or separate. Then u will start setting the pace from there, take ur daughter for a dna test and don't make it look like sex with her is important. She will naturally come around for sex as compensation and learn to take charge of your home.
All the best bro

I don't know why naija men just too weak this day, the only thing they know is using money influences ladies

Gracepikin33333:
Good afternoon Nairalanders!

I have been suspecting my wife for some weeks now, so i decided to go through his phone whatsapp chats when she was asleep last night.



I saw her chat with her ex on how they both had sex when they were together before we got married and his ex was asking her about the last time we both had sex. Questions like did she enjoy it? They were both telling themselves how much they do miss each other. He was even trying to persuade my wife to find time for him. Please advise me on what to do!

send her back to where you picked her from

Gracepikin33333:
This is not the first time i will be seeing their chats and i have tried talking to her but my wife won't listen. She always sees it as if i do not trust her.

Please call the ex and tell him to back off. I bet you, he will never call your wife again.

Gracepikin33333:
Good afternoon Nairalanders!

I have been suspecting my wife for some weeks now, so i decided to go through his phone whatsapp chats when she was asleep last night.



I saw her chat with her ex on how they both had sex when they were together before we got married and his ex was asking her about the last time we both had sex. Questions like did she enjoy it? They were both telling themselves how much they do miss each other. He was even trying to persuade my wife to find time for him. Please advise me on what to do!

... Its just a marra of time bfr she collects that nigga's preeq.. marriages these days lason? Kai!

ChoCho54:
Please call the ex and tell him to back off. I bet you, he will never call your wife again.

How will this help? Is this how he will go on calling everyone that gives attention to his wife? The problem here is obviously his wife who has no respect for him, and his very self who has little to no self esteem. Calling the ex will also result in them going more discreet and making a caricature of him behind his back. They would start calling/chatting and deleting evidence. Saving names with pseudonyms. Sexchatting is cheating, the wife should be in her father’s house by now, seeing how his in-laws handles it should be a determining factor if he should continue. Someone that has been gaslighting and blackmailing him, only apologized because of hardcore evidence this time.

Gracepikin33333:
Good afternoon Nairalanders!

I have been suspecting my wife for some weeks now, so i decided to go through his phone whatsapp chats when she was asleep last night.



I saw her chat with her ex on how they both had sex when they were together before we got married and his ex was asking her about the last time we both had sex. Questions like did she enjoy it? They were both telling themselves how much they do miss each other. He was even trying to persuade my wife to find time for him. Please advise me on what to do!

From today, begin Chat all ur exes and get side chicks. Catch ur cruise and run ur mattaz. Life is too short to be worrying over a gender.

Bola146:
sir, what do you want people to say? Pamper her and let it go? Or you should keep quiet? and this one will call himself a husband or a man Seriously, to be a husband is not moimoi and pap. Some couples still need more orientation about marriage.

So says a woman that hasn't married. Get married first and you have first hand experience

Bola146:
sir, what do you want people to say? Pamper her and let it go? Or you should keep quiet? and this one will call himself a husband or a man Seriously, to be a husband is not moimoi and pap. Some couples still need more orientation about marriage.

Shut up! If you can't offer advice, move on.

CountVersailles:

Shut up! If you can't offer advice, move on.

Say that to your elders at home.

Fresno:
So says a woman that hasn't married. Get married first and you have first hand experience

I guess they have shown his one sege face your wahala abi na me force or blind you to marry? Pele

Bola146:


I guess they have shown his one sege face your wahala abi na me force or blind you to marry? Pele

FYI am single , you have no right as a woman to advise anyone on Marital affairs. Marriage is a thing of experience . No insults intended

Fresno:
FYI am single , you have no right as a woman to advise anyone on Marital affairs. Marriage is a thing of experience . No insults intended

Next time, read and face front

Oga Op. I dey vex for you

This so called wife will bring home bastards and this mumu guy will train them till when they graduate from university, then the true father will come and claim his children

Gracepikin33333:
This is not the first time i will be seeing their chats and i have tried talking to her but my wife won't listen. She always sees it as if i do not trust her.

This is what manipulative women do to perpetrate their evil agendas. The contents in the message are just too erotic to be condoned by a sensible married woman. Whether now or later, they will still have sex unless they completely stop checking on each other.

You can do this, stop checking her phone from now on, but before this, give her a strong warning that if you ever hear/see her and that man together, you will send her packing from your house withiout listen to her explanation. Also during one of your happy moments, warn her that you will eventually conduct DNA test on your children, and if any of them fail to be yours, there would a very serious consequence on her.

You dont blindly trust your spouse, trust is earned, and not to be giving on a platter of gold. It is much more better to tell people the consequences of their actions rather than telling them not to do what they wanted to do

Thanks sir

yemmit90:


This is what manipulative women do to perpetrate their evil agendas. The contents in the message are just too erotic to be condoned by a sensible married woman. Whether now or later, they will still have sex unless they completely stop checking on each other.

You can do this, stop checking her phone from now on, but before this, give her a strong warning that if you ever hear/see her and that man together, you will send her packing from your house withiout listen to her explanation. Also during one of your happy moments, warn her that you will eventually conduct DNA test on your children, and if any of them fail to be yours, there would a very serious consequence on her.

You dont blindly trust your spouse, trust is earned, and not to be giving on a platter of gold. It is much more better to tell people the consequences of their actions rather than telling them not to do what they wanted to do