I'm confused about this and will like anyone with ideas about this issue to advice me.



I'm married with 2 lovely kids but my home is not that lively due to my poor condition, i'm always on a look out to see ways that will better my condition but all efforts are not yielding any positive result. my major problem is to raise my children in a way that will enable them live and not just exist like i do hence i always go to any length to provide the basics in the house. However, my problems seems to be increasing daily to a point that i started feeling depressed and suicidal recently. i sometimes attributed my woes to how i live a very bad life in the past but then again, something came up recently which is giving me sleepless nights.



In my efforts to find a solution, i contacted a nairalander who claims to be a spiritualist and know much about life, my complain to him was simple, i just wanted to know if my woes are spiritualy connected, this is because, i have a serious badluck.



For example, no one is willing to help me even family members, whenever someone promise me of any help, he/she will not fulfill it(even here many has promise me one or two things but none was able to fulfill it) worst is that, i can't even take something to market and sell cos many will not be willing to ask me how much? talkless of actually buying it. I tried online business but nothing worked as no one is willing to order things from me even on pay after delivery basis. Is that bad hence i decided to talk with the guy about my predicament. He then consults with the gods on my behalf but i'm very confused about the outcome.

This guytold me that my wife is ogbanje, that i should send her away if i want to have peace, and that my former girl has a spirit husband who is also on my case. so after sending my wife away, i should do spiritual cleasing to be whole again.


But my wife is my pillar in this trying times, who will even cook and care for my children if i sent her away? worst is, this girl use to worship me as if i'm a god even in this condition so i see no reason to carry out that instruction untill she did something strange.



i research online on how to meditate and wanted trying it out, when it was 11pm, i told here that i want to pray and started but to my suprise, she started tappin me violently that i'm praying too much, i kept my cool and went back to bed. yesterday was same thing so i'm beginning to suspect her cos i don't know when praying for more than 5mins is a sin.



pls what should i do about this?

No allow anyone to tear your house apart. Your own is your pillar yet someone asked you to send her away, to bring you down completely or what
When next you want to pray at night, lower your voice and stop disturbing her sleep.

Be prayerful and watch things unfold. Don't be in a haste to take decisions, be certain before you do. May God see you through.

Leave the room and go outside to pray

@Joeev, i really appreciate you for this

Homeboiy:
Leave the room and go outside to pray

Is it nice to hide from your wife before praying? nice suggestion though

Joeev:
I'm confused about this and will like anyone with ideas about this issue to advice me.



I'm married with 2 lovely kids but my home is not that lively due to my poor condition, i'm always on a look out to see ways that will better my condition but all efforts are not yielding any positive result. my major problem is to raise my children in a way that will enable them live and not just exist like i do hence i always go to any length to provide the basics in the house. However, my problems seems to be increasing daily to a point that i started feeling depressed and suicidal recently. i sometimes attributed my woes to how i live a very bad life in the past but then again, something came up recently which is giving me sleepless nights.



In my efforts to find a solution, i contacted a nairalander who claims to be a spiritualist and know much about life, my complain to him was simple, i just wanted to know if my woes are spiritualy connected, this is because, i have a serious badluck.



For example, no one is willing to help me even family members, whenever someone promise me of any help, he/she will not fulfill it(even here many has promise me one or two things but none was able to fulfill it) worst is that, i can't even take something to market and sell cos many will not be willing to ask me how much? talkless of actually buying it. I tried online business but nothing worked as no one is willing to order things from me even on pay after delivery basis. Is that bad hence i decided to talk with the guy about my predicament. He then consults with the gods on my behalf but i'm very confused about the outcome.

This guytold me that my wife is ogbanje, that i should send her away if i want to have peace, and that my former girl has a spirit husband who is also on my case. so after sending my wife away, i should do spiritual cleasing to be whole again.


But my wife is my pillar in this trying times, who will even cook and care for my children if i sent her away? worst is, this girl use to worship me as if i'm a god even in this condition so i see no reason to carry out that instruction untill she did something strange.



i research online on how to meditate and wanted trying it out, when it was 11pm, i told here that i want to pray and started but to my suprise, she started tappin me violently that i'm praying too much, i kept my cool and went back to bed. yesterday was same thing so i'm beginning to suspect her cos i don't know when praying for more than 5mins is a sin.



pls what should i do about this?

Oga ur wife is not your problem jare..

BUT... LISTEN TO THIS AGAIN

I once dated a girl for five years, we loved ourselves like kilodee, till this present moment, even tho we re not together again, we are still in love. She literally worshipped me like god, she would always provide for me from her little. Guess what bro, she's a spirikoko, highly religious fellow and she get respect like wetin. Bro i am not exagerating it.

But during the tym we courted, i was a pauper, i hardly made right choices, my guess are always wrong, i lost my aura and i started attracting bad energy to a point a lecturer lost my paper in the university den that my lecturer dashed me C/O in a 3unit course(could u bliv the lecturer was asking me that am i sure i had a c/o in his course, after the damage had bn done? He sid he didn't beliv i had a c/o) in a course i was expecting nothing less than 90%, even those i tutored got Bs and Cs. Bro i was reduced to ordinary, even among my mates wen i talked it wil look as if no one talked den it downed on me..

Was she my problem?? No!! Just that things didn't work out between us.

We separated after some years, den i was already seeing any rectangular pieces of paper as money
Before we separated my oga hated me like shit, but after separation, hmmmm three months after we separated my oga started entrusting me with his money and bank details, i started transfering money on my oga behalf on his fon. Long story short he never joked with me.
I am still with my oga doing well sir, i am even considering of traveling out soon.

Should i say she leaving my life was my turning point?? No, it was the timing of the Lord sir.

If u should leave ur wife na wahala for ur kids ooh, so i wil say u should find another place to pray, u can be sleeping in the church and be coming home in the morning sir. An adage says woman wey dey find pikin no dey sleep with pant.


But that doesn't rule it out that some women possess domineering spirit, wen u meet them ur spirit can never subdue their spirits, it would be the other way round so their spirits wil be lording over ur spirit and it wil be affecting u in the physical realm. Hmmmmmm


All in all, just use ur brain and apply sense sir





Wait ooh, but u guys doesn't bliv in spirituality na, how come u re bothered??

Go do your prayers for another room nau.

crackhaus:
Go do your prayers for another room nau.

The issue is not praying in the same room, the problem is how she reacted to it which is confirming what the spiritualist say about her. your suggestion is well noted though

Ahmed0336:
Be prayerful and watch things unfold. Don't be in a haste to take decisions, be certain before you do. May God see you through.

Amen.

Mental depravity and backwardness. Emancipate your brain and stop casting libel on an innocent woman.

Women, be careful of men who will never cease to hold you responsible for every problem(s) in their lives. These men will make you doubt your abilities and question your sanity.

They always refuse to take sole responsibility for their retrogression. They think the women in their lives always bring them bad luck, so they hold these innocent women responsible should their business(es) go south or jobs crumble. But, they forget that themselves are as well never do-gooders who also wear bad luck like perfume.

So much for "mama's prayers keeps me going".

madridguy:
No allow anyone to tear your house apart. Your own is your pillar yet someone asked you to send her away, to bring you down completely or what
When next you want to pray at night, lower your voice and stop disturbing her sleep.

I did not even say a word out talkless of shouting to disturb her sleep. i use to just meditate and stare in the blank darkness like that.

Kingkum:

The issue is not praying in the same room, the problem is how she reacted to it which is confirming what the spiritualist say about her. your suggestion is well noted though

Bro if I'm having my night's rest and my wife starts praying too loudly beside me, I will tell her to go somewhere else or take it down a notch.

Kingkum:

I did not even say a word out talkless of shouting to disturb her sleep. i use to just meditate and stare in the blank darkness like that.

Are you the same person as the OP?

i will not take what tonycyril say for granted. i tap from your turn-around story brother.

crackhaus:
Are you the same person as the OP?

YES.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Mental depravity and backwardness. Emancipate your brain and stop casting libel on an innocent woman.

Women, be careful of men who will never cease to hold you responsible for every problem in their lives. These men will make you doubt your abilities and question your sanity.

They always refuse to take sole responsibility for their retrogression. They think the "women" in their lives always bring them bad luck, so they hold these innocent women responsible should their business(es) go south or jobs crumble.

You don't have to bring that feminism stuff here to make a point. i stated clearly that i was not a good guy but that was in the past. i also praise my wife for always been there for me so i don't see any basis for your hate comment

Kingkum:

YES.

Wonderful.

Go for vigils and do your prayers in a church then. This ogbanje they said is in your wife must either be forced out or forced in.

crackhaus:

Wonderful.

Go for vigils and do your prayers in a church then. This ogbanje they said is in your wife must either be forced out or forced in.

I have been trying but it seems my faith is not strong cos i always doubt the power of prayers, i have been to more than 20 powerful men of god but i did not see any progress(i must confess that there is one pastor in benin by name samuel osaghere that touch my soul through prayers but that is another long story) that is why i read about opening the third eye through mediation which i'm trying to do it and see things myself.

Kingkum:

I have been trying but it seems my faith is not strong cos i always doubt the power of prayers, i have been to more than 20 powerful men of god but i did not see any progress(i must confess that there is one pastor in benin by name samuel osaghere that touch my soul through prayers but that is another long story) that is why i read about opening the third eye through mediation which i'm trying to do it and see things myself.

This may just be the problem you're having.

Kingkum:

You don't have to bring that feminism stuff here to make a point. i stated clearly that i was not a good guy but that was in the past. i also praise my wife for always been there for me so i don't see any basis for your hate comment

Feminism?

Please, read my comment again. This time, slowly.

I only implored women to choose their men wisely. The same advice you would give your sister or daughter. If you know what's good for you, quit seeking unnecessary answers from unclean spiritual entities that will lead to your destruction. I do not take people who love to seek answers from sharp sharp ministries or who have the tendencies to seek and check seriously.

Your answers lies with you. It's a pity that Nigeria has overburdened the average Nigerian man to think his village/family people are the cause of his misfortunes. If it's not village people, it's the wife that has a spiritual husband or is an "Ogbanje" blocking pathways to his success.

But you sound as if i'm dodging my responsibilities and blaming my wife for my woes instead.

what was the point in advicing women to choose wisely if you were not trying to bring another angle to the issue at hand? for the last time, i love my wife and will always do, i can't even imagine staying with another woman even if she left me cos i don't believe another girl will understand me like her. what i'm saying is how she acted weird and the accusation about her spiritual life. your advice is also noted.

What did you think was the cause of the misfortune you suffered?

tonicyril:
Oga ur wife is not your problem jare..

BUT... LISTEN TO THIS AGAIN

I once dated a girl for five years, we loved ourselves like kilodee, till this present moment, even tho we re not together again, we are still in love. She literally worshipped me like god, she would always provide for me from her little. Guess what bro, she's a spirikoko, highly religious fellow and she get respect like wetin. Bro i am not exagerating it.

But during the tym we courted, i was a pauper, i hardly made right choices, my guess are always wrong, i lost my aura and i started attracting bad energy to a point a lecturer lost my paper in the university den that my lecturer dashed me C/O in a 3unit course(could u bliv the lecturer was asking me that am i sure i had a c/o in his course, after the damage had bn done? He sid he didn't beliv i had a c/o) in a course i was expecting nothing less than 90%, even those i tutored got Bs and Cs. Bro i was reduced to ordinary, even among my mates wen i talked it wil look as if no one talked den it downed on me..

Was she my problem?? No!! Just that things didn't work out between us.

We separated after some years, den i was already seeing any rectangular pieces of paper as money
Before we separated my oga hated me like shit, but after separation, hmmmm three months after we separated my oga started entrusting me with his money and bank details, i started transfering money on my oga behalf on his fon. Long story short he never joked with me.
I am still with my oga doing well sir, i am even considering of traveling out soon.

Should i say she leaving my life was my turning point?? No, it was the timing of the Lord sir.

If u should leave ur wife na wahala for ur kids ooh, so i wil say u should find another place to pray, u can be sleeping in the church and be coming home in the morning sir. An adage says woman wey dey find pikin no dey sleep with pant.


But that doesn't rule it out that some women possess domineering spirit, wen u meet them ur spirit can never subdue their spirits, it would be the other way round so their spirits wil be lording over ur spirit and it wil be affecting u in the physical realm. Hmmmmmm


All in all, just use ur brain and apply sense sir





Wait ooh, but u guys doesn't bliv in spirituality na, how come u re bothered??

Mariangeles:
What did you think was the cause of the misfortune you suffered?

Good question

Kingkum:

I did not even say a word out talkless of shouting to disturb her sleep. i use to just meditate and stare in the blank darkness like that.

Kingkum:

The issue is not praying in the same room, the problem is how she reacted to it which is confirming what the spiritualist say about her. your suggestion is well noted though

Have you never prayed together with your wife?

Mariangeles:




Have you never prayed together with your wife?

I remember that we prayed the first time she pack to my house. but i'm not the religious type hence prayer is not our thing as a family. we hardly pray talkless of doing it together

Your solution is to work harder.
Try to earn more money. Try looking towards other jobs that you can do.
Yes, you will be successful.

Pray harder also. Because we believe in prayer so it give us more spirit to do things better.

If you go to spiritualists, they are more concern getting money out of your pocket.

Mariangeles:
What did you think was the cause of the misfortune you suffered?

Auntie miiii hmmmmm

No be small issue ooh, me wey no believe in prophet before con dey go prophet houses.

Did u know what baffled me?? Wen i was in agony of my carry over, i told my mama that strange tins are happening in my life and i cant figure things out again, i said in my mind that its the battle if my paternal family that is waging war against me.

My mama took me to her prophet, the prophet didnt pray much before he told me that i should leave the fair gal i was dating that we re not meant together. Prior to that no body had ever told me that bro. I wept like jesus did. I left there in disbelief and off to school i went, i met with my homie and he took me to his prophetess (in another state ooh) the woman just prayed a little and she muster same statement that i have to leave the gal, she said if i continue with the gal i wont have an headway, she said the gal is good but we re not meant for each other.. hmm wahala.

I left the town, met with another of my friends and off we went to meet with a pastor, the pastor told me same, but with a clause. The pastor said i shouldn't be the one to break up, the she hersef would break up with me and wen she does i shouldn't beg her back. Ok.

Three years later, i had concluded in my mind that no matter how i suffer or ridiculed or bn afflicted by the unknown forces i was not going to leave her cus she's my first love. Two weeks after i said i am not leaving her no Matter what, mama dumped my sorry ass i cried like a baby ma, i cried, i leaned and i never recovered even till now.

After i was told not to beg her, lol u know na, tho i didnt beg directly but i lobbied ma, i wanted her back badly but what has gone has gone jare.

Til now i kept dreaming about her having good moments together(not sex). Weneva i determine to stop thinking about her that is wen i dream of her and the moment i dream of her the old feelings start setting in. I told my pastor about it and he told me to pray cus she's a powerful woman spiritually and she doesn't want me to leave her either..

See antie, oropo jare

Kingkum:

I remember that we prayed the first time she pack to my house. but i'm not the religious type hence prayer is not our thing as a family. we hardly pray talkless of doing it together

Have things always been this difficult for you?
Even before you met your wife?

tonicyril:
Auntie miiii hmmmmm

No be small issue ooh, me wey no believe in prophet before con dey go prophet houses.

Did u know what baffled me?? Wen i was in agony of my carry over, i told my mama that strange tins are happening in my life and i cant figure things out again, i said in my mind that its the battle if my paternal family that is waging war against me.

My mama took me to her prophet, the prophet didnt pray much before he told me that i should leave the fair gal i was dating that we re not meant together. Prior to that no body had ever told me that bro. I wept like jesus did. I left there in disbelief and off to school i went, i met with my homie and he took me to his prophetess (in another state ooh) the woman just prayed a little and she muster same statement that i have to leave the gal, she said if i continue with the gal i wont have an headway, she said the gal is good but we re not meant for each other.. hmm wahala.

I left the town, met with another of my friends and off we went to meet with a pastor, the pastor told me same, but with a clause. The pastor said i shouldn't be the one to break up, the she hersef would break up with me and wen she does i shouldn't beg her back. Ok.

Three years later, i had concluded in my mind that no matter how i suffer or ridiculed or bn afflicted by the unknown forces i was not going to leave her cus she's my first love. Two weeks after i said i am not leaving her no Matter what, mama dumped my sorry ass i cried like a baby ma, i cried, i leaned and i never recovered even till now.

After i was told not to beg her, lol u know na, tho i didnt beg directly but i lobbied ma, i wanted her back badly but what has gone has gone jare.

Til now i kept dreaming about her having good moments together(not sex). Weneva i determine to stop thinking about her that is wen i dream of her and the moment i dream of her the old feelings start setting in. I told my pastor about it and he told me to pray cus she's a powerful woman spiritually and she doesn't want me to leave her either..

See antie, oropo jare

O ma se o!

When I read your story, my thought was you both were not spiritually compatible.
It could be that you were not good for her(not necessarily that you're bad).

Joeev:
I'm confused about this and will like anyone with ideas about this issue to advice me.
....
pls what should i do about this?

Your original problem was more anxiety related to begin with. Then you simply compounded it by visiting a babalawo who fueled you with even more anxieties than you previously had..

I would suggest you first seek the help of a professional mental health counselor so you can find a better way to handle stress in your life and the resulting anxieties.

As for business, no be everybody out there dey business savvy. Some folks don't even bother because they know they don't have good marketing skills and that ain't something to kill yourself over.

I would also suggest that you speak to your wife about helping bringing in funds into the home if she is not already doing so.