Magnoliaa:


If your wife is an only child or only daughter and she's forced too to live with her mother, will you agree to packing to stay with them?

Omicron123:
How is that possible when it's obvious he is still eating "Mummy thank ma".

Lamanii22:
Currently married to one..

deltateam:


Biblically, a man is supposed to leave his father and mother and cleave onto his wife.

They are supposed to get an outside residence away from their parents because they are about to be parents.

They are not supposed to be parents under their parents.

Vinnie2000:
She wants to Argue Unnecesarily! Dats y i did not even reply her! Where in d world does a newly wedded guy move to his wife's apartment??

Continue responding to people responding to me. That one no mean say I go stop to dey quote you.

If it is AGAINST your culture and tradition and it's an abomination for a man to move to his wife's house, then it is NOT about the fact that he is an only child. Because all your conditions WILL NOT apply to an only female child. So what nonsense were you saying about if he's an only child or a heir? You should have just that, 'O, this is gender-specific.' 'Anythihg I say applies to all men only and not women.'

I painted a simple scenario. Yes, women generally don't inherit. BUT that is changing and laws are backing it up. There are cases of a woman being left as a beneficiary of all her father's properties and companies and houses. It does happen. I always say men are intimidated by successful women, but IF YOU KNOW IT IS NOT A LOW SELF-ESTEEM ON YOUR PART, if you happen to "snag" a babe wey be say her papa big, her papa come leave a big estate house with 7 bedrooms for am, before e die, watin you go do? Answer! O n so fun mi pe I'm putting up baseless arguments. Simply answer. If your fiancée who is an only child, in a rare case, inherits a mansion, will you want her to sell the house or live in it and take care of it as a service to her dead parents?

E be like say you no do any Logic course for that university wey you go abi? Mtchewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.

Gambit1:


My sis married her husband when the guy was still living in his father's house. He was a Msc holder but jobless at the moment, after the wedding, they rented their own house, after 6months thet processed my sister's admission in the UK and they both went. Now they have 3houses in Nigeria, one in lekki, one in ibadan and one in our hometown. They also have a house in Manchester, with three lovely children.

Don't look down on any man.

Vinnie2000:
Wow, wat a story! Let some of NL's 'Oversabi' Girls learn frm dis!.

Prettygirl200:
This one no b talk, as long as u are ready for marriage u should know what to do. If he can't leave the family house bc he is an only child or bc he can't leave his mother then he shouldn't get married, he should remain single or marry his mother. Full stop no lady wants to stay in a family house where their privacies will be invaded.

Prettygirl200:
am just being sincere here I can't marry like that, I need privacy with my husband he can come and be visiting maybe twice a week or so. If he doesn't have that time I will do the visiting with the kids but staying with her is what I don't like.

Cutehector:
This recycled thread.

Oh.. I just discovered i cant marry a lady who doesn't stay alone.. Argue with your keypads

GUNITGuy:

No Matter how rich a single lady is even with a good job she can't stay alone but would be angry when a man who gets his acts together stay with his mum or siblings ..... There's so much double standard here

SilentQueen:
Hell NO
I'd rather stay single
I mean who would be cooking for him We would not be able to knack well in peace

Magnoliaa:


If the wife you intend to marry is the one inheriting this big generational house and she CANNOT leave it alone to go rent an apartment somewhere else, will you pack in with her?

It's a simple question too, my friend. Just answer. Abi you think a woman cannot be in such position? If it is not about having privacy and more about making a compromise, then why can you not do such yourself?

Magnoliaa:


Keep running kitikiti and katakata, attacking an imaginary oversabi lady. My questions are there, staring you in the face. Go answer them, Man.

radna2:

I'm a man, but forget talk. From this your statement eh, omo you be wasted sp*rm o. Na uselu you suppose dey like this unless no be woman born you.

Vinnie2000:
Your question is TOO SILLY to be answered! No matter how a bride is, She still goes to the groom's house after marriage! Even Rita Dominic will stay in her new hubby's house and not vice-versa! Pls I dont have time for Nonsense! Thank you!

sircatherine45:
Magnoliaa, I want to get your opinion:

What if the guy's mother is sick or needs special help, and with the current economic and security challenges hiring a househelp, how you you view the scenario?

Vinnie2000:
She wants to Argue Unnecesarily! Dats y i did not even reply her! Where in d world does a newly wedded guy move to his wife's apartment??

E2000:
I observe that in India movies billionaire family live together in one very big furnished house or Estate. I see nothing bad in leaving in the same Estate with my parents so far we are mega rich but I will like to have my own separate quarters. It all depends on individuals and how you were trained and wired mentally. I advice if you want to marry someone very important in a billionaire home were they already live together be careful not to try separate him from his family. They will see you as a treat to their unity and revolt against you.

Kelvin3476:

Something must be wrong with our dear sister

Magnoliaa:


What if the lady's mother is sick or needs special help, and with the current economic and security challenges hiring a househelp, how you handle the situation?

I rarely support a one-size-fit-all for couple issues and dynamics. So let a couple do what's best for them and cost-saving and sensible. What I speak against is the imposing of a cast role for women all the time. "She must do this or get out." I mean, do you think a lady cannot easily be in such a position? She could have a blind mother too. Or have a house bestowed to her. Or a legacy she has to managed. Is it logical to tell her to forfeit all of that just because of marriage? Or... I don't get.

I'm not saying nobody shouldn't take care of their parents when it is absolutely necessary. I am not getting married or starting a family soon, so I cannot say this is exactly what I'll do, but if my mother is sick, the top priority on my mind would be getting her back to great health or at least achieving some level of comfortability and financial stability before I'm going to be getting joined to somebody else.

But, if it comes to it that I have to get married and then care for an ailing parent, for myself and for my partner and whether the parent is mine or his, we'll do it. Together. If they absolutely have no where else to go or who to stay with, they'll live with us. Because if not, why did we get married to each other?