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Mental freedom is key - she is a an atypical closed minded Nigerian - tribalism at home and screams about racism abroad.

Forget am!

Damn!

mastermaestro:
If you were discerning, you would have understood from op’s accounts that he disrespected her tribe first. This superiority act awakened her own tribal bias. Why would he try to pin the Igbo tag on her? I am sure this is the primary reason she doesn’t like Igbos. Most Igbos she has met have probably wanted her to believe she is one of them.

You don’t know that it’s demeaning to belittle other people’s unique tribal identity no matter how insignificant? This is what the op has been doing to this young lady. Her resentments and bias are daily awakening as a result.

look I am not ibo oo but I feel like if they should want their separate identity they should boycott the ibo culture in general by speaking a separate language and to stop adopting ibo names

Dliquidmetal:
go suck Jesus's dick.

Repent and give ur life to Christ. U will not live forever and u will judged for every idle word u've said. Ignorance is not an excuse.

LOL...the OP is looking for who will encourage him to still be with the girl....over 60% advised you leave the babe because you guys are not compatible but you never responded to any one of those. I do not think you guys are even dating from your analysis of how you met and separated due to some reasons..I can tell YOU for free that you havent slept with that girl and she shows a lot of things you are yet to decipher.

The babe does not accept money or gift from you because she does not love you and dont want you to feel entitled to her as a"typical igboman" that you are, you are yet to see things from her point of view because you are the real problem here not her so far from your submission; this babe sees a LOT of igboman who patronize her hourly and the attitude they display, she sees them regularly and as such her appetite for you diminishes based on what she experiences and not instilled by her parents like you claim.

You are not even a real igbo because you willing to bend over religion..she has given you ultimatum and you tend to wan to bend to be a deeper life or what but you cant bend in her views with respect to her tribe? you are a simp oga and you very immature..with what you said she sould be in her early 20s but yet more matured than you.

Rahkman:
look I am not ibo oo but I feel like if they should want their separate identity they should boycott the ibo culture in general by speaking a separate language and to stop adopting ibo names

Have you looked at the mirror today?

You sure look like a clown

Trojan8:
Have you looked at the mirror today?

You sure look like a clown

oga no insult me ...I don't quote fools that's why I quoted that guy in particular,, now go Bleep yourself,you fùcking and worthless piece of cow dung

Rahkman:
oga no insult me ...I don't quote fools that's why I quoted that guy in particular,, now go Bleep yourself,you fùcking and worthless piece of cow dung

Oga don't insult me, then go ahead to type like an illiterate.

Dorwadora:
Leave her and let her be ..... Sincerely, I also have somethings against igbo especially the igbo men. Tho I've never made my dislike to make anyone uncomfortable. But one of the major tenet of a lasting relationship is tolerance and patience. Just leave her and let peace reign.

look at this one o, who cares what you think about igbo men,go sort out your issues with your runaway Igbo father and leave igbo men out of your confusion

Trojan8:
Have you looked at the mirror today?

You sure look like a clown

What he said is the right thing. Igbos in Delta State should acquire a language and culture different from Igbo. This will qualify them as non Igbo.

If the claim by Igbos in Delta that they are not Igbo is correct based on choice, then logically, Igbos in Enugu can choose not to be Igbos too. Who is fooling who?
Illiterates everywhere without logical reasonings.
Just because Anioma was carved out of southeast to southsouth politically and brainwashed to deny being Igbo, you all foolishly accept. Why didn't the delta Igbos change their orijin?

ygowon:
What he said is the right thing. Igbos in Delta State should acquire a language and culture different from Igbo. This will qualify them as non Igbo.

If the claim by Igbos in Delta that they are not Igbo is correct based on choice, then logically, Igbos in Enugu can choose not to be Igbos too. Who is fooling who?
Illiterates everywhere without logical reasonings.
Just because Anioma was carved out of southeast to southsouth politically and brainwashed to deny being Igbo, you all foolishly accept. Why didn't the delta Igbos change their orijin?

Why can't the Ibos acquire a change of identity so they won't associate with Deltans? This kind of mentality is why you all are hated.

If Igbos in Enugu decide that they are not Igbo, how does that affect you as a human?



Learn how to spell origin correctly before forming political correct.

Rahkman:
look I am not ibo oo but I feel like if they should want their separate identity they should boycott the ibo culture in general by speaking a separate language and to stop adopting ibo names

Don't mind those fools who keep blind eyes to their orijin. Very confused people. You are not Igbo but you have all the features and attributes of Igbo. What then are u that's different from Igbo?

Wait oo, for your mind any Igbo cares about your hatred for him. See eehn, before you even start hating, the Igbo man already developed defence against your hate and your hate does nothing to him.
You only suffer the pains that come with the hate because hate. So, Na who loose?
Why u keep hating, he keeps going.


Hahahaha! Igbos to change identify because of small confused people in Delta? U must be very confused

Trojan8:
Why can't the Ibos acquire a change of identity so they won't associate with Deltans? This kind of mentality is why you all are hated.

If Igbos in Enugu decide that they are not Igbo, how does that affect you as a human?



Learn how to spell origin correctly before forming political correct.

ygowon:
Wait oo, for your mind any Igbo cares about your hatred for him. See eehn, before you even start hating, the Igbo man already developed defence against your hate and your hate does nothing to him.
You only suffer the pains that come with the hate because hate. So, Na who loose?
Why u keep hating, he keeps going.

I don't have time to be hating a lowlife bro. The earlier you realize that you can't force a full tribe to associate with you, the better for you. You probably think I care about you beyond this conversation that we are having.

Show me samples plz .drop ur number or email

chatinent:
There's no cause for alarm. You both could peacefully go separate ways without insults, hate, or retaliation. There are others who'd want you both individually for who you are.



If everyone started having a thing against another tribe, you'd not be safe to even manage oxygen. Stop being tribalistic...no tribe has totally good sides! Your hate is just in your head...and it doesn't have to count.

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Trojan8:
I don't have time to be hating a lowlife bro. The earlier you realize that you can't force a full tribe to associate with you, the better for you. You probably think I care about you beyond this conversation that we are having.

hahahaha! U are now denying hating because I made u understand it pains to hate. Lol.
E really pain u brother

Ekzoba:
Show me samples plz .drop ur number or email

Drop your WhatsApp contact. I have video samples.

zakkxx:
I am from Southern Kaduna we are 99 percent Christians even my grandfather was a Christian; I feel very angry when a southerner call me Hausa! I am not Hausa! Stop the foolishness by trying to convince her that she is Igbo!! Stop that nonsense!! We are bajju(my tribe) kagoro, Jabba, kattaff, marwa, etc in southern kaduna!! We are not Hausa

But if u speak ur dialect can an hausa person hear it? If he/she can't then ur comparism is flawed. U will never hear an Igbo person claim that somebody that speak ibibio is Igbo. Igbo is one of the three major ethnic groups in Nigeria. Due to civil war there have been political recalibration of the Igbo race but the cultural traits (including language) has remained inalienable. In summary, IGBO BU IGBO. An American Jew is not an Israelly but that does not mean he/she is not a jew.She may not like the tag Igbo but if black Americans can come to Nigeria to trace their roots to fifth generation why not do a little research or do Nigerians love the cover of ignorance.

ygowon:
hahahaha! U are now denying hating because I made u understand it pains to hate. Lol.
E really pain u brother

OK bro. Take my advice, and take it for free. Nobody would be happy when you try to ascribe a tribe on them, life doesn't work that way.

Ciao

AlexBells:
So, I had known this girl for the past 3 years, she lives in Nsukka and I ussually come around since I have a family here when I met her three years ago, she was writing her WAEC and we seem to fall for each other, however she got admission later that year and now in UNEC so we didn't see for over a year becuase I was going through some stuff that didn't give me space to travel and they packed out from their formal house.

Few weeks back, I came to Nsukka for some trainings and given the ASUU strike, she is staying back in Nsukka, this had given us enough time to reunite, the love and desire is still there but a highly Intolerant girl I never knew had just emerged out of the blue.

[s]First, she's from Agbo Delta State, she is one of the people who don't accept being Igbo[/s][b][/b], okay I have no problem with that but what irritates me is why she always throw subtle insult on the Igbos. Meanwhile since she been on strike she's been the one taking care of their shop where I ussually go to buy stuff and also make withdrawals, apart from the fact that I love her, I prefer to go to her shop becuase they run a POS service so I can easily withdraw and do my shopping right there.

On several occasions, I had overhead her speaking with her mum in their Agbo dialect and I can almost understand them completely despite my being from Nsukka, Ezikoba to be precise. I had asked her on several occasions, if you are not Igbo why do I understand you while you spoke to your mum, she always told me to forget that one.

Then one day a man came to withdraw money and instead of handing the money to her, the man kept the money on the table just about two foot away, so after collecting the money from the table, when the man left she now said "You Igbos don't have respect especially Igbo men, why would he keep the money on the table instead of give it to me", I looked at her and said, I hope you know thats hate speech when you make such generalisation by saying you Igbos while this if at all is an issue is individualistic. I asked her, I'm Igbo what do she think about me, she said I'm different however she wish to change me so I don't have that Igbo attitude, I smiled through that.

Honestly she's decent and intelligent but religious as well and seemingly intolerant in that aspect too, meanwhile I'm not quite the church going type especially because I have a view that religion had severely impaired our society and while acknowledging religion and God, I believe that extremism in religion is as well dangerous, and in another note, I see religion as an aspect of socialisation of which the Nigerian churches is suffering the same decay with the general society and as such I appreciate my peace and most times I isolate myself from most social gatherings.

However we had an argument over time about this whole church and God stuff, she wants me to start going to church, partly her concern is becuase of the rigorous nature of my trainings, she don't appreciate the fact that I'm isolated but the manner she's pressing for that is crazy, this morning she sent me a message telling me that if I don't give my life to christ that I should stop whatever with her, I smiled however to be honest I was hurt.

I'm worried becuase at one point I even considered marrying her, but even if I begin to go to church, what happens to the identity of our children, becuase I know her parents must have been the one that thought her so much intolerance for the Igbos, to even think that she was born and raised in Nsukka. Bellow is the screenshot of her message and reply.

[s]Please I need advice, I don't want anyone to judge her especially as regards her tribal sentiments on the Igbo[/s][b][/b], I understand it is what she had been fed while growing, shes a nice person generally.

You and your Edo prostitute cum Igbo are foolish, no proud Igbo girl will date outside Igbo tribe and only those bastards without father are confused if they are Igbo or not, at the end, Igbos don't give a flying fuvck about you and your headless Edo girl claiming Argbo.

I tell people that I'll rather marry a woman that doesn't go to church at all than to marry one that is a religious fanatic

Their pastor will be lord and savior, his words will be final in whatever decision she wants to make

Someone is alwys spiritually responsible for any minor discomfort and it's always your friends or your family members, the cause of your misfortune or theirs is never from her own side. In the end she will destroy your relationship with your family and friends

Their is always a Neighbor that is attacking her spiritually, most times it's the landord/landlady if you guys are still tenants

To them, problems that can be sloved with critical thinking can only be solved by praying and mistakes that should be blamed on human errors will be blamed on forces from the village

Infact when they talk, you find it hard not to believe that they have lost some of their senses if not all and i can not with clear eyes go and marry a lunatic

Trojan8:
OK bro. Take my advice, and take it for free. Nobody would be happy when you try to ascribe a tribe on them, life doesn't work that way.

Ciao

Hahahaha! When u see a cobra and call it snake, and the cobra said u shouldn't call him snake that he is cobra and not snake, is that cobra not foolish? If you have logical reasoning, you would understand that cobra is a snake because of its features which qualify it a snake.
Please think responsibly. You can easily be brainwashed if you don't reason logically. No difference between you and zombie.

To be sincere with you, I see any Deltan Igbo who does not agree that he/she is igbo as a fool who does not know his right from his left. Well, I have come across some of them and not all of them have that mentality

Bruh you don see the hand writing finish na what more do you want
Don't start what you can't finish
Not that you are not a Christian or grow up in a Christian home since you know that

Let her go and find her type

What love can not do does not exist

ygowon:
Hahahaha! When u see a cobra and call it snake, and the cobra said u shouldn't call him snake that he is cobra and not snake, is that cobra not foolish? If you have logical reasoning, you would understand that cobra is a snake because of its features which qualify it a snake.
Please think responsibly. You can easily be brainwashed if you don't reason logically. No difference between you and zombie.

To be sincere with you, I see any Deltan Igbo who does not agree that he/she is igbo as a fool who does not know his right from his left. Well, I have come across some of them and not all of them have that mentality

OK the Cobra is foolish. Why are you troubled as a snake? You can't force a fool to change, so allow people be. I am Deltan, the class you call Igbo. I don't see myself as Igbo, if you are troubled by that then that's your cup of tea. And oh, I have a fine Igbo name too. I also have a Yoruba name

Trojan8:
OK the Cobra is foolish. Why are you troubled as a snake? You can't force a fool to change, so allow people be. I am Deltan, the class you call Igbo. I don't see myself as Igbo, if you are troubled by that then that's your cup of tea. And oh, I have a fine Igbo name too. I also have a Yoruba name

That's why I see u as being foolish just like the cobra. Foolish people no get sense. They are like the churchy women who obey their daddy G.O instead of their husband

ygowon:
That's why I see u as being foolish just like the cobra. Foolish people no get sense. They are like the churchy women who obey their daddy G.O instead of their husband

Alright...

Trojan8:
Alright...

so, stop being pained when u are regarded as Igbo. There's nothing like Deltan. If you studied geography, you will know the meaning of Delta. Why not call yourself bushan sef

You both are not compatible. Leave her alone and date your type.

See long epistle wey you give am. E pain you sha.

Hmmm

SilentQueen:
If that is her only problem you don't need to leave her...Many Nigerians are like her so no big deal, just try to tell her how you feel about it and hopefully she will change

Many Nigerians are not like that please, biko Kwa...

AlexBells:
I never said I was tolerant, actions and reactions are equal and opposite, however I don't like infringing on people's human right, my religious view is my right and if she can just wake up in the morning and make that statement knowing that it would hurt, you are not expecting me to be the only one getting that feelings, at least let it be mutual, most women appreciate a touch of brutality, that one is even very mild there was no insult there,

You know how a heart feels right, I might laugh and monkey around with my pals but deep down, I'm hurt, I'm broken she should feel it too, let's see who gets over it first, she will go to church to unwind and and I will go to club with my friends, I'm not even the alcoholic type, at the end, we both get over it when I with the girl in the club and she gets positive words from the brother in the church, let both party go astray since love is not enough,

I just want a good bad girl and she just want a bad good boy, she won't find me in the church neither would I find her in the club, the loser here is love, nothing to regret here, once I was heartbroken, I spoke to my mentor who is an octogenarian, he said I should join the club of losers in love, I'm not a first timers, getting close to a veteran.

Just reading this particular lines with "hustle" by teni .(a very fortuitous twist of circumstance I find here with the music)

I will simply juxtapose your condition to the music I am listening to........

The pleasure plenty, , but still people may not understand...... even those you thought will. But still everyone is entitled to Thier own opinion. It's not ego....... you have to balance your propelling action and reaction to heed well......."IT'S ALL PART OF THE HUSTLE".

Don't carry her own trouble double or triple to your own.
Move on and jettison all.


Funny enough my real guy @AlexBells....a good igbo nationalist got a breakfast served by an antagonist to Igbo nationalism.

A pure twist of fate I must say

Slynation:
From the screenshot, she made her points very clear and you also made your stand very clear and precise...!! So both of you should pretend nothing happened and go your separate ways...!!

Honestly speaking, some guys are impressing me this days, no time to be begging around/ trying to convince a confuse or domineering lady anymore, just leave her alone so she can always find you in her memories...!!

succinct