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Nawa ooo @ op

Calm down

From your evidence do you think they have knacked yet

If she has not cheated yet just caution her very well and forgive her.

But if they have been knacking or knacked then a more drastic decision must be taken.

Some NLs are extremely very wicked or foolish. They initially tried to make you sound insecure and childish for wanting to investigate your gut feelings from obvious cheating pointers. Now you have confirmed your worst fears, of which she is definitely cheating. They imply you have no proof of actual sex.

In other words, wait till you witness live sex or watch her porn video. Oga, cheating can both be physical or emotional, or both. Definitely emotional cheating has occurred, you can’t tell how physical they have gone or for how long it has been ongoing.

What else or proof do you want? Sometimes, most of you deserves what happens to you guys. Imagine wanting to sue the guy, when it was your LovePeddler that cheated on you. Did the guy make a vow with you? Do you think if given another chance, she is going to change? Do you think she is sorry? She is simply sorry she got caught! She will improvise better next time. To even save a male number as female without your premonition is enough to tell you that even your life is no safe.

Klass99:
Ghen ghen. You can't sue the other man for anything, he hasn't done anything wrong by law. Neither has he done anything wrong by African culture and standards.

Face your wife first and trash this issue with her. Feel all of your emotions and let them run its course, then try to decide from your mind, head and heart on what to do. You don't have to decide immediately, just sit with your thoughts and feelings for 2 or 3 days. I am sorry for what you are experiencing, emotional pain can be extremely hurtful and demoralizing. Moreso that you say you've never cheated on her.

@ Shizzle1, I hope you can see what "men are polygamous by nature" is causing? It is causing extreme selfishness and insensitivity, where one man cannot respect another man's marriage/home. The wife get her own for body, no doubt. But, can you see what I was saying in the other thread? I no wan argue o, I am just saying.

https://www.pulse.ng/entertainment/celebrities/federal-high-court-found-daddy-freeze-guilty-ordered-to-pay-millions/np585d3

Freeze apparently was sued and had to pay 5m. So there's precedent. I have forgotten the full details of the article

GloriousGbola:
https://www.pulse.ng/entertainment/celebrities/federal-high-court-found-daddy-freeze-guilty-ordered-to-pay-millions/np585d3

Freeze apparently was sued and had to pay 5m. So there's precedent. I have forgotten the full details of the article

Wow! What a judgement I just read. small small, sense go dey enter.

Marriage not for the faint hearted.

Solacemk:
Hi Nairalanders. I need your help.

We are married for 8 months now but I'm starting to suspect her, it all started with calls she's making, though the contact name shows female name but she will move to the other room to receive the call, and sometimes she will not even receive when I'm around, i never asked her why but one day the phone was closed to me then a number called with a female name on it, she picked the call and started laughing then cut the phone she acted like it's her friend that called. Then after few minutes she moved to the other room and call the number again, after that i started having doubts, when she left the phone i picked it and open it because i know the password, i copied the number and checked it with Truecaller but the name that appears on it was male's name. Pls I'm really confused. Is she really cheating on me? Or it's just an error, should i proceed with the investigation or i should just leave it and forget about it. Please Brothers and sisters help me. I'm dying inside. I've never cheated on her since when we are dating. Please help a brother. Please jokers should keep off. Thank you all.

You need to be strong at this stage

What does she do, does she go out at will or she works and go out and come back

At this stage, you need to seat her down a tell her that you ate suspicious of her and you want her to tell you the areas that you ha e failed that made her have male friends and probably lovers

You see when a married woman starts keeping on line friends, it's possible that something is lacking an it may not necessarily mean money

Be calm with her and she will tell you some things that will give you a clue

But I'd you know that you have been fucking up as a man by failing in your duties don't bother asking her if you know that you won't seat up

No matter how faithful you are to your wife and you can't afford to take care of your home yet you won't humble yourself to her, you have lost it

Righteousness2:
Just 8 months and you are already suspecting?
Didn't you know the woman you married?
Or has what you read on nairaland taken over your thoughts.

Stop suspecting your wife without a clear evidence. If you have reasons to do so, then Boldly thrash it out with her as a family.

Don't let "red pillers " pollute your mind. Or create a war when there is non.

Most Important! As the head of the home, bring your home Genuiely to JESUS and ensure HE reigns in your home. Because it is only in Christ that there can be true peace.

lmao righteousness2 said you shouldn't let we redpiller pollute your mind but you yourself can see the hand writing boldly written on the world

Why not you used a different phone and call that particular number and you will just hear a voice of a man

What else do you want to know? Let me not joke with you, your wife is a chronic cheat and a master of the game.But unfortunately she doesn't know how play it well, hence she shoot herself in the foot.Just begin your investigation.If you want an assistant, or help on how to go about it, just quote me.I hope the cheat doesn't break you so hard.

Marriage this days should be included in 1000 ways to die

It seems your wife is still in touch with her x if am to go by what you just type down and i bet you he will bleed her soon

Never underestimate Okafor's law

ImaIma1:
First be sure that it's a guy she's talking to you. Aside that, there might be nothing wrong with going to another room to call your friend. I do it, especially when we want to gossip.

Another cheat on the beat trying to justify her fellow cheat's cheating acts.

VictorUSA:
Another cheat on the beat trying to justify her fellow cheat's cheating acts.

Oh please shut up!

You think everything is about cheating. Your little mind has been conditioned by the Nairaland syndrome that affects most guys here.

You can't even think clearly and objectively because you want to get likes and a pat on the back for aligning with the prevailing mindset. Keep it up and don't try to use your brain.

see as I dey laugh here.... God please help me oooo... Yul edochie matter and majority of nairaland men's opinion on polygamy, has now made me to always laugh whenever I read about women cheating ... Who are these women cheating with? Our polygamous men of course! You see, when the society support evil because they feel the gender involve his superior according to their mentality, then it will surely rob off on every one of us. Oga op, sorry oooo, forgive your wife as men will always say women should forgive them when they cheat. Always endeavor to pray together both morning and night with her, by so doing, God will be involve in your home.

Solacemk:
Hi Nairalanders. I need your help.

We are married for 8 months now but I'm starting to suspect her, it all started with calls she's making, though the contact name shows female name but she will move to the other room to receive the call, and sometimes she will not even receive when I'm around, i never asked her why but one day the phone was closed to me then a number called with a female name on it, she picked the call and started laughing then cut the phone she acted like it's her friend that called. Then after few minutes she moved to the other room and call the number again, after that i started having doubts, when she left the phone i picked it and open it because i know the password, i copied the number and checked it with Truecaller but the name that appears on it was male's name. Pls I'm really confused. Is she really cheating on me? Or it's just an error, should i proceed with the investigation or i should just leave it and forget about it. Please Brothers and sisters help me. I'm dying inside. I've never cheated on her since when we are dating. Please help a brother. Please jokers should keep off. Thank you all.

Oga investigate and take action before she kills you or provokes you to the point that you kill her.

Dude just grow some balls and have a meeting with her. Sit her down and confront her with your accusations.
If you don’t like what you hear go to your in laws and report her.
If you don’t like what they say. Pack her stuff out of the house and drop them at the in-laws place.
8 months is just too early for all this stuff . You should be in honey mood phase. So cut your lose quickly and move on!

Richy4:
Now that you got your facts,
U can divorce her on grounds of infidelity... Just let her go in my opinion... That's what I would do if I was to be in your shoes... because the trust will never be there...

But U can be a better man than me by forgiving and totally forgotten the issues...

But remember how stuffs plays in our subconscious mind ... If she says that she will be home by 4:30pm for example, and she returns by 4:40pm because of traffic congestion... We all knows where your mind would be...

Every call she makes will be scrutinized and it will awoken suspicion..her Buhari body language will be read by you constantly; even if it was a call from her relatives...

I am so Sorry buddy...I swear u deserve a free hug, it's not gonna be easy 'emotional wise'.. just months of marriage...I wish you have more options but unfortunately, u got just two.... Which is Forgive and forget totally and start on a clean slate OR u let her go...

You deserve 2 bottles of chilled Heineken

ImaIma1:
Oh please shut up!

You think everything is about cheating. Your little mind has been conditioned by the Nairaland syndrome that affects most guys here.

You can't even think clearly and objectively because you want to get likes and a pat on the back for aligning with the prevailing mindset. Keep it up and don't try to use your brain.

I do not care about likes or e-pat on the back, i'm saying the reality.Can you boldly swear that you never cheated on your boyfriend/husband?

VictorUSA:
I do not care about likes or e-pat on the back, i'm saying the reality.Can you boldly swear that you never cheated on your boyfriend/husband?

I should swear to who or because of who? You? As per my e-inlaw right? You are a joker.

Since you think cheating is a general thing that all women do, don't worry your wife will cheat on you.

Obviously, she I cheating on you. Keep calm till you have gathered enough evidence and catch her in the act

Solacemk:
Yeah she do. I caught her several times making calls in the middle of the night before we were Married, she always says she's sorry she won't do it again. But why won't i worry? Thank you

This is suspicious. Who was she always calling at midnight? If she is still making such suspicions calls, it doesn't mean she is already cheating. If it's to a guy, she's getting attached to him and it's just a matter of time and place for intimacy to happen.

Please confront her and quit killing yourself. Since you know the number, let her call the person in front of you. Whatever decision you make after that should be for your peace of mind.

ImaIma1:
I should swear to who or because of who? You? As per my e-inlaw right? You are a joker.

Since you think cheating is a general thing that all women do, don't worry your wife will cheat on you.

Thats not the issue.Again, can you swear that you never cheated on your boyfriend/husband? And in your shallow mind you think everybody wants to get married? I pity any single guy that is thinking of marriage.

Richy4:
Now that you got your facts,
U can divorce her on grounds of infidelity... Just let her go in my opinion... That's what I would do if I was to be in your shoes... because the trust will never be there...

But U can be a better man than me by forgiving and totally forgotten the issues...

But remember how stuffs plays in our subconscious mind ... If she says that she will be home by 4:30pm for example, and she returns by 4:40pm because of traffic congestion... We all knows where your mind would be...

Every call she makes will be scrutinized and it will awoken suspicion..her Buhari body language will be read by you constantly; even if it was a call from her relatives...

I am so Sorry buddy...I swear u deserve a free hug, it's not gonna be easy 'emotional wise'.. just months of marriage...I wish you have more options but unfortunately, u got just two.... Which is Forgive and forget totally and start on a clean slate OR u let her go...

Thank you Sir

emmanuelbrown26:
WHEN U THINK THAT SOME SIMPS ARE BEING LIBERATED, WE NEVER KNEE THAT MORE SIMPS KEEpS COMING UP DAY BY DAY.
U SOUNDED LIKE SOMEBODY I KNOW HIS WIFE

Me wife?? In this Era of confused ladies that doesn't know exactly what they want??

Now, this is exactly what played out, before OP got married his wife, she was dating that guy and they were all loved up, but OP simpingly came along used money and gifts to confuse and twist her head and managed to convinced her to marry him, since this confused gender are always fond of dating who is available and marry who is ready, they decided to accept the proposal of OP and my innocent brother here thought she was heaven sent whom fell from heaven not knowing she only fell from a 5 story building...

Omo...marriages looks more like a comedy than a union of recent.

Solacemk:
Hi Nairalanders. I need your help.

We are married for 8 months now but I'm starting to suspect her, it all started with calls she's making, though the contact name shows female name but she will move to the other room to receive the call, and sometimes she will not even receive when I'm around, i never asked her why but one day the phone was closed to me then a number called with a female name on it, she picked the call and started laughing then cut the phone she acted like it's her friend that called. Then after few minutes she moved to the other room and call the number again, after that i started having doubts, when she left the phone i picked it and open it because i know the password, i copied the number and checked it with Truecaller but the name that appears on it was male's name. Pls I'm really confused. Is she really cheating on me? Or it's just an error, should i proceed with the investigation or i should just leave it and forget about it. Please Brothers and sisters help me. I'm dying inside. I've never cheated on her since when we are dating. Please help a brother. Please jokers should keep off. Thank you all.

Haaa...after 8months? She's not a faithful wife, please proceed with your investigation.

Solacemk:
Hi Nairalanders. I need your help.

We are married for 8 months now but I'm starting to suspect her, it all started with calls she's making, though the contact name shows female name but she will move to the other room to receive the call, and sometimes she will not even receive when I'm around, i never asked her why but one day the phone was closed to me then a number called with a female name on it, she picked the call and started laughing then cut the phone she acted like it's her friend that called. Then after few minutes she moved to the other room and call the number again, after that i started having doubts, when she left the phone i picked it and open it because i know the password, i copied the number and checked it with Truecaller but the name that appears on it was male's name. Pls I'm really confused. Is she really cheating on me? Or it's just an error, should i proceed with the investigation or i should just leave it and forget about it. Please Brothers and sisters help me. I'm dying inside. I've never cheated on her since when we are dating. Please help a brother. Please jokers should keep off. Thank you all.

Make i give you small military intelligence clue.
what you need to do google apps that record conversations and send the logs to your Google drive on your wife phone and in less than 7 days you'll get all logs to the call she makes and those that call her.

More red flag than a communist party flag....Ogbeni see red flag still dey confused �

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Omo!
I've read every comments and all I could still say is...
"Omo!"

VictorUSA:
Thats not the issue.Again, can you swear that you never cheated on your boyfriend/husband? And in your shallow mind you think everybody wants to get married? I pity any single guy that is thinking of marriage.

Don't worry as you grow older, your small mind will mature and you will realize that many married people said this exact same thing before you. Nothing new here.