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SF123:
Bosses, To be respected by the ladies. What must i do?

ashewoboy:
They wan do you like solfa.

Pukkalolo:
I'm responding to the tweet you posted that says,
"Worse thing to do with a girl?
Tell her how much you like her.
Women dig men whose feelings are unclear."

Lolz...In my opinion, I don't totally agree with that statement.

Here's why:

Ok...Yes, sometimes women dig men whose feelings are unclear, but sadly, Men sometimes also dig women whose feelings are unclear.

And that is the beginning of the problem .


Firstly, as a guy when you're not being clear about feelings and interest in a lady, you're playing games. Girls are expert at manipulation and mind games. The female gender are professionals when it comes to making their feelings unclear. You can't win women in that game because right from their little age, they've been trained to hide their feelings and always pretend.


The best way to win the game with women is to actually leave the game.

Infact, from my experience, women love operating in ambiguity, vagueness and unclearness. That's their main source of power when it comes to manipulating and exploting men.

Girls love it when you to make your feelings unclear, not because it makes make you more attractive but because it makes it easy for her to manipulate you.

After reading that tweet post you posted, I asked a lady who was with me...I asked her whether she prefer a guy who makes his feelings clear or the guy who's unclear about feelings. She said she prefers a guy who makes his feelings unclear. Wow!

I asked her "why"

She said, "when the guy makes his feeling clear, it will spoil the vibe."

I asked her, "What vibe?"

She said, " once a guy makes his feelings and interest clear, I might be forced to either reject him or accept him..."

I said, "isn't that a good thing...is it not good you reject a guy that you don't like so he'll stop disturbing you?"

Her next response exposed her intentions.

She said, "if I reject him and he leaves me alone, I'll not benefits anything from him."

I was curious, I ask "what do you mean by you'll not benefits anything from him ?"

She said, "you are acting like you don't know that there are so many benefits of being just friends with a man?"

Our conversation on that topic continued for over an hour..but I'll stop here for now.

I respect this lady alot because she's actually one of the fewest sincere lady I've ever met.

Her point is, ladies benefits alot of things from being friends with a guy; things like money, employment offer, expensive date, free lunch, free tickets, free attention and so on

When this girl said "when the guy makes his feeling clear, it might spoil the vibe," what she meant is that it might spoil her opportunity to manipulate and exploit him.

This is why most times when a guy meet a lady he likes and then he makes his feeling clear, she might give him unclear and ambitious response like

"I need to take my time..."

or

"I don't want to jump into any thing yet, let's take things slow"

Or

"I'll think about it"

or worse

"let just be friends for now."


Sadly, Men fall for those lines all the time. Basically, she's not saying YES or NO. She's giving him a Maybe(unclear) response. Ladies needs to give you this unclear response so you that you can continue chasing her, so she can exploit you. And more importantly, that's why she prefer you don't make your feelings clear.



The statement "Women dig men whose feelings are unclear," is not totally correct, at least from my experience. That's because most girls who I ended up dating, I actually made my feelings clear to them. Infact the current girl I'm with, if I had not tell her I like her and made my feelings clear ASAP I would have lost her to someone else.

But again, some guys might argue against that. They'll say, "when you make your feelings clear, you've giving her power; because now she knows you like her, she'll start giving you attitude"


Note: When I say make your feelings clear, I don't mean telling her things like, "I love you... I'm in love with you... I can't stop thinking of you...." Or any other bullshit. That's not making your feelings clear; that's making your neediness and stupidity clear.


The truth is, Women DON'T dig men whose feelings are unclear, what women actually dig is, men who they can't easily manipulate and wrap around their fingers.

Making your feelings clear is not giving her power; you only give her power when you start acting like a simp.

When I'm interacting with a lady I admire, often make my feelings and interest very clear in a very confident and detached manner. If she's resisting me or playing hard to get, I'd never start being too persistent; i'd never start trying to convince her to accept me. When I see that she's not giving me the feedback I want, I'm very quick to move on. No time. I've low tolerance for ladies who don't fancy me.

It is foolishness to wast time, effort and money chasing after a woman that's giving you hard time. Anytime you're being too persistent and chasing after a girl that's giving you hard time, you are only disrespecting yourself and also disgracing yourself.




Let me give a real life example making your feelings clear in a more detached and confident way:

About last month or so, a guy who knows about me, messaged me and told me about a lady he's close to. he likes her so much, but he said he doesn't know where he stands with her. He said sometimes she act hot today, then act cold towards him tomorrow. She's pratically playing games with him. She has all the power.

This guy told me he made is feeling for her unclear and he never tell her how much he likes her, but despite that she's not still digging him. Infact he's the one digging her badly.

He ask me what to do about the situation. I told him to stop playing games and that he actually has to make his feelings clear, but in a more detached and confident way.

I told him to tell her something as simple as this:
"[insert her name], I have no interest in being your next platonic friend...if you don't have any interest in me romantically, then I'll fucking leave you alone."


When he told her that through WhatsApp, he showed me her response.

Her response was, "Wow! I don't know what to say right right"

He asked me what to say next... I told him not to reply her anymore. He left her chat that way.

About a week later, she messaged him again. Saying "Hello", But he ignored her message again. She messaged him again. He ignored her again as I advised. Remember, Most ladies can't stand being ignored. They'll feel like they've lost.
She finally called him on the phone. She ask him why he's ignoring her chat...and all... He stayed in control; no simping.

I won't go into much detail...but to cut the story short, this guy now as the power now. If you know what I mean.


In my experience, when you meet a girl, and you're intentionally trying to make your feelings unclear so she can like you more, you are only hurting your chance with her in the long run. Although, initially, it might seem like she's digging you, but somehow somehow, you'll eventually lose her.

But, the more boldy you make your feelings clear and not give a shit about her reaction, you'll be flooded with more romantic opportunities in the long run. Although, initially, it might seem like you're losing out, but somehow somehow, you'll eventually win.

This is just my experience.
Sometimes, you’d be surprised how a girl will respond with attraction and respect when you make you feelings clear in a confident and detached manner. But the biggest mental hurdle for many guys is the ability to handle that initial "negative/undesirable response" they get from girls when they make their feelings clear. As a guy, it's very important, you develop an I-don't-give-a-shit attitude towards how a woman respond to you.

Like I said, women actually dig a guy who they can't easily manipulate and wrap around their fingers --- and that's a guy who doesn't truly gives a shit

The truth is, when you develop an I-don't-give-a-shit attitude towards how a girl respond to you, you won't be scared of making your feelings clear.



Stay blessed brothers.

heartofcity12:
Especially those in our country. For every action, there is a reaction, can’t really blame the guys.

Reminderz:
exactly... especially that last guys comment in the second picture.. blame the men who use money to inflate these girls ego... btw, who turns down good life here? if I see one better woman wey go dey give me free money and gifts, shey I nor go collect nii?

you can't fault a woman for collecting money from simps na, sheybi na the man get money to waste.. and a simp and his money are soon parted... who nor like oshofree? she sha nor force the simp...

tosaino95:
in one words Dem women in man form be that

CaveAdullam:
DAY 200, REDPILL 2022.

LINK: https://www.nairaland.com/7233715/drug-ruining-relationship#114837728



Authority: Don't be a parachute that's only useful when people are dying.

Reminderz:
yeah it works because they are attracted to you. I think in this case, keeping her confused works best. Let her keep thinking of who she is to you. don't give her definite reply. it keeps her intrigued. she will be eager to satisfy you so she can be promoted to the position of a proper girlfriend, hence the question, "do you actually love me, do you want to date me.. blah blah". if you tell her your real intention, maybe you want to date her in this case, it might actually spoil the vibe and might change the way she acts since you guys are already been sexual with each other.

the statement you made that, "you not a bad kisser, you still have a lot to learn" will make her want to prove herself more. it's a redpill tactic. it's like telling a man, you didn't fvck me well, or perform well, he will want to prove himself to you the next time. leemao .. it's called disqualifying them in order to qualify to you...

anyways, sora fun obirin. olorun awa pelueee ooo

luke55720:
A glimpse into the sexual shadow world
Watch and see what the ladies do behind close doors

https://www.xvideos.com/video69569751/must_watch_milfs_girls_night_out
https://www.xvideos.com/video67658553/hungry_milf_sucks_male_stripper
https://www.xvideos.com/video69600743/omg_must_watch

heartofcity12:
Simp was trying so hard to impress woman richer than him. These clowns won’t stop leading with the wallet, now the joke is on him.

MJBOLT:

I've said it before on this thread,women are not as broke as a lot of men think. I'm speaking from personal experience.

Pukkalolo:
I'm responding to the tweet you posted that says,
"Worse thing to do with a girl?
Tell her how much you like her.
Women dig men whose feelings are unclear."

Lolz...In my opinion, I don't totally agree with that statement.

Here's why:

Ok...Yes, sometimes women dig men whose feelings are unclear, but sadly, Men sometimes also dig women whose feelings are unclear.

And that is the beginning of the problem .


Firstly, as a guy when you're not being clear about feelings and interest in a lady, you're playing games. Girls are expert at manipulation and mind games. The female gender are professionals when it comes to making their feelings unclear. You can't win women in that game because right from their little age, they've been trained to hide their feelings and always pretend.


The best way to win the game with women is to actually leave the game.

Infact, from my experience, women love operating in ambiguity, vagueness and unclearness. That's their main source of power when it comes to manipulating and exploting men.

Girls love it when you to make your feelings unclear, not because it makes make you more attractive but because it makes it easy for her to manipulate you.

After reading that tweet post you posted, I asked a lady who was with me...I asked her whether she prefer a guy who makes his feelings clear or the guy who's unclear about feelings. She said she prefers a guy who makes his feelings unclear. Wow!

I asked her "why"

She said, "when the guy makes his feeling clear, it will spoil the vibe."

I asked her, "What vibe?"

She said, " once a guy makes his feelings and interest clear, I might be forced to either reject him or accept him..."

I said, "isn't that a good thing...is it not good you reject a guy that you don't like so he'll stop disturbing you?"

Her next response exposed her intentions.

She said, "if I reject him and he leaves me alone, I'll not benefits anything from him."

I was curious, I ask "what do you mean by you'll not benefits anything from him ?"

She said, "you are acting like you don't know that there are so many benefits of being just friends with a man?"

Our conversation on that topic continued for over an hour..but I'll stop here for now.

I respect this lady alot because she's actually one of the fewest sincere lady I've ever met.

Her point is, ladies benefits alot of things from being friends with a guy; things like money, employment offer, expensive date, free lunch, free tickets, free attention and so on

When this girl said "when the guy makes his feeling clear, it might spoil the vibe," what she meant is that it might spoil her opportunity to manipulate and exploit him.

This is why most times when a guy meet a lady he likes and then he makes his feeling clear, she might give him unclear and ambitious response like

"I need to take my time..."

or

"I don't want to jump into any thing yet, let's take things slow"

Or

"I'll think about it"

or worse

"let just be friends for now."


Sadly, Men fall for those lines all the time. Basically, she's not saying YES or NO. She's giving him a Maybe(unclear) response. Ladies needs to give you this unclear response so you that you can continue chasing her, so she can exploit you. And more importantly, that's why she prefer you don't make your feelings clear.



The statement "Women dig men whose feelings are unclear," is not totally correct, at least from my experience. That's because most girls who I ended up dating, I actually made my feelings clear to them. Infact the current girl I'm with, if I had not tell her I like her and made my feelings clear ASAP I would have lost her to someone else.

But again, some guys might argue against that. They'll say, "when you make your feelings clear, you've giving her power; because now she knows you like her, she'll start giving you attitude"


Note: When I say make your feelings clear, I don't mean telling her things like, "I love you... I'm in love with you... I can't stop thinking of you...." Or any other bullshit. That's not making your feelings clear; that's making your neediness and stupidity clear.


The truth is, Women DON'T dig men whose feelings are unclear, what women actually dig is, men who they can't easily manipulate and wrap around their fingers.

Making your feelings clear is not giving her power; you only give her power when you start acting like a simp.

When I'm interacting with a lady I admire, often make my feelings and interest very clear in a very confident and detached manner. If she's resisting me or playing hard to get, I'd never start being too persistent; i'd never start trying to convince her to accept me. When I see that she's not giving me the feedback I want, I'm very quick to move on. No time. I've low tolerance for ladies who don't fancy me.

It is foolishness to wast time, effort and money chasing after a woman that's giving you hard time. Anytime you're being too persistent and chasing after a girl that's giving you hard time, you are only disrespecting yourself and also disgracing yourself.




Let me give a real life example making your feelings clear in a more detached and confident way:

About last month or so, a guy who knows about me, messaged me and told me about a lady he's close to. he likes her so much, but he said he doesn't know where he stands with her. He said sometimes she act hot today, then act cold towards him tomorrow. She's pratically playing games with him. She has all the power.

This guy told me he made is feeling for her unclear and he never tell her how much he likes her, but despite that she's not still digging him. Infact he's the one digging her badly.

He ask me what to do about the situation. I told him to stop playing games and that he actually has to make his feelings clear, but in a more detached and confident way.

I told him to tell her something as simple as this:
"[insert her name], I have no interest in being your next platonic friend...if you don't have any interest in me romantically, then I'll fucking leave you alone."


When he told her that through WhatsApp, he showed me her response.

Her response was, "Wow! I don't know what to say right right"

He asked me what to say next... I told him not to reply her anymore. He left her chat that way.

About a week later, she messaged him again. Saying "Hello", But he ignored her message again. She messaged him again. He ignored her again as I advised. Remember, Most ladies can't stand being ignored. They'll feel like they've lost.
She finally called him on the phone. She ask him why he's ignoring her chat...and all... He stayed in control; no simping.

I won't go into much detail...but to cut the story short, this guy now as the power now. If you know what I mean.


In my experience, when you meet a girl, and you're intentionally trying to make your feelings unclear so she can like you more, you are only hurting your chance with her in the long run. Although, initially, it might seem like she's digging you, but somehow somehow, you'll eventually lose her.

But, the more boldy you make your feelings clear and not give a shit about her reaction, you'll be flooded with more romantic opportunities in the long run. Although, initially, it might seem like you're losing out, but somehow somehow, you'll eventually win.

This is just my experience.
Sometimes, you’d be surprised how a girl will respond with attraction and respect when you make you feelings clear in a confident and detached manner. But the biggest mental hurdle for many guys is the ability to handle that initial "negative/undesirable response" they get from girls when they make their feelings clear. As a guy, it's very important, you develop an I-don't-give-a-shit attitude towards how a woman respond to you.

Like I said, women actually dig a guy who they can't easily manipulate and wrap around their fingers --- and that's a guy who doesn't truly gives a shit

The truth is, when you develop an I-don't-give-a-shit attitude towards how a girl respond to you, you won't be scared of making your feelings clear.



Stay blessed brothers.

Skepticus:
You do have a point but I don't know if it is just me alone who feels a little "cringey" about your use of "man and feelings" in the same line.

In my opinion, the word "feelings" scream "EMOTIONS" which is usually a recipe for betaness and disaster when dealing with women. There are better words for it. I'll prefer "intentions" as most men always want to fûck or commit.

CaveAdullam:
Martinez39s, it is high time you take a break from sabbatical. Hope you are fine.

Ok.

Junnior:
Does the report button actually work? How does it work? Do the mods actually get notified of the perpetrators?

Heart0fcity, s@jmark, etc.

Junnior:
Does the report button actually work? How does it work? Do the mods actually get notified of the perpetrators?

Heartofcity, sajmark, etc.

MJBOLT:

this picture is not about chargers

dhiqson:
Make it make sense to me bro..
A nigga said the only thing that matters to him is wat put bread on his table
And you're saying he should care about what others think about him?? In your subsequent paragraph you said "moderate redpill"
You're actually not the one ready for truth.... The only thing that mAtters in my life presently is,.... And what puts food on my table
You disrespecting or not liking me as long as it doesn't affect what I'll eat this night? I couldn't care. Less

Junnior:
Does the report button actually work? How does it work? Do the mods actually get notified of the perpetrators?

Heartofcity, sajmark, etc.

heartofcity12:
Who let the dog out, you know what to do guys. Don’t just ignore, report.

sajmark:
It actually works, if it is reported a number of times it'll get banned. I think it just came back from a ban recently... We can continue to ignore and starve it of attention or report it, if you think it is worth the stress.

LionelEmmanuel:
The rational male: the players handbook, is out. It's the latest in the series. I just downloaded it.