Tokskob2008:
While peace of mind is very important so is reading and writing too, there are adult classes everywhere now so there shouldn't be excuse as to why the person can't read and write.

Let me respond to this, it resonates with my view. You can help a wife who's not learned to read and write but I doubt if there's any help for one that can't guarantee peace of mind for the husband. Lack of peace from a woman is all about upbringing, some twenty or more years ago. You can't teach that any longer, it's too late. For knowledge? You can learn that at age 70 or even older. Whatever makes a woman gives you a peaceful life is internal and huge, same with the one that is a trouble shooter, huge and internal too. Both can't be unlearned. Only God's spirit can help the latter. So make your choice.

VictorUSA:
How can someone who cannot read and write give you peace of mind in this 21st century?

Wisdom is beyond read and write.

Zee0007:
I was having a conversation with a friend and he said, " he cannot marry someone who doesn't know how to read or write.

Can you?

anybody with a good character, good personality and smart in thinking can always learn anything if given the opportunity.

I don't look down on anybody cos u don't know their story, she may not have had the opportunity others had and that won't be her fault.

When it's comes to marriage she must posses the right qualities and reading and writing can be learnt. there are white ladies who can't speak or write English bt are intelligent, exposed and wife materials.

Can she communicate properly and adapt quickly in any environment. is she a good or fast learner?

No

Chnbanc:
I gat you by the balls!!
that was why you rushed to defend and cover up ya lapses.
You just proved that to get phone number from you no hard!!
And you a random girl for random men
Yet you come on nairaland
And be bashing men and forming woke feminist!!
Breeze don blow!!
And we don see fowl yansh!

you dey mind the mumu Siofra? lonely bitter soul that's always blaming men for her misfortunes, same men she randomly gives her contact to, probably begs for urgent 2k, then comes online to salvage what's left of her valueless ego, if that even counts for anything...

It's hard. Just imagine that one day your spouse will sign your death warrant.

Slynation:
I want a woman that I would be very proud of and not one that I will manage for a lifetime...

That's correct, I remember during PTA and other award giving party my Elder sis used to be the one to stand in place of my mother cuz she really din go to school and can't speak fluently

But that doesn't mean I don't love my mother but tbh myself would only marry a woman I will be proud off in public

If you truly love her, you can be with her and brush her up educationally instead of those vipers with sound education.

oscaruzie:


you dey mind the mumu Siofra? lonely bitter soul that's always blaming men for her misfortunes, same men she randomly gives her contact to, probably begs for urgent 2k, then comes online to salvage what's left of her valueless ego, if that even counts for anything...

Me, beg for urgent 2k??

God forbid! That's the one thing I'll never do in my life.

*Spits


But I can beg for urgent 5k though

Never!!!!
I will marry a girl with Masters's degree. I can't settle for less.

If she's willing to learn, which is part of the peace of mind, go ahead. Don't underestimate the value of a good heart.

Pholadime:
If you truly love her, you can be with her and brush her up educationally instead of those vipers with sound education.

You know what's good, friend.

Uh, no. Who in this day and age can't read or write. Even market women I know can read and write. The only people that may be unable to do so are old people or some disabled ones. The questions we should be asking is can I marry someone that has zero computer literacy. Then we talk.

Zee0007:
I was having a conversation with a friend and he said, " he cannot marry someone who doesn't know how to read or write.

Can you?

you see that peace of mind u mentioned, it is worth more than 30 beautiful and educated women with millions of Naira. As a matter of fact it is priceless.
Wait till u don't have it you will understand.

seanwilliam:
most professors, docs , engineers today were brought up by illiterate parents . Don’t undervalue peace of mind o.
As a man , the most important things to you are peace of mind and money

The dream of most parents is for their children to be better than them. The love parents have for their children isn't based on chemistry.
For a successful marriage to happen, people must be bound together with one heart and mind. If you choose the wrong person, that may be the beginning of your doom.
I could never have had peace of mind with someone who cannot read or write. There's no way we can operate at the same frequency, so that emotional bond would never be formed.

Depends on your choice.. you can still get someone that can read and write and still give you peace of mind.

As long as i can read and write myself, no qualms..

One of my ex wives cannot read, spell or write very well. But she is a good woman. Lives with my daughter in Miami.

I came late, the Truth is that someone who can not read or write can never give u peace of mind. Know this and have peace of mind

Chnbanc:
I gat you by the balls!!
that was why you rushed to defend and cover up ya lapses.
You just proved that to get phone number from you no hard!!
And you a random girl for random men
Yet you come on nairaland
And be bashing men and forming woke feminist!!
Breeze don blow!!
And we don see fowl yansh!

You mean she is an Olosho?

Zee0007:
I was having a conversation with a friend and he said, " he cannot marry someone who doesn't know how to read or write.

Can you?

Did u marry to read and write for u? Do you publish news or what

So you mean
In this era

Someone that can’t read small English
Or even text me on phone or type phone

I no do na babu you one marry ni

Someone that can’t read for God said and can’t write her name correct
How do you want to understand he or she

Chnbanc:
maybe cos u r quick to give out your number cheaply to strange men.
Give your contact number a worth and value !!

Correct, she obviously has met 90% of nigerian men. From her admission.

siofra:


Me, beg for urgent 2k??

God forbid! That's the one thing I'll never do in my life.

*Spits


But I can beg for urgent 5k though

lol. so you actually accept and admit to being a bitter soul, always lashing out at men...nice.
okay, seems you're a bit humble today.
you need 5k yeah?
send me a pm.

siofra:
90% of Nigerian men type like this and I can't stand it.

It's annoying, reading chats like this.

You have met 90% of naigerian men? Chai! that is like 200 million men.. your hole will be like atlantice oceeeaaaan!

VictorUSA:
How can someone who cannot read and write give you peace of mind in this 21st century?

Yes surely to you can have peace of mind, the person won't be eager to read ur msg cos he or she cannot read, you can bring home ur bank statement and drop it anywhere, without fear. In essence ur phone, letters from bank and so many other things will be drop Care free. This is peace mind. we all need it without looking at our back

Chnbanc:
I gat you by the balls!!
that was why you rushed to defend and cover up ya lapses.
You just proved that to get phone number from you no hard!!
And you a random girl for random men
Yet you come on nairaland
And be bashing men and forming woke feminist!!
Breeze don blow!!
And we don see fowl yansh!

Hahaha FATALITY. You have destroyed that cheap olosho.

Men who have experience hell in the hands of their wives wouldn't mind the option if he wants to marry.

A capital no. I have my kids to think of

Elon Musk cannot read and write, he just pays people to do it for him.

Even ugly join sef. I know what am saying.

Parachoko:
Yes

I will pay a teacher to teach her how to read and write.

People underestimate the importance of Peace Of Mind a lot.

Better still employ her a Very Good Male Maths Teacher.
You may then realise the importance of peace of mind. Mind you, You go collect lesson Teacher for the kids cause "mummy doesn't know it"