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zmpp:
Only in your dreams the hotels he took you to in Ondo State would be like Sheraton and located in Dubai.

I guess you do not know the reason why MejiLoyon deactivated his account here after everything, lol.

Meanwhile, butt implant might help brighten your chances with sensible men for a keep, because as a woman, it is terrible that despite lacking in almost every other thing, you are still not physically attractive, no thanks to your flat butt like a tilapia fish, lol.

And sorry for your depression, I won't worsen it, I promise.

what is going on here?? I see vawulence errywhere

ngwababe:
Nna, free this one abeg. She wants you to give your life to Christ, but doesn't have respect for a tribe and to an elderly man? Oga, this one go scatter your family o.

If you were discerning, you would have understood from op’s accounts that he disrespected her tribe first. This superiority act awakened her own tribal bias. Why would he try to pin the Igbo tag on her? I am sure this is the primary reason she doesn’t like Igbos. Most Igbos she has met have probably wanted her to believe she is one of them.

You don’t know that it’s demeaning to belittle other people’s unique tribal identity no matter how insignificant? This is what the op has been doing to this young lady. Her resentments and bias are daily awakening as a result.

Ishilove:
Lmao! I had to do a double take because It's almost like I am the one the OP is describing

See how rude the OP is. She was very polite and coordinated in her message, while his message is full of 'mumu', 'fool' and other allied vitriol.

Isioma deserves better. She is right in showing you the door, you stiff necked heathen.

she wants to force her belief on hom with politeness abi?

Divide and rule can never work with Igbo's,we r wiser now.

AlexBells:
So, I had known this girl for the past 3 years, she lives in Nsukka and I ussually come around since I have a family here when I met her three years ago, she was writing her WAEC and we seem to fall for each other, however she got admission later that year and now in UNEC so we didn't see for over a year becuase I was going through some stuff that didn't give me space to travel and they packed out from their formal house.

Few weeks back, I came to Nsukka for some trainings and given the ASUU strike, she is staying back in Nsukka, this had given us enough time to reunite, the love and desire is still there but a highly Intolerant girl I never knew had just emerged out of the blue.

First, she's from Agbo Delta State, she is one of the people who don't accept being Igbo, okay I have no problem with that but what irritates me is why she always throw subtle insult on the Igbos. Meanwhile since she been on strike she's been the one taking care of their shop where I ussually go to buy stuff and also make withdrawals, apart from the fact that I love her, I prefer to go to her shop becuase they run a POS service so I can easily withdraw and do my shopping right there.

On several occasions, I had overhead her speaking with her mum in their Agbo dialect and I can almost understand them completely despite my being from Nsukka, Ezikoba to be precise. I had asked her on several occasions, if you are not Igbo why do I understand you while you spoke to your mum, she always told me to forget that one.

Then one day a man came to withdraw money and instead of handing the money to her, the man kept the money on the table just about two foot away, so after collecting the money from the table, when the man left she now said "You Igbos don't have respect especially Igbo men, why would he keep the money on the table instead of give it to me", I looked at her and said, I hope you know thats hate speech when you make such generalisation by saying you Igbos while this if at all is an issue is individualistic. I asked her, I'm Igbo what do she think about me, she said I'm different however she wish to change me so I don't have that Igbo attitude, I smiled through that.

Honestly she's decent and intelligent but religious as well and seemingly intolerant in that aspect too, meanwhile I'm not quite the church going type especially because I have a view that religion had severely impaired our society and while acknowledging religion and God, I believe that extremism in religion is as well dangerous, and in another note, I see religion as an aspect of socialisation of which the Nigerian churches is suffering the same decay with the general society and as such I appreciate my peace and most times I isolate myself from most social gatherings.

However we had an argument over time about this whole church and God stuff, she wants me to start going to church, partly her concern is becuase of the rigorous nature of my trainings, she don't appreciate the fact that I'm isolated but the manner she's pressing for that is crazy, this morning she sent me a message telling me that if I don't give my life to christ that I should stop whatever with her, I smiled however to be honest I was hurt.

I'm worried becuase at one point I even considered marrying her, but even if I begin to go to church, what happens to the identity of our children, becuase I know her parents must have been the one that thought her so much intolerance for the Igbos, to even think that she was born and raised in Nsukka. Bellow is the screenshot of her message and reply.

Please I need advice, I don't want anyone to judge her especially as regards her tribal sentiments on the Igbo, I understand it is what she had been fed while growing, shes a nice person generally.

haslaw:
@ MoneyGoDrop

You hate to accept the truth that yeebos are evil and wicked.

You called it hearsay when I helped my friend Ikechukwu (we call him IK) to look for house in Ibadan and neatly all the landlords rejected him when they discovered he was Igbo.

I have known Igbo wickedness since I was in JSS because the Igbo prefects had this heartlessness about them and could punish their juniors without mercy. All through my life I have encountered the most wicked people as yeebos.

So stop deceiving yourselves that you don't understand why people hate yeebos.
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AlexBells

With what you wrote up there I can tell you are an *lliterate including ya dad. Honestly

Nigerian girls and their King Herold lifestyle and Nigerian simpleton with their John the baptist lifestyle! At end, the head of John was cut off on a request of a woman.. Watch that kind of love, make person no drag you to a pit.

I love that lady!! So somebody cannot joke with u again!! Na jokes they make marriage de lifely!! U are proofing her point!! She wants you to live a holy life and u want to continue in the world oya go meet Jezebel or slay Queen make she deal with you!! You will know her importance if u marry stupid woman!!!

And she stays in nsukka

Dorwadora:
Leave her and let her be ..... Sincerely, I also have somethings against igbo especially the igbo men. Tho I've never made my dislike to make anyone uncomfortable. But one of the major tenet of a lasting relationship is tolerance and patience. Just leave her and let peace reign.

As if the Igbos cares whether u are against them or not. Mtcheeew

Ishilove:
Buhahahahahahahaha!!!! Ehen, are you serious? Tell me more

I'm 45, not 43. Get your facts right. I am also a divorcee with 3 children, and I and Mejiloyon uselessed ourselves in Sheraton and Dubai

Kai no wonder

I am from Southern Kaduna we are 99 percent Christians even my grandfather was a Christian; I feel very angry when a southerner call me Hausa! I am not Hausa! Stop the foolishness by trying to convince her that she is Igbo!! Stop that nonsense!! We are bajju(my tribe) kagoro, Jabba, kattaff, marwa, etc in southern kaduna!! We are not Hausa

Zonefree:
Whatever who have against Igbo is none of Igbo business. Keep that to yourself.

Seriously ?
I'll bet my last kobo that it's igbo man's business if the one you quote plans to poison every igbo man she comes across !

[quote author=Razgas post=111667254]there was this Agbor guy when we were students at UNN...my friends and I would be conversing in Igbo and this guy will come and start yelling that we should stop speaking Igbo here. And it was funny then to me because I actually liked the guy but now when I think about it, it makes me angry. We were Igbo in nsukka speaking Igbo and some how you that also speaks a dialect I can hear is angry that I speak Igbo. Ask an average Niger deltan why he hates Igbo and watch him tell you a bunch of chappy reasons

Those south south people are so confused especially those from delta state. Some will say that they are not igbo but when you ask them their names,they will say Chinedu Osakwe. Please tell me is that an hausa name?

[quote author=zakkxx post=111668253]I am from Southern Kaduna we are 99 percent Christians even my grandfather was a Christian; I feel very angry when a southerner call me Hausa! I am not Hausa! Stop the foolishness by trying to convince her that she is Igbo!! Stop that nonsense!! We are bajju(my tribe) kagoro, Jabba, kattaff, marwa, etc in southern kaduna!! We are not Hausa

That one concern you because wetin i know be say all Northerners are Hausa. We guys always deny being hausa but when elections start now, you will support and vote Hausa/Northerner.

Amayabor1

You will not really understand until you live with igbos (if you are not an Igbo).

I have lived in the South east, North, South West, and south South. The average Igbo person is very greedy and cunning. If possible, they can sell you for money. Money is their centre of attraction. Some of he things I witnessed in Igbo land, I have never witnessed it in any other part of Nigeria. Whenever I go to the market and you are a Igbo person, I either leave or make sure I am very alert!

Well I'm Full bloodied Igbo man but i will like to know where in the southeast that you stayed in? I'm really surprised by this your statement because this is the first time in my life that Igbos have been described as CUNNING,try to cheat you yes but cunning is not our nature.

AlexBells:
So, I had known this girl for the past 3 years, she lives in Nsukka and I ussually come around since I have a family here when I met her three years ago, she was writing her WAEC and we seem to fall for each other, however she got admission later that year and now in UNEC so we didn't see for over a year becuase I was going through some stuff that didn't give me space to travel and they packed out from their formal house.

Few weeks back, I came to Nsukka for some trainings and given the ASUU strike, she is staying back in Nsukka, this had given us enough time to reunite, the love and desire is still there but a highly Intolerant girl I never knew had just emerged out of the blue.

First, she's from Agbo Delta State, she is one of the people who don't accept being Igbo, okay I have no problem with that but what irritates me is why she always throw subtle insult on the Igbos. Meanwhile since she been on strike she's been the one taking care of their shop where I ussually go to buy stuff and also make withdrawals, apart from the fact that I love her, I prefer to go to her shop becuase they run a POS service so I can easily withdraw and do my shopping right there.

On several occasions, I had overhead her speaking with her mum in their Agbo dialect and I can almost understand them completely despite my being from Nsukka, Ezikoba to be precise. I had asked her on several occasions, if you are not Igbo why do I understand you while you spoke to your mum, she always told me to forget that one.

Then one day a man came to withdraw money and instead of handing the money to her, the man kept the money on the table just about two foot away, so after collecting the money from the table, when the man left she now said "You Igbos don't have respect especially Igbo men, why would he keep the money on the table instead of give it to me", I looked at her and said, I hope you know thats hate speech when you make such generalisation by saying you Igbos while this if at all is an issue is individualistic. I asked her, I'm Igbo what do she think about me, she said I'm different however she wish to change me so I don't have that Igbo attitude, I smiled through that.

Honestly she's decent and intelligent but religious as well and seemingly intolerant in that aspect too, meanwhile I'm not quite the church going type especially because I have a view that religion had severely impaired our society and while acknowledging religion and God, I believe that extremism in religion is as well dangerous, and in another note, I see religion as an aspect of socialisation of which the Nigerian churches is suffering the same decay with the general society and as such I appreciate my peace and most times I isolate myself from most social gatherings.

However we had an argument over time about this whole church and God stuff, she wants me to start going to church, partly her concern is becuase of the rigorous nature of my trainings, she don't appreciate the fact that I'm isolated but the manner she's pressing for that is crazy, this morning she sent me a message telling me that if I don't give my life to christ that I should stop whatever with her, I smiled however to be honest I was hurt.

I'm worried becuase at one point I even considered marrying her, but even if I begin to go to church, what happens to the identity of our children, becuase I know her parents must have been the one that thought her so much intolerance for the Igbos, to even think that she was born and raised in Nsukka. Bellow is the screenshot of her message and reply.

Please I need advice, I don't want anyone to judge her especially as regards her tribal sentiments on the Igbo, I understand it is what she had been fed while growing, shes a nice person generally.

Even in Nsuka ! Igbo for president, smh.

obailala
It's actually hAtred inherited from their parents. It will take special grace and pure wisdom for anyone to outgrow the seed of hate instilled upon them through their upbringing.

It's funny because i don't feel that way towards them though my grandfather lost all his properties in port Harcourt when he came back after the war.

AlexBells:
So, I had known this girl for the past 3 years, she lives in Nsukka and I ussually come around since I have a family here when I met her three years ago, she was writing her WAEC and we seem to fall for each other, however she got admission later that year and now in UNEC so we didn't see for over a year becuase I was going through some stuff that didn't give me space to travel and they packed out from their formal house.

Few weeks back, I came to Nsukka for some trainings and given the ASUU strike, she is staying back in Nsukka, this had given us enough time to reunite, the love and desire is still there but a highly Intolerant girl I never knew had just emerged out of the blue.

First, she's from Agbo Delta State, she is one of the people who don't accept being Igbo, okay I have no problem with that but what irritates me is why she always throw subtle insult on the Igbos. Meanwhile since she been on strike she's been the one taking care of their shop where I ussually go to buy stuff and also make withdrawals, apart from the fact that I love her, I prefer to go to her shop becuase they run a POS service so I can easily withdraw and do my shopping right there.

On several occasions, I had overhead her speaking with her mum in their Agbo dialect and I can almost understand them completely despite my being from Nsukka, Ezikoba to be precise. I had asked her on several occasions, if you are not Igbo why do I understand you while you spoke to your mum, she always told me to forget that one.

Then one day a man came to withdraw money and instead of handing the money to her, the man kept the money on the table just about two foot away, so after collecting the money from the table, when the man left she now said "You Igbos don't have respect especially Igbo men, why would he keep the money on the table instead of give it to me", I looked at her and said, I hope you know thats hate speech when you make such generalisation by saying you Igbos while this if at all is an issue is individualistic. I asked her, I'm Igbo what do she think about me, she said I'm different however she wish to change me so I don't have that Igbo attitude, I smiled through that.

Honestly she's decent and intelligent but religious as well and seemingly intolerant in that aspect too, meanwhile I'm not quite the church going type especially because I have a view that religion had severely impaired our society and while acknowledging religion and God, I believe that extremism in religion is as well dangerous, and in another note, I see religion as an aspect of socialisation of which the Nigerian churches is suffering the same decay with the general society and as such I appreciate my peace and most times I isolate myself from most social gatherings.

However we had an argument over time about this whole church and God stuff, she wants me to start going to church, partly her concern is becuase of the rigorous nature of my trainings, she don't appreciate the fact that I'm isolated but the manner she's pressing for that is crazy, this morning she sent me a message telling me that if I don't give my life to christ that I should stop whatever with her, I smiled however to be honest I was hurt.

I'm worried becuase at one point I even considered marrying her, but even if I begin to go to church, what happens to the identity of our children, becuase I know her parents must have been the one that thought her so much intolerance for the Igbos, to even think that she was born and raised in Nsukka. Bellow is the screenshot of her message and reply.

Please I need advice, I don't want anyone to judge her especially as regards her tribal sentiments on the Igbo, I understand it is what she had been fed while growing, shes a nice person generally.

Her generalization may be hurting really, why not also sample other's opinion on the Igbo factor. Don't be like her, be open minded and see how non-igbos think of them.

Religiously, she wanted you to have a taste of what she's having. However, she doesn't need to be abusive on that, you simply part ways if you can't seem to agree on that. A man is simply what he believes.

Your stand on her belief is also intolerant you know. You're not as open minded as you think.

Waka now o.
Don't come here and tell us how your wife beat up your mother or your sisters a called them names.
She's never gonna change
Some people can't stand other people from different tribe, religion, political group or even state.
Get someone who understands that everyone can't be Igbo or a Christian or this or that.

You didn't tell us the religion you are talking about in the last picture.

MoneyGoDrop:
I truly didn't understand the hatred people had for Igbos especially the south south people till i went for service. I found it weird that someone that bears and speak igbo will be insulting you and making bad jokes about the language they also speak.

My advise is move on from her. Her hatred for your tribe will only get worst,same with her attitude. I generally stay away from religious/churchy people because most of them have lost touch with reality.

All tribes in Nigeria hate the Igbos. Na wa for una

SilentQueen:
If that is her only problem you don't need to leave her...Many Nigerians are like her so no big deal, just try to tell her how you feel about it and hopefully she will change

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ygowon:
@Op,
I take God beg you. Don't add wahala to the existing wahala you are carrying. That girl is not compatible with u, though you like her a lot. With the way you are following this girl, she's seeing herself as doing you good and you are likely to regret it later. Nothing lasts forever, not even the feelings you are having for her.

The truth is that she has hatred for your tribe and she is very likely to use it against you. When you meet the right person bro, everything will be easy. Things will fall in place easily. I am talking from experience.

In fact, your story reminded me of my encounter with one smallish delta Igbo girl. I asked her where she's from, she said Aniocha. I said, ooh! You are Igbo, she said she's not Igbo. That she's delta Igbo. Lol! This girl liked me and wanted something serious but just her perception about Igbos made me see her somehow. So, I stopped giving her attention and she was the one giving me attention.

We started being friendly and we talked about s3x and before you knew it, we started talking naughty. She asked me what i wanted from her, I told her I would have loved to date and marry her if she was Igbo. But we can just be friends with benefits. I don't really know if she accepted just to win my heart but we eventually had s3x and she right there, told me that she was not coming again except we were dating. That she wants someone she can call her own. I told her no wahala. That was how I stopped replying her and gradually, we are separated. Haven't even jam her since then.

Please, @Op, if you are not ready to be given conditions in your relationship where you too cannot give, that relationship will not favour you.

In order to let go, always remind yourself of her as side. Let it cloud your mind until u begin to loose that feelings. Delete any form of contact with her and pretend not to have known her before. If she's your woman, it would be easier to get along with her.

Someone said she's from Aniocha, you called her Igbo. She told you that she's not, so that's how you figured she hates Igbos?

Meanwhile same you told her that you want to marry an Igbo girl, and the world did not end. Why are Igbos like this?

mastermaestro:
If you were discerning, you would have understood from op’s accounts that he disrespected her tribe first. This superiority act awakened her own tribal bias. Why would he try to pin the Igbo tag on her? I am sure this is the primary reason she doesn’t like Igbos. Most Igbos she has met have probably wanted her to believe she is one of them.

You don’t know that it’s demeaning to belittle other people’s unique tribal identity no matter how insignificant? This is what the op has been doing to this young lady. Her resentments and bias are daily awakening as a result.

God bless you for this.

Carcholce:
Even God sef don tire for Nigerians and their relationship wahala.

especially with these toxic gals.

Dorwadora:
Leave her and let her be ..... Sincerely, I also have somethings against igbo especially the igbo men. Tho I've never made my dislike to make anyone uncomfortable. But one of the major tenet of a lasting relationship is tolerance and patience. Just leave her and let peace reign.

You and that girl has nothing against Igbos , just that both of you are mad.senseless and confuse in life , if not you won't be religious and still have something against a certain tribe is that what Bible and Jesus Christ teaches you , confused church goers , I thought the bible said love one another ?

haslaw:
You yeebos should stop deluding yourselves that people hate you because of what she has been fed with as if the lady has no mind of her own.

You think to the high heavens of your own tribe and got irritated when she refuse to accept to be your tribe but instead is very proud of her own tribe, You are the one that is highly intolerant because you want everyone to be Igbo like you.

The real reason people hate you yeebos is because of your heartless character and evil ways. I have lived and worked in both northern and southern parts of Nigeria and have seen the wickedness of yeebos in these regions. There is a Hausa landlord in Zaria, Kaduna state that has practically been chased out of his own house by the tenants who are majorly yeebos. They gave the man hell on earth and nearly everyone blamed him for renting his house to yeebos. This same scenario I have witnessed in both Lagos and Ibadan. This same characters (My sister told me) are being exhibited by yeebos in America. Same thing my colleagues told me was happening in Malaysia

You can never transact business with an Igbo man and he would not seek to cheat you and in some cases be very wicked to you. I avoid yeebos as much as I can because of their heartless and evil ways



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AlexBells
MoneyGoDrop

I tire honestly. Someone is from Delta state, you called her Igbo and she rejected. I am from Agbor, and I don't like being called Igbo. Does that mean that I hate the Igbos? The way people are wired though.


If as an Igbo man, you tell me your tribe and then I call you a Deltan. Will you accept it?

zinizta:
if she says she isn't Igbo then she isnt igbo.

na by force.

delta tribes intermarry

it is likely she has other ancestry from Ijaw, itsekiri, isoko etc

allow her be who she is.

Those Igbo people dey vex me. Everybody from South South na Igbo by force, if you no gree then you hate them.

mastermaestro:
If you were discerning, you would have understood from op’s accounts that he disrespected her tribe first. This superiority act awakened her own tribal bias. Why would he try to pin the Igbo tag on her? I am sure this is the primary reason she doesn’t like Igbos. Most Igbos she has met have probably wanted her to believe she is one of them.

You don’t know that it’s demeaning to belittle other people’s unique tribal identity no matter how insignificant? This is what the op has been doing to this young lady. Her resentments and bias are daily awakening as a result.

I wish that I could like this a million times

zakkxx:
I am from Southern Kaduna we are 99 percent Christians even my grandfather was a Christian; I feel very angry when a southerner call me Hausa! I am not Hausa! Stop the foolishness by trying to convince her that she is Igbo!! Stop that nonsense!! We are bajju(my tribe) kagoro, Jabba, kattaff, marwa, etc in southern kaduna!! We are not Hausa

Million likes for you

A person who claims to TRUELY follow Christ would not behave in the manner your woman behaves towards Igbos.
It's only a matter of time before you get to the receiving end of her antics when she fails TO CHANGE you as she has stated.