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In the aftermath of a sexual assault or rape, survivors can face extremely difficult and painful emotions and experiences. Every survivor responds to traumatic events in their own way. The effects of the trauma can be short-term or last long after the sexual assault or rape. Rape isn't a thing to wish for even an enemy. As a victim, the effect lives with you for life.
What I don't get is how some low lives(loose women) out there will choose to take advantage of men and our vulnerability and drag us into the milky water of RAPE. How will you be willing to come to my house, put me in a sexual mood, allow me to make some moves to a point of touching your sensitive part, and boom you are not in the mood, even when I tame the man in me, you still shout attempted rape?
My girl compare it with me happening to know a girl has std and I have to withdraw even though I was in the mood. This is one area I couldn't agree with her even though we agreed there is a gray area. Traumatic experiences faced by a rape victim is an enough for someone with a good conscience not to see the rape issues as a new normal. I will like to think it is in the best interest of any lady out there not to play down the issue of RAPE.
I know as a MAN, it is your word against mine. Anything you say about the rape-related issues, society is there to hang me. I was raised to take responsibility, and accept what society throws at me. My mum will always say when life gives you lemons, make lemonade. I know how many times ladies in the workplace, my cities, and even church will tempt me to fall into the milky water of sexual activities in an inappropriate
enviroment and time, I have to prevail using common sense because I am resolute to have a clean record as a man, not all men can be like me or men before me.
I have worked in an organization that takes rape cases as seriously as they can be, I have also in an official capacity worked with a rape victim. I will kill any animal who attempted rape if I were to take the laws into my hands. So it hurt when today's women, can cajole a man into a sexual mood and turn around to shout Rape. Do you have any idea what a RAPE VICTIM went or is currently going through? If you don't want to have sex with a man, be expressive, sound it loud and clear, and be loud to say NO. Never start what you can't finish. Think of me as someone who has a future, please don't ruin it.
For any Rape victim out there, be strong, overcome your defeat, be strong because better days are ahead of you. If you have been accused wrongly, please be strong, there is also a silver line at the end of the ribbon. Society, in particular women, should henceforth stop these new gimmicks NO MEAN NO. The no begin when you didn't come to my house, allow me to be touchy, putting me in a natural mood. Make up your mind, don't be the devil's advocate.

the minute you understand that no means no, then you are all good.... the way you feel, what you desire, how h0rny you are etc is irrelevant to the issue at hand. its very easy for a woman to be h0rny and then she regains her composure and decide to stop the "do". no biggie.

as for the demons who falsely accuse men of rape, their own time will come!

What a confusing idea, are you implying that a woman shouldn't change her mind in the middle of an intimate encounter?

So, if you're kissing and making out and she doesn't want it to go further than that stage she should do what exactly?

This write up reads as if you don't understand that a man is responsible for his erection and it is his job to control his body the same way a woman is responsible for hers.

If a woman says no to sex but yes to making out then only a rapist would push for sex instead of walking away without feeling slighted or wrong done by.

Double0h7:
What a confusing idea, are you implying that a woman shouldn't change her mind in the middle of an intimate encounter?

So, if you're kissing and making out and she doesn't want it to go further than that stage she should do what exactly?

This writer up reads as if you don't understand that a man is responsible for his erection and it is his job to control his body the same way a woman is responsible for hers.

If a woman says no to sex but yes to making out then only a rapist would push for sex instead of walking away without feeling slighted or wrong did.

. Every man has his breaking limit. Sex isn't just penetration, never start what you can't finish. If you don't find me worthy of having sex with you, never give me false hope.

MrBrownJay1:
the minute you understand that no means no, then you are all good.... the way you feel, what you desire, how h0rny you are etc is irrelevant to the issue at hand. it's very easy for a woman to be h0rny and then she regains her composure and decides to stop the "do". no biggie.

as for the demons who falsely accuse men of rape, their own time will come!

. Your no shouldn't be when I am in cloud 9. Start by saying no when we are not in the mood. I hate confusion.

sirjamesjnr:
. Every man has his breaking limit. Sex isn't just penetration, never start what you can't finish. If you don't find me worthy of having sex with you, never give me false hope.

This sounds like a you problem. You should control your reaction to a situation instead of trying to dictate what the other person should or shouldn't do. It's your breaking point and it will be you who is broken so don't rest on that breaking point excuse.

A Woman can say no during intercourse and you have to stop because if you continue then you have sexually violated another person.

A self respecting person knows when they are wanted and when they are not. If I was making out with a man and he says no before he enters should I fight him and knock him out?

Your point is weak and your leaning towards rape apologies rather than taking personal responsibility.

sirjamesjnr:
. Your no shouldn't be when I am in cloud 9. Start by saying no when we are not in the mood. I hate confusion.

bro, have you never been to a restaurant, saw a delicious meal, ordered the meal and after one spoon decided that it wasnt for you?!
there is nothing wrong with changing your mind (in the middle of doing something) and as much as it does hurt, it doesnt make any difference.
the minute you understand the mind of a woman, the better chance you will have to understand them.

here is an important question for you: would you still fukc a babe if her toto oooozes like a dead animal?

sirjamesjnr:
. Your no shouldn't be when I am in cloud 9. Start by saying no when we are not in the mood. I hate confusion.

With this mindset you get trapped in a rape situation or actually rape a woman and not even understand what you did wrong. Grow up because you can't dictate to people what they should or shouldn't do! People will do whatever they want to do and it's left up to you to make the right choice.

MrBrownJay1:
bro, have you never been to a restaurant, saw a delicious meal, ordered the meal and after one spoon decided that it wasnt for you?!
there is nothing wrong with changing your mind (in the middle of doing something) and as much as it does hurt, it doesnt make any difference.
the minute you understand the mind of a woman, the better chance you will have to understand them.

here is an important question for you: would you still fukc a babe if her toto oooozes like a dead animal?

Going by op logic that woman has the right to knock that man out and sit on his face

MrBrownJay1:
bro, have you never been to a restaurant, seen a delicious meal, ordered the meal and after one spoon decided that it is wasn't you?!
there is nothing wrong with changing your mind (in the middle of doing something) and as much as it does hurt, it doesn't make any difference.
the minute you understand the mind of a woman, the better chance you will have to understand them.

here is an important question for you: [color=#990000]would you still fukc a babe if her toto oozes like a dead animal?[/colour]

. Are you talking about an average Nigerian girl( age 16-26) who will struggle with you during her first sexual encounter, even though she wants to have it with you? Are you talking about our girls who say no and when you let go will turn around and calls you names like he is not man enough? I am not in any support of rape or sexual assault but taking advantage of some men's emotions is what I am against.

Double0h7:
With this mindset, you get trapped in a rape situation or actually rape a woman and not even understand what you did wrong. Grow up because you can't dictate to people what they should or shouldn't do! People will do whatever they want to do and it's left up to you to make the right choice.

. Don't place your judgement on mere assumption. I was raised in a big family setting, I already learned the basic rope of life. Never will I be a victim. I am speaking for those voiceless who are in prison because they couldn't overcome this deadly temptation.

sirjamesjnr:
. Are you talking about an average Nigerian girl( age 16-26) who will struggle with you during her first sexual encounter, even though she wants to have it with you? Are you talking about our girls who say no and when you let go will turn around and calls you names like he is not man enough? I am not in any support of rape or sexual assault but taking advantage of some men's emotions is what I am against.

YES BRO, to many women "yes means no" and vice versa....but you have to be an expert in understanding this emotional rollercoaster (and not wrongly assume that every times she says no it means yes) . just because you have stopped your attempt at doing something, does not mean you got to abort the mission, it just means you have to find a different point of entry.... aka if she says no, then stop and communicate with the babe so you understand whats going on....maybe she aint ready; maybe she aint h0rny enough; maybe you need to reassure her that you will go meet her parents next week (lol); maybe she wants you to lick it before you stick it in; who knows what could be the issue, if you dont communicate with her?!

MrBrownJay1:
YES BRO, to many women "yes means no" and vice versa....but you have to be an expert in understanding this emotional rollercoaster (and not wrongly assume that every time she says no it means yes). just because you have stopped your attempt at doing something, does not mean you got to abort the mission, it just means you have to find a different point of entry.... aka if she says no, then stop and communicate with the babe so you understand whats going on....maybe she ain't ready; maybe she ain't h0rny enough; maybe you need to reassure her that you will go meet her parents next week (lol); maybe she wants you to lick it before you stick it in; who knows what could be the issue, if you don't communicate with her?!

. Are we not making a simple exercise(sex) complex like this?

sirjamesjnr:
. Are we not making a simple exercise(sex) complex like this?

REMEMBER: sex is indeed a simple excercise but WOMEN ARE COMPLEX CREATURES!

sirjamesjnr:
. Don't place your judgement on mere assumption. I was raised in a big family setting, I already learned the basic rope of life. Never will I be a victim. I am speaking for those voiceless who are in prison because they couldn't overcome this deadly temptation.

A rape apologist... I thought as much.

Double0h7:
A rape apologist... I thought as much.

. Do I care what you have to say about me? If you have been accused wrongly then you wouldn't call me names. If you are confused as a lady, deal with it never play devil's advocate.

MrBrownJay1:
REMEMBER: sex is indeed a simple exercise but [color=#990000]WOMEN ARE COMPLEX CREATURES![/colour]

. Not all women. My woman knows I adore her but there are times, she said no and I will respect her never for once, has she played with my emotion. I choose simplicity over confusion.

sirjamesjnr:
. Not all women. My woman knows I adore her but there are times, she said no and I will respect her never for once, has she played with my emotion. I choose simplicity over confusion.

it takes a while to discover someone, just like it takes a while for someone to open up to you... and as we know that "no two women are the same", just be happy you found someone who opened up to you very quickly and so easily. everyone out there wishes to find such woman, helas it aint the case