Yo OP be strong it will pass, my mom left me at 14 with 5 other younger ones I’m the eldest, the experience made me realize there is nothing like God. You will overcome OP

Pls take heart but to get over your Mum dead is impossible. Just know she is gone and be yourself

Hmmmm

I usually see that girls are more attached to their Dad

And women are emotionally stronger

O'un se omo loku be Ni

With time you shall overcome

Everyone has a debt of death to pay

ttoyetade:

Very comprehensive advice. You are great councillor and adviser

thank you sir

Sorry about the loss... Please don't worry you will be fine, Time heal all wounds in Life..

Give yourself time to heal, don't rush it.

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

Wotoporiously speaking

I can understand you, a friend/family of mine lost his mom year before last and it was very sad, never saw him cry before in my life and that day he was crying like a new born baby, I felt like crying too but tears wey not coming out but I could feel it in my soul that I was bleeding, she was a good woman to me and that is my second family till date, My mom is my best friend and I could tell from what you wrote you and your momma was pretty close and I can't even imagine what you going through right now but I know along the line God will heal you from this great loss and give you the strength to keep riding, you just have to convert that energy surrounding you right now into a positive one and make something out of it as I know your mom would have wanted you to, pls don't try to fight what you're feeling right now because it might only make matters worst, just allow yourself to go through it and in due time you will heal and come out like a champ.

Stay bless bro, oluwa still dey your side.

Pray, ask the Holy spirit to heal your heart.

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

I feel your pain bro, she is resting well and u did what u can to save the situation, I lost my dad when I was 17yrs about 22 yrs ago it was hard for me then even now, i do remember him whenever I listen to Luther Vandros Song (Dance with my Father) it hurts so much but u have to move on... Make sure u always do the right things to make her happy because she is above watching you. God bless u bro

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

My mother also died in my arms about 13 months ago. I watched her eyes close when she gave up the ghost. It's a lot of grief. You need to be strong and cheer up. I know how it feels. I've been through it. Just cheer up and be strong. May God be your comforter at this time.

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

Time is ur Ally. This too will pass and u will remember her it a more pleasant and fond way.

Time doesn’t heal everything, we do. People here and those around should start being caring and attentive. We help each other to heal. Yes there was a loss, but through that loss we can gain a lot. Friends and loved ones need to come close and comfort you my dear. Fill the void with the thought of loved ones around. I sympathize with you over your loss. Please accept my condolences and RIP to your mum.

Just remember dt u will equally die just like every other person in this world.In as much as everyone must taste death, there is no reason to worry any more.
Also remember it's her time, if not, she wouldn't have died.And so shall u also die, once it is your time.

Give yourself time..it will surely pass

Sorry for ur loss.. Our quack doctors and their fake diagnosis.. Assuming it was caught early, she might still be alive.. I remember when my Dota was always falling ill.. We will take her to hospital.. Each tym de quack docs will tell us malaria and typhoid and she was getting worst.. The fourth tym dat she fell sick, we took her to de hospital and one of dem said is malaria and I told her no, we have been treating malaria and after much much dey discovered dat it was pneumonia and das how she got better and never fell sick again... Sorry for ur loss thou

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

So sorry for the loss , may God grant her eternal rest , with time you will over come this although it won't be that easy , you just have to dust yourself and put yourself together , it is only when you're happy that your mom will also be happy over there.

Sorry 4 d lost, u can read d book when someone u love die

UpInTheSky:
OP,
My condolences
Please stay strong

Be comforted knowing your mom is now with God,
I've watched videos of people who have gone to Heaven
and with what they say, it's a place to behold, so I'm sure your
mom is in a better place than this cruel earth and most importantly,
she's at peace and in no more pain.

May her soul rest in eternal peace and
may God give you the strength you
need during this difficult time.
Take it one day at a time.

Hugs, hugs.

You mean movies, right?

Oga be a man. My dad died . My mum will die me too will die some dey you op will die too all of us go die no one leaves here alive .

You will be fine with time. I felt the same when I lost my dad 2 years ago. Even now when I travel home I always feel like shouting papa from outside as I normally do when my father was alive.

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

The hardest thing that can happen to anyone is losing their beloved mother...I've lost a dad and a sister...lord, Please give our mothers long life to reap the fruit of their labour...they must be alive to celebrate our success in Jesus name..Amen.

You need to be strong and tell yourself she deserves the rest she is enjoying now.

When my dad passed, on the day of his burial i stood beside his grave and cried from the time his body was lowered until the last sand was poured on his grave.

I miss him everyday but sometimes I tell myself he needs to rest from this sinful world.

Allow your mother to rest .Stand up and be the man she would want you to be.

Your case almost looks similar to mine. I lost my Mom last year, 12th September in my hands, right before me. Up till now I haven't gotten over it. I was with her all through the period she was sick and I never believed the sickness will take her life. It breaks my heart anytime I remember all she went through in the hospital, memories of her keep occuring to me day in and day out. Sometimes life seems meaningless or worthless without her, but I know I must keep pushing, I must keep going. Death comes to all, sooner or later we shall taste it...so be strong Bro.

Indulging your emotions like everyone else, I will say my condolence and stuff. When Mr. Lagbaja lost his own mother he was stopped from trying to jump into the grave with her and stuffs like that.

But giving you a dose of reality. Everybody dies. Grief is a waste emotion. You're in a battle field. Anyone can die and will die anytime, anyday, anywhere, well except for the ones with money, influence and power. The universe does not care about who dies or how many. In war and nature's fury you will understand this better, read about eyewithness account of earthquake. She is dead and will remain dead and part of the past. My candid advice: Take stock of everyone you know and love and mentally place a 50/50 mark on their lives (including yourself) so you don't get surprised again. Sorry, I can't indulge your feelings. People die every day. I myself lost both parent in 3 years.

Elporo:



There is no solution to the problem at hand. You must learn to live with it or die for it.

Which ever you choose. Keep this in mind; there is no solution to the problem at hand.

hard and bitter truth

Fearme344:
Cum make i use u don moni i promise your children no go suffer

who is this mad fellow?

Sorry about your loss. If you are a Christian,
Please feel free to have a discussion with A Jehovah witness member.

Don't blame yourself for her death, always give thanks to God becus it would have been worse. Thanks like this do happen Expecially when your her very close to the deceased it has happened to me when I lost my mum even when writing test in school I will just see her like a flash even in my dreams I always see her bt with time and prayers I became normal it been 9yrs nw I don't dream abt her again cus I believe there is always hope for the living so bro b a man and enjoy your youthful age and make her proud try to achieve all the dreams and goals you promise her so that she will be happy and proud of you.

Tb222:
Op just go download enya book of days mp3 listen to it, holding her pictures in your hands, and let the tears flow, do it for a week straight, if symptoms persists plz consult your doctor.

na wah oh why you wan worsen the issue?

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

U still have, what about we orphans, take heart, very soon, you will be alright.

AfroKnight:
I’ve been preparing myself for my parent’s deaths since 2020 or so. They are getting old. I’m so scared of it.

I love them very much but I know I will have to bury them one day. I hope I can bear it.

Be strong. It is our parents’ prayer that we bury them not the other way round. We must all go one day. My condolences.

brazing up in advance, the pain gets worse if you live with them all your life and get so close and bond with them.

MaskSubzero:
who is this mad fellow?

related to your family

What you're are experiencing in normal and the earlier you see it as normal, the better for you.