iLegendd:
You sound damaged and I'm supposed to ignore you, but for the sake of people reading, let me reply you.

You probably didn't go to school. If you went to school, what's the need? Read books, understand it, pass exams, and graduate. What else? Use that certificate to look for money.

If you were so smart, why didn't you avoid primary, secondary, and university and go straight to making money?

If you're a Muslim and you want to make Heaven, there are things you need to do. If you're a Christian, there are things you also need to do too. You can't just make Heaven by sitting at home and setting your own rules and abandon all ancient rules.

In the same vein, you can't make a marriage work by being weak. You must know the rules of real men and apply some of them with yours.

What I'm trying to say is: People learn something (a skill) so that it can make achieving something else easier.

With the way you sound, it's either you're from a dysfunctional home, a damaged misogynist, gay, going through depression, or you've been badly hurt by women in the past and haven't gotten over it. I'm not in the same state of mind as you, so I think differently.

Learning how to make a relationship or marriage last is a skill. In some skills in life, manipulation is part of the tool. Even in the Bible, Quran, business books, etc. Not all manipulations are bad. Some are used for good and to help the other person.

Since it's a skill, you can make money teaching this skill instead of hoping on your certificate alone.

So, my dear, you're just a bitter soul towards women. To be honest with you, it will affect your health more than it enhances it.

You don't need to like women, but don't just be bitter — it's for your own sanity.

What exactly are you ranting about?

MuslimIgbo:

What exactly are you ranting about?

You're too small to know it, so rest.

bonnyhope:


Rubbish tslk

If I was depressed like you, it would've sounded like "rubbish talk" to me too. So, you're right. Really rubbish talk.

Hhhm, I understand. But a lot of people calling other men like us a simp for loving our wife don’t just know how it feels when one is emotionally attached to one’s wife especially if kids are involved.


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There's nothing to talk about with an untrustworthy mate.

"I suspect her of cheating because few weeks ago i heard her listening to WhatsApp voice note, a chat between her and another man. I demanded to have the phone but she refused."[/quote]

She could either b cheating or u r not who u use to b or probably u r not as good as what u use to b in bed. She could also b tired of d marriage hence d need for communication. You hv to speak to her and let her know what u notice. But u hv to monitor that phone when she is bathing or somewhere. Read her WhatsApp msgs & inbox ones u see things that r suspicious screen shot it and send it quick to ur own WhatsApp for evidence and delete what U sent from ur phone.

efelicity:
I noticed a drastic change in my wife's behaviours lately. She doesn't cook, doesn't prepare our two kids for school, always citing body pains. I took the responsibility of cooking and preparing our kids. That is just by the way, she stopped having sex with me always saying she doesn't have the feelings to have sex. I suspect her of cheating because few weeks ago i heard her listening to WhatsApp voice note, a chat between her and another man. I demanded to have the phone but she refused. My wife answers calls at odd hours of the night but if i query her she would claim it's a friend or her boss at her work place. It's morethan a month when last i had sex with my wife.


I'm not harsh and I provide for my family. But my wife's behaviour ir burning me deep in my heart. I sometimes cry when alone in office or at home. Please advse me on what to do as iam pained and confused.

Swallow red pill. The oga is firing her badly. If she don tire, find your way, find another woman. Time is short, if woman tire let her go.

iLegendd:
You're too small to know it, so rest.

Or deh
Is sense paining you?
I think you have a chronic inferiority complex and a narcissist trait.
Some of you are just too demented, you think you're better, wiser, smarter and older than everyone else online on a face forum.
E - diot.

Zonefree:


That's good. I endorse your tears.

Weeping and sorrow are what makes a man amazingly SIMPle.

As stupid as you are, this is a family in disarray and your imbecility is calling him a simp. If you advice him rightly, you will die or what exactly?

A man spent a fortune to pay dowry and do things as a man, and the wife is misbehaving, other than advice him right, you are calling your father a simp, are you not mad?

Carry your frustration and go away. Idiot.

MuslimIgbo:

Or deh
Is sense paining you?
I think you have a chronic inferiority complex and a narcissist trait.
Some of you are just too demented, you think you're wiser, smarter and older than everyone else online on a face forum.
E - diot.

Rest, kid. Your mom isn't supposed to give you her phone by this time.

iLegendd:
Rest, kid. Your mom isn't supposed to give you her phone by this time.

I don't blame you, I blame the fact that smart phone and internet service that's supposed to only be available to the smart and mature people is now available to everyone, both demented, senseless and CRETIÑs like y hu.

ObamaMessi:
Women are all useless regardless of their origin.

So are you

MuslimIgbo:

I don't blame you, I blame the fact that smart phone and internet service that's supposed to only be available to the smart and mature people is now available to everyone, both demented, senseless and CRETIÑs like y hu.

Rest, Kid. You're irrelevant.

Zonefree:

There's nothing to fix again in that marriage. The earlier OP understand this, the better for his sanity.

They have kids bro.

MuslimIgbo:

Or deh
Is sense paining you?
I think you have a chronic inferiority complex and a narcissist trait.
Some of you are just too demented, you think you're better, wiser, smarter and older than everyone else online on a face forum.
E - diot.

Who is this crackedhead animal?

efelicity:
Who is this crackedhead animal?

Are you mistaken me for your father

iLegendd:
Rest, Kid. You're irrelevant.

Lol
See nonentity saying someone is irrelevant
Lmao
Who's your father? Or-deh

MuslimIgbo:

Are you mistaken me for your father

Let me let you know who I'm first before you speak: O.bamaMessi

@op the signs are clear.you already suspected her.even when a woman stop having sex wit you for no reasons means she is FUCKING outside.No need to cry.Are you not a MAN.You be COWARD.why cry.The best tin to do is trow hwr out of ur house.You are the man you have be in control before she bring in a BASTARD into ur house claim you are the FATHER even when you no they Bleep the BITCH.Since she has made herself a BITCH to another quietly trow her out.Simple as ABC.A woman cannot be in my house doesnt obey me, Bleep OUSTSIDE, DOESNT DO HOUSE WORK, COME HOME ANYTIME, I STILL FEED HER, SHE MISBEHAVE.That BULLSHIT.Let the IDIOT MAN FUCKING her take her responsibilty simple as ABC you see were ur wife is so STUPID.Now buckle up, take a girl outside Bleep her make sure you use protection.reapeat protection because ur USELESS WIFE cause all these.you cant kill ursef because of a PROSTITUTE, PUBLIC DOG, WOMAN MEANT FOR THE STREET, A WOMAN IN HUSBAND HOUSE SLEEP AROUND HAS NO SHAME IS WHAT (HOE).She deserve to be place in were she belongs.she belongs to the STREET let her go there.You have ur life to live.Dont kill ursef because of a USELESS WOMAN.A woman that refuses to obey her husband ends up in a bad way.end up to be a PROSTITUTE.So many women send men to early grave.Use ur head before too late.Who quote me saying truth hug transformer.

efelicity:
Let me let you know who I'm first before you speak: O.bamaMessi

Go f**k yourself
Ho low
Ree buu ruu kuu

I feel your pain, maybe you should consult someone for counselling in order for u to manage your marriage. It is not good to see shege, may God provide solution for u.

MuslimIgbo:
Go f**k yourself Ho low Ree buu ruu kuu

Do you really know you are messing up big time?

MuslimIgbo:

Lol
See nonentity saying someone is irrelevant
Lmao
Who's your father? Or-deh

Kid, rest na. Your body too dey hot. Take this evening and learn how to punctuate your sentence or statement. Focus on your studies, not Internet war.

My last reply to you. I won't read or dignify you with a reply ever again.

Bye, and stay blessed.

iLegendd:
If I was depressed like you, it would've sounded like "rubbish talk" to me too. So, you're right. Really rubbish talk.

Rubbish talk

ObamaMessi:
Women are all useless regardless of their origin.

Including your mum,sister, aunts and female cousins.

Remember, you said "ALL" Women.

efelicity:
I noticed a drastic change in my wife's behaviours lately. She doesn't cook, doesn't prepare our two kids for school, always citing body pains. I took the responsibility of cooking and preparing our kids. That is just by the way, she stopped having sex with me always saying she doesn't have the feelings to have sex. I suspect her of cheating because few weeks ago i heard her listening to WhatsApp voice note, a chat between her and another man. I demanded to have the phone but she refused. My wife answers calls at odd hours of the night but if i query her she would claim it's a friend or her boss at her work place. It's morethan a month when last i had sex with my wife.


I'm not harsh and I provide for my family. But my wife's behaviour ir burning me deep in my heart. I sometimes cry when alone in office or at home. Please advse me on what to do as iam pained and confused.

SIT your wife down talk to her , communication is key to every relationship. m

franchasofficia:
For any marriage to work, the woman must love the man more than the man loves her.



Any man that marries a woman he loves more than she loves him is on a very long thing.



Na women de uphold marriage not man

I can't but agree more at bolded.

Everything she does for you will be from a place of genuine love and care...Which motivates the man more.

efelicity:
I noticed a drastic change in my wife's behaviours lately. She doesn't cook, doesn't prepare our two kids for school, always citing body pains. I took the responsibility of cooking and preparing our kids. That is just by the way, she stopped having sex with me always saying she doesn't have the feelings to have sex. I suspect her of cheating because few weeks ago i heard her listening to WhatsApp voice note, a chat between her and another man. I demanded to have the phone but she refused. My wife answers calls at odd hours of the night but if i query her she would claim it's a friend or her boss at her work place. It's morethan a month when last i had sex with my wife.


I'm not harsh and I provide for my family. But my wife's behaviour ir burning me deep in my heart. I sometimes cry when alone in office or at home. Please advse me on what to do as iam pained and confused.

Get another wife... don't kill urself over a woman... if you kpai. ...in less than two months she will be married... since ur instinct tells you she is cheating... she is Def cheating.... I love you no more isn't a crime.... if you can't revive the love, let her go, get another companion ...this life no hard

Albertone:


If he could figure it, he won't be here seeking for help.

Then he's not man enough to go into marriage

There is high chances she already cheating based on your explanations.
Invite a third party she respect to intervene.

This is the highest deception devil can drag a woman into, to be in a husband's house and still being fvck by another man!!!

Well, friends may advice , society may see it as normal but a woman that dares to enjoy the full benefit of what is called GLORY dares not.

There's no issue in any marriage that can not be resolved, but if it gravitated to having sex outside marriage, the crack is at full-blown moon.

Husbands and wives owe each other Love and submission, the two had to be understand from the context of marriage. Nothing works in marriage when these two are neglected.

May God never give us a wife, that would find another man appealing while in marriage. It kills destiny

Please don't listen to those saying rubbish up there , marriage is difficult to handle , and communication is the key to every relationship , your wife is not an animal or one of your electronics that you bought , your wife has feeling just like you do, sit her down , talk to her , try to find out what her problems are, it might be that she is over stressed at work , or she is passing through some emotional trumer , after talking to her and the issue continues look for an elderly person that she can listen to in her family , complain to him or her about what you are passing through , that elder person will help you talk to your wife , if her mother is still alive complain to her , she will help you. AND please dont assume that she is cheatiing on you , try to gather enough evidence before you kill yourself because of suspecious move.

Honestly, the way you guys carry seex matter is becoming alarming....you said she complained of body pains, not caring for the children or doing house chores. Have you thought of encouraging her to see a doctor instead of suspecting her of cheating? Madam may be coming down with something fa....