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ImaIma1:
Don't worry as you grow older, you small mind will mature and you will realize that many married people said this exact same thing before you. Nothing new here.

Thats not the issue here.Will you boldly swear that you never cheated on your boyfriend/husband? I was born to different parent at a different time in a different place.Stop comparing a stone with an ice block.

Solacemk:
Yeah she do. I caught her several times making calls in the middle of the night before we were Married, she always says she's sorry she won't do it again. But why won't i worry? Thank you

If you caught her several times doing same thing pre-marriage, why are you complaining now?

Confront her, she would apologize like she always does and you move on like you always do.

Persephone1:
In as much as your post seems right, the bolded is erroneous.
Being married does not necessarily mean cutting off friends.There will certainly be a change in time spent with friends but not total cut off. That's barbaric! She's married not serving terms in kirikiri prison, right?

Cutting off friends does not connote respect, That's a sign of social imbalance.

@bold:

Toor!

That's why marriage seems like a bondage to them.

Solacemk:
Hi Nairalanders. I need your help.

We are married for 8 months now but I'm starting to suspect her, it all started with calls she's making, though the contact name shows female name but she will move to the other room to receive the call, and sometimes she will not even receive when I'm around, i never asked her why but one day the phone was closed to me then a number called with a female name on it, she picked the call and started laughing then cut the phone she acted like it's her friend that called. Then after few minutes she moved to the other room and call the number again, after that i started having doubts, when she left the phone i picked it and open it because i know the password, i copied the number and checked it with Truecaller but the name that appears on it was male's name. Pls I'm really confused. Is she really cheating on me? Or it's just an error, should i proceed with the investigation or i should just leave it and forget about it. Please Brothers and sisters help me. I'm dying inside. I've never cheated on her since when we are dating. Please help a brother. Please jokers should keep off. Thank you all.

Story teller and clout chaser you are.

@OP She is obviously cheating on you or about to.. the other guy has her firmly under his grip regardless of her marital status.

VictorUSA:
Thats not the issue here.Will you boldly swear that you never cheated on your boyfriend/husband? I was born to different parent at a different time in a different place.Stop comparing a stone with an ice block.

Swear where? And to whom? Nairaland is not a shrine or a law court, neither is it anything respectable with a good amount of sensible people to swear by.

Besides, my fidelity is not on trial.

bukatyne:
If you caught her several times doing same thing pre-marriage, why are you complaining now?

Confront her, she would apologize like she always does and you move on like you always do.

True. He still went ahead despite the suspicions behaviour.

But you are mean @ the second paragraph.

Edit: I finally got all the proof i need, i confront her she cried hard and begged me to forgive her and keep it secret, i later called the guy he confirmed that she was his ex and they're still in contact before i caught them but he promised never to call her or talk to her in anyway. Now to forgive her na im be the real problem. I don't know if i should let her go. Coz I'm really confused.

Solacemk:
Edit: I finally got all the proof i need, i confront her she cried hard and begged me to forgive her and keep it secret, i later called the guy he confirmed that she was his ex and they're still in contact before i caught them but he promised never to call her or talk to her in anyway. Now to forgive her na im be the real problem. I don't know if i should let her go. Coz I'm really confused.

give her one more chance.
Warn her sternly and die the matter.
Don't accept the advice of people shouting divorce!!!

Yen yen yen... u saw the signs but u still decided to get married to her anyway. Now u dey complain

ImaIma1 swear to God with your destiny that you never cheated on your boyfriend/husband and stop telling me stories for the gods.

Oga, did you read the modified post he did where he narrated how he find had proofs she was still seeing her ex? Biko read before you start spewing rubbish

Righteousness2:
Just 8 months and you are already suspecting?
Didn't you know the woman you married?
Or has what you read on nairaland taken over your thoughts.

Stop suspecting your wife without a clear evidence. If you have reasons to do so, then Boldly thrash it out with her as a family.

Don't let "red pillers " pollute your mind. Or create a war when there is non.

Most Important! As the head of the home, bring your home Genuiely to JESUS and ensure HE reigns in your home. Because it is only in Christ that there can be true peace.

VictorUSA:
ImaIma1 swear to God with your destiny that you never cheated on your boyfriend/husband and stop telling me stories for the gods.

VictorUSA swearing here is of no consequence. And you mean nothing in our matters.

ImaIma1:
Victor USA swearing here is of no consequence. And you mean nothing in our matters.

Ma'am if you never cheated on ur boyfriend, swear to God with your destiny.If you have cheated, stop beating around the bush and STFU!

Yul Edochie has made me not to have any pity for men anymore, I guess Op's wife thinks same too.

Solacemk:
Edit: I finally got all the proof i need, i confront her she cried hard and begged me to forgive her and keep it secret, i later called the guy he confirmed that she was his ex and they're still in contact before i caught them but he promised never to call her or talk to her in anyway. Now to forgive her na im be the real problem. I don't know if i should let her go. Coz I'm really confused.

Why always the Exs?

@op, one thing you should know is that no one will out rightly tell you to divorce your wife, they will only advise you talk to her, blablabla. A marriage of 8 months is still very young for a woman to be sleeping around, perhaps she only married you for what you can offer.

From the evidence you've gathered so far, it obvious she is cheating on you with her ex. One thing is certain about cheaters, they will never change but employ another tactic to continue where they stop.

If I am in your shoes, I will send her back to her parents even if I will still consider her again after she must have taking an oath.

It is now left for you to decide your faith.

Solacemk:
Hi Nairalanders. I need your help.

We are married for 8 months now but I'm starting to suspect her, it all started with calls she's making, though the contact name shows female name but she will move to the other room to receive the call, and sometimes she will not even receive when I'm around, i never asked her why but one day the phone was closed to me then a number called with a female name on it, she picked the call and started laughing then cut the phone she acted like it's her friend that called. Then after few minutes she moved to the other room and call the number again, after that i started having doubts, when she left the phone i picked it and open it because i know the password, i copied the number and checked it with Truecaller but the name that appears on it was male's name. Pls I'm really confused. Is she really cheating on me? Or it's just an error, should i proceed with the investigation or i should just leave it and forget about it. Please Brothers and sisters help me. I'm dying inside. I've never cheated on her since when we are dating. Please help a brother. Please jokers should keep off. Thank you all.


Edit: I finally got all the proof i need, i confront her she cried hard and begged me to forgive her and keep it secret, i later called the guy he confirmed that she was his ex and they're still in contact before i caught them but he promised never to call her or talk to her in anyway. Now to forgive her na im be the real problem. I don't know if i should let her go. Coz I'm really confused.

Lol, the problem is this, even if u forgive her, she wont look appealing to you like before again. Take that from me. But u have to forgive naani

ImaIma1:
VictorUSA swearing here is of no consequence. And you mean nothing in our matters.

Aahh chaiii

To trust her again na im be the real problem. I hope i get a place in my heart to forgive her

OlawaleBammie:
Lol, the problem is this, even if u forgive her, she wont look appealing to you like before again. Take that from me. But u have to forgive naani

Man divorce her cheating a*s. Once a cheat, always a cheat. This incident will forever stick in your memory, and it will be difficult to trust her again. Forgive but divorce. Remember, your peace of mind is paramount.

Also do DNA if you've got kids with her.

AjiBussu:
Man divorce her cheating a*s. Once a cheat, always a cheat. This incident will forever stick in your memory, and it will be difficult to trust her again. Forgive but divorce. Remember, your peace of mind is paramount.

Also do DNA if you've got kids with her.

No need advising him again. He knows what’s best for him. He found out it was her ex, which means they were both co-dating her and co-sexing her while he was actively dating her, because she can’t convince that an ex just popped out of the blue after marriage. He has been in the picture all along as the third leg in the wheel. Nature has revealed all he needs to him, but he is too weak to act. He doesn’t even know for how long they have taken him for a fool, all through his dating and courtship experience down into his marriage, no respect and honor. Allow him keep her secret and move on like nothing happened, his end will justify his actions today. People that are simply going to go stealth, if they did not quit while you started dating her, nor respect her matrimony and quit after marriage, it’s because she was caught now that she will quit?

You're 100% correct

skoskosko:
No need advising him again. He knows what’s best for him. He found out it was her ex, which means they were both co-dating her and co-sexing her while he was actively dating her, because she can’t convince that an ex just popped out of the blue after marriage. He has been in the picture all along as the third leg in the wheel. Nature has revealed all he needs to him, but he is too weak to act. He doesn’t even know for how long they have taken him for a fool, all through his dating and courtship experience down into his marriage, no respect and honor. Allow him keep her secret and move on like nothing happened, his end will justify his actions today. People that are simply going to go stealth, if they did not quit while you started dating her, nor respect her matrimony and quit after marriage, it’s because she was caught now that she will quit?

Solacemk:
Hi Nairalanders. I need your help.

We are married for 8 months now but I'm starting to suspect her, it all started with calls she's making, though the contact name shows female name but she will move to the other room to receive the call, and sometimes she will not even receive when I'm around, i never asked her why but one day the phone was closed to me then a number called with a female name on it, she picked the call and started laughing then cut the phone she acted like it's her friend that called. Then after few minutes she moved to the other room and call the number again, after that i started having doubts, when she left the phone i picked it and open it because i know the password, i copied the number and checked it with Truecaller but the name that appears on it was male's name. Pls I'm really confused. Is she really cheating on me? Or it's just an error, should i proceed with the investigation or i should just leave it and forget about it. Please Brothers and sisters help me. I'm dying inside. I've never cheated on her since when we are dating. Please help a brother. Please jokers should keep off. Thank you all.


Edit: I finally got all the proof i need, i confront her she cried hard and begged me to forgive her and keep it secret, i later called the guy he confirmed that she was his ex and they're still in contact before i caught them but he promised never to call her or talk to her in anyway. Now to forgive her na im be the real problem. I don't know if i should let her go. Coz I'm really confused.

Their is an app that spy people's phone activities you can get one and confirm if what she claimed was true.