Kennedyli:
I have a female friend who's single. She's a good person, but I noticed an unusual closeness with this man, who happened to be married.

She says the man was just a friend from church and they had nothing going on.
She said the wife was suspicious at first; but the husband explained to her and now they are fine.

However, I noticed that they call each other everyday; which was okay.
I warned her to stop allowing the man call her, especially at night. Which she promised to work on.

I was trying to check something on her phone, when I noticed that not only was the man just calling her. She calls him close to midnight, sometimes, repeatedly until he picks.

My question is, can or should a lady have such relationship with a married man. Kind of a married man bestie who she go places with and calls in midnight?

Kennedyli:
My question is, can or should a lady have such relationship with a married man. Kind of a married man bestie who she go places with and calls in midnight?

Richy4:
OP, what about a situation where the single lady and the guy were childhood friends before he became a "Married man"..
That one follow abi e no follow?

Kennedyli:

Would your wife be happy if your childhood friend calls you every day, even by 11pm?

They live together in the same neighborhood, goes to the same church.

After church, the man waits for my friend so they can go hom together, while the wife leaves with the kids according to her.

- They go on dates, just for fun according to her.
- She goes to meet him at his shop.
- The man spend most of his Sundays at her place.
-- He has asked her out. But she said she refused.

The bottom line is that she says they are not dating and she isn't affecting their marriage in anyway.

That's my grouse with the whole thing. Because I think she has made herself an alternative to the man's wife.

I asked her to at least end the late night calls, and she agreed to do that. But I just found out that she called him 6 times around past 11pm until he picked up.

The reason I made this post is because I'm not comfortable being friends with her keeping such kind of relationship.

I know what most women pass through in their marriage. She's in her 30s and is looking for someone to settle down with. But won't respect another person marriage.

I just wanted to know if I would be overreacting if I end our friendship.

Richy4:


I am glad it was not affecting your friend's marriage.. Before your friend and the husband started, the husband of your friend may have explained the circumstances surrounding their friendship.. and your friend may have accepted... That's why she did not see her as a threat whatsoever in their relationship...

But the man should know when to draw the line though.. especially the Sunday aspect of the whole thing...That the wife was not saying anything does not mean they should over stretch her patience...

Though I don't understand your last highlighted statement... do you mean ending their relationship on your friend's behalf or you were asking should such situation happens to you, is it ok to end it as a wife?

Kennedyli:

I am a close friend with the lady who is calling someone's husband.

Ohh!!!! Okay!!! That's even easier.. Have you asked her what she truly wanted?...Was it to get on the wife's nerves or what?..

Please ask if someone does that to her when she gets married if she will be happy with it?...make her stop or a present SS3 student is gearing up somewhere to do that to her prospective husband and more some day ..

Kennedyli:
I have a female friend who's single. She's a good person, but I noticed an unusual closeness with this man, who happened to be married.

She says the man was just a friend from church and they had nothing going on.
She said the wife was suspicious at first; but the husband explained to her and now they are fine.

However, I noticed that they call each other everyday; which was okay.
I warned her to stop allowing the man call her, especially at night. Which she promised to work on.

I was trying to check something on her phone, when I noticed that not only was the man just calling her. She calls him close to midnight, sometimes, repeatedly until he picks.

My question is, can or should a lady have such relationship with a married man. Kind of a married man bestie who she go places with and calls in midnight?