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mmyfarmsltd:
Guy calm down, I've not had sex with my wife for over a year and 5months yet our 5th years anniversary is around the corner.
If you suspect her of cheating please confirm red-handed before accusing her.
I think you're worrying too much, nothing is worth your tears. Move on if you must move on.

No prioritize woman oh, no carry Dem for head. Know this and know peace.

1year 5 months??
Why...

It can't happen in my house. I can tolerate body pains and tend for the kids and kitchen needs since it's no big deal...but you dare not deprive me of the marriage right.

She no give you sex for 1month you dey shout, what of 1year six months. With taking care of the children. Baba just get more money and find a new girl for your life. This life is too short to endure woman matter.

efelicity:
I noticed a drastic change in my wife's behaviours lately. She doesn't cook, doesn't prepare our two kids for school, always citing body pains. I took the responsibility of cooking and preparing our kids. That is just by the way, she stopped having sex with me always saying she doesn't have the feelings to have sex. I suspect her of cheating because few weeks ago i heard her listening to WhatsApp voice note, a chat between her and another man. I demanded to have the phone but she refused. My wife answers calls at odd hours of the night but if i query her she would claim it's a friend or her boss at her work place. It's morethan a month when last i had sex with my wife.


I'm not harsh and I provide for my family. But my wife's behaviour ir burning me deep in my heart. I sometimes cry when alone in office or at home. Please advse me on what to do as iam pained and confused.

Marriage is not for everybody, if you are weak in character as a man, it may not be advisable that you marry.
You noticed those calls and you are still in under the same roof with your wife? If she wouldn't leave, you should have left. She have assessed you over time and noticed your weakness.
Note. Strength is not being physically violent, it's about having principles, red lines and showing that you can't be blackmailed and tied down by anything.

My brother, she had lost interest in you. The earlier you act and do the needful the better for you. I can bet you that she's been shag by someone in her office. Put yourself together and send her out of your house, before she kill you before your time.

efelicity:
I noticed a drastic change in my wife's behaviours lately. She doesn't cook, doesn't prepare our two kids for school, always citing body pains. I took the responsibility of cooking and preparing our kids. That is just by the way, she stopped having sex with me always saying she doesn't have the feelings to have sex. I suspect her of cheating because few weeks ago i heard her listening to WhatsApp voice note, a chat between her and another man. I demanded to have the phone but she refused. My wife answers calls at odd hours of the night but if i query her she would claim it's a friend or her boss at her work place. It's morethan a month when last i had sex with my wife.


I'm not harsh and I provide for my family. But my wife's behaviour ir burning me deep in my heart. I sometimes cry when alone in office or at home. Please advse me on what to do as iam pained and confused.

Oga, stop this. I don't want to be angry with you.

You have two kids just like me. Those kids need you more than anything else.

Your true happiness lies in you and the kids.

A woman that is your wife today could be another man's wife tomorrow, especially when you are no more....vice versa.

Do not take life for granted.

If na sex be the issue, women don finish for outside?

HeadNigga:
She is cheating. You have one option which is to throw her out(divorce). Her eyes go clear when the man deceiving her refuses to come take charge openly as her man.

Two bad options

Start getting sex elsewhere too but do it with protection so that when her madness stops you don't infect her with a disease you contracted while playing away matches. I hope the man is not digging her raw though coz in her case she will not only bring back a deadly disease but a bastard too.


The last option which is not an option is to endure coz you have endured enough from what I read. Endure cheating? Hell no. Man up

What are you saying?

What he should do is find proof that she's been cheating on him and kick her out.

Wetin you dey talk sef.... Mtchewww.

swarley75:
This your opinion will only ginger some women the more, a few married women i have as friends always say that as long as their husband is dropng money for food they dont care if he keeps malice with them for a year. Them go say if he is tired he will come and beg them. How will you feel as man if you are dropping at home yet your wife is sleeping around and she doesn't allow to sleep with her?

As a man you need to take charge of your household or your relationship.

Slynation na fool

Be like na your wife be the husband while you’re the wife o

You think been married is a recipe, for sexual rendezvous on tap ............

Your main issue seems to be the denied banging routine........ This is the simplest of your issues......

Suspected infidelity, is your main problem......... Spend your time investigating this ........

satandeterrible:
Slynation na fool

A very big one for that matter...

Majesty33:
how do u apply for WhatsApp spy,plsss enlighten me on this.

On social media like IG

But i av someone that does it

Chat me up on WhatsApp
I can't connect u up to him
Infact it's is instant
You just need just a single second to press something on your wife phon when it's pop up even if her phone was on lock

09032090847

HeadNigga:
She is cheating. You have one option which is to throw her out(divorce). Her eyes go clear when the man deceiving her refuses to come take charge openly as her man.

Two bad options

Start getting sex elsewhere too but do it with protection so that when her madness stops you don't infect her with a disease you contracted while playing away matches. I hope the man is not digging her raw though coz in her case she will not only bring back a deadly disease but a bastard too.


The last option which is not an option is to endure coz you have endured enough from what I read. Endure cheating? Hell no. Man up

na so.no allow congi kill u.go to olosho and pay for ure service.na chop and clean mouth.u don't need a side chick so that u won't fall in love again with another woman and destroy ure childrens future.

wany:
Is this how your dad handle your mum , what if you tear her slap and she in turn slit your throat, common sense is really far from you

Coming from a fool whose Father always beats your mother. I don't blame you, I blame the foolish men that endure rubbish from women all in the name of marriage or relationship

ObamaMessi:
fman Pyyxxaro Gromilla010 you guys are stupid animals.

Victor no dey mention me
Any how!!
I no be ya mate: age wise!!
U gat to respect that!!
We are here to learn and share views..
Not to dey show ourselves carelessly!!
As u don cast, me I never cast and I don't want to be associated with casted people..
Pls let's maintain the difference and respect our boundaries!!

Munzy14:
I can't but agree more at bolded.

Everything she does for you will be from a place of genuine love and care...Which motivates the man more.

I disagree, a man should love his wife more so that he wont cheat and elop with another lady. Men always dissapoint and punish the women that loves them more

Slynation:
Perhaps you don't understand what I said earlier, how can you be ghosting someone and still drop money for food... I mean she's just like a mannequin in that house!!

Oh! I misread your post. But still, it a dangerous game you are playing. You need to be very ruthless to beat a woman at her game. Just send her out your house or you escalate things by reporting her to both your family and hers. Good luck dealing with her

swarley75:
Oh! I misread your post. But still, it a dangerous game you are playing. You need to be very ruthless to beat a woman at her game. Just send her out your house or you escalate things by reporting her to both your family and hers. Good luck dealing with her

As a man, I will never report my wife to any family members when I know the right thing to do, it make you a princess and a weakling... still habouring her is even because I don't have any evidence of unfaithfulness, so until then, she will be leaving rent free in isolation under my roof...

Ife Nwoke ge me diya n'obi...

Bro, i feel sorry for you because your experience is a very difficult one and you need to be very careful in handling it because it may make or destroy you completely. Women and marriage is most difficult venture, it require absolute maturity, patient and perseverance.
I am also going through same experience right now but the difference is that she is still fulfulling her domestic choice but it has bn over 12months we had sex last. I have tried every solution including welfare yet nothing has improved then finally i discovered that where my strength could not carry me, faith begins and complete trust in God's power and grace becomes the ultimate way out. My candid advice is, result into prayer, be patient, love her more and i promise u one day she will reliase her mistake and her love for u will know no bound. I will equally be praying for u also. For my case my wife has started changing gradually and i am believing God she will soon change completely thou we have not started having sex togther.

fman:
Victor no dey mention me
Any how!!
I no be ya mate: age wise!!
U gat to respect that!!
We are here to learn and share views..
Not to dey show ourselves carelessly!!
As u don cast, me I never cast and I don't want to be associated with casted people..
Pls let's maintain the difference and respect our boundaries!!

You must be very stupid for this dumb statement. When I was ignoring u, u went about trolling and mentioning me everywhere. Now that I've ur time u are busy begging for respect. Be warned and never respond whenever i troll u, that way I will be able to consider your request.

ObamaMessi:
Women are all useless regardless of their origin.

Do you have a mother and Sister? are they women? That's means they are included

Okay, how can we help you weak man?

WatchYourSix:
1year 5 months??
Why...

I doubt his manhood is okay

And you'll be comfortable eating the food of a scorned woman you're physically abusing, your days are numbered, WOW see advice, slave mentality

swarley75:
All this for a cheating wife?

These are clearly the signs of a cheating woman as started by the OP.



My own advice is you need to take charge of the marriage by instilling fear in her mind, you can only do this by beating to stupor. You can ask her to cook one day if she refuses then use that opportunity to tear her one big heavy slap.



See if a woman doesn't fear you, she can't respect and if she doesn't respect you she can't love you.

ObamaMessi:
You must be very stupid for this dumb statement. When I was ignoring u, u went about trolling and mentioning me everywhere. Now that I've ur time u are busy begging for respect. Be warned and never respond whenever i troll u, that way I will be able to consider your request.

Mentioning u everywhere?
How?
Are you fighting with inferiority complex?
That's what jukuns say about kuteb.
Classless mofo.
Oti ya werey
Talo mo iyalaya e!!

efelicity:
I noticed a drastic change in my wife's behaviours lately. She doesn't cook, doesn't prepare our two kids for school, always citing body pains. I took the responsibility of cooking and preparing our kids. That is just by the way, she stopped having sex with me always saying she doesn't have the feelings to have sex. I suspect her of cheating because few weeks ago i heard her listening to WhatsApp voice note, a chat between her and another man. I demanded to have the phone but she refused. My wife answers calls at odd hours of the night but if i query her she would claim it's a friend or her boss at her work place. It's morethan a month when last i had sex with my wife.


I'm not harsh and I provide for my family. But my wife's behaviour ir burning me deep in my heart. I sometimes cry when alone in office or at home. Please advse me on what to do as iam pained and confused.

Sarasu

I read comments here and I laugh. A lot of people typing like kids that just grad from high school. I won't be suprised if majority aren't into any relationship talk more of being married. Comments are funny but not helpful or realistic. I don't have an advice for you OP!

fman:
Mentioning u everywhere? How? Are you fighting with inferiority complex? That's what jukuns say about kuteb. Classless mofo. Oti ya werey Talo mo iyalaya e!!

Comment by an animal begging for respect. you will answer those questions yourself by the time I handle your ass.

ObamaMessi:
Comment by an animal begging for respect.
you will answer those questions yourself by the time I handle your ass.

I command respect
From all indication and perspective
I have come to realize that you don't worth a dime!!
This will be the last time I will quote u!
I gat better and more realistic people here on nairaland to quote!!

Rozross:
I disagree, a man should love his wife more so that he wont cheat and elop with another lady. Men always dissapoint and punish the women that loves them more

Emphasis on who loves more.

From experience, best relationship is the one the lady loved more..The man gets the King treatment and in turn reciprocate with a Queen treatment for her.

Worst mistake any man will do, is settling with a woman he forced to love him..E go choke or ticket go cut like Arsenal when you expect more from them..

Despite the male ego, we value the love you ladies show us..The special treatments are part of what we discussed over chilled drinks on hangout.

It's fun when a guy tells his fellow guys, this thing, my woman bought it for me or some special treats.

But, we won't tell you all this in your face, make your head no swell up.

fman:
I command respect
From all indication and perspective
I have come to realize that you don't worth a dime!!
This will be the last time I will quote u!
I gat better and more realistic people here on nairaland to quote!!

To hell with you and your imaginary nairalanders. Iswear to Almighty God you are a SIMPle mestruation that deserves no sh!t.

FaithBrain1994:
I doubt his manhood is okay

No talk so..

..if woman frustrate you...e go reach one level u will stop trying to make peace......u go just leave am for her corner