2Radii:
Aahh, a no be God na

Enter na!! Enter the relationship first, if dem tell u, u go argue that nothing of such exist, so enter first, as u might be lucky to find Ur solemate


There are some ladies that even from the very first day u meet them u start losing valuables, contracts and others.. but enter first

I'm not joking here. I want to learn ni.

Smartford:
Good day fam, I newly got married in (April 2022) and my wife is now 2 months pregnant. I live in my own house of 2 bedroom apartment with another 1 bedroom apartment attached. I am a fresh graduate (have not gone for nysc.) Lost my job weeks to by wedding. Now the problem is that I have an out standing debts to the tone of 2.3mill. it includes a police bond which is due for payment last month, a couple of due loans from loan apps that are already unlishing all manner of treths, my in-law gave me 200k during my wedding and she is about to take a title in the village and needs money to run around (she have not asked for it but I can read the handwriting on the wall), and many unpleasant debts adding to the fact that I have no help from any family member as I am the first son, my parents are all retired and are using their pension to train younger ones. Uncle's are all making sure that no one in the family surpass their kids so have never and not ready to give 1kobo. it happens that almost all needs their money and some (police and loan app) may take legal actions against me anytime also to avoid my in-law from making unpleasant side talks. We bearly eat 3 square meal and there haven't been any income since April.
I have nothing doing, and my wife have nothing doing too. Depression pushed me into Yahoo but I am not seeing any light. I am also very fluent in programing Bitc0in investmeint websites, etc and as a result flooded both Facebook and nairaland with my ads which got by accounts banned. I have waited on the Lord and have submitted my application letter to several offices even to filling station, gas plants and at a point, I even applied at a bread factory all to no avail. All I have is my humble self with a bright future and a house at okpanam, asaba Delta State.
Note: I am ready to take any action even if it requires to start from scratch all over again as I am still young.

I need your advice,
What do you advice me to do.
Please help a brother.

Don't sell your house oo.
Cos when you sell it, it would clear all the debt.

Onucs:
Dem go tell una to cut una coat according to your size, but una no go hear. Now u don go do lavish wedding and money no dey to pay your debts.

Which kain advice u want make I give you now.

But I go help u sha, cos I like helping the less privileged.
Why not collect a loan from the bank and use the house as collateral instead of just selling it like that, u still gonna need a place to sleep u know.

Don't mind them. They are doing family show off competition. He should go into serious farming and hustling. With inflation, food is the new yahoo. In delta we know things are high in prices generally so he can sell well.

2Radii:
Am sorry for this but I will still say it.

How was Ur life before u met Ur wife, and how was Ur life after u met her??

nice observe.

Smartford:
Good day fam, I newly got married in (April 2022) and my wife is now 2 months pregnant. I live in my own house of 2 bedroom apartment with another 1 bedroom apartment attached. I am a fresh graduate (have not gone for nysc.) Lost my job weeks to by wedding. Now the problem is that I have an out standing debts to the tone of 2.3mill. it includes a police bond which is due for payment last month, a couple of due loans from loan apps that are already unlishing all manner of treths, my in-law gave me 200k during my wedding and she is about to take a title in the village and needs money to run around (she have not asked for it but I can read the handwriting on the wall), and many unpleasant debts adding to the fact that I have no help from any family member as I am the first son, my parents are all retired and are using their pension to train younger ones. Uncle's are all making sure that no one in the family surpass their kids so have never and not ready to give 1kobo. it happens that almost all needs their money and some (police and loan app) may take legal actions against me anytime also to avoid my in-law from making unpleasant side talks. We bearly eat 3 square meal and there haven't been any income since April.
I have nothing doing, and my wife have nothing doing too. Depression pushed me into Yahoo but I am not seeing any light. I am also very fluent in programing Bitc0in investmeint websites, etc and as a result flooded both Facebook and nairaland with my ads which got by accounts banned. I have waited on the Lord and have submitted my application letter to several offices even to filling station, gas plants and at a point, I even applied at a bread factory all to no avail. All I have is my humble self with a bright future and a house at okpanam, asaba Delta State.
Note: I am ready to take any action even if it requires to start from scratch all over again as I am still young.

I need your advice,
What do you advice me to do.
Please help a brother.

You just have to sell that house, pay all the necessary debts hanging om you, get another land develop a portion for you to live inside

Or you rent a mini flat where you can conveniently pay rent without owning

Let your wife start teaching so that she too can contribute something as you can't handle it alone

Then make arrangements to go and serve, if you ignore that part then you will have issues with it in future

Start living a life that you can afford to avoid you getting broke again because this time, you don't have any assets again to fall back to

Call this man. He is a Prophet of God. Let Him pray and minister to you.

Smartford:
Good day fam, I newly got married in (April 2022) and my wife is now 2 months pregnant. I live in my own house of 2 bedroom apartment with another 1 bedroom apartment attached. I am a fresh graduate (have not gone for nysc.) Lost my job weeks to by wedding. Now the problem is that I have an out standing debts to the tone of 2.3mill. it includes a police bond which is due for payment last month, a couple of due loans from loan apps that are already unlishing all manner of treths, my in-law gave me 200k during my wedding and she is about to take a title in the village and needs money to run around (she have not asked for it but I can read the handwriting on the wall), and many unpleasant debts adding to the fact that I have no help from any family member as I am the first son, my parents are all retired and are using their pension to train younger ones. Uncle's are all making sure that no one in the family surpass their kids so have never and not ready to give 1kobo. it happens that almost all needs their money and some (police and loan app) may take legal actions against me anytime also to avoid my in-law from making unpleasant side talks. We bearly eat 3 square meal and there haven't been any income since April.
I have nothing doing, and my wife have nothing doing too. Depression pushed me into Yahoo but I am not seeing any light. I am also very fluent in programing Bitc0in investmeint websites, etc and as a result flooded both Facebook and nairaland with my ads which got by accounts banned. I have waited on the Lord and have submitted my application letter to several offices even to filling station, gas plants and at a point, I even applied at a bread factory all to no avail. All I have is my humble self with a bright future and a house at okpanam, asaba Delta State.
Note: I am ready to take any action even if it requires to start from scratch all over again as I am still young.

I need your advice,
What do you advice me to do.
Please help a brother.

Onucs:
Dem go tell una to cut una coat according to your size, but una no go hear. Now u don go do lavish wedding and money no dey to pay your debts.

Which kain advice u want make I give you now.

But I go help u sha, cos I like helping the less privileged.
Why not collect a loan from the bank and use the house as collateral instead of just selling it like that, u still gonna need a place to sleep u know.

I tried getting a loan from bank but they request I must have a C of O which will cost me around 600k to collect from government house.

nrexzy:
Stay strong brother..... Don't give up hope
Keep thriving u got a baby on d way... It would get better in the end..

Thanks a lot bro, the scan came out yesterday and it was confirmed that I gat twins on their way

Boogyman557:
Holly Gram Use the house take collect LOAN from bank..


PEACE BE UNTO U..


LITE UP my WEED in peace



WTF MAN!

The bank insist I should provide a C of O which will cost around 600k to acquire from government house

2Radii:
Am sorry for this but I will still say it.

How was Ur life before u met Ur wife, and how was Ur life after u met her??

As a single guy, I am not that lavish as I hardly buy things but when I meet my wife, normaly I occasionally buy shawarma and buy fruits like every 3 days for a newly married woman to feel at home

Mom007:
How did you in cure a debt of 2.3m at this your tender age? Una no dey fear o! Anyway, pray about it. No one here can state categorically what you should do, only God.

As a married man with a pregnant woman, we have daily needs and late November, my big game shop of 9 PS4 and 9 32" tv plus sound system and viewing center was swept empty overnight by robbers. This shop was my main source of income that cost me about 4mill to open and is giving me about 10k daily

Bornbiafra:
Bro don't sell your house ooo..... almost every one is on debt....na who open tell you go know...

All debt owed settle itself with time....just resort to what ever makes you happy and watch as things unfolds.......

Nigeria is currently China using me and you as collateral....yet China has not taken over Nigeria...


The biggest mistake you will make is to sell your property to pay loan

Thanks a lot bro for the kind advice, I really appreciate

slan87:


Your response to this question is very important, then you examine yourself very well.

Check your zodiac sign n your wife to be sure of your compatibility

I was born on 26th March while she was born on 16th September. I did a little research about zodiac sign just now but I don't seem to understand how it works. Can you help me check

2Radii:


Bro I never believed it until I had first hand experience

I was born on 26th March while she was born on 16th September. I did a little research about zodiac sign just now but I don't seem to understand how it works. Can you help me check

Fahvvy:
No matter what you do OP, DO NOT SELL YOUR HOUSE ....

Instead collect a loan from the bank using your house as a collateral, then pay off the pressing debt and use the left over cash for a business that can help you repay back the bank ...

But in all your doings, DO NOT SELL THAT HOUSE ....

The bank is asking for C of O which will cost me around 600k to acquire. I have sat down and crafted 2 business I can start.

Vision101:
Don't attempt to borrow from the bank unless the money that you borrowed can pay off your debt and there will be a reasonable amount left to invest in a business that you understand very well.

The return from the business should be capable of servicing the loan from bank as well as meet your recurrent needs.

What is the size of the land on which the building is built? Can some part of it be sold without selling the building? How much can you realise from this? Can it solve your problem?

On the spiritual side... what was the source of money that you used to build the house because you mentioned Yahoo? Proverbs 20:17 (KJV) "bread of deceit is sweet to a man but afterwards his mouth shall be filled with gravel"

Finally if the source of the money is illegal, sell off the house, pay off your debt and be a free man. Repent and start a clean life all over.

Thanks a lot bro for the advice.
The bank isn't able to give me cash that will cover both the debt and extra to start business,

The house is sited on a 50 by 100 plot and it did not have much land remaining, the house is currently valued at about 10million.

The source of my money is not fludrant. I sold a land in the village and used it to buy the new land and build, also opened a game plaza which was swept empty by robbers at night just after 4 months of operation.

Fahvvy:
No matter what you do OP, DO NOT SELL YOUR HOUSE ....

Instead collect a loan from the bank using your house as a collateral, then pay off the pressing debt and use the left over cash for a business that can help you repay back the bank ...

But in all your doings, DO NOT SELL THAT HOUSE ....

Atleast that house can get him a loan of 5-10m....

Pay your debt, use 500k rent house for 2 years....use the remaining plan your life like you are starting afresh....simple

Smartford:



I was born on 26th March while she was born on 16th September. I did a little research about zodiac sign just now but I don't seem to understand how it works. Can you help me check

I don't understand much about it but I will explain the little i know. we have four categories, namely:Earth, Water, Air and Fire.

Fire are the most aggressive but are very caring, as a man if u re water or air u wouldn't want to go with fire, the love will be there but u re likely going to play a second fiddle(spiritually) in the relationship, and u know, the spiritual control the physical.

socialmediaman:
OP Smartford you don't need to sell your house if you're just going to invest it in a business you're not experienced in. You need to reorganize your life first.

Get some advise from a competent lawyer on what to do about the police bond. Also, get legal advice on what to do about the loan sharks.

Loan sharks are somewhat illegal in many countries possibly including Nigeria, though they still operate. You should get advise from a lawyer on how to best handle the situation

If you can't afford a lawyer, visit the Legal Aid Council office in your state, they're a government organization run with tax payers money to offer free legal services to Nigerians who can't afford those. They have offices in every state in Nigeria. https://legalaidcouncil.gov.ng/

Communicate with your sister-in-law about your inability to pay her back the money at this time. This is important so that she can begin to make alternative arrangements in time. A lot of Nigerians take trust building for granted. You give them something on trust then they ghost you or start lying to you, then burn bridges and end up stranded because there’s nobody they can run to in time of need. Initiate a conversation and let her know you can't pay her money now and possibly in the next one year, but let her know it’s top priority for you, and ask for her understanding. Figure it out with her

Finally, look for a job. If you can't afford to live in your house, rent it out if it's in a good location, and move back in with your parents or to a cheaper apartment. If you can't feed yourself, there's no reason you shouldn't be able to swallow your pride temporarily. Lastly, train yourself in some skill to increase your chances of financial success.

In all I must have to say a big thank you as you really made great impact with your words.

To that effect

I have already sat and drawn out 2 business plan I will venture into.

As you adviced I have spoken to my in-laws about my financial status and inability to pay her back anytime soon,

I have looked out for job to several places all to no avail but I will keep trying and continue sending out my CV.

in my locality such house(2bedroom apartment) rents at 500k/Anum.

As a married man I can't move back to my family house as there is no vacant room and an average small apartment (1room and parlour) is about 300k. In a public compound there are fees (water, light, dustbin, compound cleaners, etc) which one is expected to pay upon it's request irrespective of your pocket size at the moment.

To these effect, what's your final advice

madprophet:


Don't sell your house oo.
Cos when you sell it, it would clear all the debt.

My house is valued at about 10mill. Should I sell the house, use the proceed to
1, repay the loan,
2, rent another apartment,
3, buy an empty plot and
4, start a business I can manage?

Or keep praying and sending out more CV

Smartford:


As a single guy, I am not that lavish as I hardly buy things but when I meet my wife, normaly I occasionally buy shawarma and buy fruits like every 3 days for a newly married woman to feel at home

No no no, this is normal.

Ofcourse u must to buy Ur woman tins na..

Me myself I am very frugal with my spendings before I met my woman, after meeting her I was still frugal but not like before.. I use to buy her tins and give her what I know she needs. Remember.. "I gives her what she need and not what she want, she uses her money to buy what she wants" that is the kind of person I am. But I use to take her out to eat, chop, but not all the tym cus she knows that we re to save for a raining day.

Buy tins for Ur woman ooh, its a good tins and it will draw Ur favour.

frozen70:


You just have to sell that house, pay all the necessary debts hanging om you, get another land develop a portion for you to live inside

Or you rent a mini flat where you can conveniently pay rent without owning

Let your wife start teaching so that she too can contribute something as you can't handle it alone

Then make arrangements to go and serve, if you ignore that part then you will have issues with it in future

Start living a life that you can afford to avoid you getting broke again because this time, you don't have any assets again to fall back to

Thank you very much for your kind advice. It's very realistic.i really appreciate

Those that keep saying he should not sell the house are only afraid of the future, they forgot he can build more better houses if he put his life in order. A huge debt with no hope of paying back can put one in a serious depression and eventually life threatening sickness.

@op, if you are very sure of 10m, you can pay off your debts with 3m, find 1 million land and build a mini flat with 3m. Use the rest to find something doing.

yemmit90:
Those that keep saying he should not sell the house are only afraid of the future, they forgot he can build more better houses if he put his life in order. A huge debt with no hope of paying back can put one in a serious depression and eventually life threatening sickness.

@op, if you are very sure of 10m, you can pay off your debts with 3m, find 1 million land and build a mini flat with 3m. Use the rest to find something doing.

He could even get a land for 750k

Smartford:
Good day fam, I newly got married in (April 2022) and my wife is now 2 months pregnant.
I live in my own house of 2 bedroom apartment with another 1 bedroom apartment attached. I am a fresh graduate (have not gone for nysc.) Lost my job weeks to by wedding.

Now the problem is that I have an out standing debts to the tone of 2.3mill. it includes a police bond which is due for payment last month, a couple of due loans from loan apps that are already unlishing all manner of treths,
my in-law gave me 200k during my wedding and she is about to take a title in the village and needs money to run around (she have not asked for it but I can read the handwriting on the wall), and many unpleasant debts adding to the fact that I have no help from any family member as I am the first son, my parents are all retired and are using their pension to train younger ones.

Uncle's are all making sure that no one in the family surpass their kids so have never and not ready to give 1kobo.
it happens that almost all needs their money and some (police and loan app) may take legal actions against me anytime also to avoid my in-law from making unpleasant side talks.

We bearly eat 3 square meal and there haven't been any income since April.
I have nothing doing, and my wife have nothing doing too. Depression pushed me into Yahoo but I am not seeing any light.

I am also very fluent in programing Bitc0in investmeint websites, etc and as a result flooded both Facebook and nairaland with my ads which got by accounts banned.

I have waited on the Lord and have submitted my application letter to several offices even to filling station, gas plants and at a point, I even applied at a bread factory all to no avail.

All I have is my humble self with a bright future and a house at okpanam, asaba Delta State.

Note: I am ready to take any action even if it requires to start from scratch all over again as I am still young.

My house is valued at about 10mill. Should I sell the house, use the proceed to
1, repay the loan, ..........2.3mill
2, rent another apartment,..........500k
3, buy an empty plot and............4mill
4, start a business I can manage?........3mill


I need your advice,
What do you advice me to do.
Please help a brother.

With all this you're still thinking of renting an apartment of 500k per year? All is well.

frozen70:


You just have to sell that house, pay all the necessary debts hanging om you, get another land develop a portion for you to live inside

Or you rent a mini flat where you can conveniently pay rent without owning

Let your wife start teaching so that she too can contribute something as you can't handle it alone

Then make arrangements to go and serve, if you ignore that part then you will have issues with it in future

Start living a life that you can afford to avoid you getting broke again because this time, you don't have any assets again to fall back to

Wife wey just carry belle to now goan start teaching
Who employs pregnant women in this country and won't she sleep the whole time This is a big lesson to the 2 of them . To the girl, getting pregnant to hook a man doesn't stop what she's running away from.
To the boy, you can't carry another person while standing on just one leg.

@Smartford

Thanks a lot bro for the advice.
The bank isn't able to give me cash that will cover both the debt and extra to start business,

The house is sited on a 50 by 100 plot and it did not have much land remaining, the house is currently valued at about 10million.

The source of my money is not fludrant. I sold a land in the village and used it to buy the new land and build, also opened a game plaza which was swept empty by robbers at night just after 4 months of operation.

@me
If you are sure of raising #10m from the sale of the property and you are owing #2.5m, I'll advise you to sell.

Before you sell research to find out if there is any good land you can buy for #2.5m and a viable business that you can invest #5m. Don't sell before determining the above.

The business must be a low risk high turnover and small profit business. Ensure that you don't expand your personal expenditure so that your capital is not encroached. If you have a car, sell it and add the money to your capital. You can replace the car when things get better.

Good luck.

yemmit90:
Those that keep saying he should not sell the house are only afraid of the future, they forgot he can build more better houses if he put his life in order. A huge debt with no hope of paying back can put one in a serious depression and eventually life threatening sickness.

@op, if you are very sure of 10m, you can pay off your debts with 3m, find 1 million land and build a mini flat with 3m. Use the rest to find something doing.

Go with this advice. It's realistic. Offset your debts so you can sleep well at night and have clear my d to start afresh. If your wife's is not going through risky pregnancy, suggest she pick a job also

Don't even try to sell that house.

No try am oh.

Go to the Bank, Collect a loan up to 5m, half the value of the house, using the house as a collateral, they can give you up to 36 months repayment time.

I suggest Stanbic Ibtc, they have good interest rates or any other bank, no near First Bank oh, they will rip you off.

AuroraB:
Wife wey just carry belle to now goan start teaching
Who employs pregnant women in this country and won't she sleep the whole time This is a big lesson to the 2 of them . To the girl, getting pregnant to hook a man doesn't stop what she's running away from.
To the boy, you can't carry another person while standing on just one leg.

He is the only one that can explain why he went into marriage ill prepared

Anyway experience is teaching him more lessons

Smartford:


Thank you very much for your kind advice. It's very realistic.i really appreciate

Thanks dear

Everything will be fine soon

Op you write intelligently. If I'm in your shoes, I'll do what you said there. If the house is truly valued at 10mill, sell it. Sort out your debts, the remaining pray extremely well b4 you invest it. Your own better, some people don't have what to sell.

Connected1:
Don't even try to sell that house.

No try am oh.

Go to the Bank, Collect a loan up to 5m, half the value of the house, using the house as a collateral, they can give you up to 36 months repayment time.

I suggest Stanbic Ibtc, they have good interest rates or any other bank, no near First Bank oh, they will rip you off.

Another loan? Baba say, he is unemployed how will he be servicing the 5 million naira loan.