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Coinwarrior:
I am very unlucky to have good girls that can make good wife.The one I currently have is so ill-mannered,ungrateful,sultry,snaky and cunny.
Pls I need suggestions of where to find good girls that can be made good wife.Help a frustrated cool headed guy with heart and heart of Gold.

LostMyZeal:
She exists. Though I've only met one that year

Funny you can't even vouch for yourself to be one

Coinwarrior:
when i met this young girl,she was homely and well reserved and she loved me then.I told all my pastors about 9 pastors to help me prayed on her with about six names to make the total names I gave to them be 7 girls.All the pastors prayed on it and they all singled out this girl that is the lord’s choice. Her parent also prayed too on their side by given my name with other 5 names to their pastors and they all prayed and their pastors singled me out that I am the lord’s choice for their daughter.And this is what further made us to get married and we got married in 2020 after we did introduction by 2019 august.All through the time we were dating i love the girl and the girl loved me too and the girl has been good and faithful to me.But i ran into a discovery about my wife then why we were on the road.when we wanted to start the relationship i asked her a question that is she in a relationship currently at that time and she said she was not into any and that the one she was b4 went into water.ok I accepted to her.But one day she was sick and I was away I then called her to know her health condition and one guy picked her call and I was shocked and asked her who was he? And he said he was his boyfriend and I said boyfriend but she never told me she was in any relationship when i met her but out of my genuine love to my wife I just told the guy to not attack her becos she was still ill.Then later when she was totally ok.I sat her down and asked her who was that guy and why couldn’t she tell me the truth then.she then begged me and said she had broken up with him at that time i met her and it was her own friend that advised her not to tell me about it.And when I did my background check I saw that she was not with that guy again because she caught him having sex with her junior.But the guy kept pestering her and begging.Then later on her sister and mother called me that they really want to see me then and it was from there I further confirmed that my wife just finished dating that guy then b4 she broke up with her after she discovered his sexcapade with other younger girls.what do i want to bring out from this narration is dawned on not being totally sincere with me. I caught her there.Another area i caught her lying was when i returned from traveling and saw a new phone in my wife hand then and when i asked her she told me her dad bought it for her but i knew soonest they truth would be revealed.in the course of our relationship then I got to discovered that the old guy that she had broken up with bought her the phone then and her aunty later advised her to return the phone back when it was obvious she would marry me when the spiritual findings of their pastors came out,i overheard her aunty telling her on phone.And when i confronted her she later lied that she didn’t tell me that her father got her the phone.she said the guy gave her the phone as part of his begging to come back.That is lie no 2 I forgave her cos of my love and warned her but the guy was pained that he was unable to sleep with her when they were courting then because my wife was telling him then to wait till their wedding night because i read their long time chat they had on Facebook why they were together then.So when we eventually married...going forward i saw my wife randomly chatting guys with whom they went to secondary school with and some guys that once toasted her and i told her to stop that when she is now married.Even her pastor called her and warned her to never anything to do with those old guys again when she is now married.But one day i just checked my wife contact and I saw a particular number she saved with *Gabriel my first mistake* I was curious what that could mean.And my wife telling me she never had sex with anyone in all her previous relationship but she said she is not a virgin because one incident that happened to her while she was growing up in the north where one old man raped her when they sent her to buy bread by her parent.I didn’t believe the narrative but the same thing she told our church pastor when they asked us during one private discussion point with them.But i stumbled on one book where I saw where she wrote *my first husband Gabriel and put two numbers but I tried to call those numbers but they were not active.Then I remembered one day we were driving out together and we saw one guy and I was talk about him and my wife said she knew him very well.it was there my wife made mention of his senior brother whose name was Bro Gabriel,she said they were in the church quoir and the brother use to called her *his children mother and she use to called the brother *her children father* she told me they took themselves as husband and wife already but one day when she visited the brother the brother told her my children mother let step this thing up by having intercourse but my wife said she just stylishly find a wise way to dogdge it by telling the brother that she is coming to do the act with him he should just wait for her to tell her sister waiting to receive sth outside then she would then come in to do the thing with him.she said she has to use that wiseness because she can’t abuse or struggle with him cos the guy can do anything with her.if that is true or not I can’t say but I am looking at the meaning of *my first mistake* that is very symbolic.with that symbol,I believed she slept with that guy hence the reason why she saved his name with *first mistake*.That is another redflag I observed.Then about one week ago my wife was telling me she would change her phone pin and pattern so that those people in her shop won’t be able to swipe her phone start using it to make calls.I said it would be good and do you know my wife changed the pattern of her and she didn’t come to me to show it to me and I was waiting for her to come tell me as being open as it should be being husband and wife.I watched for 8 days and I concluded she deliberately didn’t want to let me know .I was then wondering what she could be hiding from me when she would look my phone from morning till night.But just yesterday I then confronted her and told her I don’t know the kind of wife she is that she would be hiding things from me.Then she exploded and was telling me that she used a pattern I once know.I then said she should show me the pattern and I could see it was a different pattern and I told her baby you use to lie.why is she lieing? I then told her i have some history of her lieing and I started mentioning those lie she lied that she was not in any relationship when she was in one and she just broke up when I came.I then mentioned that I saw a number on her phone that she saved with *Gabriel my first mistake *immediately she heard that ...she kept quite all through* and the next thing was she went to her phone dialed one unsaved number which happened to be Gabriel number though the number is still inactive.I then confronted her when I saw her dialed the number while she is still married to me.That made her to start telling me she is tired of this marriage and she told me I should go and bring my lawyer to divorce and she threatened that she would walk to where nobody know.And she was crying and I felt for her and started begging her again not to sad because of the love I had for her.

phemmyfour:
Are you a good man? You attract who you are

Samantha123:
I live my truth, I can't be deceiving someone else's son in the name of love.

So you're trying to tell me that she doesn't lie at all

udede:
Go to Nnobi in Anambra state, dem full there.

You will agree no man, wise in these matters will find a land flowing with milk and honey, capable of nourishing his seeds to growth, even unto producing their choice fruits and not choose such.

Jeon:
@kumulus



Treasure is hidden because it is very valuable. Everyone does not know how to treat treasure. Many people see the beauty, glitz and glam of treasure without understanding the work that was put into it. Therefore the treasure has to be hidden until the worth of the treasure is understood, because until then the treasure will be mistreated and squandered as if it is common when it is not.
“Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces"



Like I said "Many men,including the promiscuous one are quick to quote the proverbs 18vs 22 without the knowledge of the message



What God is saying to men in Proverbs 18:22 is not to treat his good things as common, but to treat them as the treasure that they are and favor will be obtained by God in the process

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The "favor" mentioned here does not mean that a married man is more loved by God.Marriage is not required for any person and neither is being single

Southernigbo:
Check online esp badoo but do it carefully

Medianna:
Go and ask for forgiveness from the good girls you offended from the past..
Nothing happens just like that..

Coinwarrior:
when i met this young girl,she was homely and well reserved and she loved me then.I told all my pastors about 9 pastors to help me prayed on her with about six names to make the total names I gave to them be 7 girls.All the pastors prayed on it and they all singled out this girl that is the lord’s choice. Her parent also prayed too on their side by given my name with other 5 names to their pastors and they all prayed and their pastors singled me out that I am the lord’s choice for their daughter.And this is what further made us to get married and we got married in 2020 after we did introduction by 2019 august.All through the time we were dating i love the girl and the girl loved me too and the girl has been good and faithful to me.But i ran into a discovery about my wife then why we were on the road.when we wanted to start the relationship i asked her a question that is she in a relationship currently at that time and she said she was not into any and that the one she was b4 went into water.ok I accepted to her.But one day she was sick and I was away I then called her to know her health condition and one guy picked her call and I was shocked and asked her who was he? And he said he was his boyfriend and I said boyfriend but she never told me she was in any relationship when i met her but out of my genuine love to my wife I just told the guy to not attack her becos she was still ill.Then later when she was totally ok.I sat her down and asked her who was that guy and why couldn’t she tell me the truth then.she then begged me and said she had broken up with him at that time i met her and it was her own friend that advised her not to tell me about it.And when I did my background check I saw that she was not with that guy again because she caught him having sex with her junior.But the guy kept pestering her and begging.Then later on her sister and mother called me that they really want to see me then and it was from there I further confirmed that my wife just finished dating that guy then b4 she broke up with her after she discovered his sexcapade with other younger girls.what do i want to bring out from this narration is dawned on not being totally sincere with me. I caught her there.Another area i caught her lying was when i returned from traveling and saw a new phone in my wife hand then and when i asked her she told me her dad bought it for her but i knew soonest they truth would be revealed.in the course of our relationship then I got to discovered that the old guy that she had broken up with bought her the phone then and her aunty later advised her to return the phone back when it was obvious she would marry me when the spiritual findings of their pastors came out,i overheard her aunty telling her on phone.And when i confronted her she later lied that she didn’t tell me that her father got her the phone.she said the guy gave her the phone as part of his begging to come back.That is lie no 2 I forgave her cos of my love and warned her but the guy was pained that he was unable to sleep with her when they were courting then because my wife was telling him then to wait till their wedding night because i read their long time chat they had on Facebook why they were together then.So when we eventually married...going forward i saw my wife randomly chatting guys with whom they went to secondary school with and some guys that once toasted her and i told her to stop that when she is now married.Even her pastor called her and warned her to never anything to do with those old guys again when she is now married.But one day i just checked my wife contact and I saw a particular number she saved with *Gabriel my first mistake* I was curious what that could mean.And my wife telling me she never had sex with anyone in all her previous relationship but she said she is not a virgin because one incident that happened to her while she was growing up in the north where one old man raped her when they sent her to buy bread by her parent.I didn’t believe the narrative but the same thing she told our church pastor when they asked us during one private discussion point with them.But i stumbled on one book where I saw where she wrote *my first husband Gabriel and put two numbers but I tried to call those numbers but they were not active.Then I remembered one day we were driving out together and we saw one guy and I was talk about him and my wife said she knew him very well.it was there my wife made mention of his senior brother whose name was Bro Gabriel,she said they were in the church quoir and the brother use to called her *his children mother and she use to called the brother *her children father* she told me they took themselves as husband and wife already but one day when she visited the brother the brother told her my children mother let step this thing up by having intercourse but my wife said she just stylishly find a wise way to dogdge it by telling the brother that she is coming to do the act with him he should just wait for her to tell her sister waiting to receive sth outside then she would then come in to do the thing with him.she said she has to use that wiseness because she can’t abuse or struggle with him cos the guy can do anything with her.if that is true or not I can’t say but I am looking at the meaning of *my first mistake* that is very symbolic.with that symbol,I believed she slept with that guy hence the reason why she saved his name with *first mistake*.That is another redflag I observed.Then about one week ago my wife was telling me she would change her phone pin and pattern so that those people in her shop won’t be able to swipe her phone start using it to make calls.I said it would be good and do you know my wife changed the pattern of her and she didn’t come to me to show it to me and I was waiting for her to come tell me as being open as it should be being husband and wife.I watched for 8 days and I concluded she deliberately didn’t want to let me know .I was then wondering what she could be hiding from me when she would look my phone from morning till night.But just yesterday I then confronted her and told her I don’t know the kind of wife she is that she would be hiding things from me.Then she exploded and was telling me that she used a pattern I once know.I then said she should show me the pattern and I could see it was a different pattern and I told her baby you use to lie.why is she lieing? I then told her i have some history of her lieing and I started mentioning those lie she lied that she was not in any relationship when she was in one and she just broke up when I came.I then mentioned that I saw a number on her phone that she saved with *Gabriel my first mistake *immediately she heard that ...she kept quite all through* and the next thing was she went to her phone dialed one unsaved number which happened to be Gabriel number though the number is still inactive.I then confronted her when I saw her dialed the number while she is still married to me.That made her to start telling me she is tired of this marriage and she told me I should go and bring my lawyer to divorce and she threatened that she would walk to where nobody know.And she was crying and I felt for her and started begging her again not to sad because of the love I had for her.

pansophist:
There are good girls, but most times, you may have to sacrifice looks for the character. It is also a problem women face, they want the idea of a 'power couple, a man that matches their dream, but in reality, we all settle. In fact, the girl you think is not your spec settled for you, because you are most likely not her spec too. All of us get ''coma'', we are not perfect.

And if you find your spec, she is probably the spec of lots of men like you with eyes on her beauty, and such girls are most likely to be crazy and won't give you peace of mind. And I will tell you one secret. No matter how beautiful a woman is, if she has a bad attitude, she will be the ugliest woman on earth in your eyes.

You may even choose to be a reverend rather than be with her. Beauty has an expiry date, which is either by biology (growing older) or by a dirty attitude. The former is sweet and the love grows deeper if she is a good woman, but the latter, as in, she is a karashika, I just pray not to experience it. Imagine yourself as a blind man who cants see to appreciate beauty, perhaps you would go for character and a woman that treats your right, and respect you. There is your answer. Pay a price of character over beauty (I pray you find both), but never compromise on character.

DaddyCK:
maradona.... please do not apply. babe dont bother,
...u or Lima98 are definatley not wifey materially recommmmended!!!(no oofeinse)

Coinwarrior:
I am very unlucky to have good girls that can make good wife.The one I currently have is so ill-mannered,ungrateful,sultry,snaky and cunny.
Pls I need suggestions of where to find good girls that can be made good wife.Help a frustrated cool headed guy with heart and heart of Gold.

Coinwarrior:
I am very unlucky to have good girls that can make good wife.The one I currently have is so ill-mannered,ungrateful,sultry,snaky and cunny.
Pls I need suggestions of where to find good girls that can be made good wife.Help a frustrated cool headed guy with heart and heart of Gold.

Samantha123:
That girl you've mentioned doesn't exist.. so you might as well make peace with being single for the rest of your life.

excanny:
To get a good girl, you have to seek her in all possible ways and be prepared to date as many as possible.

On street, parks, from friends, blind dates, social media, etc, changing your environment, etc.

Have a set standard and don’t hesitate to flush off any lady you meet that doesn’t fit into what your want.

Yusufisraelj:
You are mistaken, if you think that's not ideal.

It's not wrong to have values, yes people may differ from inception but if I'm marrying you, madam you'll tick those boxes as I'll do same for you?

Relationship is a place where imperfect people meet to refine their imperfections and become better versions for each other.

Samantha123:
I can't tick all the boxes.

I'll skip at least two.

Are you saying that if I'm your kinda girl, but have a hot temper,I'll miraculously change?

Yusufisraelj:
Well you've maintained a position of limitation which is a dangerous thing, because you'll be hesitant or lethargic to put in the required effort to be the best version of yourself, as a result of this your accomodations.

Consequently if you're my kind of lady, the first things to help you see, is that your current believe is a big limitation to your growth, I'll help you throw that thing away and be a better person, how will a person accommodate vices capable of destroying integrity? So you accommodate a lying guy?

That aside, hot temper by it's very nature is a clear sign of something wrong, a person who's quick to anger has a very serious issue, that I can't begin to explain, except of you have the time and openness to hear.

purejustice36:
1. She claimed she was raped that’s how she lost her virginity

2. She disrespects you

3. She’s ungrateful

4. She’s good at turning your brain with crocodile tears when you’re at the point of catching her red handed

My bruh , once a woman is toying with your emotions and leaves you totally confused that’s to tell you that you’ve been giving too much fvck about that woman

First of all me and you know say you love this babe die , and to see her go ehn your mind no go rest
Make I tell you something , that your wife dey fvck outside well well , I know say you go they wonder how I take know or whether I even know her sef

She’s very young and she dey put eyes for outside and she they see how her mates dey live their life freely without marriage yawa
She dey see marriage as a burden to her life

She needs freedom , nothing you go do for that girl wey no go make her share kpekus codedly , that’s facts bruh

That your wife wey dey disrespect you they bow head to young boys wey no fit look you for face
Single life dey hungry her

My advise for you be say : deal with the heartbreak now or die of emotional heartbreak till you lost it all
Many girls full outside , this should teach you a lesson that you shouldn’t love a woman more than she loves you never again

Man no get expiry date, man deserve peace of mind too

Tell her by yourself say make she dey pack Lee load go anytime she don tire to stay for your house , and when you ever catch her doing anything sneaky say you go pack her loads out by yourself and if she say she wan pack that minute allow her make she go

And go start better church, babes full church , dem full schools , I fit even hook you up sef , woman plenty pass men for this life my bruh

You’re truly a good man no doubt mehn , dem never born woman to toy with my own emotions for this life

I ain’t tryna brag or something, women don’t like men that over pampers them, they like bad boys in an innocent looking body

Make I use myself do example for you …..

I used to date one sexy babe like that wey get boobs , and me love boobs I no go lie, anytime she do Wetin I no like ehn , once I see her boobs my head go scatter I go dey beg her again lol

My guy this babe get good character o , she get respect and everything, but as time goes she come dey change , she come dey put password for phone
She come reach level wey be say she no sabi tell me ordinary sorry again
She no dey feel my vibe again
That’s when I realize say she don dey cheat and I catch her red handed sef bc me na sharp guy unto you kind things normally

When I catch her, I no ask for breakup o, she no also ask for breakup but both of us sef don tire that point bc I no fit forgive cheating woman neverrrrrrr, once woman cheat on me, even her boobs no fit attract me again sef

That my relationship taught me a lesson “never love a woman bc of her looks bruh”

Now I get wife wey be say she love me pass anything else
Na she dey check up on me pass sef
She no dey put password for phone never
That one fit read book for over 10yrs daily , na me go they force her to go chop sef
She fine like foreign witch and she get blue passport join am lol

She dey ginger my hustling spirit, she sabi cook , sabi dance , she even crown the whole Quran for head sef and she get ashawo vibes join
If you they mention top 50 most educated ladies in this country she join no cap

I’m not tryna brag but this babe na everything, God use am pay me back from the bad one

That’s to tell you say another woman they out there wey go love you pass the way you love her , never let a toxic small girl stop you from meeting your soulmate



Lights up my kpoli in peace

Samantha123:
What you're saying is that you'll help me pretend into the kinda woman that you like.

Years later when I get tired of pretending, you'll start complaining that I've changed, forgetting that that's how you found me.

Killbillz:
How are u frozen70 why this moniker.. just curious

frozen70:
Am doing fine

Ok suggest a better moniker

Nonexisting1:
I heard they now exist only in cemeteries and I had planned going to there to wake one up but unfortunately TB Joshua is dead. Do you know any man of God that can raise the dead? I want to get married as soon as I see one.

Killbillz:
Lol.. good to know ur fine. There's nothing wrong with it I was just curious as to the story behind it tho

Enny2013:
Most Nairaland ladies ar gud too...
Many men met their partners here. Keep trying ur luck,bro.