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Michelle70:
why do i feel so sad for u?

Guy abeg try get girlfriend, at first it will be boring as fvck but when u both connect, she will always give u a reason to smile.

The problem is now finding a girl from all these jezebels

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WARNING OP: Do not take this advice. It will destroy your life. Christ is what you need at this moment. Any girl that will agree to fvck with you is a jezebel.

Omo Iya mi Jara e, try listen to Olamide old album to motivate yourself ok


Las Las we go dey alright

Your parents only love you. Doing all what they did was not to deliberately affect you but show u love. Unfortunately they cannot see beyond their nose.

I have gone thru this phase before in my life, but today im a baller. If you can reach out to me, i can assist you, one step at a time.

Ablemed:
I'll like to make my story short as possible without much introduction tho. And also a lesson parents/ new couples should learn from my ordeal, Pls read to the end.

Alright So I'm the only male born of my parent among 4 girls, i also happen to be the last born at it. my problem started when growing up, cause my parent aged bfr getting a Male child which was my Dad and his parent cravings, I was pampered when growing up such that my parents would never watch me do stressful things, dictate when I go out and who I moved out with (My mum's own was even worse cause when growing up, if I want to go out, she'll always send me back inside) even during secondary school they had to get a school very close to our house. my sisters were only the ones that would go to mum's shop and make sales while mum would either stay with me at home or if I eventually go the shop sef I'll always sit and just watch. Literally, I'll say I was denied the right to be exposed to lotta things and real issues about life.

And cause I was not the sociable type cause I'll literally stay at home, watch movies, eat and my movements limited, I was exposed to pornography and masturbation at a very young age and I battled that bad habit thr my University days (Did I say my Parents also dictated the University I went to cause it was close to our House to and any small riot in school then the next hour they'll come and pick me back home till every thing dies down)

So guys over time, I've grown to be this boring guy who is shy, timid, suffering from low self esteem and can't give vibe even when gisting with my fellow guys, in which most of them just relegate me to this small boy level. Did I also say I've never had a Girlfriend all my life cause the truth is ion always know what to say or how to maintain talking vibe. At first I decide not to care and just always console myself with I was created like that and just continue my boring life, it has now gotten to the point I'm not rated in anything at all, most people just make friends with me cause of what they can gain from me, I'm not even good in anything, I can't speak clearly, I'm kinda literally mentally dumb and ion see me useful for anyone or anything, perhaps maybe God only, No business sense, no work skill or experience, no trade experiences to

I'm currently a Corp member serving and before then I rebelled against my parent cause they wanted to dictate the state I serve which is our state of residence so I go to my ppa from home but I told them No and even got to a fight to my Dad cause of this issue and we din speak for like 2weeks, he eventually called me and we settled. But the issue now is guys I've got less than two months left for my POP for service and you don't expect me to return home useless to my parent house again?? Tho sincerely thr my service year, I din touch my allowee so I've saved up to 270k so far. the issue is ask me what I want to do with the money? I've got no idea, what business sense or idea? Nothing is coming to my head, infact I don't know. The funny thing is, my roommate is exactly my opposite, very outspoken, bold, full of vibe and bring back different female friends each day, this guy is not really financially buoyant but you see girls cook and travel all the way to give him for us to eat. I just wish I was like him, i wish i had the vibe

I'm 24years now and at this age, no idea bout my future, bout life, I can't even relate with people, I'm just so sad, depressed and frustrated. At the moment the only job coming to my head is the military cause I served in a military barrack cause I choose it myself but most of the junior officers are trashing my interest by telling me not to waste my time say I no go survive am with my nature, that military needs tough people and endurance bla bla and on the other hand, my mum is saying Never she'll never allow me join the military not over her dead body and she's bout recruiting my Dad to and Sincerely I'm frustrated and my depression have taken another turn that over the past weeks I've been thinking suicide and it's getting really high, I say I should type this here bfr the worse happen cause if I can't be useful for myself what really is the point living??

Please this advice is to parent and intending parent/couples, pls and pls expose ur children to life, don't over pamper your kids, work on them to make them sociable and outspoken, I swear you'll be doing them a great favour. For me I thought my parent loved me, I thought they were trying to protect me but they've put me in a deep mess I have to face alone and just I pray I get the opportunity to make things right with me

My friend, your parents did exactly what a loving and caring parent will do. Most parent prayed that there children will do better than themselves. They provided all that you need so that you can thrive. You need to thank them.
Now, it’s up to you to now better yourself and stop blaming your parents that have the best intentions for you. No one, I repeat none of these urchins talking bad about your parents or upbringing love you, they actually wish they are in your schools. You ought to be grateful to your parents and your sisters, be closer to them for they are the one that loves you and can help you to over the depression.

Ablemed:
I'll like to make my story short as possible without much introduction tho. And also a lesson parents/ new couples should learn from my ordeal, Pls read to the end.

Alright So I'm the only male born of my parent among 4 girls, i also happen to be the last born at it. my problem started when growing up, cause my parent aged bfr getting a Male child which was my Dad and his parent cravings, I was pampered when growing up such that my parents would never watch me do stressful things, dictate when I go out and who I moved out with (My mum's own was even worse cause when growing up, if I want to go out, she'll always send me back inside) even during secondary school they had to get a school very close to our house. my sisters were only the ones that would go to mum's shop and make sales while mum would either stay with me at home or if I eventually go the shop sef I'll always sit and just watch. Literally, I'll say I was denied the right to be exposed to lotta things and real issues about life.

And cause I was not the sociable type cause I'll literally stay at home, watch movies, eat and my movements limited, I was exposed to pornography and masturbation at a very young age and I battled that bad habit thr my University days (Did I say my Parents also dictated the University I went to cause it was close to our House to and any small riot in school then the next hour they'll come and pick me back home till every thing dies down)

So guys over time, I've grown to be this boring guy who is shy, timid, suffering from low self esteem and can't give vibe even when gisting with my fellow guys, in which most of them just relegate me to this small boy level. Did I also say I've never had a Girlfriend all my life cause the truth is ion always know what to say or how to maintain talking vibe. At first I decide not to care and just always console myself with I was created like that and just continue my boring life, it has now gotten to the point I'm not rated in anything at all, most people just make friends with me cause of what they can gain from me, I'm not even good in anything, I can't speak clearly, I'm kinda literally mentally dumb and ion see me useful for anyone or anything, perhaps maybe God only, No business sense, no work skill or experience, no trade experiences to

I'm currently a Corp member serving and before then I rebelled against my parent cause they wanted to dictate the state I serve which is our state of residence so I go to my ppa from home but I told them No and even got to a fight to my Dad cause of this issue and we din speak for like 2weeks, he eventually called me and we settled. But the issue now is guys I've got less than two months left for my POP for service and you don't expect me to return home useless to my parent house again?? Tho sincerely thr my service year, I din touch my allowee so I've saved up to 270k so far. the issue is ask me what I want to do with the money? I've got no idea, what business sense or idea? Nothing is coming to my head, infact I don't know. The funny thing is, my roommate is exactly my opposite, very outspoken, bold, full of vibe and bring back different female friends each day, this guy is not really financially buoyant but you see girls cook and travel all the way to give him for us to eat. I just wish I was like him, i wish i had the vibe

I'm 24years now and at this age, no idea bout my future, bout life, I can't even relate with people, I'm just so sad, depressed and frustrated. At the moment the only job coming to my head is the military cause I served in a military barrack cause I choose it myself but most of the junior officers are trashing my interest by telling me not to waste my time say I no go survive am with my nature, that military needs tough people and endurance bla bla and on the other hand, my mum is saying Never she'll never allow me join the military not over her dead body and she's bout recruiting my Dad to and Sincerely I'm frustrated and my depression have taken another turn that over the past weeks I've been thinking suicide and it's getting really high, I say I should type this here bfr the worse happen cause if I can't be useful for myself what really is the point living??

Please this advice is to parent and intending parent/couples, pls and pls expose ur children to life, don't over pamper your kids, work on them to make them sociable and outspoken, I swear you'll be doing them a great favour. For me I thought my parent loved me, I thought they were trying to protect me but they've put me in a deep mess I have to face alone and just I pray I get the opportunity to make things right with me

The first thing is to know your problem which you stated out already.

You said you have no business idea, but don't tell me you didn't learn anything throughout your service year, because that's one of the best place to meet people and also learn good skill.

Secondly, if you've not done any of the above then I suggest you start now cos time wait for no one. Get every motivational tools and gadgets (books, messages, motivational videos, good advice) you need to push yourself to greater heights. Ignore everything that has happened in the past, I understand your parents where doing that to protect their only son, but it was too much and they never saw it that way. Look forward and concentrate on your vision. Decide what you want in life, set your goals, map out time and learn everything there is to learn in other to achieve what you want. It's not too late to correct the wrongs.


It will be very stupid of you to start thinking about suicide, your parents wont be happy with you and also God too.

That's just my simple advice to you bro.

Recommended books: power and principles of vision by Myles munroe, no excuse by Brian tracy.
And also messages on success and competence by apostle Joshua selman.

Go succeed ma nigga.
Thanks.

You have no problem.
Life is continuous struggle.
Everybody struggle to be better person.

achimendy:
The first thing is to know your problem which you stated out already.

You said you have no business idea, but don't tell me you didn't learn anything throughout your service year, because that's one of the best place to meet people and also learn good skill.

Secondly, if you've not done any of the above then I suggest you start now cos time wait for no one. Get every motivational tools and gadgets (books, messages, motivational videos, good advice) you need to push yourself to greater heights. Ignore everything that has happened in the past, I understand your parents where doing that to protect their only son, but it was too much and they never saw it that way. Look forward and concentrate on your vision. Decide what you want in life, set your goals, map out time and learn everything there is to learn in other to achieve what you want. It's not too late to correct the wrongs.


It will be very stupid of you to start thinking about suicide, your parents wont be happy with you and also God too.

That's just my simple advice to you bro.

Recommended books: power and principles of vision by Myles munroe, no excuse by Brian tracy.
And also messages on success and competence by apostle Joshua selman.

Go succeed ma nigga.
Thanks.

Thank you so much

stop giving lame excuses, you still have time, 24yo.

your parents meant well for you. they gave you edge over others, they love you beyond ordinary filial love.

it is a comparative advantage which many of us did not have.

now you have become aware of yourself worth ans esteem, maximize this opportunity to advantage by doing one or all the below

1. show to your parents that you re now a man. take responsibility for your actions.
2. don't disagree with them in a bitter form
3. Obey your parents. they mean well for your well-being
4. Stop masturbation by getting a girlfriends
5. Associate with people by belonging to church activities, social gathering, attending weddings, ceremonies, birthdays, visiting family members and good friends.
6. Get Mentor who will coach you.
7. Be emotionally intelligent

i wish you goodluck

Joeyfizzo:
Join the military if it's ur choice bro....My dad and elder brother tried controlling my life ....we don't talk anymore. I am presently a Lieutenant in the Navy...my dream Job

You don't have to lie to motivate bro

LINSAR:
You don't have to lie to motivate bro

why Shud I lie bro?

I'm so very sorry about what you're going through, on reading your write-up sounded just like me... I paused to think maybe it's my own writing, cause I suffer exactly the same as you...
Stay strong brother!!!!

Joeyfizzo:
why Shud I lie bro?

Are you Army or navy?

harmargedon:
in your journey for knowledge, never do these things
1. Gamble
2. Take drugs
3. Trust people
4. Keep late nights
5. Keep much friends
6. Tell people your history
7. Tell people your success
8. Make friends with people in no 1 class
9. Hang out with people in no 2 class
10. Never forget these things or the street will consume you

What's number 1 and 2 class?

LINSAR:
What's number 1 and 2 class?

people who Gamble or take drugs, because they'll make you feel like that's what the street is all about.

Try and go into sales of gas business.

torqque7:
My brother your story is the exact story as mine, I also contemplated suicide many times, everyone looked at me as Mummy’s boy but then I realized suicide is just a cowards way out and I am NO COWARD so guess what I did..I worked on my self, I learnt from my sisters about women and I studied their lives with guys and what got them excited about some guys.

I have same story.Only male and last born.
Except I'm younger and not suicidal.

I have improved myself greatly but I'm boring and not fun to be with. I don't know what to say when talking to the female folks.
Any ideas?

LINSAR:
Are you Army or navy?

Navy

Joeyfizzo:
Navy

Have you ever seen a lieutenant in the navy

The closest they have is sub-lieutenant.

LINSAR:
I have same story.Only male and last born.
Except I'm younger and not suicidal.

I have improved myself greatly but I'm boring and not fun to be with. I don't know what to say when talking to the female folks.
Any ideas?

Just tease them with subtle complements and do or try to be funny,the key is making her smile or laugh,once she laughs then she is starting to get comfortable around you,so you can ask a few questions,girls love to talk about themselves and romance so ask them about their love life,their interest in life and plans for future etc..the rest will come naturally but first of all try to make them laugh without making them feel like you are a fool,confidence is VERY IMPORTANT too because women want men who are sure of what they want,someone to take charge and lead..

LINSAR:
Have you ever seen a lieutenant in the navy

The closest they have is sub-lieutenant.

After Sub- lieutenant is wat rank sir..... .......google is ur friend

Joeyfizzo:
After Sub- lieutenant is wat rank sir..... .......google is ur friend

Wow!
I'm sorry, I never knew navy had Lt.

torqque7:
Just tease them with subtle complements and do or try to be funny,the key is making her smile or laugh,once she laughs then she is starting to get comfortable around you,so you can ask a few questions,girls love to talk about themselves and romance so ask them about their love life,their interest in life and plans for future etc..the rest will come naturally but first of all try to make them laugh without making them feel like you are a fool,confidence is VERY IMPORTANT too because women want men who are sure of what they want,someone to take charge and lead..

Thanks a lot.

It is always parents fault. It is.

To cheer you up the damage is not permanent. It was done and all the years are gone. But you still can fix it, you really can. But it will take a very long time.

Start with baby steps and you have to learn everything from the beginning.

LINSAR:
Wow!
I'm sorry, I never knew navy had Lt.

a Navy Lt is equivalent to Army Captain which is a 3 star.

Joeyfizzo:
a Navy Lt is equivalent to Army Captain which is a 3 star.

Yeah confirmed that.

Navy was my choice but I gave up on Nigerian military.

LINSAR:
I have same story.Only male and last born.
Except I'm younger and not suicidal.

I have improved myself greatly but I'm boring and not fun to be with. I don't know what to say when talking to the female folks.
Any ideas?

You need to learn game, go mgtow for about 3 months and during that period read up on game, frames and mindset. Use the next 3 months to practice, expect to fail in a few places (a lot of places lol) but keep your resilience...it'll pay.

LINSAR:
Yeah confirmed that.

Navy was my choice but I gave up on Nigerian military.

eiyaaaa! Sorry, we are enjoying it

Rafiquie:
You need to learn game, go mgtow for about 3 months and during that period read up on game, frames and mindset. Use the next 3 months to practice, expect to fail in a few places (a lot of places lol) but keep your resilience...it'll pay.

Pointers?
What to start with?

You were never created to be like this, the main culprit behind your problem is caused by long years of over masturbation from a young age, that stuff have bleeped and nerfed your brain making one to become motivationless, passionless ,uncreative and unproductive and also affects the important body nutrients and hormones...Am literally suffering the same thing you are experiencing, I would have preferred if I was a gambler and alcohol addict than porn addict atleast those ones wouldn't have affected bleeped brain, hormones and body nutrients