Someone once gave me this advice when the lady I cared so much for left me for a Casanova. When she was dumped, she wanted a reunion which I heartily declined.

I adopted this nonchalance in other relationship and my now late wife was all over me and wanted a serious relationship which I obliged.

The marriage blossomed for 25 years until she unceremoniously passed on last year leaving me heartbroken.

This method worked while I was much younger. In my late 50s, I think I have become more subtle and affectionate now.

I believe on Nairaland, people having my kind of demeanour are called, SIMPs.

What's your say on this?

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imagrg:
Someone once gave me this advice when the lady I cared so much for left me for a Casanova. When she was dumped, she wanted a reunion which I heartily declined.

I adopted this nonchalance in other relationship and my now late wife was all over me and wanted a serious relationship which I obliged.

The marriage blossomed for 25 years until she unceremoniously passed on last year leaving me heartbroken.

This method worked while I was much younger. In my late 50s, I think I have become more subtle and affectionate now.

I believe on Nairaland, people having my kind of demeanour are called, SIMPs.

What's your say on this?

Maybe that was why she passed away. She's dumb, dependent, have no purpose [may her soul rest in peace ] and she may also have a low self-esteem issues to laid down for someone who's airhead towards her while World is filled with 195 countries and more than 6 billions of people at her time

Old man keep on fooling with kids that haven't celebrate their decades on Earth not to talk about jubilee.

imagrg:
Someone once gave me this advice when the lady I cared so much for left me for a Casanova. When she was dumped, she wanted a reunion which I heartily declined.

I adopted this nonchalance in other relationship and my now late wife was all over me and wanted a serious relationship which I obliged.

The marriage blossomed for 25 years until she unceremoniously passed on last year leaving me heartbroken.

This method worked while I was much younger. In my late 50s, I think I have become more subtle and affectionate now.

I believe on Nairaland, people having my kind of demeanour are called, SIMPs.

What's your say on this?

Lol.

Until you see her wedding IV with someone who treats her better.

Sir the chewgums degenerates would soon invade this thread to call you names.

Ok wait let me check the meaning of nonchalance, abeg.

Ok it means I don't care, I don't care Attitude
Op no mind me. Am just trying make fun out of this.

But why will a sane man give a woman 20% of his attention when he has a

MOTHER
SISTER
MONEY
all waiting to be attended to?

Romanoff:


Lol.

Until you see her wedding IV with someone who treats her better.

Can you please define "better" in that context for me please.

showing nonchalance will only show that person that you couldnt care less, thus she wouldnt take your r/ship seriously!

Zonefree:

Can you please define "better" in that context for me please.

You claim being nonchalant to a woman will make her more serious.


If it's you that a woman is treating nonchalantly, will you pick her over a woman that holds you in high regard?

Wo, let everybody do what works for them jare.

All of us go dey alright las las.

Romanoff:


You claim being nonchalant to a woman will make her more serious.


If it's you that a woman is treating nonchalantly, will you pick her over a woman that holds you in high regard?

Wo, let everybody do what works for them jare.

All of us go dey alright las las.

The only thing I want to read from you is the definition of "better" in your first post.

MrBrownJay1:
showing nonchalance will only show that person that you couldnt care less, thus she wouldnt take your r/ship seriously!

So, what will one benefit from a relationship taken seriously by a Nigerian girl?

Girls will come and argue and prolly call the OP names, but what the OP said is nothing but THE TRUTH...

I've seen this happen over and over and over again in very many relationships in my years as a counselor...

There's a reason why the saying "nice guys finish last" exist, girls (usually between the ages of 18 - 25) will rarely appreciate a guy who treats them nice...

Check the social media of girls in that age bracket, you'll see guys who call her very regularly to check up on them, you'll see guys who literally worship the ground they walk on, but yet, they'll treat that guy like trash ...

Then the guys who don't even have as much time as these nice guys, the girl in question will kill herself for them ...

Try this method with me and you'll be on your own.

Zonefree:

The only thing I want to read from you is the definition of "better" in your first post.

I'm talking about regard, respect. This comes after a relationship has been defined.

If after defining the relationship you feel like the person isn't serious, why not end it and move on to a serious person?

If you think treating a n unserious person nonchalantly will make them more serious, you're in for a joker.

They will string you along till they find someone else.

Romanoff:


You claim being nonchalant to a woman will make her more serious.


If it's you that a woman is treating nonchalantly, will you pick her over a woman that holds you in high regard?

Wo, let everybody do what works for them jare.

All of us go dey alright las las.

Abi jare. And in the end everyone dies.

obaaderemi:
Abi jare. And in the end everyone dies.

Yes o.

Romanoff:


I'm talking about regard, respect. This comes after a relationship has been defined.

If after defining the relationship you feel like the person isn't serious, why not end it and move on to a serious person?

If you think treating a n unserious person nonchalantly will make them more serious, you're in for a joker.

They will string you along till they find someone else.

Roman, how does one define relationship with a Nigerian girl? Like, you'll sit her down and say, "Nkechi, see I love you. I want to marry you in the next 2 year, until then, we'll be having coitus, cuddling, kissing and other things cos you're the girl I want to marry in 2 years time."

This defined relationship works better in writing.

imagrg:
Someone once gave me this advice when the lady I cared so much for left me for a Casanova. When she was dumped, she wanted a reunion which I heartily declined.

I adopted this nonchalance in other relationship and my now late wife was all over me and wanted a serious relationship which I obliged.

The marriage blossomed for 25 years until she unceremoniously passed on last year leaving me heartbroken.

This method worked while I was much younger. In my late 50s, I think I have become more subtle and affectionate now.

I believe on Nairaland, people having my kind of demeanour are called, SIMPs.

What's your say on this?

May her soul rest in perfect peace.
But sir, that can only work with your wife. I mean, not now again. This 21st century wey we dey so ehn e no fit happened.
It only a lady that depend on you... That has no sources of income that those attitude can work for... Sir, everything have change now. To see a lady that truly like/love sef is like you're going on a impossible mission. So others should not be mislead

You are quite too old for this.

imagrg:
Someone once gave me this advice when the lady I cared so much for left me for a Casanova. When she was dumped, she wanted a reunion which I heartily declined.

I adopted this nonchalance in other relationship and my now late wife was all over me and wanted a serious relationship which I obliged.

The marriage blossomed for 25 years until she unceremoniously passed on last year leaving me heartbroken.

This method worked while I was much younger. In my late 50s, I think I have become more subtle and affectionate now.

I believe on Nairaland, people having my kind of demeanour are called, SIMPs.

What's your say on this?

I think you're 52 but your brain is 13.

Zonefree:

Roman, how does one define relationship with a Nigerian girl? Like, you'll sit her down and say, "Nkechi, see I love you. I want to marry you in the next 2 year, until then, we'll be having coitus, cuddling, kissing and other things cos you're the girl I want to marry in 2 years time."

This defined relationship works better in writing.

Say what you want from the relationship from the start. If them no ready, move on.

I'm not an advocate for fornication but if fornication is your thing and you are looking for a partner to fornicate with, say it as it is so that anyone that's not okay with it can go.

No be the one wey you go dey situationship with person for years, no definition, no direction, you go come dey expect the person to dey loyal. Wetin you give them wey them wan dey loyal to?

Romanoff:


Say what you want from the relationship from the start. If them no ready, move on.

I'm not an advocate for fornication but if fornication is your thing and you are looking for a partner to fornicate with, say it as it is so that anyone that's not okay with it can go.

No be the one wey you go dey situationship with person for years, no definition, no direction, you go come dey expect the person to dey loyal. Wetin you give them wey them wan dey loyal to?

Na Mumu dey expect loyalty from a Nigerian girl.
Wetin I wan i use her loyalty achieve

Zonefree:

Na Mumu dey expect loyalty from a Nigerian girl.
Wetin I wan i use her loyalty achieve

Maybe you go try Togo be that.

Romanoff:


Maybe you go try Togo be that.

Better option.

Zonefree:
So, what will one benefit from a relationship taken seriously by a Nigerian girl?

why are you guys only focussing on the extreme? is there anything wrong with treating a person the way they ortray themselves, and go along?! why do you guys believe that you can only be nonchalant or serious?!

Zonefree:

So, what will one benefit from a relationship taken seriously by a Nigerian girl?

Nothing, nothing at all comrade. As a matter of fact, they will hurt you when you take them seriously. It's safe to guard your heart by being nonchalant when dealing with Nigerian girls. When I say my Lord's prayer every morning, I always change the deliver us from all evil to deliver me from bandits and Nigerian girls.

Nonexisting1:
Nothing, nothing at all comrade. As a matter of fact, they will hurt you when you take them seriously. It's safe to guard your heart by being nonchalant when dealing with Nigerian girls. When I say my Lord's prayer every morning, I always change the deliver us from all evil to deliver me from bandits and Nigerian girls.

Me I always add extra N200 in the offering box every Sunday just to thank God for saving me from Nigerian girls.

Zonefree:



Me I always add extra N200 in the offering box every Sunday just to thank God for saving me from Nigerian girls.

You mean am

You are so dumb that you cannot read between the lines.

A point of correction, the instance at which I was jilted by a lady was at my very early age. I'm wiser now Mister.

With such approach towards relationship, from being a young lady, my late wife transformed to becoming one of the most amiable women any man could ever had. And even the day she died, we dined together on same bowl which had been our habit for 25 years.

If you ever read the book, 'Taming of the shrew by William Shakespeare, you'll understand how to mould a woman before pampering her.

Don't get me wrong; I'm not saying that women don't deserve to be loved but at their early wild stage, even if you care much about them, don't show it, else they take advantage of it and manipulate you to their advantage.

fati2001:


Maybe that was why she passed away. She's dumb, dependent, have no purpose [may her soul rest in peace ] and she may also have a low self-esteem issues to laid down for someone who's airhead towards her while World is filled with 195 countries and more than 6 billions of people at her time

Old man keep on fooling with kids that haven't celebrate their decades on Earth not to talk about jubilee.

Nonexisting1:
Nothing, nothing at all comrade. As a matter of fact, they will hurt you when you take them seriously. It's safe to guard your heart by being nonchalant when dealing with Nigerian girls. When I say my Lord's prayer every morning, I always change the deliver us from all evil to deliver me from bandits and Nigerian girls.

It doesn’t apply to all ladies, I’ll leave if I love you and you treat me bad and too harsh.

Playing nonchalance to me, is to test if you are truly and faithfully committed to such relationship.

Rozross:
It doesn’t apply to all ladies, I’ll leave if I love you and you treat me bad and too harsh.