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Yesterday, after several promises and postponement, i visited my Married friend@his place.

My Guy's mother was around.

Throughout my 5hr stay, i saw dat it was this elderly Woman dat was doing all the Domestic work; washing curtains, sweeping the verandah, arranging the Dining table,etc.

His wife just laid on the couch, watching TV and contributing in our discussions.

Was so surprised and annoyed.

I Later asked him why his wife laid down all through, he said she wasn't feeling well.

So if because lady is ill, she can't even do any house chore again?

Anyways, next time we meet, i will tell to caution/advise his wife.

His Mother might be Angry and unhappy but just hiding her feelings.

So Peeps, Do you Support my Next line of Action or You are for 'Mind your Business, E Nor concern you'?


Lalasticlala
Mynd44.

Your friend married a mess as a wife.

Oga face your front. You just visited once and your friend explain to you that his wife is not feeling fine. When you have visited severally and you observe her behaviour to be norm then you can advice but for now leave it at what your friend told you. His wife is not feeling too well.

Oga, Allow him to carry his cross.

When neck begin pain am him go know what's up.

One of the disadvantage of marrying a slay queen and even her mama no train her well.

not your mother, not your marriage, not your business

Don't conclude based on just one day visit; you may be wrong bro.
Meanwhile let's assume you're right upon your second visit, there's a better way to tell your friend without been too nossy about it and you can as well be friendly enough with his mum and even plan to take her out... She'll need all that than just been angry over what you don't know how it all starts.

Mind your business.
Is the grandma complaining? No
Is the husband complaining? No


Some grannies are not appreciative no matter what you do. Honestly I love those kind of treatments,though not all of them deserve that.

Come, I often disagree with the vagina gender but that hasn't robbed me of my common sense. What if she was few weeks pregnant which usually is at high risk? Have you heard the phrase mind your fuccking business before? Open your ear and hear it now. The mother in law no complain to you, the simp husband said his wife was sick, wetin be your own? By the way, why did you visit someone and stay up to 5hours? You no get work?

If he says his wife is not well,then she is not well

Alexk2:
Don't conclude based on just one day visit; you may be wrong bro.
Meanwhile let's assume you're right upon your second visit, there's a better way to tell your friend without been too nossy about it and you can as well be friendly enough with his mum and even plan to take her out... She'll need all that than just been angry over what you don't know how it all starts.

Ogbeni, It IS THE NORM o.

You need to see the Girl's sleeping posture and behaviour generally.

But it's like My friend's mother has accepted the situation.

"Make it your aim to live quietly AND TO MIND YOUR BUSINESS". -1 Thessalonians 4:11.

U suppose put this picture

My advice for you is to MIND YOUR BUSINESS OO

MY OPINION NO SHADES

No go embarrass yourself for your guy side in the name of advice..e no concern you.

fati2001:
Mind your business.
Is the grandma complaining? No
Is the husband complaining? No


Some grannies are not appreciative no matter what you do. Honestly I love those kind of treatments,though not all of them deserve that.

Na so, Classic Nigerian lady.

Mother-inlaw Hater.

Funny enough, when u birth a son, he grows, u visit him, would u be happy doing all the Work while his Wife sleeps?

Nonexisting:
Come, I often disagree with the vagina gender but that hasn't robbed me of my common sense. What if she was few weeks pregnant which usually is at high risk? Have you heard the phrase mind your fuccking business before? Open your ear and hear it now. The mother in law no complain to you, the simp husband said his wife was sick, wetin be your own? By the way, why did you visit someone and stay up to 5hours? You no get work?

So You are saying a lady few weeks pregnant Can't do any House chore?

So if her Mother-inlaw did NOT visit, who would do those chores

The House would be left Untidy?

@Vinnie2000
You are very wrong ,It is not right to put MOUTH in family issue
Last last husband and wife will settle their matter on bed.

The wife will now be looking at the HUSBAND'S FRIEND as. An enemy of marriage .MY OPINION,NO SHADES

leave him to carry his marital cross ,as long as he's not complaining I see no reason for your caution

This one no follow, I hate seeing aged people undergoing any stress all in the name of domestic chores or anything. I love doing chores and wouldn’t even want anyone to help me out.

Minding your business would be better because your friend has already told you she was not feeling fine.
And for grandma to be doing the house chores maybe she's been expecting her to give grandchildren but she couldn't gave birth at that moment..and boom! Grandma heard the news from her son that his wife is pregnant, you know that enticement from grandma
"My pikin rest for me I go help you do your house chores"...the way I see it grandma can't be dense, there must reasons behind it..so calm down bro

Rozross:
This one no follow, I hate seeing aged people undergoing any stress all in the name of domestic chores or anything. I love doing chores and wouldn’t even want anyone to help me out.

Correct Babe! I twale for you.

Just like i visit my Father-inlaw now, i will say because i am sick, will sleep and be looking@him Clearing grasses and fixing his car.

Vinnie2000:
Yesterday, after several promises and postponement, i visited my Married friend@his place.

My Guy's mother was around.

Throughout my 5hr stay, i saw dat it was this elderly Woman dat was doing all the Domestic work; washing curtains, sweeping the verandah, arranging the Dining table,etc.

His wife just laid on the couch, watching TV and contributing in our discussions.

Was so surprised and annoyed.

I Later asked him why his wife laid down all through, he said she wasn't feeling well.

So if because lady is ill, she can't even do any house chore again?

Lalasticlala
Mynd44.

The wife is sick, you won kill her .
Or is the mother in-law complaining.

Mind your fuvking business.

Rather for you to blame the guy for not helping his mother out ,you are blaming the lady.

I am not surprised that Nigeria is in a big mess like this, because if this is how majority of Nigerians reason and analyse situations.
The mess is expected

minasu190:
Minding your business would be better because your friend has already told you she was not feeling fine.
And for grandma to be doing the house chores maybe she's been expecting her to give grandchildren but she couldn't gave birth at that moment..and boom! Grandma heard the news from her son that his wife is pregnant, you know that enticement from grandma
"My pikin rest for me I go help you do your house chores"...the way I see it grandma can't be dense, there must reasons behind it..so calm down bro

Nice take from you.

I Just feel for the woman. For her age, the work is too much.

And then, You can NEVER tell with humans.

She may be Unhappy and secretly Hating on her daughter-inlaw and her Son, too!

Vinnie2000:
So You are saying a lady few weeks pregnant Can't do any House chore?

So if her Mother-inlaw did NOT visit, who would do those chores

The House would be left Untidy?

Yes to the bolded. That stage is tricky. It's the stage they often have miscarriages so the ones with sensitive body chemistry should be handled with extreme caution. At that stage, every husband is free to become simp, it's tolerable.

Nonexisting:
Yes to the bolded. That stage is tricky. It's the stage they often have miscarriages so the ones with sensitive body chemistry should be handled with extreme caution. At that stage, every husband is free to become simp, it's tolerable.

Good point but @least, a wise person will lend a helping hand to her instead of lying down all through. ?

not your mother,

The guy say him wife no well na abi are you a devil? Why should she work when she's ill? God forbid for woman wey go marry your kind man wey go use house work kill am, lastly OP mind your damn business no be you go tell am how to run him home abi you contribute for the bride price?? Nonsense

It doesn't matter if the wife is sick or well. Everyone keeps their home a certain way. One person may want to sweep all day and another may want to wash curtains. Without the mother around, the wife may not even do such things because of her own cleaning style. The mother is trying to keep busy, so that she is not seen as a burden. It also keeps her healthy. The behavior seen in this writeup shows why a lot of people have stopped inviting busy body friends and families to their homes.

Lee99:
The guy say him wife no well na abi are you a devil? Why should she work when she's ill? God forbid for woman wey go marry your kind man wey go use house work kill am, lastly OP mind your damn business no be you go tell am how to run him home abi you contribute for the bride price?? Nonsense

Use work to kill the wife?

So it's the elderly woman dat is good to do all the Housework

She should have assisted in any little way instead of Sleeping all through and watching TV!

NaBanga:
It doesn't matter if the wife is sick or well. Everyone keeps their home a certain way. One person may want to sweep all day and another may want to wash curtains. Without the mother around, the wife may not even do such things because of her own cleaning style. The mother is trying to keep busy, so that she is not seen as a burden. It also keeps her healthy. The behavior seen in this writeup shows why a lot of people have stopped inviting busy body friends and families to their homes.

Courtesy demands that when you see an Elderly person Overworking, u help out in any little way.

Not just sitting, looking or lying doing nothing throut.

The Elderly woman may NOT say anything but might be Angry or Unhappy inwardly.

It's like some of you do NOT understand human nature.

If she visits another of her son's house and dat Wife does Every Chores in the house, she will start to compare.

She will prefer them to My Friend and his Wife..

Vinnie2000:
Courtesy demands that when you see an Elderly person Overworking, u help out in any little way.

Not just sitting, looking or lying doing nothing throut.

The Elderly woman may NOT say anything but might be Angry or Unhappy inwardly.

It's like some of you do NOT understand human nature.

If she visits another of her son's house and dat Wife does Every Chores in the house, she will start to compare.

She will prefer them to My Friend and his Wife..

Nigerians mind other's business too much. You do not know what their dynamic is or what they have decided amongst themselves. If no one is complaining, it is not your job to fish it out like a fisherman. The problem is that Nigerians are not working. Because of the way the country is structured, it leads to mental idleness and unnecessary interference. The op should be careful, because he may end up not being invited to his friend's home in the future.

ETA: I know you are a paid writer for the website, but carry on.

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