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mariahAngel:
I believe the (major) reason why these occurrences are common with maids is because they have this mentality of you are not my father/mother, so you can tell me what to do.
At first, they usually start out humble, then it gets to a point, they become defiant.

it can happen to anyone maid or no maid. Don't zero it down to maids. Once a girl child hits puberty and starts developing,she's at a vulnerable stage. It's not about being a maid

Op, have you asked yourself a serious question?

SpecialAdviser:
Don't go crazy with this girl for an error committed by you and your wife. You didn't give her enough sex education.

US have so many sex education programs and platforms, yet they records an average of 700.000 abortions yearly.

Teach a dog why it should not bark at your friends and watch it chase them whenever they come around.

STARGREEN:
Lack of close supervision

Yes,she was so trusted to the extend that they handed their two kids not up 4yrs to her. In such case there were suppose have external body like neighbour that will be supervising her.

PJtech:
Lack of supervision from parent/guardian. A girl got 5month pregnant under ur roof, you negleted ur guardian role(ur wife should take 90% of the blame)

do have a talk with ur wife, never leave ur kids with same fate as this poor girl.... Learn from this mistake

Funny .almost happened to my adupted sister. See close marking isn't enough oh.. I watched her very closely. Later found out a pastor that came to pray for our new house oh. He was the one that was dating my sister. Omoh. I made sure i embarrassed him . That didn't stop him. Lucky he got transferred to a far state..
Hmm e no stop the mumu guy oh till I catch am with my navy boys. We beat am well well.
Now she's 21. I don wash my hand from her

I know how painful it is to have a child under your roof get pregnant without you knowing. Few things I will like to point out here:
1. The girl comes from a family that none of her siblings was able to finish secondary school.
2. The monther was happy that at least a light is about to shine in the family reason why when she came to see her, she pleaded you allow her stay longer with you people
3. The same thing that didn't allow her other siblings finish school has to strike in another way, by getting her lured by the boy to ge into sex which now resulted to pregnancy.........still that siege of no one must be educated.
4. You and your wife are the Deborah and Joshua sent to help this family through the girl to end that siege ans set a new path for the family.
5. To make a good end out of this will not be easy but it is achievable if and only if you and your wife will see this as a divine assignment from God to deliberate a family.
6. Dont change your mind regarding training the girl to university.
7. Get her to the village and take all responsibility regarding the delivery of the baby then ensure that the girl gets back to school and see her through school
8. The new baby should not be neglected, always reach out and get across stuffs for her upkeep (Like I said, this isn't gonna be easy but if you and your wife see it as a service unto God, heaven will sustain you both and make this a great testimony)
9. Pray for God to give you and your wife grace to deliver this project as I know within the next 4yrs to 6yrs when you and your wife look back you will be grateful to God.
10. Draw the girl close and assure her of your commitment to her future but let her know the plan for her to go have the baby in the village after which her education will still be pursued. She must get this assurance so that she doesn't out of no hope end up into another wrong vampire .
God will help you and your wife and this will be a project you will deliver with faith in God and to the shame of the devil.

Beey:
You taking the girl in and supporting her education is commendable. It sounds like she was a bit idle and that’s how she found time to meet with the young man. I want to believe that she’s not as naive as people may want to make it sound. At that age, she must have had some biology lessons. It was probably curiosity and the excitement of being told that she’s loved, that pushed her into that situation. Now with that said, my advise is for you to reconsider your decision. People fall down and then get back up again. Pregnancy though highly discouraged at her age, is not the cause for her to receive a lifetime of condemnation. Have her go to the village and have the baby. Let her stay till the baby is weaned. Am sure she’ll face difficulties that will force her to mature and focus. After that, she can leave the baby with her mother and go back to school. Please save her from becoming another addition to statistics of poverty and lack of education. Please continue to sponsor her studies as you had planned. Take her as if she were your own daughter who made a mistake and give her a 2nd chance. In the future, go for domestic help who are over 18 years old and can handle the consequences of their actions.

deflover:
This is a rape case
She is a minor

Hope It happened in lagos
Make the boy go life imprisonment

The girl didn't say she was raped oga...that's how you guys accuse guys wrongly for rape. Not saying what he did was right,but let him take responsibility for his actions. So when the baby is born,they would take him/her to visit the dad serving a life sentence You try

DSS1335:
I am writing this with a sorrowful heart!
This is quite a lengthy piece!!


In 2018, My wife brought a live-in maid toward the end of her gestational period as we eagerly anticipate the birth of our first fruit after 8 years of marriage.

We took the young girl as part of our family, she was just 13 years old in JSS2 at the time she joined us. She does minor household chores, like washing the dishes, keeping the house in and out clean, that's all. I made sure
her education was not interrupted, she continued her schooling from Js3 till she completed her SSCE this year. Outsiders thought she was my first child considering the way she was being taken good care of.

At 16 years age, the evidence of proper nutrition was so glaring in her physique, the young girl of yesterday was already a beautiful damsel. I protected her from ravenous men old enough to be her father. Even from her classmates. Perhaps the mistake i made was in buying her phone before WAEC exam started. Well, the need for constant communication can not be overemphasized because i and my wife go out for work in the morning. My wife comes back in the day while i return back in the evening. Living her our 2 kids in her care: My first Child is 3 years plus in Nursery, the second is about 2 years in Prenursery.

When her mother made a stop by to visit her daughter 5 months ago after 4 years, she was so full of praise and thanking us for taking good care of her daughter, and begged us to allow her stay longer with us rather than her returning back to the village after completing her WAEC. I and my wife plan that i will take up the responsibility to train her up in University so she can be light to her family. Her elder siblings didn't complete their secondary school!

Today, all those dreams and aspirations have been shattered! The innocent girl child i took as a daughter is 5 months pregnant without even knowing she was pregnant! How possible? I could have swear with my life that she was still a virgin and innocent. Damm it! Where do I start from eh??

Well, my wife was rattled up by a what she called a terrible nightmare, she dreamt that she saw her girl carrying a new born baby. That was around 3 A.M she woke her up from sleep and asked her if she was pregnant, the girl denied it ignorantly. My wife had no reason to suspect her as she always buy her pads for her monthly menses except for this month. Then examined her and her suspicion became heightened as she saw a remarkable changes, her bra can't fit any longer, her bellybutton was out with black line running down! She ordered her to pee and run her test kit, it came back positive! My wife broke down in tears.

That morning, we didn't go to work for the day. we grilled her with questions. She confessed to us that she had intercourse only once in the month MAY yet she was still seeing her monthly menses. That she had a boy friend whom they secretly communicate on phone every day. That she lost her virginity to the boy. And they did it only ones in less than 30 minutes as she came back to check the kids who were still sleeping in the afternoon.

The boy came to visit her grand mother who return from the USA, she refused traveling to the East due to insecurities and rented a flat opposite my compound for just 3 months from March to June. During her stay, all her children and grandchildren came to visit her. It was one of her grand son that lured my maid and took advantage of her innocences.

We contacted the boy on phone and told him what happened, he denied it that it is impossible for him to be held responsible that he had sex with her only once and that's not enough to get a girl pregnant! I swear,i could have dealt with him fatally if he were within my reach. Well, i was able to comport myself and explain to him in details after which he kept quiet. He is just 20 years old awaiting admission. We have informed the girl's mother too who became shock and cold! And asked her daughter to return back to the village!

Considering this scenario, i came up with the plan to make that boy and family take up the responsibility of the pregnancy, she can't remain with my family anymore so as not draw unnecessary attention. I will track down the boy and his family and file a statutory rape charge against them if all avenue to resolve this case peacefully fail. From Pregnancy to child care is no joke. My people that is no joke at all. I feel very bad and compassionate for the innocent young girl who will be forced to sacrifice her future to be in the family way.

Any honest advise on how best to tackle this issue at hand would be appreciated

you shouldn't have gotten her an android phone

STARGREEN:
Lack of close supervision

You just like to find fault.

If you no get solution. Keep quiet.

Shuu...

and Nollywood that used to rescue single mothers in Nigeria is almost dead in Nigeria.


Music industry is now very difficult to get signed, unless your parents are rich.

Modeling and BBNaija that used to help girls from nobody family background have been hijacked by the rich and most connected


Securing a good paying job after graduation in Nigeria na another Golf war


For single ladies without babies to get husband na like Iran Iraq war talk more of a single girl with baby, ah



Na only God will save this poor girl

cooooooks:
This has to be fake. Why are you writing this story like it is a novel. All these descriptive term Which one be ravenous upon teenage pregnancy?

I strongly urge you guys to take her to a secular clinic for advice. Bringing a child to this world, especially in Nigeria and with a boy as the father, may seriously impact her life.

Is there a job she can start doing...while continuing education?

Ravenous. He dey speak english ontop the matter. He for talk he-goat

STARGREEN:
Lack of close supervision

you are rather naive about minors and human beings in general

Force them to get married na...Una pedo freaks wey dey preach early marriage.

Sha make the boy no carry hanger hit the baby hand when the girl don born.

I can't be giving advice to people who don't embrace feminism. If Una do Una work well, this girl for no open leg for that tout.

Ologbo147:
you shouldn't have gotten her an android phone

Girls got pregnant even in those days when there were no phones

CanineOfJackal:
The stupid girl was brought to the city as a helping hand. She was treated like a princess but she chose another course in her life which she has to face the consequences

The righteous one may fall 7 times but he will certainly stand up. We all need second chances.

ValCon888:
My advice is not for the girl, but for the boy.

That 20 year old boy should make sure a DNA test is carried out before anyone pins a pregnancy on his head.

Just like the OP was shocked that a "naive" 16 year old girl is pregnant under his roof, he'll be further shocked that child doesn't belong to the young man in question, but one of her multiple sex partners.

You’re a very smart and experienced person.

Similar case happened to one of my guys when we were in school , he fhucked one of those indigenes and later the girl claimed she’s pregnant for him. This thing destabilized my guy and everything he did to convince the girl to commot the pregnancy proved abortive.

My guy na fine boy who comes from a well to do family so I knew the girl wanted to leverage on that.

When we were about to write the final exams, naso some boys led by a drunk man in his 30s stormed our hostel, threatening my guy to leave his girlfriend alone that the pregnant belonged to him.
Before then, my guy had told his mom and they’ already perfected the plan on how to bring her over to Lagos after the final papers. ( the girl refused visiting our hostel this period and she was not ready to remove the pregnancy)

So baba landlord( he was around that fateful day ), had to intervene and the girl was summoned , after giving her assurance and chimera , she later confessed that she was a month pregnant for the other man before my guy had sex with her and that she loved my guy not the other person. She said my guy always promised her good things of life and all that after school. Lol. We made records of what she said and we settled the case there ( although the girl mama claimed we forced her to say that )
This period pregnancy don Dey show o,
See bro, if those guys had not come to claim the pregnancy , na so my guy for carry wetin no be him own o.

You're right

Lastpharoah33:
I can understand the utter disappointment on your ward. Naivety and a little touch of youthful ebullience got the better of her.

Someone mentioned lack of supervision, you saying dude should put a tracker on the girl?
Or maybe have her be on leash to be dragged along, huh?

Life happened to her, if what you wrote up there is what really transpired (as regards to your benevolence towards your ward), I really think taking her back to her mom is a good step.

But am totally against going ballistic on the nig that did put her in the family way. It's a choice thing. Either he embraces with full chest or bounce. Nature/karma will always take it's cause.

DSS1335:
I have come to realize that live-in maids who were discriminated and ill-treated will not have the gut to misbehave this way. This girl enjoy all loves bestowed on her by my wife. She dress the way my wife does and use good perfumes.

My tenants all thought she was my first child.
I loved her the way i would loved my child.i took compassion on her due to her mother and wanted her to be light to her family. I guess God have good reasons for the twist in her fate! Honestly i wouldn't have given it a second thought to have her abort the foetus had we discovered this pregnancy earlier.

E be things, my thoughts too.

DSS1335:
I am writing this with a sorrowful heart!
This is quite a lengthy piece!!


In 2018, My wife brought a live-in maid toward the end of her gestational period as we eagerly anticipate the birth of our first fruit after 8 years of marriage.

We took the young girl as part of our family, she was just 13 years old in JSS2 at the time she joined us. She does minor household chores, like washing the dishes, keeping the house in and out clean, that's all. I made sure
her education was not interrupted, she continued her schooling from Js3 till she completed her SSCE this year. Outsiders thought she was my first child considering the way she was being taken good care of.

At 16 years age, the evidence of proper nutrition was so glaring in her physique, the young girl of yesterday was already a beautiful damsel. I protected her from ravenous men old enough to be her father. Even from her classmates. Perhaps the mistake i made was in buying her phone before WAEC exam started. Well, the need for constant communication can not be overemphasized because i and my wife go out for work in the morning. My wife comes back in the day while i return back in the evening. Living her our 2 kids in her care: My first Child is 3 years plus in Nursery, the second is about 2 years in Prenursery.

When her mother made a stop by to visit her daughter 5 months ago after 4 years, she was so full of praise and thanking us for taking good care of her daughter, and begged us to allow her stay longer with us rather than her returning back to the village after completing her WAEC. I and my wife plan that i will take up the responsibility to train her up in University so she can be light to her family. Her elder siblings didn't complete their secondary school!

Today, all those dreams and aspirations have been shattered! The innocent girl child i took as a daughter is 5 months pregnant without even knowing she was pregnant! How possible? I could have swear with my life that she was still a virgin and innocent. Damm it! Where do I start from eh??

Well, my wife was rattled up by a what she called a terrible nightmare, she dreamt that she saw her girl carrying a new born baby. That was around 3 A.M she woke her up from sleep and asked her if she was pregnant, the girl denied it ignorantly. My wife had no reason to suspect her as she always buy her pads for her monthly menses except for this month. Then examined her and her suspicion became heightened as she saw a remarkable changes, her bra can't fit any longer, her bellybutton was out with black line running down! She ordered her to pee and run her test kit, it came back positive! My wife broke down in tears.

That morning, we didn't go to work for the day. we grilled her with questions. She confessed to us that she had intercourse only once in the month MAY yet she was still seeing her monthly menses. That she had a boy friend whom they secretly communicate on phone every day. That she lost her virginity to the boy. And they did it only ones in less than 30 minutes as she came back to check the kids who were still sleeping in the afternoon.

The boy came to visit her grand mother who return from the USA, she refused traveling to the East due to insecurities and rented a flat opposite my compound for just 3 months from March to June. During her stay, all her children and grandchildren came to visit her. It was one of her grand son that lured my maid and took advantage of her innocences.

We contacted the boy on phone and told him what happened, he denied it that it is impossible for him to be held responsible that he had sex with her only once and that's not enough to get a girl pregnant! I swear,i could have dealt with him fatally if he were within my reach. Well, i was able to comport myself and explain to him in details after which he kept quiet. He is just 20 years old awaiting admission. We have informed the girl's mother too who became shock and cold! And asked her daughter to return back to the village!

Considering this scenario, i came up with the plan to make that boy and family take up the responsibility of the pregnancy, she can't remain with my family anymore so as not draw unnecessary attention. I will track down the boy and his family and file a statutory rape charge against them if all avenue to resolve this case peacefully fail. From Pregnancy to child care is no joke. My people that is no joke at all. I feel very bad and compassionate for the innocent young girl who will be forced to sacrifice her future to be in the family way.

Any honest advise on how best to tackle this issue at hand would be appreciated

she not innocent. A 16 year old with the kind of world we live in knows alot.


Just report the issue to the police, because it is child abuse as she is not up to 18yrs. Leave the rest to go.


Good maid = bad oga and madam, bad maid = good oga and madam

Kirchoffs:
Oga sharrap and blame your housemaid cum Foster child and leave the boy out of it. When she dey open leg she no no abi.

Dollar is now 800 and you expect a boy of 20years to come and play daddy with the mad inflation in Nigeria now.

Am sure you got the poor girl pregnant and now wnt to frame an innocent boy to take the fall for it

On behalf of the OP; Insulting you will make no just cause, i will only advice you to mind the things you say to people online, if you met him one on one, can you tell him to shut up?

Like they say, maturity comes with responsibility.

I am certain that the OP is older than you with nothing less than 15yrs.

This is another reason I don’t endorse underaged maid. Nothing on this earth can ever make it appealing to me.

If you are not 22yrs and above, I have no business with you. Shalom!

You had to change her school because of the attention she was getting, even from a teacher who is supposedly an adult
I wonder how some Men go all the way to toast and even sleep with a minor.
I refused having sex with one recently because she told me she was still 17.......only turned 18 last September.

Take heart big man you sound like a good fella, but sometimes some things are out of our control.

NB: Incase you sleep with minors.....you are a pedophile.

Munzy14:
Chineke nna! One eye snake

O wu local government umu nwoke ka enyere description n'ile a .

Local government unu di vely vely denjelus!
Agwo nwere otu anya!

This is a case of spoilt palm meeting a rotten mortar.." Akwu rere ere gara na ikwe furu efu".

14- 21years of a girl's life is critical..The age most want to experience and explore the opposite gender.

OP and his wife were too busy not to detect changes in her attitude the moment she started dating..Girls can't control that butter fly rush with that their first ever boyfriend/date..Their attitude does change no matter how they try to hide it.

First is sneaking out to answer some calls.

Getting soo addicted to phone ( for chats sake).

When romance and intimate stuffs enter, e get special iwa anya ha na enwe.

Ones they have sex, omor that I have arrived feelings is obvious.

OP and his wife are not observant.

Girl child is extremely difficult to raise..Because at a younger age, men don dey put eye.

Hapuga some of these maids.
No matter how careful/watchful you are with them, they will find ways to maneuver you if they want to.

Op and his wife planned/did the best for her, but the girl decided to waste the opportunity.
She took their benevolence for granted, and must learn the hard way.

This is statutory rape.

DSS1335:
I am writing this with a sorrowful heart!
This is quite a lengthy piece!!


In 2018, My wife brought a live-in maid toward the end of her gestational period as we eagerly anticipate the birth of our first fruit after 8 years of marriage.

We took the young girl as part of our family, she was just 13 years old in JSS2 at the time she joined us. She does minor household chores, like washing the dishes, keeping the house in and out clean, that's all. I made sure
her education was not interrupted, she continued her schooling from Js3 till she completed her SSCE this year. Outsiders thought she was my first child considering the way she was being taken good care of.

At 16 years age, the evidence of proper nutrition was so glaring in her physique, the young girl of yesterday was already a beautiful damsel. I protected her from ravenous men old enough to be her father. Even from her classmates. Perhaps the mistake i made was in buying her phone before WAEC exam started. Well, the need for constant communication can not be overemphasized because i and my wife go out for work in the morning. My wife comes back in the day while i return back in the evening. Living her our 2 kids in her care: My first Child is 3 years plus in Nursery, the second is about 2 years in Prenursery.

When her mother made a stop by to visit her daughter 5 months ago after 4 years, she was so full of praise and thanking us for taking good care of her daughter, and begged us to allow her stay longer with us rather than her returning back to the village after completing her WAEC. I and my wife plan that i will take up the responsibility to train her up in University so she can be light to her family. Her elder siblings didn't complete their secondary school!

Today, all those dreams and aspirations have been shattered! The innocent girl child i took as a daughter is 5 months pregnant without even knowing she was pregnant! How possible? I could have swear with my life that she was still a virgin and innocent. Damm it! Where do I start from eh??

Well, my wife was rattled up by a what she called a terrible nightmare, she dreamt that she saw her girl carrying a new born baby. That was around 3 A.M she woke her up from sleep and asked her if she was pregnant, the girl denied it ignorantly. My wife had no reason to suspect her as she always buy her pads for her monthly menses except for this month. Then examined her and her suspicion became heightened as she saw a remarkable changes, her bra can't fit any longer, her bellybutton was out with black line running down! She ordered her to pee and run her test kit, it came back positive! My wife broke down in tears.

That morning, we didn't go to work for the day. we grilled her with questions. She confessed to us that she had intercourse only once in the month MAY yet she was still seeing her monthly menses. That she had a boy friend whom they secretly communicate on phone every day. That she lost her virginity to the boy. And they did it only ones in less than 30 minutes as she came back to check the kids who were still sleeping in the afternoon.

The boy came to visit her grand mother who return from the USA, she refused traveling to the East due to insecurities and rented a flat opposite my compound for just 3 months from March to June. During her stay, all her children and grandchildren came to visit her. It was one of her grand son that lured my maid and took advantage of her innocences.

We contacted the boy on phone and told him what happened, he denied it that it is impossible for him to be held responsible that he had sex with her only once and that's not enough to get a girl pregnant! I swear,i could have dealt with him fatally if he were within my reach. Well, i was able to comport myself and explain to him in details after which he kept quiet. He is just 20 years old awaiting admission. We have informed the girl's mother too who became shock and cold! And asked her daughter to return back to the village!

Considering this scenario, i came up with the plan to make that boy and family take up the responsibility of the pregnancy, she can't remain with my family anymore so as not draw unnecessary attention. I will track down the boy and his family and file a statutory rape charge against them if all avenue to resolve this case peacefully fail. From Pregnancy to child care is no joke. My people that is no joke at all. I feel very bad and compassionate for the innocent young girl who will be forced to sacrifice her future to be in the family way.

Any honest advise on how best to tackle this issue at hand would be appreciated

If it wasn’t rape, don’t file rape charges against an innocent person, they both did it, let the girl face her issues,her family is now aware and should know what next to do. it’s pregnancy, don’t try to destroy someone’s life for no reason.

My only advice to anyone who has a teen girl in her puberty (whether she is your child or a maid) is to be extra vigilant with her. Don't even trust her to the point of letting off your guards.

At that stage, their bodies are raving with hormones and they can easily get pregnant without even knowing that they are.

ETIIKO:
I really felt for the innocent girl. In fact I am confuse. Please help her with anyway you can.

An innocent girl having sex at the age of sixteen! The girl was obviously over pampered. If she was made to dress dirty, work like crazy and made to dorn a "gorimakpa" hairstyle she would have been as wise as anything.

pocohantas:
This is another reason I don’t endorse underaged maid. Nothing on this earth can ever make it appealing to me.

If you are not 22yrs and above, I have no business with you. Shalom!

Will any sane 22 year old agree to work for maltreatment and unbalanced diet? That's why these child traffickers and molesters go for underaged children as maids. We're still living in the 17th century in Africa

Op you try and you need stop blaming yourself. The fault is the girl and her secretive bf, whatever it is done in secret will come out openly. Whether you bought a phone or not, the girl wanted to have sex. By 13, most teenagers know that if u have sex raw, na belle u go carry. She Is about to see life after given birth. I wish her a healthy delivery, you can continue supporting her going to school. But she cannot stay with the family as a househelp.

I have nothing to say

DSS1335:
When she was in SS1, i was forced to change her school after 3rd term, she confided in my wife that one of her male teacher was giving her undue attention to the point of inviting her to his house coupled with the fact that senior boys in her school were also disturbing her.

Wow...if she did this, then she isn't totally bad. She's more grown now and probably starting to have sexual needs and the attention starting to make sense to her. Its life and every one changes and adjusts as they get mature. I won't even crucify her cos many women here disvirgined at 12..13yrs. But its easy to condemn another person that sins. That boy is also Young but more experienced than her.

I will implore you to cool your anger. Even as you are sending that girl back home..you can still assist her with her education so she don't sink into depression. She made a mistake as an inexperienced girl. She don't need to be crucified, she need help.

Ikennaford:
Op de fuuuck that girl too, forget this Long epistle he wrote up there, sweet 16 cuntus deh sweet nah

You are so stupid, moronic pedophilic dolt.