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PericomaNwankwo:
I think it's a psychological problem. Is the pain from your manhood's size or lack of natural vaginal lubricant? If a woman gets aroused, she will surely wet and open up for penetration. I think you have to do more to seduce her desires. If you make her want sex, she will adjust.

I dated this girl back then that just got out of a relationship where the bf uses water to make her wet before penetration because he lacks the skill to seduce her cravings. Bro when we started dating, she got so wet that she once boasted to me that she is a squirter because of excess waters. How does it happen?? You have to know how to make a woman want it, I swear when she craves it, her p#ssy walls can't stand the desire to open up. The pain is pleasuring too.

Emotional and physical Seduction are very important.

If you're used to going straight to the point, then you have to learn to take it easy. Tease her, nibble her nipples, adore her sexiness, curves, necks, shoulders , foreheads and even her bare chests are sensitive spots . Explore her body and you'll see arousal.

Thanks Boss ����

Jmichael1:
And my neibour dey run 4rm house bcus him babe wn use Bleep kill am....dis life no balance at all.

indeed, it is not my brother

estheremma:
Poster,are you aware that some people feel guilty about fornication and get tensed up?Those kind of people were brought up with certain ideologies,it will only take marriage for those kind to relax during sex and enjoy it

maybe, just maybe this is why

Jimthebond:
Why are you sounding like a simp but anyways ..... she might be lesbian or she might have a had traumatic experience..... find out from her if she have been raped or something.... if not I think you tackle this before marrying because you might end up wasting money for marriage

well, I asked, she didn't experience any

twosquare:
Get her a female therapist before a gynaecologist. Also, it may be out of trauma, childhood trauma. Whatever way, you may need to put intro on hold until both of you find a solution. If not, you will be frustrated in the marriage.

will take note of this

Elvis295:
Guy, the simple truth is that ur girl is suffering from a medical condition called "dyspareunia". The sad news is that there is no cure for it. Your fiancee knows the truth but she wouldn't open up to it. The reason she refused going to the gynaecologist is that he will open up her secret to u and u may eventually leave her.
I once had gf like that. The major cause of dyspareunia is child rape, female circumcision. Let her tell u her own story. It's bad she is hiding it from you.
Remember there is no cure. It's life time defect. It's not her intention to deny u sex.
Don't marry her except u want to use IVF for childbearing.
Chat me on 09065070111 for more info

yeah, she was circumcised
she told me this at some point

Shoodboi:
Can you cope with it? if your answer is no, brother (since you called us brother), move on. I've been down this road before. She's hiding something. Don't be surprised if she doesn't have a womb or has even had a child before. I know I sound extreme and harsh, but I'm telling you from experience.

After marriage, she may turn around to confess to having a child through "rape", and then use that to justify why she hates sex. Or she even claims to have been raped by a person she "trusted" and had to abort the child, destroying her womb in the process.

These were the same signs I saw too and I ignored them only to end up spending millions in court and hospital bills for a child turned out not to be mine.

Why is she refusing an appointment and supplements if her conscience is clean? Or do you think it doesn't bother her more than it bothers you? Start by asking her if she has a child? If she says no, ask if she has ever aborted? Be smart with it and make her believe someone told you something about her.

sincerely, she had her first with me
I just dunno what's wrong

Deejaygold:
Same problem I'm facing currently in my marriage. God will help us o! Hmmm!

and how have You been coping Sir ?

Munzy14:
Same here...It was my best relationship so far.

Was . I'm still on it Sha. And by Gods grace it will last forever

lomprico:
Give her a very good head, she won't know when she drags you in.

she doesn't allow oral

Emjace:
Was . I'm still on it Sha. And by Gods grace it will last forever

Yea..was o..Something else made it not to work.


If you two agree to make it last, it will surely last..Two will work together if they agreed.

If she is good and decent, make sure it last forever..Good luck!

benikad:
Oh, seems I sabi ur babe or na people wey get this issue plenty?

lol

OluwoR:
lol, I aiidy did, maybe a year ago
she disposed it

. Not this particularly supplement

braine:
Your story is really deep. Sorry you had to go through that.

We're still on the matter and they're being dodgy with the whole thing. It's now I understand what they mean when they say women don't appreciate nice guys. It's insane.

Bombolistic:
This is a clear case of female circumcision. You should ask her questions.

yeah, she was circumcised

OluwoR:
sincerely, she had her first with me
I just dunno what's wrong

Are you sure? I doubt you're her first. Mine was always telling me sex was painful and refusing to use a condom because it made it more painful. I trusted her only to discover she was hoeing around. Ask her the questions I told you to ask. And pretend you heard something about her. Pester her until she tells you the truth. You'd be surprised with what you'd hear.

Ola4lead:
Bro you have been dealing with it for this long and you're now searching for solutions?

Firstly dating a lady since 2014 and first sex 2019 and since then nothing and this is 2022, how have you been coping bro?

Before I can give you some good advice, you need to answer this question.
Do you met her a Virgin? If the answer is no, you need to ask her about her sexual past cos most rape victims as Virgin hate sex until they're able to move on

she was a virgin

ezenna191:
She may be a victim of Female Genital Mutilation ( FGM). She may have been cut terribly. This is the social consequence of the evils practice

can't agree less with you

Munzy14:
Yea..was o..Something else made it not to work.


If you two agree to make it last, it will surely last..Two will work together if they agreed.

If she is good and decent, make sure it last forever..Good luck!

Chai.. Agreement it is. I will let things to keep flowing.. Thanks Bro. A Massive Luck To You As Well

agaricus007:
Let me ask you a question and it might look somehow to you. I careful read all the comments and nobody mentioned it. Do you have that thing big? If yes; that is the cause of the rejection cos the pain she went through @first place will be brought back to her memory since she is not a sex freak. Although there is remedy to that.

not really Sir

OluwoR:
nope Sir, I was her first

I be lady , guess she's not comfortable with you ,my 2cent though.

OluwoR:
she was a virgin

Try pre-intimacy and make sure she is wet

Second option : talk to her about it and about how much you guys needs helps in getting it sort out. Let her know there is no way you can cope with once in a blue moon sex.

Blastedholligan:
what was her reason?

Genital Mutilation stuff sha

cooooooks:
What of her parents? Have you spoken with them?

she doesn't want us to involve both families

[quote author=MhizzKay post=112497429]I really don't post on nairaland that much but I read your story and decided to just give you a simple advise .
See nothing is wrong with your babe, a lot of mentally unstable people are advising you to leave her, please don't do that.
I m a single lady and I Ve been in a similar situation before so I want to use my own experience to talk to you and to advise as many single ladies who may find themselves in this condition.
If she's a dedicated Christian, it could be that she's not okay with sex before marriage, that's one.
Another thing about her condition is that you have to keep having sex with her on a regular basis maybe 3 to four times a week so that she can be opened..if you don't have sex with her regularly , the whole place will become tight again. So sex has to be a regular thing.
I personally went to see the doctor too, I felt I had a problem, at a point I felt it was going to take me time to get pregnant.I was extremely worried.

It's nothing to worry about
Just have a decent conversation with her
Go see the doctor together and make sure you both are on the same page except she doesn't like you ...but if she does , it's just a matter of calming down and then talking to her ... She will adjust eventually ...I can assure you that nothing serious is wrong with her .... It's just a rare condition.... U guys will overcome by Gods grace ..it's frustrating and tiring too but love conquers all..don't destroy your relationship because of SS3 students giving u advise ..a lot of idiots have access to social media now , remember. But most importantly practice safe sex,sex within the confines of marriage and also let her know that what she's going through might be a problem in the marriage so that she can adjust too..because having sex has to do with the right mindset. [/quotet

thanks and God Bless You Ma ❤

Shoodboi:
Are you sure? I doubt you're her first. Mine was always telling me sex was painful and refusing to use a condom because it made it more painful. I trusted her only to discover she was hoeing around. Ask her the questions I told you to ask. And pretend you heard something about her. Pester her until she tells you the truth. You'd be surprised with what you'd hear.

don't know how to convince you
but seriously speaking, I was her first
I swear

Ola4lead:
Try pre-intimacy and make sure she is wet

Second option : talk to her about it and about how much you guys needs helps in getting it sort out. Let her know there is no way you can cope with once in a blue moon sex.

this is the wahala
if u like, use a year for pre-intimacy, she just doesn't get wet

Shoodboi:
We're still on the matter and they're being dodgy with the whole thing. It's now I understand what they mean when they say women don't appreciate nice guys. It's insane.

I can imagine. Thats why some of us planning to settle down need to learn

OluwoR:
and how have You been coping Sir ?

Gradually, we're overcoming it with the aid of porn videos, wasn't easy on her actually

Deejaygold:
Gradually, we're overcoming it with the aid of porn videos, wasn't easy on her actually

it is well,
once tried to watch it with Her here,
didn't work

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