₦airaland Forum

Marvyx:
Parents have been married for 33 years and they have different bedrooms because mum's things need 1 bedroom to itself. She goes to my dad's bedroom some nights and my dad goes to her own some nights, my dad prays loudly at night but mumsy prays quietly hence the need for different bedrooms.

Assumptions and generalisations are bad.

They’ve been living together in silent resentment to each other but you don’t know

NoToPile:
Nawa oo
Complaint about everything.

If baby's crib is inside couples room wahala, if baby is in another room and mummy goes to attend to baby double wahala.

God will help us o

I have told my wife to be that will not be sleeping in same bed all the time if Gid give our own house with rooms

Omo I don't believe this, In some part of the state, the woman don't sleep in her husband's room, unless her husband wants her.

I like research alot...I prefer separate romms

Ilekokonit:
Once husband and wife sleep in different beds or in different rooms, the marriage is almost over and may not last for very long

Husband and wife have no business sleeping in different beds or in different rooms.

The excuse some women give is that they are nursing a baby who must breast feed through the night and thats a fair point but at some point, the baby will stop feeding on breast milk and at that point, the baby can go and sleep in his or her cot and not in the parents marital bed and after some time he or she or they if twins have to go and sleep in their own room and let Mum and Dad have the needed private time so that they can bond if their young marriage is to survive long after their children have left home (which they will someday).

But the mistake a lot of women make is to over prioritize their time with their baby / toddler to the detriment of their marriage. Why go into a marriage when at the first sign of a baby, the wife imports the baby permanently into her marital bed under the guise of breastfeeding and in some cases even when the child is more than 3 years old, he or she is still sleeping beside the mum at night and often times the man has been stylishly shunted to sleeping in another room and even if chairman wan nack during the day, the 3 year old child is furiously banging on the door for the parents to open the door because the child has been made to always feel he or she has to be beside the Mum.

But wives who want their marriage to last will know where to draw the line and give unto Caesar what is Caesar's in a TIMELY manner.

A word is enough for the wise woman who wants her marriage to last way past when the kids will have left home to start their own families.

I beg to differ. Staying in separate bed /room strengthen the relationship.

Sex becomes more enjoyable

Not always true.
My grandad and his wives lived in separate quarters; they lived together till death separated them.
I know of couples that maintain separate room and they are okay with the arrangement.
So it's not just black and white.
Couples living in the same room wasn't always the zeitgeist.

Jemex003:
I don’t believe in your write-up cuz I sleep in different room except if I have a bad dream whenever I watched horror movies that’s the only time I ran to my wife room or when I wan do night vigil. Marriage base on trust and understanding cuz you might be sleeping in the same bed and you will still be having issue.

You no get shame at all I swear

Fiscus105:
In ur own way abi?


Some marriages last mainly because they sleep in different room.


I av seen a couple who were always fighting then wen they were under the same room, after some time, hubby rented room outside and normally come home every weekend, ever since they their marriage experience sweetness.

That's not a marriage o.

I was born and find my parent having separate rooms and they just celebrate 53years of marriage last year.. say what u know young man

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What if I just want to enjoy my own space

Ilekokonit:
Once husband and wife sleep in different beds or in different rooms, the marriage is almost over and may not last for very long

Husband and wife have no business sleeping in different beds or in different rooms.

The excuse some women give is that they are nursing a baby who must breast feed through the night and thats a fair point but at some point, the baby will stop feeding on breast milk and at that point, the baby can go and sleep in his or her cot and not in the parents marital bed and after some time he or she or they if twins have to go and sleep in their own room and let Mum and Dad have the needed private time so that they can bond if their young marriage is to survive long after their children have left home (which they will someday).

But the mistake a lot of women make is to over prioritize their time with their baby / toddler to the detriment of their marriage. Why go into a marriage when at the first sign of a baby, the wife imports the baby permanently into her marital bed under the guise of breastfeeding and in some cases even when the child is more than 3 years old, he or she is still sleeping beside the mum at night and often times the man has been stylishly shunted to sleeping in another room and even if chairman wan nack during the day, the 3 year old child is furiously banging on the door for the parents to open the door because the child has been made to always feel he or she has to be beside the Mum.

But wives who want their marriage to last will know where to draw the line and give unto Caesar what is Caesar's in a TIMELY manner.

A word is enough for the wise woman who wants her marriage to last way past when the kids will have left home to start their own families.

For me, I support separate rooms.

Romanoff:
This is not true.

There is no manual for a happy marriage asides love your wife, submit to your husband and don't commit adultery.

Your sleeping arrangements or change of name or who does the chores and pays the bills or who cares for the children is totally up to the couple.

No use how you think say marriage spos be to dey judge other people marriage.

trash

Only simple men bang their wives based on opportunity. Alpha males bang by creating the time and opportunity. Banging is a marital duty that has to be fulfilled time, no excuse!

There is over generalization in your submission.

The only thing that is valid in your submission is that couples should not allow arrivals of children to affect their alone times.

The 2 of them have to make the effort that's why communication is very important.

Wetin be this please

Fiscus105:
In ur own way abi?


Some marriages last mainly because they sleep in different room.


I av seen a couple who were always fighting then wen they were under the same room, after some time, hubby rented room outside and normally come home every weekend, ever since they their marriage experience sweetness.

OP opinion though....
I sleep in a separate room while my wife sleep in another.
We have never shared same bed right from the start. After every every, everybody goes back to his or her room.

KennethEnyi:
They’ve been living together in silent resentment to each other but you don’t know

Please be quiet. Are you in their home to know this? Someone just said his parents have a lovely marriage and you are here insinuating rubbish.

Some of you nairalanders can be so annoying and irritating. Pathetic.

P/S - reply negatively at your own peril.

I prefer to sleep alone in d parlour cuz I watch documentaries and crime stories till I sleep na my wife they come off tele around 2am for night..I hate movies and drama..I only do documentaries and man city games..thanks..there is nothing wrong with our marraige

Personally I don't support this believe and I can't be attached with someone for too long, see finish will get involve, imagine waking up and seeing someone sleeping beside you, I don't like that shit, aside from that I used to cherish my space, I need alone time and I also love boundaries.
Moreover most of our ancestors don't do this shit, their wife's always had their separate rooms. One thing to learn from those folks esp those spiritual traditional deep rooted men is that they avoid been in contact with women during their menstrual cycle, because it affects their source of power, imagine living in same room at that period it doesn't looks good.
So it's reasonable to live separately.

Jemex003:
I don’t believe in your write-up cuz I sleep in different room except if I have a bad dream whenever I watched horror movies that’s the only time I ran to my wife room or when I wan do night vigil. Marriage base on trust and understanding cuz you might be sleeping in the same bed and you will still be having issue.

Wait!!!!
So if you dey fear na your wife room you dey run go hide from ojuju.
Haba bros!!! Man up na. Wetin go make me fear, I no go even allow my wife see yam. She go faint be dat.

Lies from the pit of hell. I've been married for 16 years now, I'm sleeping in my own bed. I love my wife, no issues from either side. My phone's password is known to kids and wifey

Marriage counsellors have started again

I have seen marraiges where husband and wife sleep on the same bed but once oga leave for work .oga best friend who is a neigbour knack yoga's wife on the same bed infact they dont even change the bedspread for weeks..very dirty woman then

Ilekokonit:
Once husband and wife sleep in different beds or in different rooms, the marriage is almost over and may not last for very long

Husband and wife have no business sleeping in different beds or in different rooms.

The excuse some women give is that they are nursing a baby who must breast feed through the night and thats a fair point but at some point, the baby will stop feeding on breast milk and at that point, the baby can go and sleep in his or her cot and not in the parents marital bed and after some time he or she or they if twins have to go and sleep in their own room and let Mum and Dad have the needed private time so that they can bond if their young marriage is to survive long after their children have left home (which they will someday).

But the mistake a lot of women make is to over prioritize their time with their baby / toddler to the detriment of their marriage. Why go into a marriage when at the first sign of a baby, the wife imports the baby permanently into her marital bed under the guise of breastfeeding and in some cases even when the child is more than 3 years old, he or she is still sleeping beside the mum at night and often times the man has been stylishly shunted to sleeping in another room and even if chairman wan nack during the day, the 3 year old child is furiously banging on the door for the parents to open the door because the child has been made to always feel he or she has to be beside the Mum.

But wives who want their marriage to last will know where to draw the line and give unto Caesar what is Caesar's in a TIMELY manner.

A word is enough for the wise woman who wants her marriage to last way past when the kids will have left home to start their own families.

...Some of you can type rubbish just to form knowledgeable meanwhile nothing dey upstairs....I know a couple that have not been sleeping together for years ,and yet they're extremely close..

Ilekokonit:
Once husband and wife sleep in different beds or in different rooms, the marriage is almost over and may not last for very long

Husband and wife have no business sleeping in different beds or in different rooms.

The excuse some women give is that they are nursing a baby who must breast feed through the night and thats a fair point but at some point, the baby will stop feeding on breast milk and at that point, the baby can go and sleep in his or her cot and not in the parents marital bed and after some time he or she or they if twins have to go and sleep in their own room and let Mum and Dad have the needed private time so that they can bond if their young marriage is to survive long after their children have left home (which they will someday).

But the mistake a lot of women make is to over prioritize their time with their baby / toddler to the detriment of their marriage. Why go into a marriage when at the first sign of a baby, the wife imports the baby permanently into her marital bed under the guise of breastfeeding and in some cases even when the child is more than 3 years old, he or she is still sleeping beside the mum at night and often times the man has been stylishly shunted to sleeping in another room and even if chairman wan nack during the day, the 3 year old child is furiously banging on the door for the parents to open the door because the child has been made to always feel he or she has to be beside the Mum.

But wives who want their marriage to last will know where to draw the line and give unto Caesar what is Caesar's in a TIMELY manner.

A word is enough for the wise woman who wants her marriage to last way past when the kids will have left home to start their own families.

it's not true, I have my own room and she has her own.

Aareakinwunmi:
Am a fan of separate rooms. it can benefit quality of sleep.One may snore or have restless legs syndrome and the other sleep is disrupted.

See my fellow Jackie Chan for sleep. Who ever shares bed with me suffers. I dey kick for state, turn anyhow like barber chair... Pray God gives me a wife that can endure this

I'm sure the poster is not married yet

kelvine:
This is correct, marriage is about togetherness in bed also

yes and for you guys that don’t like sleeping on bed we are coming to join you on the floor next time

Hmmm.
If only you know warrai mean by.
Hmmmmm

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If only you knew

This is not true
Everyone can be the same
Some people do things the way they want it and how they want it
I have see couple who has separate room and they are cool together either body sweet them or not

POV. The woman is that kind of person who like privacy(not secret privacy oo) someone who want her room to be always look neat and clean, she doesn't even allow someone else to clean her room except mopping the floor