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CAPSLOCKED:
DESPITE THAT THE FORUM IS LARGELY ANONYMOUS, MAJORITY OF PEOPLE ON THIS THREAD ONLY SHARE GENERAL KNOWLEDGES AND POST THE THINGS THAT OTHERS POST ON OTHER SOCIAL MEDIA SITES, OR JUST BASICALLY REACT ON ANY LATEST EVENTS.

THERE ARE A FEW PEOPLE THAT HAVE TALKED ABOUT REAL THINGS THAT HAD HAPPENED TO THEM IN THE PAST AND HOW THEY HANDLED THE SITUATION, INCLUDING MYSELF, UBUNJA, HERBS, FATP, LUMI, ODETS, AND JUST A HANDFUL OF GUYS. THE GENERAL RECEPTION WAS USUALLY JUDGEMENTAL AND NOT ENCOURAGING BUT THIS SET STILL DON'T STOP TALKING ABOUT THEMSELVES. AND THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT THIS BIG THREAD NEEDS.

THE THREAD HAS LASTED MORE THAN 2 YEARS. SURELY WE'VE REACHED THE STAGE WHERE PEOPLE TALK ABOUT THEMSELVES, THEIR PAST EXPERIENCES AND PRESENT SITUATIONS TO HELP OTHERS GO THROUGH THINGS OR GET THE HELP DEPENDING ON THE CASE. ALMOST EVERYDAY I HAVE THE URGE TO SHARE IMPORTANT EXPERIENCES HERE (DESPITE THAT 20% MY FOLLOWERS KNOW ME OFFLINE) BUT THEN I REMEMBER THE RATHER EMOTIONAL AND FEMININE RECEPTION I'VE RECEIVED FROM MEN OVER TIME, AND I JUST GO TO SLEEP.

SHARING TRP QUOTES WILL NOT BE ENOUGH TO SEND THE MESSAGE OTHERWISE WE'RE ALL WASTING OUR TIME. REAL PEOPLE HAVE TO KNOW HOW OTHER REAL PEOPLE SOLVE REAL PROBLEMS.

You raised a very valid point bro.
Personally, I like talking and sharing from my past and present experiences but I noticed some people do dig your past posts and use it against you or as a jab at you.
Do you know how many insults have received on nairaland for saying I had side chicks and not faithful to my wife? Even from so called RedPillers?
Some said I talk too much for a married man, some said I shouldn’t be here mingling with small boys as a married man, some said for a married man, I gossip a lot and Dey do aproko/Cho Cho Cho

Have heard several things on nairaland due to being a married man, aligning with TRP and sharing my experiences.
I quoted a moniker on a thread not related to Romance and the mention I got was - How dear you quote me, you this serial cheating useless man.
I was stunned and shocked but it is well.

Many people are not ready to hear or see the truth. That is what I noticed even though they claim they are.

It gladens my heart seeing where this thread is headed to.

Let's embrace positive masculinity.
We're expected by the society to bottle up our emotions. But it's left for us to change the narrative.
Dear men, don't die in silence...
Don't let anybody make you feel less of a man.
Speak up, ask for help, it's okay to cry too.


#positivemasculinity.

SMH.

@ CAPSLOCKED. Wow!

CAPSLOCKED's story should be a lesson to everyone, especially to those who think the Redpill is just "common sense".

The Redpill is a rabbit hole, an endless conundrum, an inexhaustible concept.
It is indeed a way of life.

Redpill is not something you feel you know it all, or that common sense is enough. No, it is not.

The Redpill requires it adherents to always learn, unlearn and relearn.
Continuous learning is a key factor of the Redpill.
As the saying goes, a Redpill dose a day, keeps 'simpism' away.

Nobleking2000:
Women judge men by their future, men judge women by their past..

It's natural.

When you ask an average man about his ideal woman, he'll tell you he wants a virgin as a wife or a lady with no baggages or little body count. Whereas, a lady will NEVER mention a virgin man as her ideal man, she'll rather choose a rich and established man or a dedicated man working very hard to be successful.(For her, his future is Paramount)

A man's greatest fear is knowing that his woman has been banged, chiseled and pierced by multiple men (a very big turn off for men), a woman's fear is knowing that her man can't protect/provide for her and their kids in the future.

Men will continue judging you harshly by your past! Hide it as much as you want, he'll still find out one way or the other and use it against you, just like you can NEVER continue to evade and not provide for your family as a man... She'll definitely call you out one day as well.

Extra: Being so repulsive and rebellious when asked about your past is an indication that your past is messy already. If you're not afraid to ask a man what his future plans are, you shouldn't be angry when he asks you to tell him about your past!. Just like you wouldn't be happy with a man who's not open to discussing his future with you.. if he leaves his present dealings shoddy and turns rebellious when you ask him about his future plans, most ladies here will run, same way men will not hesitate to leave you when you give him the the slightest of hints that your past is messy

There is no man that joke with the past. Take it to the bank anywhere.

Because it will definitely haunt you in the future.

One of the things I am most grateful for as a married man was the kind of woman I married.

Never knew all these redpill things then
But I was very very fortunate

I never married a promiscuous woman
I was her first

And till today I can leave my wife and travel for even 6 months and I won't even worry because of the kind she is

Not coming to brag, but going by the fear of many men today.
All I can say was, I was very fortunate

And it was her father that drilled that consciousness into her.

A woman well raised by her father rarely misbehaves
It's those ones that had no real father figure that went to wire

There are probably some people here whoose cuurebt situation perfectly fits CAPSLOCKED'S story.

They read through the thread. They have a knowledge of the Redpill. They realise that they are in a hopeless, parasitic entanglement. What is lacking however, is the will to take action.

To those people, this should be an impetus for you to take action now.
Quit being used over and over by your so-called partner. Quit downgrading yourself for anybody and immediately begin to prioritise yourself.
Quit the simpism and fully embrace the Redpill.

Datedoboy:
Very apt. That's why i pity girls that sleeps around and this is one way a man has an edge over a woman. A man's future can be changed but a woman's past can never be changed.

A man who is broke today can be rich tomorrow but a woman who has been deflowered can not change again to a virgin.

That's why girls who are wise, protect their virginity at all cost but the foolish ones throw it up for a few thousands and complain when men refuse to commit to them and like you said, once a woman is defensive about her past, or gets angry, most times, it's because her past is messed up.
Non virgins will say "why do you want to know about my past" or "my past is none of your business" but she wants my "present" and "future" to be her business.
Once i sense this, i simply run away

You better run before they give you someone else seed

What men see these days is very heart breaking

sajmark:
Women always need to be put on a leash, her mother did a good job... That is why girls without (strong) father figures are the most damaged.
Most of these HO3s think they've wasted or underutilized their prime years if they were not promiscuous... And that mentality have sunk deep into their heads.

Strong father figure is very very important

If not they will go haywire

CAPSLOCKED:
JUST ONCE, I LET DOWN MY GUARD, THAT ONCE CHANGED MY LIFE. I'LL GO FIRST. REALLY LENGTHY AND CAPSLOCKED!!!

Quite a lengthy read, but verry educating ✌️

i really wish to also read the past experiences of MJBOLT, Martinez39s and Ubunja as well

Martinez39s:
Don't mind them. Due diligence is very hard for some people. The amorality of the red pill has been exhaustively discussed here before, but some people want to take us backwards and/or play silly games.

Some can't keep their feelings in check, they don't understand that when in a red pill space, they are to keep their morality, ethics and religion to themselves. They want to bend the nature and essence of the red pill to suit their morality, ethics and religion; they want to integrate these things into the red pill and feel good about themselves. Smh. Red pill will always be the red pill, and there is nothing anyone can do about that. It is not where you come to feel good about yourself and play the decency card for whatever reason.

The red pill is irreligious and, as a result, we have redpillers from different religion and even irreligious position (eg. atheism, agnosticism, etc.). In the same way, the red pill is amoral and we have redpillers of different moral compasses and ethics. Because someone's lifestyle doesn't go down well with your morality or ethic doesn't give you the grounds to make an issue out of it; keep your morality and ethics to yourself.

Thanks my man.

You have consistently laid emphasis on this subject matter, but seems they suffer from selective amnesia.

I'll always choke such dummies with raw sexual kinks I perform offline, and their moral uprightness will do nothing to deter my decision.
I'm happy and that's what matters. Let them keep whining and gnashing their teeth. Their tears is delicious.

If you feel like preaching morals on a redpill thread, exit ASAP and visit the religion section.

Not so difficult, is it

Shake my head

XshegzzyeeiX:
Thanks my man.

You have consistently laid emphasis on this subject matter, but seems they suffer from selective amnesia.

I'll always choke such dummies with raw sexual kinks I perform offline, and their moral uprightness will do nothing to deter my decision.

If you feel like preaching morals on a redpill thread, edit ASAP and visit the religion section.

Not so difficult, is it

Shake my head

You unleashed the HO3 in her, and that's OG stuff... I also love how your story makes it clear that one's a girl is not a virgin, just make peace with the fact that you married a HO3.
The possibility of You marrying the girl is very little, now imagine someone else splashing millions to marry such a girl and thinking he's lucky... Disgusting right?
This girl has just one body count, but there are girls with 5 body counts who aren't as mess'd up as she.

I am sick and tired of people trying to bring into disrepute the MGTOW philosophy.

The MGTOW philosophy has never been against men having sex. There are two rules to follow when it comes to MGTOW and I'm sure that those who identify with this philosophy will agree with me :
1) DO NOT COHABITATE
2) DO NOT GET MARRIED

You can have as much sex as you want but make sure you never commit to any bittch.

I am Pro MGTOW and I love having sex.

MGTOW Monks are the only branch of MGTOW who want nothing to do with sex but that is a voluntary decision and I respect them for that.

Let the misinformation please stop.

Sharing Past experiences and Field reports have always been welcomed in this thread to the best of my knowledge... Though sometimes, Guys share these experiences and reports without actually wanting our assessment or advice.

MY STORY :
I found the redpill through game, because I was obsessed with a girl... ONEities at its purest form. I've been chosen by girls all my life but I almost always end up hating them for trying so hard to get my attention, then I finally met the girl that I liked and officially joined the SIMP club.
I remember following Harddons thread page after page because I was getting frustrated by loving this girl so much without getting her to reciprocate it. According to ubunja "She was operating in logic, while I was operating in emotions".
She kept me around because of the attention I was freely and cheaply giving to her, and because I upgraded her status in the neighbourhood (I command so much respect that she taps into when she's seen with me).
Then from reading about game I stumbled on the redpill.
I started to laugh at myself after taking few doses of the Redpill because I know that I have entered the relationship with the wrong mindset... I was beta.
The next step was trying to go from Beta to Alpha with the same girl (which I advised against based on experience), we became incompatible.
I was no longer the nice guy she knew but she couldn't love me for the Alpha I was becoming, because when I put her in her place she gets confused because few weeks ago I was treating her like a princess.
She concluded that I was falling out of love and she wanted to cash out quickly, she asked me for some of my nice designer shirts, asked for money... And to her surprise I turned her down, she had to fall off.
Now moving on became a problem, I struggled for weeks to forget about her. I then entered a phase in my unplugging where I was depressed, the truths where too hard to accept even when I knew that they were the truth.
Months later I came out a champion!!!
I clearly wasn't burnt like Capslock was though .

REDPILL is LIFE.
Happy weekend Kings.

While everyone is narrating their past experience, I also have my story to share,my Simping started in secondary school and it altered the course of my life for good having serious consequences, it all started in JSS 2, I met the woman that I assumed was the love of my life, my destiny, she was one of the prettiest girls in my set but funny enough she was older than me with 2 yrs, anytime I see her, my body start feeling one kind, my heart becomes warmer,I became happier, my affection for this girl was so strong that the experience alone made me to understand one-titis ( soulmate myth) a tenet of the redpill.

It was the longest one-titis I ever had, for almost 10yrs entering into university and not once did I ever make my feelings known towards her because I considered her out of my league, we were both in a private boarding school but her parents were far richer than mine, I was a brilliant nerd in school then, I understood hard subjects in science class and this experience made me to understand female nature to a degree, I didn't have value by association with them except when they want me to explain the academics, I wasn't sexually or economically attractive, but damn well I had academic status as the most brilliant, revealing briffaults law, even girls in art and commercial classes came to me to explain maths, geography,etc. fine girls that wouldn't even want to near me in normal circumstances started to sit with me directly to solve their academic woes ( doing assignments, preparing for tests and exams).

COOL10:
I am sick and tired of people trying to bring into disrepute the MGTOW philosophy.

The MGTOW philosophy has never been against men having sex. There are two rules to follow when it comes to MGTOW and I'm sure that those who identify with this philosophy will agree with me :
1) DO NOT COHABITATE
2) DO NOT GET MARRIED

You can have as much sex as you want but make sure you never commit to any bittch.

I am Pro MGTOW and I love having sex.

MGTOW Monks are the only branch of MGTOW who want nothing to do with sex but that is a voluntary decision and I respect them for that.

Let the misinformation please stop.

The character that impelled you to make this post is a troll. New account.

They'll try to co-opt camps to foist their views on others.

The manosphere is big enough and has persuasions for everyone, but some folks want their way to be the only version shared or accepted. Well, we've had enough of these elements. Whenever they flare up again, they'll be strongly and resolutely countered.

-Lord

sajmark:
Sharing Past experiences and Field reports have always been welcomed in this thread to the best of my knowledge... Though sometimes, Guys share these experiences and reports without actually wanting our assessment or advice.

MY STORY :
I found the redpill through game, because I was obsessed with a girl... ONEities at its purest form. I've been chosen by girls all my life but I almost always end up hating them for trying so hard to get my attention, then I finally met the girl that I liked and officially joined the SIMP club.
I remember following Harddons thread page after page because I was getting frustrated by loving this girl so much without getting her to reciprocate it. According to ubunja "She was operating in logic, while I was operating in emotions".
She kept me around because of the attention I was freely and cheaply giving to her, and because I upgraded her status in the neighbourhood (I command so much respect that she taps into when she's seen with me).
Then from reading about game I stumbled on the redpill.
I started to laugh at myself after taking few doses of the Redpill because I know that I have entered the relationship with the wrong mindset... I was beta.
The next step was trying to go from Beta to Alpha with the same girl (which I advised against based on experience), we became incompatible.
I was no longer the nice guy she knew but she couldn't love me for the Alpha I was becoming, because when I put her in her place she gets confused because few weeks ago I was treating her like a princess.
She concluded that I was falling out of love and she wanted to cash out quickly, she asked me for some of my nice designer shirts, asked for money... And to her surprise I turned her down, she had to fall off.
Now moving on became a problem, I struggled for weeks to forget about her. I then entered a phase in my unplugging where I was depressed, the truths where too hard to accept even when I knew that they were the truth.
Months later I came out a champion!!!
I clearly wasn't burnt like Capslock was though .

REDPILL is LIFE.
Happy weekend Kings.

nice one

nice one ,keep the experience coming , stuff like that they ginger man morale. , you might think they're just stories but it shows that one is not alone in the the struggle.

Cc:jeshal

sajmark:
Sharing Past experiences and Field reports have always been welcomed in this thread to the best of my knowledge... Though sometimes, Guys share these experiences and reports without actually wanting our assessment or advice.

MY STORY :
I found the redpill through game, because I was obsessed with a girl... ONEities at its purest form. I've been chosen by girls all my life but I almost always end up hating them for trying so hard to get my attention, then I finally met the girl that I liked and officially joined the SIMP club.
I remember following Harddons thread page after page because I was getting frustrated by loving this girl so much without getting her to reciprocate it. According to ubunja "She was operating in logic, while I was operating in emotions".
She kept me around because of the attention I was freely and cheaply giving to her, and because I upgraded her status in the neighbourhood (I command so much respect that she taps into when she's seen with me).
Then from reading about game I stumbled on the redpill.
I started to laugh at myself after taking few doses of the Redpill because I know that I have entered the relationship with the wrong mindset... I was beta.
The next step was trying to go from Beta to Alpha with the same girl (which I advised against based on experience), we became incompatible.
I was no longer the nice guy she knew but she couldn't love me for the Alpha I was becoming, because when I put her in her place she gets confused because few weeks ago I was treating her like a princess.
She concluded that I was falling out of love and she wanted to cash out quickly, she asked me for some of my nice designer shirts, asked for money... And to her surprise I turned her down, she had to fall off.
Now moving on became a problem, I struggled for weeks to forget about her. I then entered a phase in my unplugging where I was depressed, the truths where too hard to accept even when I knew that they were the truth.
Months later I came out a champion!!!
I clearly wasn't burnt like Capslock was though .

REDPILL is LIFE.
Happy weekend Kings.

Yinmu... Who are you kidding that you ain't that burnt?

You were burnt like a mudafucker!!!

Continued typing........

I dreamt one day that she would be in my class since JSS 2 , then in SS2 she was put in the same class as me, I was the happiest man in the world the day I saw the class list, I heard stories about this girl that she was loose and boys have done her strong thing, I didn't care, infact I was so happy that she just broke up with her boyfriend while the SS2 academic session was just about to begin, this girl had friends that noticed my feelings towards her, they exploited me fully with her in the academics, I turned into a lesson teacher thinking that she would one day appreciate my efforts in creating time for her even with the busy academic schedule.

I lost touch with my paddies who understood what was happening and even warned me that she's playing games with me and that my heart would be crushed, as long as she could be close to me I didn't even care, just seeing her alone was like beholding a goddess, on my birthday in third term we had a misunderstanding and she insulted my life, she called me a poor man, a filth, a nobody, this thing pained my innermost man but because I loved her like Samson in the Bible damn the consequences, I forgave her and promised myself in my heart that I must be extremely rich to meet up to her Hypergamy

know this generation is filled with simps ,but trust me ,this is the fastest way for any woman to die single,men no get time again , women full ground

LordAdam16:
The character that impelled you to make this post is a troll. New account.

They'll try to co-opt camps to foist their views on others.

The manosphere is big enough and has persuasions for everyone, but some folks want their way to be the only version shared or accepted. Well, we've had enough of these elements. Whenever they flare up again, they'll be strongly and resolutely countered.

-Lord

You're right. There's so much misinformation and hatred towards the MGTOW even within the manosphere. I just needed to clear that up.

sajmark:
You unleashed the HO3 in her, and that's OG stuff... I also love how your story makes it clear that one's a girl is not a virgin, just make peace with the fact that you married a HO3.
The possibility of You marrying the girl is very little, now imagine someone else splashing millions to marry such a girl and thinking he's lucky... Disgusting right?
This girl has just one body count, but there are girls with 5 body counts who aren't as mess'd up as she.

I concur.
1000% valid

emmaodet:
You raised a very valid point bro.
Personally, I like talking and sharing from my past and present experiences but I noticed some people do dig your past posts and use it against you or as a jab at you.
Do you know how many insults have received on nairaland for saying I had side chicks and not faithful to my wife? Even from so called RedPillers?
Some said I talk too much for a married man, some said I shouldn’t be here mingling with small boys as a married man, some said for a married man, I gossip a lot and Dey do aproko/Cho Cho Cho

Have heard several things on nairaland due to being a married man, aligning with TRP and sharing my experiences.
I quoted a moniker on a thread not related to Romance and the mention I got was - How dear you quote me, you this serial cheating useless man.
I was stunned and shocked but it is well.

Many people are not ready to hear or see the truth. That is what I noticed even though they claim they are.

..how did you get your side chicks let me learn

MrEar:
Lolz Wahala!

Have you tried chaining her to your window like a dog?

How about giving her your poo to eat?

Try those two and thank me later.

Redpill is wonderful.

Wonderful indeed....... .

What we have now on this thread are black pillers patrolling them selves as Red pill.

Continued typing.......


I gained admission into a public university and she went into a private university, sadly the event that third term stuck to me and even with a good course in engineering, I told myself it was not enough to meet up with this beautiful angelic girl Hypergamy that wasn't even my babe, that I haven't asked out because I was living a fairy tale, I didn't understand redpill sexual market value differences between men and women, i saved her Instagram photos and even used her Facebook pics as my wallpaper because I told myself childishly I must become a billionaire to marry this gal as she wasn't in my lane.

She was in her prime years of 20 and I was in 200 level and just 18yrs and I decided to drop out of school to partake in a Ponzi scheme thinking it was a path to financial freedom when I wasn't emotionally matured to be a man as I was naive and gullible, infact I started gambling heavily to sustain my income and I started hanging around with yahoo boys, years went by and I wasn't successful, I was fed up, my parents with some extended family members finally persuaded to return to finish my academics that in Nigeria without your first degree as the son of a nobody, you won't be respected among your peers, only successful people, fraudulent civil servants and people with wealthy backgrounds can get away without 1st degree, all this foolish decision because I wanted to marry before 30 since I was badly in love and wanted to solve a woman's mating strategy based on her SMV when men typically start to peak in SMV by 37 yrs, even now I wonder where was I rushing too as l look back to those events, I was to desperate all because I wanted to prove myself to a girl that was living life on her own terms as if I don't exist and she doesn't even give a damn about my welfare.

During that period I was chatting her 2 times in a week, checking her status, never for once did she initiate chat, I was doing the chasing, I so much pedestalized the girl, when I later decided to go back to school, I was accepted only on the premise that I should change to a stupid department to do a useless course which was my only option and I obliged, getting unplugged I realized my mistake, my biggest one was thinking men and women had the same biological time clock( SMV) not knowing that women are giving advantage for just existing earlier but they decline as they reach the wall but men need time to mature and peak into the best version of themselves even until entering their 40's, don't allow women( one-titis) or Society pressure you


I regretted not knowing the redpill in secondary school, it was COVID in 2020 I became unplugged, why the Bleep was I rushing? So I can marry a hoe! So I can marry a woman with far more experience than me in the sexual market place, that's why I always dedicate my time to give advice to the youths because they dominate this thread so that they won't make serious life altering decisions because of woman or because they don't understand the time it takes for men to build their value for themselves, most idiots want to be like the exceptions in tech industry who made In their twenties or early thirties like Zukerburg, Steve Jobs since they dropped out, historically information age billionaires are the outliers, most rich men make it In their forties


Finally I will leave you with a quote from one of the greatest philosopher Aristotle about sexual market value

@jeshal


Nice one bro

luminouz:
Yinmu... Who are you kidding that you ain't that burnt?

You were burnt like a mudafucker!!!

There's level to it na, he was begging to keep the relationship going... Imagine how deep he fell ...
No wonder he's so Taliban

sajmark:
There's level to it na, he was begging to keep the relationship going... Imagine how deep he fell ...
No wonder he's so Taliban

If I share my simp stories when I was in my early twenties, una go wan gather beat the living daylight outta my soul.

Thank God for 2017; when I came upon Ubu.nja's Miseducations and Mart.inez39s posts.

Long live the Redpill.
The day I simp again, make I die a catastrophic death.

sajmark:
There's level to it na, he was begging to keep the relationship going... Imagine how deep he fell ...
No wonder he's so Taliban

We are all Taliban.

ALWAYS MAKE WOMEN NOTICE THAT YOUR INTEREST LEVEL IN THEM IS TOO LOW & WEAK

IN ORDER TO ENABLE THIER LOW INTEREST LEVEL IN YOU COME UP

CAPSLOCKED:
JUST ONCE, I LET DOWN MY GUARD, THAT ONCE CHANGED MY LIFE. I'LL GO FIRST. REALLY LENGTHY AND CAPSLOCKED!!!

I HAD THE PRIVILEGE OF ATTENDING AN ALL-BOYS HIGH SCHOOL. ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS THAT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO MY LIFE. THE CONDITIONING WAS ON A DIFFERENT LEVEL. YOU HAVE THE MAJORITY OF US DOING THE SAME KIND OF THINGS AND BEHAVING IN A SIMILAR WAY. SOMEHOW, THE REDPILL TRAITS WAS IN ALL OF US. SEE, WE DISLIKED THE INTERNET AS TEENS, HOW MEN SIMPED FOR GIRLS ON SITES LIKE FACEBOOK AND ESKIMI. WE DIDN'T KNOW IT WAS "SIMPING" ACTUALLY, BUT WE CALLED IT IDIOCY TO BE CHASING WOMEN ON THE INTERNET AND BEGGING FOR ATTENTION FROM "WORTHLESS" WOMEN WE COULD LIVE WITHOUT. WE THOUGHT WE WERE DEMIGODS!! WE WOULDN'T EVEN ASK WOMEN OUT BECAUSE WE WERE STEADILY COMPETING WITH OURSELVES ON WHO LOOKS BETTER OR HAD BETTER GRADES. MY READERS WILL REMEMBER ME STATING SEVERALLY IN THE PAST THAT I DON'T HAVE ANY SOCIAL MEDIA ACCOUNTS. I DEACTIVATED THE LAST ONE IN 2010 BECAUSE I COULDN'T STAND THE PETTINESS. WE WERE SMALL BOYS THEN, AND WE EVENTUALLY LEARNED TO "HATE" GIRLS AND THE MEN THAT THREW THEMSELVES ON THE FLOOR BEGGING THEM FOR THINGS. WE BELIEVED IN RECIPROCATION OF GESTURES, AND ALSO IN EQUITY AND JUSTICE. PROBABLY WHY I IDENTIFIED AS A FENINIST IN 2011 WHEN I JOINED NL AND WAS PRO-FEMINISM BECAUSE I LIKE THE IDEA THAT PEOPLE SHOULD BE EQUAL, ESPECIALLY FOR THINGS LIKE EQUAL RESPONSIBILITY AND ACCOUNTABILITY.

HEADING TO TERTIARY SCHOOL MANY OF MY MEN MUST HAVE FELL OFF DUE TO NEW ENVIRONMENTS AND SOCIALISATION, BUT MY EGO WOULDN'T LET ME "SIMP". NOT FOR ONCE. I STILL HAVEN'T MESSAGED ANY "F" ON THE INTERNET TO DATE. I NEVER ASKED ANYBODY OUT. IF I REMEMBER CORRECTLY IN 5 YEARS OF COLLEGE I DIDN'T KEEP CONTACT OF UP TO 10 GIRLS, AND MAJORITY OF THESE WERE COURSE MATES AND GIRLFRIENDS. ZERO FEMALE FRIENDS. IF WE WEREN'T CONNECTED BY BUSINESS OR PLEASURE I WASN'T GOING TO SPEND ANYTIME TALKING TO YOU WHEN I COULD SPEND THAT TIME LEARNING BENEFICIAL SKILLS ON YOUTUBE. THIS BEHAVIOUR HELPED ME BECAUSE INSTEAD OF "SOCIALISING" OR CHIT-CHATTING I WAS BUILDING MYSELF ON THE INTERNET, AWAY FROM THE DISTRACTIONS. SAFE TO SAY THAT I'M ON THE LEVEL I AM TODAY BECAUSE OF THE LIFESTYLE I MAINTAINED DURING MY LATE TEENS.

IT WAS IN MY 3RD YEAR THAT I STARTED DATING, AND IT WAS THE WOMEN WHO CHOSE ME. IT WAS EASIER LIKE THIS BECAUSE THE WAY I CARRIED MYSELF, ONLY QUALITY GIRLS APPROACHED ME. THINGS LIKE LEECHES AND SCRAP WOMEN, I ONLY READ ABOUT ON THE INTERNET OR HEARD FROM FRIENDS' EXPERIENCES. MY GIRLS ALWAYS TREATED ME LIKE I WAS SOME PRIZE AND ACTUALLY INVESTED A LOT, BECAUSE I WAS FINE AND KNEW HOW TO DRESS AND TALK, OR JUST MAYBE BECAUSE I WAS CHOSEN. I NEVER SIMPED FOR ONCE. CAME FROM A GOOD FAMILY AND WAS SELF-SUFFICIENT TO AN EXTENT, SO THERE WAS NO WAY IN THE WORLD THAT I WOULD PUT MY PRIDE ASIDE TO DO AS MUCH BEG GIRLS FOR ATTENTION OR AFFECTION, OR SPEND A DIME ON THEM UNLESS WE WERE HAVING A THING. THERE WERE EMOTIONS AND HEARTBREAKS IN ALL THOSE YEARS THOUGH. NO MATTER HOW I PACKAGED MYSELF I STILL FELT WHAT THEY DESCRIBED AS "LOVE", BUT LETTING MYSELF DOWN EMOTIONALLY WAS NEVER IN THE BOOKS.

YEARS AFTER GRADUATING, NEARING 30, I THOUGHT I WAS GETTING MORE MATURED AND PERHAPS IT WAS TIME TO LISTEN TO FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND START PLANNING TOWARDS "SETTLING DOWN". I DECIDED THAT TELEVISION ROMANCE WAS WORTH EMULATING. BY THIS TIME I STARTED TO READ ABOUT TRP ON THE FORUM, BUT I DIDN'T PAY ATTENTION TO DETAILS CUZ I FELT THESE WEREN'T CONCERNING ME. ASIDES THAT IT SOUNDS TOO HARSH ON WOMEN, MAJORITY OF WHAT'S SAID WERE THINGS I ALREADY KNEW (SO I THOUGHT). SO I MET A YOUNGER COLLEAGUE AND AS USUAL WITH MY PAST RELATIONSHIPS, I WAS CHOSEN. OR IT SEEMED LIKE IT. THE "SHIT TESTS" STARTED ALMOST IMMEDIATELY BUT THE DESPERATION FOR LOVE AND "OUR" INTENTION TO SETTLE DOWN MADE ME THROW FRAME AWAY INTO THE DEEPEST OCEANS. MY G. HOW LOW I WENT, I'M SURE MY ANCESTORS WANTED ME TO DIE FASTER AND COME MEET THEM IN THE AFTERLIFE SO THEY CAN GANG-UP AND BEAT ME TO DEATH A SECOND TIME.

I STOPPED BODY BUILDING CUZ SHE DIDN'T LIKE IT AND MY SPARE TIME WAS CHANNELS TO HER. I STOPPED DRESSING AS FIRE AS I USED TO. STRICTLY "FAMILY MAN" THING NOW. CUT OUT ANY FEMALE PRESENCE IN MY LIFE AND STOPPED HANGING OUT WITH THE BOYS. I THREW AWAY A US VISA CHANCE BECAUSE I DIDN'T WANT TO BE FAR FROM HER. MIND THAT ALL THOSE TIMES I FOLLOWED THE THREADS OF MARTINEZ39S (AND UBUNJA) BECAUSE WE'VE BEEN CONNECTED ON NL FOR ALMOST A DECADE SO I MUST SEE EVERY POST, BUT I DON'T CONTRIBUTE. I THOUGHT I HAD THIS ONE UNDER CONTROL BECAUSE I WANTED TO DO "WHAT'S RIGHT". I DID NOT ONLY SUCCUMB TO HER PRESSURE FOR MARRIAGE, I STARTED WORKING 2X MORE AS WELL IN ORDER TO HASTEN UP. HASTEN UP TO WHAT EXACTLY? IF YOU ASK ME NOW I SWEAR I DON'T EVEN KNOW.

SUBSEQUENTLY I TOOK SECOND PLACE BETWEEN US AND EVENTUALLY DECLINED TO BEING THE STRING HOLDING US DESPITE THAT SHE WANTED OUT MANY TIMES. I'D BEG TO CONTINUE. THIS MEANT MORE INVESTMENTS FROM ME AND ALMOST NOTHING FROM HER. I HAD A JOB OFFER THAT I SNEAKED HER NAME IN TO MAKE HER HAPPY. I STILL MADE MORE THAN HER BUT THE NATURE OF THIS NEW JOB MEANT SHE STARTED TO ROLL WITH HIGHER CALIBRE OF PEOPLE. IT WAS A BIG ORGANISATION, AND I LOST IT ALL AFTER THEN. I CONTINUED TO FUND HER LIFESTYLE. I MEAN, WHY WOULDN'T I FUND MY FIANCEE? THE PRESSURE GOT OFF LIMIT AND IT STARTED TO BE CALLS WITH MANY MEN AND OUTINGS WITH HER "BIG GIRLS". CHEATING NECESSARILY WASN'T CALLED IN AT THIS POINT BUT IT WAS CLEAR SHE WAS IN A HIGHER LEAGUE. ON ONE OF THOSE DAYS I LOOKED MYSELF IN THE MIRROR AND COMPARED WITH THE MAN I WAS YEARS BACK IN COLLEGE. THE DIFFERENCES WERE CLEAR ENOUGH. BUT WE WERE GONNA GET MARRIED, RIGHT? WE'VE LASTED TWO YEARS AND I WAS LOOSING MY MIND. SO I WENT BACK TO MY OG MARTINEZ39S AND ACTUALLY PAID ATTENTION TO ALL THAT HE'S BEEN SAYING OVER THE YEARS. IT DIDN'T TAKE LONG FOR COMMON SENSE TO GET BACK TO ME BECAUSE I REALISED EXACTLY THE POINT I FELL OFF AND ALL THAT I'VE BEEN DOING COMPLETELY WRONGLY OVER THE YEARS. I MOVED BACK TO MY GIRL AND INFORMED HER OF MY REALISATION, AND THAT TO BE HONEST SHE WAS PRIVILEGED TO HAVE A QUALITY PERSON LIKE ME IN HER LIFE. I TOLD HER THAT I'VE SPENT 90% OF THE TIME "BEGGING" TO KEEP US GOING BUT LOOKING AT US FROM A NEUTRAL VIEW SHE WASN'T EVEN QUALIFIED TO WORK FOR ME AS A MAID. JUST READING THROUGH THREADS, LIKE MAGIC, MY EYES OPENED OVERNIGHT AND I DIDN'T STOP CRYING BECAUSE, "WHAT THE HELL WAS I DOING"?. I WAS MAD THAT I BECAME A SHADOW OF MYSELF. NO GOOD THINGS, NO INVESTMENTS, NO SAVINGS BECAUSE I WAS TAKING CARE OF FIANCEE WITH ALL I EARNED. I TOLD HER THAT I KNEW ABOUT HYPERGAMY AND WHAT WAS COMING AND DESPITE THAT SHE WAS ASKING TO CONTINUE AND SWEARING IT'LL ALWAYS BE ME, I KNEW AWALT AND THERE WAS NO WAY THIS WHOLE THING WASN'T A HUGE MESS ALREADY CUZ THERE WAS NO FRAME TO MY IMAGE.

I ENDED UP DOWNGRADING MYSELF TO UPGRADE HER (BECAUSE OF LOVE). SHE EVENTUALLY STARTED FALLING FOR UPGRADED MEN. IT DIDN'T TAKE A WEEK AFTER THAT EPISODE FOR ME TO FIND OUT SHE STARTED SEEING A COLLEAGUE OF HERS. A GUY THAT I KNEW PERSONALLY. HE EARNED LESS THAN I DID BUT WAS SUPER-POLISHED AND LOOKED LIKE HE WAS EVERYTHING A WOMAN WOULD EVER WANT. HE WAS BUILDING HIMSELF. I WAS BUILDING MY WOMAN. SHE WAS FALLING FOR THE MAN THAT WAS BUILDING HIMSELF.

THE MOMENT I REALISED THAT, I LET HER KNOW WHAT I FOUND OUT. SHE CAME DOING THE CROCODILE TEARS BUT I WAS LAUGHING ALL THROUGH THE EPISODE BECAUSE I WAS FOLLOWING THESE NAIRALAND THREADS BUMPER TO BUMPER AND EVERYTHING THEY PREDICTED WAS WHAT I WAS EXPERIENCING. IT WAS FUNNY ALL THE DRAMA SHE PUT UP, ALL THE LIES AND PLEADINGS, BEFORE EVENTUALLY OWNING UP. I DIDN'T EVEN PROVIDE MYSELF TO LISTEN ALL HER NONSENSE BECAUSE I WANTED HER TO BE GONE ASAP WITH THE TWO YEARS I HAVE WASTED. INSTEAD OF GETTING ANGRY AND CRYING/FIGHTING ABOUT IT OR DESTROYING THE HOUSE I RENTED AND FURNISHED FOR HER, I WENT BACK TO THE DRAWING BOARD IMMEDIATELY CUZ I NEEDED TO PICK MYSELF UP FROM WHERE I FELL. I WAS STARK POOR BECAUSE OF THIS PERSON. HER BIGGEST EXCUSE WAS THAT I DIDN'T LOOK LIKE I COULD CARTER FOR HER IN THE FUTURE AND I WAS WASTING TIME WITH THE MARRIAGE SHE DESPERATELY WANTED. BUT THEN I WAS DROWNING BECAUSE I SPENT 70% OF ALL I HAD TAKING CARE OF HER??!. SHE SPENT THE NEXT 6 MONTHS TEXTING ME BUT I HARDLY READ THEM OR BOTHERED TO REPLY. IT WAS RELIEVING FOR ME AT LEAST. COUNTED MY LOSSES IMMEDIATELY AND WENT BACK TO MY NATURAL POSITION. IN THE NEXT 6 MONTHS I WENT FROM BEING ON ZEROS TO MOVING MY NET WORTH ALMOST 100X BECAUSE I STOPPED THROWING MY MONEY AWAY, AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, I PAID MORE ATTENTION TO BUSINESSES AND BUILT BACK ALL THE CONNECTIONS I BROKE OR FAILED TO BUILD BECAUSE I WAS BUILDING A RELATIONSHIP.

IT'S BEEN 3 YEARS SINCE THAT TIME. THE ONES THAT HAVE COME AND GONE MET ME REFINED, LEFT AND I WAS EVEN BETTER BECAUSE EVERY STEP OF THE WAY I INVEST IN MYSELF AND PRIORITISE MYSELF AND ALL MY ENDEAVOURS. JUST ONCE I DECIDED TO DROP GUARD, IT ALMOST COST ME MY SANITY. THE LESSONS FROM THAT SINGULAR EXPERIENCE WAS ENOUGH TO JUSTIFY HOW I WAS LIVING PRIOR, AND WILL BE ENOUGH TO LAST THE REST OF MY LIFETIME. IT'S RIDICULOUS HOW MOST MEN GO THROUGH THINGS LIKE THAT NUMEROUS TIMES AND STILL CONTINUE TO LIVE LIKE FØØLS.

I TRIED BEING A "REAL MAN" ONCE. YOU TOO CAN SEE FROM MY ORDEAL, THE AMOUNT OF LOSSES IT BROUGHT ME. SO TAKE THAT I'M SPEAKING FROM MY EXPERIENCE AND THE EXPERIENCES OF MANY OTHER MEN WHENEVER I URGE MEN, ESPECIALLY THE YOUNGER ONES TO PRIORITISE THEMSELVES AND NEVER PLAY THE "REAL MAN" ROLE. IT ONLY PAYS WOMEN AND SUPPLIES YOU AN ENDLESS STREAM OF LOSSES.

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