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Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by ItswellMike: 5:54am On Sep 14, 2022 |
What has north done to u. Am an oppressed northerner without a voice Ulunne777: |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by franksam2009: 6:05am On Sep 14, 2022 |
Ablemed:very funny lol, your mindset is messing you up and not parents,, secondly masturbation causes low self esteem, thirdly find a brand that works for you (beer,Gin,smoke) and make it your close friend |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by nwajesus12(m): 6:12am On Sep 14, 2022 |
Tayorshd2:ewu |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by Ybaby: 6:13am On Sep 14, 2022 |
Ablemed: Ake baje!! While I blame your parents for some stuff. I can assure you that none of us have perfect parents .. they are humans who do Thier best. Your life is up to you. Get a job or preferably do nwayi boy... And subject yourself to a boss or master. Man up |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by DBraveT(m): 6:14am On Sep 14, 2022 |
[b][/b] No matter the situation you found yourself,you need to alway understand you are'nt the only one in such mess but find those people in lookalike circumstances and learn how they are had or managing their life.. I share the same situation with you,i mean 80% of what you put up there but i found a way to appease myself.. |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by Ebonygeek(f): 6:17am On Sep 14, 2022 |
Ablemed:Guy, when you don't know how to do something, the only thing you can do to change it is to learn. Our backgrounds are similar. Start reading self-help books. Widen your knowledge about life and the world. Read about building confidence. We all have our battles. Constantly whining and being sad about a problem can't change it. Start reading! |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by Youoareofoolish: 6:20am On Sep 14, 2022 |
God go punish una wey dey talk therapy. What is therapy? Africans just like to copy from oyibo. Therapy is a way of milking money out from you without much changes |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by Mayflowa(m): 6:27am On Sep 14, 2022 |
Ablemed: Therapy works for all ages. Painfully, you just insulted your parents that loved you so much. Your parents has nothing to do with ur current state and life. They supported you and provided money for your school and even pay you while in NYSC. Now you pay them with bad coins. You had all the time to socialize. You attended university. Your personal nature is entirely on you. This is you don’t blame anyone. But you can seek for help. By the way masturbation is nothing. 90% of men have all mastusbated at least once in their life. Oyibo even advise girls do to know what is best for them. You have refused to grow up by urself. But there is hope if you seek help. Many people were worse than you but they got help and living wonderfully. Don’t kill yourself. You have beautiful stories to tell if you seek help. |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by nikki26(f): 6:29am On Sep 14, 2022 |
I feel for you and understand your plight., But you don't have to dwell there. Make the change, if you feel timid and boring, buy good books to build up your confidence, practice being confident and you will get to your greatest potential. Learn a skill. Learn how to smile. Learn how to draw boundaries and keep them. Life is sweet o. You have a great future ahead of you. |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by awoo47: 6:40am On Sep 14, 2022 |
Ablemed:you're overthinking it. Believe it or not. It was never your parents fault. You're an introvert, which isn't bad. Most billionaires are. you just hate ur self cause u can't get ladies? Get a job and money, na ladies go come meet u. Yes you can learn how to mingle but if u went to secondary school and you can't learn that in 8hrs everyday. No be ur parents fault. The only thing is they didn't force you to survive on ur own, which no good parent will do in this era. explain to them that u want to survive on ur own and remind them u can call for support...Then you will start seeing things differently |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by everythinggirly(f): 6:42am On Sep 14, 2022 |
It's not easy at all, just try and put more effort, try and relate with people, be confident in yourself, look for a job and rent a small apartment, life can start from there, it is never too late. May find peace. |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by ade2008(m): 6:53am On Sep 14, 2022 |
OP what you're experiencing is normal. you're just exaggerating your present situation. Every introverted personality pass through this stages whether you're brought up by strict or non strict parents. That's your personality. So stop blaming your parents. They have brought you up in their own best way of training a child. You're likely to be phlegmatic. I advised you read more about different personalities , read Tim Lahaye book's, "Why you art the way you do". You will outgrow this with time, as you aware of your personality short comings, you will surely overgrown with it. I advice you start your career in any activities involve preaching or teaching especially tutoring people of lesser age. once you build up confidence facing children , shyness will gradually go away and self confidence will grow. |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by tivta(m): 6:54am On Sep 14, 2022 |
This is alot of bullshit. I am an extreme introvert but not addicted to porn or any devises. All my friends are extroverts that drink, smoke, womanize but i don't do such. All i am saying is don't blame your parents. I remember when my dad wanted was to protective i had to fight for my freedom. Ever wondered why most pastor daughters are spoilt despite the lack of freedom? It is because pikin wey go spoil go spoil no matter what... |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by Fixed: 7:04am On Sep 14, 2022 |
Please stop blaming your parents. You sounded like you were locked up inside your room your entire life. But you spent at least 16 years out of your 24 years of existence in school. You had a very good opportunity to associate with people but nature somehow happened to you, not your parents please. All I see you picking on is your inability to go out and "carry" girls like that is life achievement. When it is time to marry nature will bring your partner your way, that is why it is called suitor. It's funny how you blame pornography on your parents. Core street guys are worse, they don't only masturbate, they visit ashawo joints. if your parents had allowed you to go on the street maybe you would have fathered like 2 kids with different girls by now. For business sense, how many graduates do parents raise to have business acumen? You even have the sense to save which is a plus. You have asked the right question of what to use the money for. You can use it to learn a skill if business is not for you. Everyone must not go into business please. About not wanting to return home and your inability to join army, I will say you just got to the crossroad of life. Almost all graduates come to this point not only you. Do a SWOT analysis of yourself. Use your strength to overcome your weakness. Focus on opportunities to deal with your threats. Look life may have thrown lemons at you, but you can make a sweet lemonade out if it. Your case is not as bad as you painted it. Dwelling in it instead if looking into a very bright future will only complicate it. Finally, don't cut off your source, your parents because they did no wrong. They were after your well-being. You didn't see what they saw. If you put yourself in their shoes perhaps you would do worse. Peace. 2 Likes |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by Isaaih: 7:06am On Sep 14, 2022 |
You have your life to live and also the right to make decisions on your own (without being disrespectful to your parents). It's funny you 'jealous of your roommate cos of girls, if you add them to your current predicament right now; you will end up far worse. My advice is forget about girls for now, apologize to your parent for being disrespectful and ask for help (Tonypen247 said it all). Once you've figured out what you want to do with your life, relate same to your parents and siblings respectfully and i believe they will all support you. Thank goodness you have older siblings you can learn from and if possible, stay with after your service year; make the best of these opportunities. Ablemed: |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by lecturerdabo(m): 7:11am On Sep 14, 2022 |
Zero eight zero 3 five 67 six 2 six 9 Link me up if you wish please, your case is not hopeless! Absolutely no need for the blame game!! Abeg I no ask you for money!!! |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by Nyanabo(m): 7:13am On Sep 14, 2022 |
They first solution to a problem is diagnosing the problem..... |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by GoldenJAT(m): 7:14am On Sep 14, 2022 |
mamajaz:Definitely!! A great deal of work will go down the drain!!! Those were his formative years, and not learning or experiencing what he ought to have experienced and learned at that age will take a big big effort on his part. There is a time for everything!; |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by Mmash(f): 7:16am On Sep 14, 2022 |
Every life here in earth has its own challenges,try to learn a skill & look for something you can do to fetch you money,do not move out of your parents house yet ,'it is very cold outside'.it is never too late to make adjustments & to learn and unlearn |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by Caseless: 7:19am On Sep 14, 2022 |
Ablemed, I wish you're in my city. I once had someone like you in the university, I changed his thinking and attitude. I've come across many guys with similar stories. They changed. Just tell yourself that you are a man. Respect your parents, but tell them it's about time you play the role of a man. Protection comes from God, not from them. They can only try their best and leave the rest to God. Death can come at anytime - even while in their room where they consider safe for you. Tell them you are the person who would carry the name of the family when they're gone, you don't need to be a sissy - you have to be a man. You're the father of the house - you'll raise a family and also watch over your sisters - it's important you're seen as a man. Don't in the name of trying to vibe and feeling among and take to doing drugs. Don't contemplate suicide. Watch Jordan Peterson, Kelvin Samuel and Andrew Tate on YouTube and they'll spark the man in you. Read books. Go to the gym. In fact, hang out with the right guys. I wish you're in my city. Women no be anything. Just work on yourself. Send me a PM |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by Nobody: 7:25am On Sep 14, 2022 |
Ablemed:bro im 28 i have no plan just living. dont stress yourself u r still young ur prblm is not ur parents but PMO |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by GerogeI(m): 7:31am On Sep 14, 2022 |
Ablemed: Oga, you are in too much of a hurry. You have time and nothing is wrong with you. Anyway, you are an Igbo boy. Am an only son among more girls than you have, so i get all the pampering, but saying they spoilt you is an overstatment. If this is about casual sex, bros calm down. The ladies will eventually be falling over themselves for you. You are a ready made man. Stop envying people for the very thing that will be their downfall. Do you know how many young men are derailed by unplanned pregnancies, stds and investment in females. Masturbation is a normal cycle of male sexuality, any male that is truthful to you, will tell you they masturbated around your age. Your personality is not just due to nuture, but nature as well. Many people are are timid and shy at your age. As your brain develops more grey matter, you will be more outspoken and stop worrying about it. My advice to you is this. Be grateful to your parents for what they have offered you. Life is actually very hard for many people. Utilize the leverage and trouble free life your parents gave you to rise above your peers. Stop thinking being streetwise pays better or gives you more abilities. Focus on a formal professional career, and stop looking for business at this age. You do not have the experience for a worthwhile business. Neither do your friends. All they are doing is merely post study hustle, and that maybe because they have deprndents. You do not, so do not waste time on money ventures thst will not add much to your life. Use your parents connections to rise in a formal profession before thinking about using the resources they have gathered for you for worthy business. Buying and selling is the smallest and most unsustainable business. You do not need therapy, there is nothing wrong with you. Ever intelligent young man asks same question you are asking. How to connect with people, how to make a living, and what to become? What did you study in Univ., did you not learn anything worth a job from your study? |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by Tayorshd2(m): 7:33am On Sep 14, 2022 |
Dwana96: Your mother is an adult fool |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by Starlino: 7:41am On Sep 14, 2022 |
We all have insecurities I'm also a serving corper passing out next month and I have alot of business ideas I could share with you if you're interested At least if you can find a sense of belonging that'll go a long way in easing your stress Shalom |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by Havemercylord: 7:57am On Sep 14, 2022 |
Op, If you are reading my comment, that money you saved will help you move to a west Africa Country called CÔTE d'Ivoire. You will travel by road and you will enjoy the challenges of travelling and surviving in a new country, it makes you a real man with experience. HERE YOU CAN AT LEAST GET A TEACHING JOB IN ANY NIGERIAN PRIMARY/SECONDARY SCHOOL. you will get a small room to stay and start Life maturely,meet Ladies of your choice and have your own decisions. Contact me on WhatsApp:- +225 01531 95089 |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by NezzyMike: 7:59am On Sep 14, 2022 |
Ablemed: Use that 270k to get a cheap self-contain, get a job even if it's a school and start from there. You have no reason to contemplate committing suicide. |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by NezzyMike: 8:00am On Sep 14, 2022 |
Havemercylord: Cote to do what? With that little sum? OP please stay put and hustle for a job. |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by Havemercylord: 8:00am On Sep 14, 2022 |
Op DO NOT HATE ON YOUR PARENTS, IF THEY WISH, THEY WILL GIVE YOU THE WHOLE WORLD. DON'T SAY BECAUSE YOU MASTURBATE,YOU LACK SELF ESTEEM!!! NO! SOON, GIRLS WILL BE RUNNING AFTER YOU AND YOU WILL HAVE TO CHOOSE YOUR CHOICE |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by Greenfusion: 8:03am On Sep 14, 2022 |
Firstly, I would say for the masturbation issue just sincerely tell God to help you and avoid anything relating to porn, it would work like magic for you. Secondly, don't blame your parents much, when you become one you would understand what they did, just be positive, everybody has their temperament and interaction pattern, yours can be explored to your advantage. If you are a christian, I would advise you join an ever active group in church where you can socialize and have friends, but you have to also know and be careful not to have bad friends because you want to socialize, be tactful. I would not completely advise you to leave your parents house in haste, the outside world ain't that easy, make it a progressive thing, 270k would not sustain you long if you do not have something doing. If your parents can afford a lot, use it to your advantage, join a skill acquisition class or learn a skill (socialize there carefully), use this few periods to develop yourself and get new paying skills. Also, cultivate the habit of saving (financial intelligence) don't be wasteful, avoid babes wahala, maintain healthy relationships with them, have them as platonic friends so you understand them better. My guy nor rush comot house if nothing dey hand o, make u nor go rush back. just keep developing yourself and saving, later you can leave. If you eventually decide to leave, nor give girl belle o or enter drugs o because freedom dey sweet well well o....Nor forget your God.....cheers |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by Paretomaster1(m): 8:06am On Sep 14, 2022 |
Enter street, roll with the real Gs for just 2 month, and your life will never be the same again.... No join cult o.. |
Re: My Parents Destroyed My Life In Guise Of Love, I'm Now Depressed Daily by Ihatebuhariwith(m): 8:09am On Sep 14, 2022 |
Sha no join military cus na agbado u go chop. |
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