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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by dododawa1: 3:38pm On Oct 29, 2022
Maybe someone else too is INPUTTING her also,fear small girls with big god.

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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by 07kjb: 3:38pm On Oct 29, 2022
I hate when people with bright future messed up,you gave her every thing what is she looking for in a boy

Your lovely maid messed her life up

U are even a good Man trying to help

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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by SeriouslySense(m): 3:39pm On Oct 29, 2022
PJtech:
Lack of supervision from parent/guardian. A girl got 5month pregnant under ur roof, you negleted ur guardian role(ur wife should take 90% of the blame)

do have a talk with ur wife, never leave ur kids with same fate as this poor girl.... Learn from this mistake
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Huracan(m): 3:40pm On Oct 29, 2022
Beey:
You taking the girl in and supporting her education is commendable. It sounds like she was a bit idle and that’s how she found time to meet with the young man. I want to believe that she’s not as naive as people may want to make it sound. At that age, she must have had some biology lessons. It was probably curiosity and the excitement of being told that she’s loved, that pushed her into that situation. Now with that said, my advise is for you to reconsider your decision. People fall down and then get back up again. Pregnancy though highly discouraged at her age, is not the cause for her to receive a lifetime of condemnation. Have her go to the village and have the baby. Let her stay till the baby is weaned. Am sure she’ll face difficulties that will force her to mature and focus. After that, she can leave the baby with her mother and go back to school. Please save her from becoming another addition to statistics of poverty and lack of education. Please continue to sponsor her studies as you had planned. Take her as if she were your own daughter who made a mistake and give her a 2nd chance. In the future, go for domestic help who are over 18 years old and can handle the consequences of their actions.
The best comment I have ever seen ..bro pregnancy isn't a death sentence. That girl might get a bright future ahead..go train em'!!!!

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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by OkoRemi2023(m): 3:40pm On Oct 29, 2022
Beey:
You taking the girl in and supporting her education is commendable. It sounds like she was a bit idle and that’s how she found time to meet with the young man. I want to believe that she’s not as naive as people may want to make it sound. At that age, she must have had some biology lessons. It was probably curiosity and the excitement of being told that she’s loved, that pushed her into that situation. Now with that said, my advise is for you to reconsider your decision. People fall down and then get back up again. Pregnancy though highly discouraged at her age, is not the cause for her to receive a lifetime of condemnation. Have her go to the village and have the baby. Let her stay till the baby is weaned. Am sure she’ll face difficulties that will force her to mature and focus. After that, she can leave the baby with her mother and go back to school. Please save her from becoming another addition to statistics of poverty and lack of education. Please continue to sponsor her studies as you had planned. Take her as if she were your own daughter who made a mistake and give her a 2nd chance. In the future, go for domestic help who are over 18 years old and can handle the consequences of their actions.


Nice advise



Op please reconsider your decision, I can't help to agree with this dude because we have many irresponsible single mom in Nigeria lately


May God help you

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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Zeewirld: 3:41pm On Oct 29, 2022
DSS1335:
I am writing this with a sorrowful heart!
This is quite a lengthy piece!!


In 2018, My wife brought a live-in maid toward the end of her gestational period as we eagerly anticipate the birth of our first fruit after 8 years of marriage.

We took the young girl as part of our family, she was just 13 years old in JSS2 at the time she joined us. She does minor household chores, like washing the dishes, keeping the house in and out clean, that's all. I made sure
her education was not interrupted, she continued her schooling from Js3 till she completed her SSCE this year. Outsiders thought she was my first child considering the way she was being taken good care of.

At 16 years age, the evidence of proper nutrition was so glaring in her physique, the young girl of yesterday was already a beautiful damsel. I protected her from ravenous men old enough to be her father. Even from her classmates. Perhaps the mistake i made was in buying her phone before WAEC exam started. Well, the need for constant communication can not be overemphasized because i and my wife go out for work in the morning. My wife comes back in the day while i return back in the evening. Living her our 2 kids in her care: My first Child is 3 years plus in Nursery, the second is about 2 years in Prenursery.

When her mother made a stop by to visit her daughter 5 months ago after 4 years, she was so full of praise and thanking us for taking good care of her daughter, and begged us to allow her stay longer with us rather than her returning back to the village after completing her WAEC. I and my wife plan that i will take up the responsibility to train her up in University so she can be light to her family. Her elder siblings didn't complete their secondary school!

Today, all those dreams and aspirations have been shattered! The innocent girl child i took as a daughter is 5 months pregnant without even knowing she was pregnant! How possible? I could have swear with my life that she was still a virgin and innocent. Damm it! Where do I start from eh??

Well, my wife was rattled up by a what she called a terrible nightmare, she dreamt that she saw her girl carrying a new born baby. That was around 3 A.M she woke her up from sleep and asked her if she was pregnant, the girl denied it ignorantly. My wife had no reason to suspect her as she always buy her pads for her monthly menses except for this month. Then examined her and her suspicion became heightened as she saw a remarkable changes, her bra can't fit any longer, her bellybutton was out with black line running down! She ordered her to pee and run her test kit, it came back positive! My wife broke down in tears.

That morning, we didn't go to work for the day. we grilled her with questions. She confessed to us that she had intercourse only once in the month MAY yet she was still seeing her monthly menses. That she had a boy friend whom they secretly communicate on phone every day. That she lost her virginity to the boy. And they did it only ones in less than 30 minutes as she came back to check the kids who were still sleeping in the afternoon.

The boy came to visit her grand mother who return from the USA, she refused traveling to the East due to insecurities and rented a flat opposite my compound for just 3 months from March to June. During her stay, all her children and grandchildren came to visit her. It was one of her grand son that lured my maid and took advantage of her innocences.

We contacted the boy on phone and told him what happened, he denied it that it is impossible for him to be held responsible that he had sex with her only once and that's not enough to get a girl pregnant! I swear,i could have dealt with him fatally if he were within my reach. Well, i was able to comport myself and explain to him in details after which he kept quiet. He is just 20 years old awaiting admission. We have informed the girl's mother too who became shock and cold! And asked her daughter to return back to the village!

Considering this scenario, i came up with the plan to make that boy and family take up the responsibility of the pregnancy, she can't remain with my family anymore so as not draw unnecessary attention. I will track down the boy and his family and file a statutory rape charge against them if all avenue to resolve this case peacefully fail. From Pregnancy to child care is no joke. My people that is no joke at all. I feel very bad and compassionate for the innocent young girl who will be forced to sacrifice her future to be in the family way.

Any honest advise on how best to tackle this issue at hand would be appreciated
...I can feel your pains....Only a disappointed parent will feel that way.

Please go ahead and file rape charges against the boy if him and his family aren't willing to put into writing how they will take care of the girl and the unborn baby.

They should sign a binding agreement on how much they will be paying as child support till the child is 18 years of age.

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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by godofuck231: 3:41pm On Oct 29, 2022
DSS1335:



I have come to realize that live-in maids who were discriminated and ill-treated will not have the gut to misbehave this way. This girl enjoy all loves bestowed on her by my wife. She dress the way my wife does and use good perfumes.

My tenants all thought she was my first child.
I loved her the way i would loved my child.i took compassion on her due to her mother and wanted her to be light to her family. I guess God have good reasons for the twist in her fate! Honestly i wouldn't have given it a second thought to have her abort the foetus had we discovered this pregnancy earlier.
man calm down, the case was a test scenario for your own daughter, since you have seen this your own daughter will soon ckmenof age and sexual desires and instinct will kick in, that child obeyed nature not caution, solution to help her life , abort the unwanted baby with the permition of the boys family only , and make sure its done safely, then retrieve your strayed "daughter" she as good as your because of the love you have for her , be her friend and father, and there will be nothing she wouldn't tell you in this life and you will advice her
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by grandstar(m): 3:42pm On Oct 29, 2022
DSS1335

Why don't you find a middle ground? Send the girl back to her parents and she can give birth there to ward off people's eyes. After sometime, she can return to you but leave the baby behind with her mother. She can proceed with her studies and future with you. She can keep in regular contact and you'll get update about him as well. That's really your first grandchild. It's your compensation for your many years of childlessness. (Read Psalms 19:17)

Sending the boy to jail isn't the answer. If he can pay monthly child support for the child, that would be smarter or else, he'll end up in prison and won't be able to contribute a cent to his baby's upkeep from there. Paying child support might also make him grow up. I don't support gunshot weddings.

Please don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. I am pleading.

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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by stocktaker: 3:42pm On Oct 29, 2022
DSS1335:
I am writing this with a sorrowful heart!
This is quite a lengthy piece!!


In 2018, My wife brought a live-in maid toward the end of her gestational period as we eagerly anticipate the birth of our first fruit after 8 years of marriage.

We took the young girl as part of our family, she was just 13 years old in JSS2 at the time she joined us. She does minor household chores, like washing the dishes, keeping the house in and out clean, that's all. I made sure
her education was not interrupted, she continued her schooling from Js3 till she completed her SSCE this year. Outsiders thought she was my first child considering the way she was being taken good care of.

At 16 years age, the evidence of proper nutrition was so glaring in her physique, the young girl of yesterday was already a beautiful damsel. I protected her from ravenous men old enough to be her father. Even from her classmates. Perhaps the mistake i made was in buying her phone before WAEC exam started. Well, the need for constant communication can not be overemphasized because i and my wife go out for work in the morning. My wife comes back in the day while i return back in the evening. Living her our 2 kids in her care: My first Child is 3 years plus in Nursery, the second is about 2 years in Prenursery.

When her mother made a stop by to visit her daughter 5 months ago after 4 years, she was so full of praise and thanking us for taking good care of her daughter, and begged us to allow her stay longer with us rather than her returning back to the village after completing her WAEC. I and my wife plan that i will take up the responsibility to train her up in University so she can be light to her family. Her elder siblings didn't complete their secondary school!

Today, all those dreams and aspirations have been shattered! The innocent girl child i took as a daughter is 5 months pregnant without even knowing she was pregnant! How possible? I could have swear with my life that she was still a virgin and innocent. Damm it! Where do I start from eh??

Well, my wife was rattled up by a what she called a terrible nightmare, she dreamt that she saw her girl carrying a new born baby. That was around 3 A.M she woke her up from sleep and asked her if she was pregnant, the girl denied it ignorantly. My wife had no reason to suspect her as she always buy her pads for her monthly menses except for this month. Then examined her and her suspicion became heightened as she saw a remarkable changes, her bra can't fit any longer, her bellybutton was out with black line running down! She ordered her to pee and run her test kit, it came back positive! My wife broke down in tears.

That morning, we didn't go to work for the day. we grilled her with questions. She confessed to us that she had intercourse only once in the month MAY yet she was still seeing her monthly menses. That she had a boy friend whom they secretly communicate on phone every day. That she lost her virginity to the boy. And they did it only ones in less than 30 minutes as she came back to check the kids who were still sleeping in the afternoon.

The boy came to visit her grand mother who return from the USA, she refused traveling to the East due to insecurities and rented a flat opposite my compound for just 3 months from March to June. During her stay, all her children and grandchildren came to visit her. It was one of her grand son that lured my maid and took advantage of her innocences.

We contacted the boy on phone and told him what happened, he denied it that it is impossible for him to be held responsible that he had sex with her only once and that's not enough to get a girl pregnant! I swear,i could have dealt with him fatally if he were within my reach. Well, i was able to comport myself and explain to him in details after which he kept quiet. He is just 20 years old awaiting admission. We have informed the girl's mother too who became shock and cold! And asked her daughter to return back to the village!

Considering this scenario, i came up with the plan to make that boy and family take up the responsibility of the pregnancy, she can't remain with my family anymore so as not draw unnecessary attention. I will track down the boy and his family and file a statutory rape charge against them if all avenue to resolve this case peacefully fail. From Pregnancy to child care is no joke. My people that is no joke at all. I feel very bad and compassionate for the innocent young girl who will be forced to sacrifice her future to be in the family way.

Any honest advise on how best to tackle this issue at hand would be appreciated
if you really love the girl convince her mother let the pregnant be terminated under the supervision of a proffessional doctor , you will be happy as she will bounce back to her life again

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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by sammysmiles: 3:43pm On Oct 29, 2022
To start with, Carry her phone and observe for any chats between your maid and the guy to support your final decision....
If you observe the guys family to be irresponsible and negligent, jxt forget about them because you can't put responsibility on a 20year old boy that is irresponsible.
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by hammerT: 3:45pm On Oct 29, 2022
HOW PEOPLE WILL JUST SIT DOWN AND BE LYING TO THEMSELVES AND BE COMFORTABLE IN THEIR OWN LIES.


16 YEARS IS SAME AS 6 YEARS. HAHAHAHAHAHA!



I WAS NEVER 16 YEARS.




WHERE ARE THE PAEDOPHILE CREW? NDI-ARA!



16 YEAR OLD CHILD DON CARRY BELLE FOR 20 YEARS OLD MAN.



WHAT NOW?

AKA COCOCANDY

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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by seanwilliam(m): 3:46pm On Oct 29, 2022
STARGREEN:
Lack of close supervision
wetin u want make the op do again nitori oloun!
The girl misused a life time opportunity yet you still find a way to put the blame on the op. Na wa o. Do you think u can give a girl 100% supervision and protection?

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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by 07kjb: 3:46pm On Oct 29, 2022
Huracan:

The best comment I have ever seen ..bro pregnancy isn't a death sentence. That girl might get a bright future ahead..go train em'!!!!

Her life is damaged to the standard of OPs plans for her

SHE MESSED HER LIFE UP

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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Zeewirld: 3:46pm On Oct 29, 2022
Lastpharoah33:
I can understand the utter disappointment on your ward. Naivety and a little touch of youthful ebullience got the better of her.

Someone mentioned lack of supervision, you saying dude should put a tracker on the girl?
Or maybe have her be on leash to be dragged along, huh?

Life happened to her, if what you wrote up there is what really transpired (as regards to your benevolence towards your ward), I really think taking her back to her mom is a good step.

But am totally against going ballistic on the nig that did put her in the family way. It's a choice thing. Either he embraces with full chest or bounce. Nature/karma will always take it's cause.
...What choice thing are you talking about The girl is a child who is gullible and naive,and you are talking of Karma It's rape !

The heavens won't forgive this couple if they aren't able to fight to ensure that the family of the boy do the right thing.

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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by franchasofficia: 3:46pm On Oct 29, 2022
ecolime:
Chaiii

Few months ago, our 19 year old live-in maid ran off with a 20 years old boy. She packed and moved to a ghetto here in PH because of love shocked

Thank God we were able to track her, got her arrested and bundled her back to her family in Lagos where we took her from.

Once they turn teenagers, it's very easy for boys to deceive them.

This is a girl that had a big room, A.C, quality clothes and latest gadgets to herself. She wrote WAEC last year and was only awaiting admission.

My wife loved her so much and took her like a daughter. You will never know she isn't our blood. She flew and travel everywhere with us but Penis derailed her life.

I was so grateful she didn't get pregnant else it would have been a different case.

Now, we don't do live-in maids. It's cash and carry. Our new maid comes to clean up the house once we are back from work at 4pm.. (works 5pm to 7pm). Then work on Saturdays too (8am to 5pm) Once you are done, go back to your house. While she's fully off on Sunday.

You always want the best of life for them but they don't love their lives enough.

It is well with you bro cry
Hmmmm, scary stories, hmmmm angry angry
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by sammysmiles: 3:47pm On Oct 29, 2022
stocktaker:
if you really love the girl convince her mother let the pregnant be terminated under the supervision of a proffessional doctor , you will be happy as she will bounce back to her life again
Which kine mumu advice be dis?

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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by 07kjb: 3:48pm On Oct 29, 2022
stocktaker:
if you really love the girl convince her mother let the pregnant be terminated under the supervision of a proffessional doctor , you will be happy as she will bounce back to her life again


Stop killing the innocent,u are gonna pay for it
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Munzy14(m): 3:48pm On Oct 29, 2022
mariahAngel:
You see some boys ehn? They're like horñy ekuke dogs that cannot control themselves.
Going about, ruining destinies with their nonsense "one eyed snake".
Nonsense!



Of course!
If the irresponsible boy is old enough to have sex, he should be old enough to accept the reward/consequence that comes with having sex.
Chineke nna! One eye snake grin grin grin grin grin

O wu local government umu nwoke ka enyere description n'ile a grin grin.

This is a case of spoilt palm meeting a rotten mortar.." Akwu rere ere gara na ikwe furu efu".

14- 21years of a girl's life is critical..The age most want to experience and explore the opposite gender.

OP and his wife were too busy not to detect changes in her attitude the moment she started dating..Girls can't control that butter fly rush with that their first ever boyfriend/date..Their attitude does change no matter how they try to hide it.

First is sneaking out to answer some calls.

Getting soo addicted to phone ( for chats sake).

When romance and intimate stuffs enter, e get special iwa anya ha na enwe.

Ones they have sex, omor that I have arrived feelings is obvious.

OP and his wife are not observant.

Girl child is extremely difficult to raise..Because at a younger age, men don dey put eye.

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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by HEBEI: 3:49pm On Oct 29, 2022
Why do we always blame boys/men when this kind of a thing happens
Did the boy forced himself on her Was she raped She consented to his demand for sex(that is if she did not initiate the sex herself) and they had sex undecided

From experience,I know what a Nigerian teenage girl of thirteen to nineteen of these days can do sexually, if a man loses his guard.

You failed in teaching her the danger of early sex, the moment she clocked 13. I am not blaming you, since most Nigerian parents are not comfortable with giving their children early sex education.

Are you even sure the boy is responsible for her pregnancy Some months ago, I handled a similar case. She denied that she had ever met another man except the guy. Las Las, the truth came out. She had five boyfriends and a sugar daddy at the age of sixteen shocked

Calculate very well the last time she saw her menses and when the said sex escapade took place...
I pray you handle this situation with the needed wisdom, so as not to put yourself in a worse confusion.

If you wanna be enjoying sex before your time, be ready to accept its consequences when they arise. Shikena!!!

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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Zeewirld: 3:50pm On Oct 29, 2022
SpecialAdviser:

Don't go crazy with this girl for an error committed by you and your wife. You didn't give her enough sex education.
...No sense in your post ..You are supposed to be a leader fa.....

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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by franchasofficia: 3:52pm On Oct 29, 2022
DSS1335:


Thank you for your honest advise.

We have been able to trace through the help of the estate caretaker and contacted her aunty who was their grandmother's point of contact in PH through out their 3 months stay. She has accepted to help us mediate in the case, she will inform her Mother (the boy's grandma) and her sister(the boy's mother) about all that transpired. That the boy lives with his parents in Obigbo before ABA. If all efforts to resolve this case peacefully fails, i will file for statutory rape charge.



This doesn't make any sense!
What will she gain for withholding such a very sensitive information from us?

When she was in SS1, i was forced to change her school after 3rd term, she confided in my wife that one of her male teacher was giving her undue attention to the point of inviting her to his house coupled with the fact that senior boys in her school were also disturbing her.

This girl doesn't lack anything, whatever she needs or payment that comes, we clear it.
We live comfortably in my 3 bedroom flat. She has her own room, i don't allow her to watch any kind of indecent movie or music by ensuring that such channels are under lock filtering out only cartoon, starlife, zeeworld, and other children friendly channels. my wife has her room but we sleep together with our 2 kids.

Sometimes in June, my wife went through her phone call history, she receives call only from the guy constantly and other female friends whom we assumed were her classmates. we inquired what association she has with this boy that calls her all time even at odd hours of the night. we knew something wasnt ok as WhatsApp chat and sms were deleted. She wasn't allowed to use Facebook as we tried our best to keep her under close watch. On weekends, in our presence, she isn't allowed to use phone as my wife always hold it.
What else could we have done. Our best wasn't enough i guess! And yes, my wife taught her sex education, i guess she was just too stupid, gullible, naive to fall for whatever the boy said. This a big lesson to all parents. We have learnt ours in a very hard way
Na wa oh.


To train a girl child na world war 3 oh, God abeg oh cry

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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by CanineOfJackal: 3:52pm On Oct 29, 2022
UjuJoan2:


Imagine if this girl were your actual child. Think of what you would have done, and then do it.
stop this filthy emotional blackmail. The girl should face the consequences of her action. I respect what the op is doing and I believe it's the right thing

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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by salem1996: 3:52pm On Oct 29, 2022
PJtech:
Lack of supervision from parent/guardian. A girl got 5month pregnant under ur roof, you negleted ur guardian role(ur wife should take 90% of the blame)

do have a talk with ur wife, never leave ur kids with same fate as this poor girl.... Learn from this mistake

What do you mean by lack of supervision undecided Not every woman's belly protrude anyhow during pregnancy. My married sister was almost 7 months yet you'll barely notice she was pregnant unless she inform you.

Secondly, why should the woman take responsibility when she has a job doing? Or you think she should put a satellite scanner on the girl's tummy and check it every day?

The part of the story I don't buy was him saying he will charge the guy for rape because I doubt it was at the beginning. Girl probably was seeing life different from what they were protecting her from and felt she needed to experience it. Now she has used her own hands to draw a line or clean her dreams for now. I pray she get the strength to become focus again.

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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Zeewirld: 3:53pm On Oct 29, 2022
Kirchoffs:
Oga sharrap and blame your housemaid cum Foster child and leave the boy out of it. When she dey open leg she no no abi.

Dollar is now 800 and you expect a boy of 20years to come and play daddy with the mad inflation in Nigeria now.

Am sure you got the poor girl pregnant and now wnt to frame an innocent boy to take the fall for it
...How do you feel after reading what you wrote You should be ashamed of yourself....Even your parents won't be proud of you if they read this.

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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by seanwilliam(m): 3:53pm On Oct 29, 2022
Richy4:


Have you visited Google yet to find out the cost of DNA test in Nigeria?..It doesn't come cheap...
Are u sure a 20yr old who is most likely a university student can afford that?
if he has to borrow money to do the DNA test, he better do. That one better pass make dem pin wetin no be him own for him neck.

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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Zeewirld: 3:53pm On Oct 29, 2022
STARGREEN:
Lack of close supervision
....Use your sense now

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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by gfon(m): 3:54pm On Oct 29, 2022
NoToPile:
I am having a problem wrapping my head around the fact that it's so easy to deceive small small girls. Especially those that know where they are coming from, you have an opportunity to make your life better and you mess it up. Nawa oo.



Lool at penis derailed her life, I honestly don't just get it, all these small small children born 2000 upwards are something else.

This matter is just peppering my body.
you really can't blame them...the sugar some boys have in their mouth is imported.
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by optm(m): 3:54pm On Oct 29, 2022
One thing most parents fail at is giving their wards sexual education and helping them navigating the challenges of puberty and sexual urges they are faced with. I guess if she knew better, she would have acted better and not be in this mess. Please do not withdraw your support totally if you can. She made a mistake and i think she would have done better if she was properly guided

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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by BlackAIIDay: 3:54pm On Oct 29, 2022
ecolime:
Chaiii

Few months ago, our 19 year old live-in maid ran off with a 20 years old boy. She packed and moved to a ghetto here in PH because of love shocked

Thank God we were able to track her, got her arrested and bundled her back to her family in Lagos where we took her from.

Once they turn teenagers, it's very easy for boys to deceive them.

This is a girl that had a big room, A.C, quality clothes and latest gadgets to herself. She wrote WAEC last year and was only awaiting admission.

My wife loved her so much and took her like a daughter. You will never know she isn't our blood. She flew and travel everywhere with us but Penis derailed her life.

I was so grateful she didn't get pregnant else it would have been a different case.

Now, we don't do live-in maids. It's cash and carry. Our new maid comes to clean up the house once we are back from work at 4pm.. (works 5pm to 7pm). Then work on Saturdays too (8am to 5pm) Once you are done, go back to your house. While she's fully off on Sunday.

You always want the best of life for them but they don't love their lives enough.

It is well with you bro cry

Can I apply to be your maid boss, I swear I won't misbehave
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by hammerT: 3:55pm On Oct 29, 2022
COCOCANDY, COME AND HELP ME MAKE SENSSE OF THIS BIKO.


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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by CanineOfJackal: 3:55pm On Oct 29, 2022
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Why don't you find a middle ground? Send the girl back to her parents and she can give birth there to ward off people's eyes. After sometime, she can return to you but leave the baby behind with her mother. She can proceed with her studies and future with you. She can keep in regular contact and you'll get update about him as well. That's really your first grandchild. It's your compensation for your many years of childlessness. (Read Psalms 19:17)

Sending the boy to jail isn't the answer. If he can pay monthly child support for the child, that would be smarter or else, he'll end up in prison and won't be able to contribute a cent to his baby's upkeep from there. Paying child support might also make him grow up. I don't support gunshot weddings.

Please don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. I am pleading.
The stupid girl was brought to the city as a helping hand. She was treated like a princess but she chose another course in her life which she has to face the consequences

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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Shugargal(f): 3:55pm On Oct 29, 2022
Beey:
You taking the girl in and supporting her education is commendable. It sounds like she was a bit idle and that’s how she found time to meet with the young man. I want to believe that she’s not as naive as people may want to make it sound. At that age, she must have had some biology lessons. It was probably curiosity and the excitement of being told that she’s loved, that pushed her into that situation. Now with that said, my advise is for you to reconsider your decision. People fall down and then get back up again. Pregnancy though highly discouraged at her age, is not the cause for her to receive a lifetime of condemnation. Have her go to the village and have the baby. Let her stay till the baby is weaned. Am sure she’ll face difficulties that will force her to mature and focus. After that, she can leave the baby with her mother and go back to school. Please save her from becoming another addition to statistics of poverty and lack of education. Please continue to sponsor her studies as you had planned. Take her as if she were your own daughter who made a mistake and give her a 2nd chance. In the future, go for domestic help who are over 18 years old and can handle the consequences of their actions.
I respect you ma for this inspiring advice. Its this kinda thing that made me question the integrity of The so called Apostle Suleiman, I guess you know where I'm going to?

At the OP please continue with your good work, may God bless your hear. Please finish up what you started by training the girl in high education after she must have put to bed.

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