I was having couples conversation with my girl. And she told me that she don't want to change her last name after marriage.
She wants us to emulate Olu Jacobs and Joke Silva.

Please what are the consequences of not changing her last name..

Can you change the colour of your teeth?

You are seeing a red flag you are still asking questions,

Ok na.

If she doesn't want to change her last name nah
She doesn't want to change it nah

Women are all useless regardless of their origin

Reading all comments...

Only if her family's name is influential and reputable, that can be understandable.

If she's from Dangote, Otedola or Rochas family, there's no need to change her family name, I may even be tempted to add her family name to mine

But, if her family name no get weight and she's insisting on retaining the name, ask her, of what benefit is her family name to your marriage with her

These days people simply merge both names…
Ask her if that’s what she meant..

I take GOD beg you, go marry the one wey go gree change her last name. you are seeing red flag and you still dey ask jamb Question.

KELVINXY:
These days people simply merge both names…
Ask her if that’s what she meant..

You merge important names not some feather weight names that are inconsequential to the society.

A girl her father is still jumping okada has no right to retain her family name after marriage. That's a criminal act in a sane country.

It doesn't really matter,
just that her reasons for wanting to retain her last name is quite unintelligent.

While adopting your husband's name is like being accepted into their family and a sign of respect on the lady's part... Most people just choose maintain status quo.

Because:
1. They're an only child of their parents
2. The stress of having to re-document, i.e, swear affidavits, publish in newspapers et al... Especially for people with many professional certificates or who have already established themselves as a brand with that name

So long she doesn't force her last name on your kids, kini big deal. But I wonder if she'll have this perspective if your surname was dangote/Adeleke

If she thinks you're worth it for the long term, she wouldnt have a problem taking your last name.

A lot of modern women just want to get married briefly, have kids and then go their own way. After all she'll be able to brag that she once had a husband and she's capable of having kids.

Reasonwithme2:
I was having couples conversation with my girl. And she told me that she don't want to change her last name after marriage.
She wants us to emulate Olu Jacobs and Joke Silva.

Please what are the consequences of not changing her last name..

Tell her to marry one of her brothers, that will give her automatic way to bear the name.


Saying that is a red flag that she may not be a submissive wife

Zonefree:

You merge important names not some feather weight names that is inconsequential to the society.

No matter the family’s social status, I think some level of recognition should be given to the woman’s family too
It’s a marriage and not slavery…

KELVINXY:


No matter the family’s social status, I think some level of recognition should be given to the woman’s family too
It’s a marriage and not a slavery…

Abolish bride price first before you claim recognition.

A girl her family joined hands to buy only rechargeable fan as gift during her wedding insisting on keeping her family name is foolishness. Your family must play a vital role to your husband before he can consider you keep their name.

- You married a jobless Nigerian girl
- Set her up
- And she's insisting on keeping her family name

A family name that couldn't influence anything in the society

There is no consequence for not changing her last name except you have plans of traveling out as a couple. If you can’t deal with her holding onto her last name and she is refusing to change, this is a sign for you to take a long walk.

Fiscus105:



Tell her to marry one of her brothers, that will give her automatic way to bear the name.

Case closed!

End of discussion.

My question is why do women bear their husband name..
And please someone should not come and tell me its because they are one.

Reasonwithme2:
I was having couples conversation with my girl. And she told me that she don't want to change her last name after marriage.
She wants us to emulate Olu Jacobs and Joke Silva.

Please what are the consequences of not changing her last name..

Is her changing her last name more important to you than her being faithful and committed to the marriage?

If her refusing to change her last name is a deal breaker for you, don't bother going forward with it.

I personally didn't change my last name cause my husband thought the stress was too much and unnecessary.

You already have a document that will say you're married.

All that should matter is the commitment, love, respect and understanding that should exist to make your marriage work.

But if you no fit deal with woman wey no dey answer your name, break up now o.

E never too late.

Reasonwithme2:
I was having couples conversation with my girl. And she told me that she don't want to change her last name after marriage.
She wants us to emulate Olu Jacobs and Joke Silva.

Please what are the consequences of not changing her last name..

Do not Marry any woman who gives you conditions.
Marry a woman who is totally submissive.

She won't change so that her former banger will continue to locate her, inside life.....

Medianna:
My question is why do women bear their husband name..
And please someone should not come and tell me its because they are one.

Ask your mother why she did na

Romanoff:


Is her changing her last name more important to you thank her being faithful and committed to the marriage?

If her refusing to change her last name is a deal breaker for you, don't bother going forward with it.

I personally didn't change my last name cause my husband thought the stress was too much and unnecessary.

You already have a document that will say you're married.

All that should matter is the commitment, love, respect and understanding that should exist to make your marriage work.

But if you no fit deal with woman wey no dey answer your name, break up now o.

E never too late.

Your husband approved it... He even suggested it, that's a different ball game.

Stephen0mozzy:
It doesn't really matter,
just that her reasons for wanting to retain her last name is quite unintelligent.

While adopting your husband's name is like being accepted into their family and a sign of respect on the lady's part... Most people just choose maintain status quo.

Because:
1. They're an only child of their parents
2. The stress of having to re-document, i.e, swear affidavits, publish in newspapers et al... Especially for people with many professional certificates or who have already established themselves as a brand with that name

So long she doesn't force her last name on your kids, kini big deal. But I wonder if she'll have this perspective if your surname was dangote/Adeleke

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Reasonwithme2:
I was having couples conversation with my girl. And she told me that she don't want to change her last name after marriage.
She wants us to emulate Olu Jacobs and Joke Silva.

Please what are the consequences of not changing her last name..

Its has no implication or consequences... just have a legal marriage with documentation

Medianna:
My question is why do women bear their husband name..
And please someone should not come and tell me its because they are one.

Its technically the same reason men pay bride price

BusinessPlan22:


Your husband approved it... He even suggested it, that's a different ball game.

No one should force anyone into something they are uncomfortable with.

If he can't deal with it, let him end it now.

There are plenty wives with their husbands last name who are adulterous and give their husbands headache.

Last name is not a requirement for a happy marriage.

It’s not a big deal if she’s already gotten her Bsc, Nysc, MSc, NIN, BVN, etc

No need at all, it’s purely ceremonial. My opinion and choice

Greattestman:
Can you change the colour of your teeth?

Lol ���

Romanoff:


No one should force anyone into something they are uncomfortable with.

If he can't deal with it, let him end it now.

There are plenty wives with their husbands last name who are adulterous and give their husbands headache.

Last name is not as requirement for a happy marriage.

But a necessity... if she was getting married to Dangote or Adenuga, wudnt she change her last name... Oga, ur GF is already disrespecting u...better leave her now . So what will the kids bare?? Hrr fathers name too?? She is not a celebrity so y she comparing herself to Joke silva who was a celebrity b4 she married Olu Jacobs . Even foreigners change their last name

Reasonwithme2:
I was having couples conversation with my girl. And she told me that she don't want to change her last name after marriage.
She wants us to emulate Olu Jacobs and Joke Silva.

Please what are the consequences of not changing her last name..

Red flag

Reasonwithme2:
I was having couples conversation with my girl. And she told me that she don't want to change her last name after marriage.
She wants us to emulate Olu Jacobs and Joke Silva.

Please what are the consequences of not changing her last name..

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Change of name is a cultural and conventional thing that we have been doing a long time..its like marriage ceremony, like naming ceremony...it not a big deal.but we do it....and it doesnt matter if we dont....

but thats where the redflag lies....if its not a big deal why is she not reaching a compromise since its something you want..... if you say you dint want a marriage ceremony when she wants it...she will say u dont love her and cant give her what she desires....tell her u too will not like to follow the culture of paying bride and other thing culturally collected and hear what she will say...

some women will just be difficult to live with because they will just disagree over everything because they want to show they are feminist....

My advice is let it go but look out for other connecting redflags before you marry her......she might not just like the name change idea as an isolated issue.....
.and it might be more than name change, that she will not agree on for no reason...trust me u dont want to be married to an extreme feminist...