pozehnani:
Somebody help me before I lose my mind.

I've been with this guy for some time now.
When he first approached me, I wasn't too down with the idea of having a relationship with him, which I made clear to him. Though I had my reservations about him, which was his height but didn't let him know. Also, that time, there was this pharmacist (i shared about him some years ago) I was hoping would come open with his proposal to date me but he got ego and was using me to catch Cruise. As in.. each time I visited the pharmacy where he works, he'll be forming and acting like he didn't see me until I'm set to leave, he'll then want to block my way and turn everything to joke. saying.. " you don't want to marry fine boy abi? So I just parked him aside since he was not serious.

This other guy kept pestering me and was always calling. Suddenly, I began to like and miss him. Then he popped the question again and I was like... Ok, let's see how it goes.
We started seeing each other.

Along the line, people started saying all sorts like, she doesn't love this guy. It's because no man is forthcoming that is why she settled for him bla bla.. which is not true.

Now they said it until it got to my baby. Since then, he's been withdrawn. He said I don't really love him. that those people might be right. He was just saying all that and after trying to convince him that I do without any success, I got angry and left. We didn't talk for three days.

I missed him so much and so I called and he told me I'm only pretending that I don't love him because he's short, he's not my spec and all that balderdash. I tried talking him out of it but he wouldn't hear me out.

Seriously, I love him. The way the love developed overnight is still a mystery to me but I do. I'm tired of explaining and begging.

How can I convince him that I sincerely love him. I've really emanciated since he started all these drama. He even saw me recently and was like it's the pharmacy guy I'm missing, not him. .

I posted a happy pics on my status on Friday with my students and he said, moving on without me, yeah?. Ok, I called him, he refused to pick. Later he texted me that, at my age, I should know better than to be posting happy pics when someone somewhere is not feeling fine.
I replied, who's not feeling fine? Then he went, I said it! You don't love me. You don't care! Maybe if I were taller, things would have been different

Here's someone who refused to pick my calls turning around to accuse me.

Please, how can I let him know I really care about him. I'm tired! I want to settle down with him this year but this sudden act of his doesn't look promising.

Toktee:


I saw this and it was posted by you where you refers to short people as been below society standard and I wonder why you are crying here today cos a short man is not taking your calls.

You know.....when you're that hot chick that has turned down so many men in your area and work place, there's this high expectations from everyone to see the kind of guy you would end up with. Some will even tell you to your face.

Now, if it happens that you end up with someone not up to society standards for a partner or what he should look like, say... a short man for instance ( considering the way society see them), then there's a problem and you'll hear things like, "after all the shakara, see the short man she married."

Or

They'll say "Maybe no normal man is coming for her again, so she has no choice but to settle for anything". These are the kind of remarks you get to hear at such times.

One was like, for someone her height and Class we didn't expect anything less but alas all that forming was nothing.

So, I begin to Wonder. Are short people of low standard or not considered fit for good things just because they are short? Or is there something missing with them?

Don't they deserve better like every other person? Im baffled and I want to know.

Any lady here dating a short guy?
What has your experience been like?
Are you missing out on any action?

truthsayer009:


What struck me so much about this thread is women are so much willing to marry something they really hate all the rest of their lives because they want to settle down quickly. This isn't even fair on themselves not to talk of the other person.

After all this her previous post you listed there, It is completely obvious that she detest short guys which is nothing new. So why she wants to marry something she detest so much is beyond me!

Pozehnani, every thing you mentioned about this guy has been terrible so far, you're borderline disgusted with this guy and irritated. But you want to walk down the isle with him because you're desperate for marriage?

If I was your parent, I will flog you!

pozehnani:


You think so?

I love him, that's what I know.

truthsayer009:


What struck me so much about this thread is women are so much willing to marry something they really hate all the rest of their lives because they want to settle down quickly. This isn't even fair on themselves not to talk of the other person.

After all this her previous post you listed there, It is completely obvious that she detest short guys which is nothing new. So why she wants to marry something she detest so much is beyond me!

Pozehnani, every thing you mentioned about this guy has been terrible so far, you're borderline disgusted with this guy and irritated. But you want to walk down the isle with him because you're desperate for marriage?

If I was your parent, I will flog you!

truthsayer009:


What struck me so much about this thread is women are so much willing to marry something they really hate all the rest of their lives because they want to settle down quickly. This isn't even fair on themselves not to talk of the other person.

After all this her previous post you listed there, It is completely obvious that she detest short guys which is nothing new. So why she wants to marry something she detest so much is beyond me!

Pozehnani, every thing you mentioned about this guy has been terrible so far, you're borderline disgusted with this guy and irritated. But you want to walk down the isle with him because you're desperate for marriage?

If I was your parent, I will flog you!

Raalsalghul:


You really can't blame the Op: she's at that phase and the short men she so much detests is the only serious person in the picture.

Like someone said, the spec of a thing are for people in their prime.

I know this because I have female relations too and one of them has caught that marriage bug, her requirements in a partner is quite different from five years ago.

Whenever we have that discussion, her reply would be she just wants a "man that have sense".

pozehnani:


Who told you I never liked short people?
Can you just stop concluding unecessarily?

For your info, my ex was short. Still I loved him.

pozehnani:


See how you just concluded wrongly.

You wanna know the truth? I love him more than the pharmacist. The pharmacist is just fine and has a good fashion sense, that's all. No feelings for him, which was why I dribbled him the first time he too approached me but decided to give him a try after nairalanders advised me then to take him seriously.

I really feel for this my baby. I love and dream of him.

Anyways, believe what you want.

Ishilove:
When Mr Available becomes Mr Right.

Aunty, short people too get persecution complex. They feel the whole world is out to bully them because they are 'summarised'. Besides he is not mature enough to handle you which is why he is listening to what people are saying.

How come people even have a say in your relationship sef? Who are these 'people' and how come they are so familiar with you that they are running 'football commentary' on who you're dating?

pozehnani:


And what wrong with being a second option by the way? Afterall we are all opened to so many options at different points in our in lifes. Why is it now a big deal?

After him, there will be more options, so let him go if he wants to go. I got better things to do with my energy than to be begging one insecure fellow.

pozehnani:
Somebody help me before I lose my mind.

I've been with this guy for some time now.
When he first approached me, I wasn't too down with the idea of having a relationship with him, which I made clear to him. Though I had my reservations about him, which was his height but didn't let him know. Also, that time, there was this pharmacist (i shared about him some years ago) I was hoping would come open with his proposal to date me but he got ego and was using me to catch Cruise. As in.. each time I visited the pharmacy where he works, he'll be forming and acting like he didn't see me until I'm set to leave, he'll then want to block my way and turn everything to joke. saying.. " you don't want to marry fine boy abi? So I just parked him aside since he was not serious.

This other guy kept pestering me and was always calling. Suddenly, I began to like and miss him. Then he popped the question again and I was like... Ok, let's see how it goes.
We started seeing each other.

Along the line, people started saying all sorts like, she doesn't love this guy. It's because no man is forthcoming that is why she settled for him bla bla.. which is not true.

Now they said it until it got to my baby. Since then, he's been withdrawn. He said I don't really love him. that those people might be right. He was just saying all that and after trying to convince him that I do without any success, I got angry and left. We didn't talk for three days.

I missed him so much and so I called and he told me I'm only pretending that I don't love him because he's short, he's not my spec and all that balderdash. I tried talking him out of it but he wouldn't hear me out.

Seriously, I love him. The way the love developed overnight is still a mystery to me but I do. I'm tired of explaining and begging.

How can I convince him that I sincerely love him. I've really emanciated since he started all these drama. He even saw me recently and was like it's the pharmacy guy I'm missing, not him. .

I posted a happy pics on my status on Friday with my students and he said, moving on without me, yeah?. Ok, I called him, he refused to pick. Later he texted me that, at my age, I should know better than to be posting happy pics when someone somewhere is not feeling fine.
I replied, who's not feeling fine? Then he went, I said it! You don't love me. You don't care! Maybe if I were taller, things would have been different

Here's someone who refused to pick my calls turning around to accuse me.

Please, how can I let him know I really care about him. I'm tired! I want to settle down with him this year but this sudden act of his doesn't look promising.

obinna58:
I can swear with my life she doesn't love him

Samakus:



'He's not my spec' is for girls that are still at their prime. Know this and Know peace

Once age advances, 'specifications' runs outta window and you know what? The unfortunate niggah will most likely treat them better than the supposed spec

pozehnani:




This is not a case of the available becoming the desirable besides the pharmacist has got nothing on me. He's just a fine boy, nothing more.

My baby is very loving, calm and caring. He has a beautiful heart and most importantly, a born again brother. So, Im hooked on his personality. He also has a fine face .

Youngpo413:
keep deceiving yourself.

pozehnani:

The way they deceive you right?