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Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by BRATISLAVA: 2:48pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
lawrenzooo: Lol. Another possibility to save face in a society where single mothers are reviled. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by homenje73: 2:49pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
You are man, when u grow up to a full grown man, maybe then u will understand why father never cared. Therefore, be careful in following your mother's advice, women are myopic in reasoning. You will never have inheritance or share in your mother's family never. If your material grand father or uncle are still alive let them know of your mother's plan, you be shocked that they will wash they hands off , none will ever be in support. In Igbo proverb, a dog that's is trained by a woman eats fowl's egg. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by IamBlessed12: 2:49pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
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Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Admiral49(m): 2:49pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
advanceDNA: This guy go good for movie plotting, you too get sense |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Nobody: 2:50pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
BRATISLAVA:Well, you are also right sha. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by NigerianAngelo(m): 2:51pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Alexxx2000: 1. Don't change ANYTHING. Pray for her to cool down. Pray for your father. Pray for them to rejoin. You cannot deny your father. Pray. You might be shocked God will answer you. She is just temporarily responding to pain. Do the right thing. It will please your mother more in the short and long run. - and will please God more. Meanwhile, Three Hail Marys for you and your family. 2. Also know that your father might have tried reaching to you but pain might not have allowed your mother to bring you out. 3. Personally I pray for you. Nothing as good as a FULL FAMILY. No weapon against that shall stand in your life. Never. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by advanceDNA: 2:51pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
ochiosa: Tell your mama say you no do wetin she tell you.....you know all thus our mother naaa....na that she go dey threaten you say na her breaśt u suck for 7 months ... 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by rickleye: 2:51pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
I would assume you have cousins , kids from your dad's brothers and sisters ( Aunt and Uncles ) Just put a hyphenated surname. So if you called Omolade Johnson ( dads last name) make it Omolade Johnson -smith ( mothers maiden name) That way you are not completely cut of from your dad's side of the family. His blood still courses through your view. It doesnt make what he did right but at one time, your parents loved each other to create the both of you. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by BRATISLAVA: 2:55pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
phemy36: Why should anyone believe that because the man left, if the children come to ask him why that he will say the truth to them? Are men the custodians of every relationship truth? That's a Nigerian lie, that children of deadbeats should look for their fathers. If you believe the mothers are lying, then better believe the fathers are lying too. Anything outside of that is delusional. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by phemy36(m): 2:56pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
BRATISLAVA: @Quatar can you see this again. This gender are evil. I pray I don't meet your kind of person in my entire life. I pity your generation and a man that will marry you. God forbid bad thing |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by victorazy(m): 2:56pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Alexxx2000: Are you a man or boy? Remember nature! |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by SunTzu123(m): 2:56pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Alexxx2000: Your Mum is angry and justifiably so. But you MUST reconcile with your Father. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by BRATISLAVA: 2:59pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
phemy36: Anyone who questions the authenticity of Nigerian men must be from the "evil gender". If only you could use the same judgement on your saintly gender and see how ridiculously myopic what you're saying is. You are funny, though. What do you know about my generation and marriage? Why would I meet the likes of you? What for? You're repellent. Save that pity for your generation and the woman that you will marry. Devil embrace such a thing. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Exceed15: 2:59pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Your mom actions speaks volume of what transpired in that marriage. She's practically enforcing it on you to change your surname as legitimate child. Listen girl, your parents separation is the fault of both of them so why is she selfish to paint your dad as the bad person. Again, learn ,pray and be determined that your own marriage will work. Do not allow the beliefs your mom has painted about men affect your marriage. I like your courage to maintain your father's name. It is your right. As for your brother, time will tell. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by LadyExcellency: 3:02pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
signature2012: Did you ask if the infidelity is from the Mummy or Daddy? Assuming it was the mother sleeping around with reckless abandon? |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by bepositive11: 3:04pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Ask your mother why she wants you to change your name. It may be becaus of the pain she has experienced. Most of the men on Nairaland are misogynists so you won't get good advice here. Have a heart to heart conversation with your mom. She cares about you and she won't do something that will disadvantage you. Alexxx2000: 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by bepositive11: 3:05pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Arelyn: Are you a man? If yes, your statement is weak. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Exceed15: 3:06pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
igbowoman: So fast to conclude he walked away. What if he left to avoid domestic violence which can come from any party. Don't judge what you don't know the full story. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by nams77: 3:06pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
ibechris:Best suggestion. Reach out to your father and find out why he is not there Women can be so bitchy and manipulative especially when the union is broken. A man who was doing fine before will now be labelled a deadbeat because he is no more in the union. I have seen a woman who claimed she was been starved by her husband and that he is not taking responsibility for the child. By the time the man arrived on the scene, story changed. The man produced bunch of receipts for transfer for feeding, school fees payments, rent payments etc. The woman shut up her mouth. Op, your father may even be providing little resources but your mom can sit on top it and not disclose it because she is pained 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by BRATISLAVA: 3:10pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Beremx: Welcome to Nairaland! Man + bad = woman to blame Man + deadbeatery = woman to blame Man + failure = woman to blame Man + debauchery = woman to blame Woman + bad = woman to blame Children + bad = woman to blame World + problems= woman to blame i + j = woman to blame Misogyny is the nectar of stupidity. 5 Likes |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Diligent1(f): 3:10pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
tydi:This is wisdom 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Kobojunkiee: 3:11pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
tydi:Do you realize that the case you mentioned is rare. You rarely find a woman who would refuse support of any kind from the father of her kids unless she believes her safety or that of her kids is at stake. Most women would love to receive support even from the men who abandoned them for other women. Regardless, the OP's story does not indicate that her mother is at fault but instead that her father more than likely has them erased from his memory. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by BRATISLAVA: 3:12pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
bepositive11: Allow them to have some consolation. Women—that eeeeeeevil gender—are scheming tirelessly to bring men down and tear their homes apart. Men are innocent lambs hanging on their teats for the ride. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by muzeze77: 3:12pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
U better change your name , u are getting no support from a father who does not care for you and your mother is suffering and being a father and mother to you , I was in your shoes though I did not change my name , my kids have a different surname , Dele Alli is another example he does not use his surname , family is more than blood, if a family adopted me and raised me I will take their surname if allowed 3 Likes |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by WHITELIGHTER: 3:16pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
advanceDNA: Wisdom will not kill you |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by TenQ: 3:20pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Alexxx2000:A name can always be changed. However, the genetic information of your dad is deep within you. Be careful as you grow up to resolve not to be like your dad. Sometimes, without a strong resolve, you'll be his carbon copy. God can remake any person who desires it. Peace! |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by latolz: 3:23pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Wether he is poor or rich he will always remain your father.. Live with that.. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Kobojunkiee: 3:23pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Ihenzy:Please we need honest folks who have actually lived through this sort of thing to speak up and out! Most of the responses here are nothing but emotional drivel driven by blind culture that holds on to even the meaningless no matter what. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Cold141114(m): 3:24pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
ibechris: I want to like this million times..... 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Exceed15: 3:24pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Franzinni: Mumu talk . |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Kobojunkiee: 3:24pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
latolz:These days, even a test-tube baby has a sperm donor from out there somewhere... that does not make him a father at all. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by tunde1200(m): 3:28pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
My best advise bro. Bless you excellence44: 1 Like |
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