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franchasofficia:
Cc: Lucasmuyiwaa


First, I must admit the fact that your dad went too far, his behavior is completely wrong and out of order. I am putting myself in your dad's shoe, I can't treat my own son that way no matter what, God will never allow such behavior or situation to even arise in my home.



Secondly, I am sorry to say that you seem to be a stubborn child, you really need to work on yourself.


How or why are you completely unemployed at 27yrs? For someone that have a capable father that can afford a house in the city? It either means your dad didn't equip you properly for future challenges or you failed to take advantage of the trainings he gave to you while growing up which is how bad children come about.


If you were a good child, at 17 you are done with secondary school, at worst at 25 you are done with higher institution considering the worst educational situation in Nigeria.


With the little I can deduce from your write up, your dad is kinda well to do in his own time, so what happened that you are still struggling to stand on your own at 27? Please reflect on this. The stuff you said you were doing before border closure by Buhari is completely illegal, you were a smuggler and you can be killed by the customs at any time, so that stuff isn't even a job or business to mention, don't even bring it up again please.



You are supposed to be working or doing legitimate business or engaged in a meaningful trade like fashion designing, welding, electrical works, plumbing, etc to earn a legitimate income. You are far better than millions of Nigerians, you have a roof over your head in the city which is what millions of youths are looking for to start a life. Many young people like you came from remote villages to that same city you are living comfortably under your father's comfy house without hope of where to put their head and they toiled legitimately and changed their life and that of their poor parents in the village. But here you and many other fortunate youths with free house in the city are wasting your time plotting foolishly how to hammer money overnight through illegitimate dealings. You better wake up, crime doesn't pay. How did you get money to lodge in a hotel when you have no job? Why was hotel your first abi second option, where did you get the money? Did you even graduate from school your dad sent you?



But here you are with a free house in the city and still cant make something out of your life but went ahead to buy an expensive phone.



Why didn't you use the money to startup a business online or offline? As someone without a stable source of income, you don't need an expensive phone. With my heavy income which can afford me any brand of phone I desire, I am using an average Samsung phone. I have friends who are Naira billionaires also using same phone I am using or lesser one, but most of you Nigerian youths will use your last kobo to acquire expensive phone just to belong or just to deceive your mates that all is well with you.



I have discovered that most children born into middle income families in Nigeria that have access to good life in the city hardly end up successful unlike those of us that came from near poor and poor families, and even those that came from remote villages to the city.


This thread should be a wake up call to all Nigerian parents to please do more work of preparing your children for life challeneges before they even become teenagers. Don't over pamper them. Don't just allow them to be living stupid life as they please and be keeping foolish friends.



Op your dad is seeing the danger ahead, you are planning to join bad gangs or you have joined already. With the little I can read from your write up, I know your type, you will either join Yahoo boys and when you do, your type might end up the ritualists they call Yahoo plus guys or you may end up in one dangerous illegal business. You dont have a stable income and you want to be using an expensive phone for what?



Take this as a challenge to change your ways. It is time to be a man, you need to start fending for yourself by getting a job or learning a craft or selling that phone to start a business or by going to any big market around you to go start market hustling to raise capital to start your own business, that's how Igbo boys raise their business capital when they don't have a helper or a big daddy like you and later most of you will be calling them ritualists or drug traffickers without knowing the pains they passed through to get to where they were.



Go back home and apologize to your father. Then prepare to start your own life and work towards getting your own apartment.


In western world, US for example, you wont be living with your father at 27, even at 20 you must have saved enough from doing vacation jobs while schooling to raise money to rent your own apartment, so at 27, in the western world we are copying you ought to have started your own family.


But in Nigeria, because a man considers himself a big man because he managed to buy 2 tokunbo vehicles and built a house, he sees his children as ajebo and therefore they are not supposed to do menial jobs or vacation jobs while schooling which is why most children from middle income families in Nigeria are damaged and nothing to write home about.



My kids will start doing vacation jobs and start saving after their primary school. either they start doing legitimate online jobs and saving money and also learn to be giving to the less privileged as a way of learning to be compassionate and responsible from the age of 12.



Go back to your father and apologize and go and sell that phone and get an average phone and start something legitimate with your life. Yahoo Yahoo is not a job. You can learn software engineering online via youtube and become a full stack developer that will position you for greatness. stop watching Zazu and Davido and planning how to hammer overnight to surprise your dad. work work work and save and gradually build your way up. Yahoo Yahoo no be work. petrol smuggling no be work.

You're one of the most reasonable men here. Kudos.

Worldlegend:
It's a very long story... I can narrate to you more on WhatsApp

Oh wow, so how old are you now

Lucasmuyiwaa:
What happened was that my Dad collected a brand new iPhone I bought from me February last year all because some uncivilized people like him keeps telling him the phone I use is very expensive and said it’s used by yahoo boys and which my Dad hate the word YAHOO.

Though , I felt very sad wondering why he would collect a phone from a 27 years old Son.

I pleaded to him severally to please give me back the phone and I also sent some of his friends which they value each other to him to please help me beg him to return the phone but he keeps telling them he’s not gonna give me and instead get me a small phone that doesn’t browse so as to stop having internet access.

After many Months of using a small Android phone which is very uncomfortable for me and hoping I will gather some money and get a better phone for myself anytime soon.

I waited for some months but couldn’t afford a better phone cuz I don’t want to buy a very low budget phone since I’m addicted to smooth browsing on my IPhone.

Then I tried to find solution for myself by going to find the iPhone he seized in his room even though I don’t enter his room anyhow.

God so good i got into his room when everyone wasn’t aware and I found the phone where he kept it and took it.

I started having conscience on it and asking myself if I’ve messed up.

I came to Nairaland to ask what I should do maybe to return the phone or keep it with me.

I found out some people blamed me for invading his room and getting m my stuff.

Some people told me to return it and never do that again.

when I was going to return the phone I found out that the whole house are back and it’s not possible to go there that time.

I don’t know what to do because it was a luck that nobody was at home that day.

I reasoned to my self maybe I should go and deliver the phone to him myself fearing if he found out the phone is no more there the issue will escalate and will be too late.

The next morning I took the phone to him and told him I find it using a device on the phone with another phone to track it.

He was very annoyed and said what I did was bad with a very cool voice and gave me the phone back himself.

After few hours he called me and said he put some Saudi Money (Riyadh) in the carton he hide my phone and he couldn’t find the money there and asked me if I took it.

I sensed he was trying to tell me that in order to know what I did was bad.

I told him I didn’t take any money there and I honestly didn’t see any money there.

He let me leave and said he will try to find it very well later.

Then just today he called my married elder sister to come to our house and wanted to have a meeting with us cuz we are just two from our late mother.

From his speech he said he can’t be seeing me not working since I’m a graduate and I should find something doing.

He knew I was into exportation of Petrol to Cotonou before the work stopped due to border close down and too much customs officials on the road.

So he started insulting me I’m just being idle and don’t want to work because I’m getting money from yahoo because he returned my phone to me to have internet access.

I accepted all the insults he did to me and didn’t argue with him not until he said if I’m a good boy I won’t go into his room to take my phone and even take his money he kept there the other day.

I then knew he meant that word that I took his money again and which I didn’t even take or see.

Then he began raining insults on me and begin to lay emphasis on the money that I took my phone and his money.

At this point I was very mad and couldn’t hold myself from keeping silence and then I had to break it.

I told him I can take everything he do to me but accusing me wrongfully I will never take that with a mini voice and suddenly wanted to hit me which I run from him to escape.

On running through the steps, he suddenly grab the big stool in the sitting room and dropped it on my head which nearly hit me . (If that stool hit me I don’t know what will happen to me )

But I managed to escape and he started raining curses on me and insulting my late mother for giving him a son like me.

My sister was there too and all she kept saying was I’m very rude to disclaim the accusations and defending myself and she also start insulting me that how dare should I talk when he’s talking.

After few insults he gave me so he came downstairs and started insulting me again while I stand not too far from him.

He quickly picked up a very big stone and a big plank on the floor threw at me which if these two objects meet me I will still be bleeding by now.

He told me with anger that I’m a bastard and cursed me saying it will not better for me and we can never sleep together in the house today and he left and went out.

So my stepmother returned and I narrated everything to her and made her known I’m leaving the house to avoid unnecessary violence again because I’ve been planning to leave the house due to everyday arguments and his nags.

The stepmother told me not to leave the house and rather he will talk to him and calm him down and everything will be fine.

I already made my mind to leave the house and stay at the hotel for some days because my friend which I could go and stay with has traveled last week and said he will be back today.

I got to the hotel and booked the room and having some rests then I saw my stepmother call and she said I should come home and we need to talk.

I sensed maybe she was trying to set me up and I told her I’m at where I’m going to sleep tonight because I just don’t want to come home today.

She said I shouldn’t even think that way and promised me nothing is going to happen.

I believed her because she knows I respected her and I knows she likes me.

Then she told me to come home and sleep and assure me no violence will happen as she just need to talk to me privately which I don’t have idea what else she want to tell me .

Now should I go home or just sleep at the hotel and probably not going to go to that house again soon if I sleep at the hotel today ?

Please how can one go about the business of petroleum exportation to benin?

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cutieme:
Please how can one go about the business of petroleum exportation to benin?

I’m good at it and you can text me at +22952489501

Lucasmuyiwaa:
I’m good at it and you can text me at +22952489501

I'm interested too
How uch does it require for a start sir

Worldlegend:
Lol... And you think I do tell you that here

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Lucasmuyiwaa:
What happened was that my Dad collected a brand new iPhone I bought from me February last year all because some uncivilized people like him keeps telling him the phone I use is very expensive and said it’s used by yahoo boys and which my Dad hate the word YAHOO.

Though , I felt very sad wondering why he would collect a phone from a 27 years old Son.

I pleaded to him severally to please give me back the phone and I also sent some of his friends which they value each other to him to please help me beg him to return the phone but he keeps telling them he’s not gonna give me and instead get me a small phone that doesn’t browse so as to stop having internet access.

After many Months of using a small Android phone which is very uncomfortable for me and hoping I will gather some money and get a better phone for myself anytime soon.

I waited for some months but couldn’t afford a better phone cuz I don’t want to buy a very low budget phone since I’m addicted to smooth browsing on my IPhone.

Then I tried to find solution for myself by going to find the iPhone he seized in his room even though I don’t enter his room anyhow.

God so good i got into his room when everyone wasn’t aware and I found the phone where he kept it and took it.

I started having conscience on it and asking myself if I’ve messed up.

I came to Nairaland to ask what I should do maybe to return the phone or keep it with me.

I found out some people blamed me for invading his room and getting m my stuff.

Some people told me to return it and never do that again.

when I was going to return the phone I found out that the whole house are back and it’s not possible to go there that time.

I don’t know what to do because it was a luck that nobody was at home that day.

I reasoned to my self maybe I should go and deliver the phone to him myself fearing if he found out the phone is no more there the issue will escalate and will be too late.

The next morning I took the phone to him and told him I find it using a device on the phone with another phone to track it.

He was very annoyed and said what I did was bad with a very cool voice and gave me the phone back himself.

After few hours he called me and said he put some Saudi Money (Riyadh) in the carton he hide my phone and he couldn’t find the money there and asked me if I took it.

I sensed he was trying to tell me that in order to know what I did was bad.

I told him I didn’t take any money there and I honestly didn’t see any money there.

He let me leave and said he will try to find it very well later.

Then just today he called my married elder sister to come to our house and wanted to have a meeting with us cuz we are just two from our late mother.

From his speech he said he can’t be seeing me not working since I’m a graduate and I should find something doing.

He knew I was into exportation of Petrol to Cotonou before the work stopped due to border close down and too much customs officials on the road.

So he started insulting me I’m just being idle and don’t want to work because I’m getting money from yahoo because he returned my phone to me to have internet access.

I accepted all the insults he did to me and didn’t argue with him not until he said if I’m a good boy I won’t go into his room to take my phone and even take his money he kept there the other day.

I then knew he meant that word that I took his money again and which I didn’t even take or see.

Then he began raining insults on me and begin to lay emphasis on the money that I took my phone and his money.

At this point I was very mad and couldn’t hold myself from keeping silence and then I had to break it.

I told him I can take everything he do to me but accusing me wrongfully I will never take that with a mini voice and suddenly wanted to hit me which I run from him to escape.

On running through the steps, he suddenly grab the big stool in the sitting room and dropped it on my head which nearly hit me . (If that stool hit me I don’t know what will happen to me )

But I managed to escape and he started raining curses on me and insulting my late mother for giving him a son like me.

My sister was there too and all she kept saying was I’m very rude to disclaim the accusations and defending myself and she also start insulting me that how dare should I talk when he’s talking.

After few insults he gave me so he came downstairs and started insulting me again while I stand not too far from him.

He quickly picked up a very big stone and a big plank on the floor threw at me which if these two objects meet me I will still be bleeding by now.

He told me with anger that I’m a bastard and cursed me saying it will not better for me and we can never sleep together in the house today and he left and went out.

So my stepmother returned and I narrated everything to her and made her known I’m leaving the house to avoid unnecessary violence again because I’ve been planning to leave the house due to everyday arguments and his nags.

The stepmother told me not to leave the house and rather he will talk to him and calm him down and everything will be fine.

I already made my mind to leave the house and stay at the hotel for some days because my friend which I could go and stay with has traveled last week and said he will be back today.

I got to the hotel and booked the room and having some rests then I saw my stepmother call and she said I should come home and we need to talk.

I sensed maybe she was trying to set me up and I told her I’m at where I’m going to sleep tonight because I just don’t want to come home today.

She said I shouldn’t even think that way and promised me nothing is going to happen.

I believed her because she knows I respected her and I knows she likes me.

Then she told me to come home and sleep and assure me no violence will happen as she just need to talk to me privately which I don’t have idea what else she want to tell me .

Now should I go home or just sleep at the hotel and probably not going to go to that house again soon if I sleep at the hotel today ?

A 27yr old jobless graduate got some money and the first thing is his mind was to buy an iphone with it

You're as uesless as he called you!

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Lucasmuyiwaa:
What happened was that my Dad collected a brand new iPhone I bought from me February last year all because some uncivilized people like him keeps telling him the phone I use is very expensive and said it’s used by yahoo boys and which my Dad hate the word YAHOO.

Though , I felt very sad wondering why he would collect a phone from a 27 years old Son.

I pleaded to him severally to please give me back the phone and I also sent some of his friends which they value each other to him to please help me beg him to return the phone but he keeps telling them he’s not gonna give me and instead get me a small phone that doesn’t browse so as to stop having internet access.

After many Months of using a small Android phone which is very uncomfortable for me and hoping I will gather some money and get a better phone for myself anytime soon.

I waited for some months but couldn’t afford a better phone cuz I don’t want to buy a very low budget phone since I’m addicted to smooth browsing on my IPhone.

Then I tried to find solution for myself by going to find the iPhone he seized in his room even though I don’t enter his room anyhow.

God so good i got into his room when everyone wasn’t aware and I found the phone where he kept it and took it.

I started having conscience on it and asking myself if I’ve messed up.

I came to Nairaland to ask what I should do maybe to return the phone or keep it with me.

I found out some people blamed me for invading his room and getting m my stuff.

Some people told me to return it and never do that again.

when I was going to return the phone I found out that the whole house are back and it’s not possible to go there that time.

I don’t know what to do because it was a luck that nobody was at home that day.

I reasoned to my self maybe I should go and deliver the phone to him myself fearing if he found out the phone is no more there the issue will escalate and will be too late.

The next morning I took the phone to him and told him I find it using a device on the phone with another phone to track it.

He was very annoyed and said what I did was bad with a very cool voice and gave me the phone back himself.

After few hours he called me and said he put some Saudi Money (Riyadh) in the carton he hide my phone and he couldn’t find the money there and asked me if I took it.

I sensed he was trying to tell me that in order to know what I did was bad.

I told him I didn’t take any money there and I honestly didn’t see any money there.

He let me leave and said he will try to find it very well later.

Then just today he called my married elder sister to come to our house and wanted to have a meeting with us cuz we are just two from our late mother.

From his speech he said he can’t be seeing me not working since I’m a graduate and I should find something doing.

He knew I was into exportation of Petrol to Cotonou before the work stopped due to border close down and too much customs officials on the road.

So he started insulting me I’m just being idle and don’t want to work because I’m getting money from yahoo because he returned my phone to me to have internet access.

I accepted all the insults he did to me and didn’t argue with him not until he said if I’m a good boy I won’t go into his room to take my phone and even take his money he kept there the other day.

I then knew he meant that word that I took his money again and which I didn’t even take or see.

Then he began raining insults on me and begin to lay emphasis on the money that I took my phone and his money.

At this point I was very mad and couldn’t hold myself from keeping silence and then I had to break it.

I told him I can take everything he do to me but accusing me wrongfully I will never take that with a mini voice and suddenly wanted to hit me which I run from him to escape.

On running through the steps, he suddenly grab the big stool in the sitting room and dropped it on my head which nearly hit me . (If that stool hit me I don’t know what will happen to me )

But I managed to escape and he started raining curses on me and insulting my late mother for giving him a son like me.

My sister was there too and all she kept saying was I’m very rude to disclaim the accusations and defending myself and she also start insulting me that how dare should I talk when he’s talking.

After few insults he gave me so he came downstairs and started insulting me again while I stand not too far from him.

He quickly picked up a very big stone and a big plank on the floor threw at me which if these two objects meet me I will still be bleeding by now.

He told me with anger that I’m a bastard and cursed me saying it will not better for me and we can never sleep together in the house today and he left and went out.

So my stepmother returned and I narrated everything to her and made her known I’m leaving the house to avoid unnecessary violence again because I’ve been planning to leave the house due to everyday arguments and his nags.

The stepmother told me not to leave the house and rather he will talk to him and calm him down and everything will be fine.

I already made my mind to leave the house and stay at the hotel for some days because my friend which I could go and stay with has traveled last week and said he will be back today.

I got to the hotel and booked the room and having some rests then I saw my stepmother call and she said I should come home and we need to talk.

I sensed maybe she was trying to set me up and I told her I’m at where I’m going to sleep tonight because I just don’t want to come home today.

She said I shouldn’t even think that way and promised me nothing is going to happen.

I believed her because she knows I respected her and I knows she likes me.

Then she told me to come home and sleep and assure me no violence will happen as she just need to talk to me privately which I don’t have idea what else she want to tell me .

Now should I go home or just sleep at the hotel and probably not going to go to that house again soon if I sleep at the hotel today ?

Lucasmuyiwaa:
Please can you guide me through all these sir
God bless you

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Lucasmuyiwaa:
I will like u to guide me and work with you sir
God bless u

call me 09076882545

tammie24:
I'm interested too
How uch does it require for a start sir

It doesn’t require much money but can you text me through that WhatsApp line

The nonsense they call 'rudeness and insults' in Nigerian toxic parenting style and dysfunctional Nigerian homes. Many adults who are products of such homes walk around with traumas, scars and damaged self esteem.

wizkidblogger:
27 years old and you are still living in his house? that's the cause of the see finish na

why not relocate to a city where you can afford a mini flat for yourself and hustle in peace?

you got the spirit of wizkid inside you, your decision is not that easy though

don't go home buy credit and talk to your step mother on the phone because many fathers have evil mind against their son they would want to audit the life of their son when their life is in shambles and keep your step mother away from any of your moves

Lucasmuyiwaa:
Please forgive me for the so so.
Please my mind is one mind in two options. I need to know your mind too or your advice maybe it will help pls

That money you used in buying IPhone, use it and rent a self con. As long as you're in your parents house, they'll never respect you. It's even worse when you're a man. Leave your father's house immediately.