I no do English and literature for school, someone should help me and summarise .

1. They always call themselves "redpillers" to justify any of their "simpish" behavior. Meanwhile, the redpill always advises that a man should put himself first and not run along any course that's detrimental to his life because of a woman.

2. If you are not ready for marriage, don't give the girl and her family hope for it. Look at it two ways:

a. Your mother doesn't want you to get married now because of the expenses you run for them, getting married will hinder you from catering to them well.

b. Your intended father/mother-in-law wants you to get married to their daughter because probably you will be the one to sponsor her higher academic education and other family expenses.

3. In our contemporary day and age, love is not only determined by romantic feelings and Disneyland tales. The relationship is affected by politics, economics, and the overall zeitgeist. If you don't plan well, you may end up regretting your actions in the nearest future.

So, you need not allow yourself to fall into these various forms of persuasions cum manipulations.

4. You are obsessed with this woman, and as a supposed "redpiller" you ought to know that you are making the wrong decision.

5. After marriage what next? Remember that expenses will triple in marriage. What are your plans and backup plans? Will she continue with her skill and upgrade or will you start sponsoring her higher academic education? Do you want to establish a business for her and raise a family in concatenation with that?

6. What are your plans exactly? You got prospects and ambitions, and all of them are about going down the drain because you deflowered an an18-year-old woman. Fvck! Yuck!

7. Tell them you are not ready for marriage and spell it boldly before their eyes. If she wants to wait and build with you fine, provided both of you choose to be loyal to each other and not just mere casual relationship flings and swings. If she decides to stay fine. If she decides to leave fine. But make sure you take a stand and don't get coerced into what you are not interested in and prepared for.

8. As a man, you lose more in marriage. The only plausible reason for it whether monogamy or polygamy is to watch your genetic line metamorphose into a strong dynasty.

9. Be careful man. And make sure you go study the red pill thoroughly.

Have a nice day.

Thanks.

Love dey kill dis one..

care4you:
If you marry that girl trust me you are finished...from your write-up I can sense that you are from Anambra state...

My brother you are truly confused.... No allow them pressure you guy, a failed relationship is still better than a regretful marriage!

And try to know the reason why your mom dislike her town... that's the most important part...

Have you asked your self why her mother is desperately pushing her out?... you don't really know the the girl you're dating, she's just showing you the part of her that she wants you to know.

But if you insist on marrying her...then, my brother gaa jụọ ese ofụma.

Cc: Georgekyrian
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The reason why my mom don’t like the town is simple, my mom’s brother marry from the town and the marriage is headache, my elder sister too was married to that town and she is on verge of divorce. So my mom is surprised that I am dating a woman from that same town, so she is just lamenting that I have to be careful, now I am taking my time as mom said not that I must do as she said just taken my time to get if formal

ruffkenny:
Just be careful sha,u never know the reason they are forcing the girl on you for marriage,u are still young and I think u should take ur time and still be meeting other girls at the moment and at least get to a certain financial stability before this marriage thing,plus that family talks too much and gossip a lot,are u sure u want to enter such a family? Things might not be as u see it with ur gf,listen to what the guy above me said @care4you

Yes the problem; they talks too much

Holybaddo:
Make it clear to them next time you meet with her parents and they bring up the topic.

As a niga: Propose to her, give am ring that will buy you time till you are ready.
If them come again tell them say you dey gather money for wedding,bride price tell them say you wan do all once. Thank me later
#HolyBaddo$#

I’m thinking of that ring stuff

YourHighTension:
They are already drumming and dancing when you haven't even done introduction?

From your writing, I think you liked the attention they were giving you after you visited and you allowed them pull you into the 'my in-law' quagmire.

Marry her. But you should consider relocating, far away from their immediate reach.

I love this Sir, I am considering relocating

Georgekyrian:
Many people causing me here don’t know the kind of person I am, I’m not a simp.. I’m just doing my thing, if you meet me, you should be scared of me.. believe me 100%. I am everything you can think of and have foot soldiers too, I’m not a simp
I just need advise them I will decide what is best for me. I might not marry soon or I could, na me know Wetin dey my head

1. Y not make it short, to points
2. nigga's dey curse u here, doesnt mean dey hate u. it means dey don like d way u handle things with ur girl & her mother.
3. op, if u knw u cant take such headache frm dat family, pls move to d nxt girl and leave their daughter alone.. u are matured enough to take good steps. peace!

Nutase:
You are trying to justify your rude anti social behaviour with being a redpillar.
Lemme tell you something you don't know, the very moment you choose a partner and the parents accept you, they automatically become your parents. They are trying to develop a healthy relationship with you but your pea sized brain is forming redpillar. May God help you to loose this girl then you'll know that good families are hard to come by talkless of spouses. You don't know what help her parents can offer to your destiny. Continue running.
Their is no difference between you and Osinachi Nwachukwu's husband. I just pity the poor girl who is crazy in love with you.
I'm glad you said her parents are not poor and dependent on you.
You also fail to realise that you'll have a daughter tomorrow and someone will do same or even worse to you.

Continue....

Please I’m not using my girl, I love her so dearie and treat her with absolute respect while I treats her like a Queen, I like her parents because they are young parents but nwanne I don’t send their money, I just pray for peace at all time. They know I am their daughter’s first love and they are scared of me leaving her for another woman I think

muhammadhan19:
Think with your head n not with ur heart!!!
Only u urself knows whats good for u n what's not. Never be forced,pressured,succumb to do what's ure not ready to do no matter the condition, love, fear etc surrounding u at that moment. The lady is still very young, I don't know y their forcing her into marriage now, maybe due to fear of bad guys who waste women pressure time n later dumped them, who knows....
In life hustle, but never rush to make money.... Also, never rush into marriage cuz e get why.
Pls ensure u achieve 75% of what u planned for b4 u marry bcuz marriage na different ball games, e no go tey b4 love clear for ur eye when different issues start coming in n u gonna blame urself, the lady for any misfortune leading to unhappy family....
from what uve said, it seems d lady loves u.
Oga its time for u to be a man, man up go see her parent n tell them when u will be ready and stand ur ground but with respect. Shit happens never be afraid to loose anyone cuz e get y....
Do what u think is best for u first b4 anyone else... PEACE OUT....

Yes they are kinda scared because even the girl and her family made me popular with this relationship and I’m also kind of popular dude in my location. So they are scared of me dumping her which I never have the intention for once

alhaji04:

1. Y not make it short, to points
2. nigga's dey curse u here, doesnt mean dey hate u. it means dey don like d way u handle things with ur girl & her mother.
3. op, if u knw u cant take such headache frm dat family, pls move to d nxt girl and leave their daughter alone.. u are matured enough to take good steps. peace!

Thanks, the girl knows what she want and she sacrificed everything for me, I love her and wanna make her my partner for life. I just don’t like the rush. The parents (father in particular) acting like he has better for me after marriage but the truth is I don’t like that kind of help, I hate insult so much and I’m avoiding it

Georgekyrian:


The reason why my mom don’t like the town is simple, my mom’s brother marry from the town and the marriage is headache, my elder sister too was married to that town and she is on verge of divorce. So my mom is surprised that I am dating a woman from that same town, so she is just lamenting that I have to be careful, now I am taking my time as mom said not that I must do as she said just taken my time to get if formal

You need to calm down first...it seems you are under pressure....

You need to sturdy your girl first cus something is off about her but the the love you have for her won't let you see it...

My guy, let me tell you the fact. When it comes to marriage, love can never be enough. Marriage no be friendship... marriage na lifetime journey...

Allow that your babe to add one or two years with that you will experience who truly she is...

...

care4you:


You need to calm down first...it seems you are under pressure....

You need to sturdy your girl first cus something is off about her but the the love you have for her won't let you see it...

My guy, let me tell you the fact. When it comes to marriage, love can never be enough. Marriage no be friendship... marriage na lifetime journey...

Allow that your babe to add one or two years with that you will experience who truly she is...

...

Thanks.. what if I use engagement and official introduction but time for the one year, do you think is the best. Another is I must say I know her at almost adult age 18 I know her might and flops. I’m active street guy and to my understanding I get small sense. when I say she is good she is good and I can easily know any secret from her as she hardly hide things from me thought sometimes she fails but I later found those out, her flop level is 2/10

care4you:


You need to calm down first...it seems you are under pressure....

You need to sturdy your girl first cus something is off about her but the the love you have for her won't let you see it...

My guy, let me tell you the fact. When it comes to marriage, love can never be enough. Marriage no be friendship... marriage na lifetime journey...

Allow that your babe to add one or two years with that you will experience who truly she is...

...

AND ONE OF THE REASON FOR THIS PRESSURE IS ALSO BECAUSE SHE IS THE FIRST CHILD IN FAMILY OF 4, ONE OF THEIR FEAR IS THAT I COULD BE A PLAYBOY AND MAY DUMP THE GIRL

Senior man, please ignore the naysayers. My little pinch of advise for you is stand your ground even if you are threatened on losing your babe, stand your ground.
How old is the girl in question that you are being pressured to get married.
This issue doesn't need to get to you to the point of frustrating you, you love their daughter but your destiny is not tied to her na.
Inasmuch as struggling men needs virtuous women, you will find another woman 10x better than their daughter na because you never try.
No disturb yourself, focus on yourself abeg.
Shikena!

Dammyseyon:
Senior man, please ignore the naysayers. My little pinch of advise for you is stand your ground even if you are threatened on losing your babe, stand your ground.
How old is the girl in question that you are being pressured to get married.
This issue doesn't need to get to you to the point of frustrating you, you love their daughter but your destiny is not tied to her na.
Inasmuch as struggling men needs virtuous women, you will find another woman 10x better than their daughter na because you never try.
No disturb yourself, focus on yourself abeg.
Shikena!

Thanks. She is 20 now, been from a very strict family, she is the first child and what surprise them is that since 2 years now, the girls acts like I’m the only one telling her what she does. She respect and loyal to me like I’m her God, I made it like that but I think the parents are scared, even to some extent the mom was asking her if she is sure I’m not using her spiritual.. Mind you I’m always mean and I keeps my distance 24/7 even with them living in same districts with me but I fail to come around as they wanted and that baffles them. I have a positive plan for my woman but seriously I need time, like more 6months to 1 year

Georgekyrian:


Yes the problem; they talks too much

Just be careful to avoid unnecessary headache. I know a guy who was courting a lady. One day, he saw her watapp status was one of the excerpt of a Native doctor like in a Nigerian movie. She posted that in the morning hours according to him. He confronted her about this, and the lady declared that we all praise the same God and she was focused on the words. This guy listened to reason and severed the relationship. It happens that she hails from Enugu Agidi in Anambra state.

Use your head well.



Shalom.

Georgekyrian:


Thanks, the girl knows what she want and she sacrificed everything for me, I love her and wanna make her my partner for life. I just don’t like the rush. The parents (father in particular) acting like he has better for me after marriage but the truth is I don’t like that kind of help, I hate insult so much and I’m avoiding it

tho i didn't read all ur writeup, i'll suggest u talk to ur girl to talk to her father politely about how u feel, let see if things will change..i do understand how u feel.

TheNoble007:


Just be careful to avoid unnecessary headache. I know a guy who was courting a lady. One day, he saw her watapp status was one of the excerpt of a Native doctor like in a Nigerian movie. She posted that in the morning hours according to him. He confronted her about this, and the lady declared that we all praise the same God and she was focused on the words. This guy listened to reason and severed the relationship. It happens that she hails from Enugu Agidi in Anambra state.

Use your head well.



Shalom.

I’m trying to understand the native doctors part hahaha. In trying to be careful but seriously I have nothing against her just time

alhaji04:

tho i didn't read all ur writeup, i'll suggest u talk to ur girl to talk to her father politely about how u feel, let see if things will change..i do understand how u feel.

You can check the WhatsApp screenshot, it is kinda conclusion of the whole story

Georgekyrian:
Many people causing me here don’t know the kind of person I am, I’m not a simp.. I’m just doing my thing, if you meet me, you should be scared of me.. believe me 100%. I am everything you can think of and have foot soldiers too, I’m not a simp
I just need advise them I will decide what is best for me. I might not marry soon or I could, na me know Wetin dey my head

Abeg summarise your write-up

No dey stress yourself this boy

Just give the girl belle and the family go carry her dash you period

purejustice36:
No dey stress yourself this boy

Just give the girl belle and the family go carry her dash you period

Pure justice time for belle go soon reach, I have big eye and big dreams. Always on a moving tracks, I will not wanna suffer anybody because I am chasing my dreams, at this point, I’m just thinking of using engagement ring and introduction buy more time while I do my thing

DonBenny77:
You be mumu

Heavy one

Georgekyrian:
Many people causing me here don’t know the kind of person I am, I’m not a simp.. I’m just doing my thing, if you meet me, you should be scared of me.. believe me 100%. I am everything you can think of and have foot soldiers too, I’m not a simp
I just need advise them I will decide what is best for me. I might not marry soon or I could, na me know Wetin dey my head

I understand how you feel about the whole thing... Forget being a Simp or a Redpiller here. This is matters of the heart.

You have to brace up for what you want... You and your girlfriend should take the bull by the horns by speaking to her parents together.

Since you are kinda close to them already, both of you should sit them down and tell them your minds. They should give you both some breathing space for a while to grow and be more stable.

Love is not all that marriage entails... It is a lifelong commitment

No matter the advises everyone is given you here, you will still do whatever is in your mind.
There was a time I was traveling inside a public transport, there was a man telling us about how he met his wife.
He said without his wife's knowledge he travelled to her home town just to know the mom's character. According to him, he said whatever character the mom exhibit same as the lady.

Pls how much will nairaland pay you for writing this so long epistle.?

Georgekyrian:


Pure justice time for belle go soon reach, I have big eye and big dreams. Always on a moving tracks, I will not wanna suffer anybody because I am chasing my dreams, at this point, I’m just thinking of using engagement ring and introduction buy more time while I do my thing

Rookie mistake - unless you're ready to get married, never you meet the parents.
An extreme to this rule is to never date if you're not ready to settle down.

You've learnt the hard way.
The alarm bells of marriage are hard to suppress for any girl and her family. They may not mean bad but just want to see a logical conclusion to the whole thing and as soon as possible.

You must take a break, let everyone clear their heads.
It's the only way you come out of this unscathed.

Thank you for wasting my time, my little precious MB God bless u.

Georgekyrian:


I love this Sir, I am considering relocating

Georgekyrian:


I’m thinking of that ring stuff

What is this bayii
This guy is confused abeg